Bossy nagging Taurus - the norm??

My gf is a real pain in the bum sometimes and treats me like a kid...she's younger by a year and acts like a Nana or mother. Is that normal or is it at certain times? Help me to understand her please. Mostly I let it go over my head but every now and then I bite back because I get sick of it! It's anything from telling me I'm doing something wrong to not having my back...

We go out together every other week but if I start to get sick of her I let her alone for a month at a time til she settles and pulls her head in. My own children dont like her as she mothers them and they dont think they have to listen to her...I've let her say her peace with them as I know she is looking out for me and is right alot of the time with them BUT I'm a different story...I prefer she be my friend NOT my mother!!!

stop fucking up and she won't feel the need to correct you 😉

Haha who says I fuck up—

She told me once that I was dancing on the dance for at a friends wedding sooo long that they took my drink away when i complained that they shouldn't have touched it. Then proceeded to make a big deal about it when i told her that I was up there for 5 mins tops!!!

the other night another mate was drunk and dancing which had us all in hysterics so I went to video her and she snatched the phone off me and made out I was going to blackmail her or something!!! Over the top in my opinion, just being a Nana.

So it's not that, I'm a mature woman...

it's not about any guy or getting drunk, it's nit picking as far as i can see and my other mates have noticed too!

As I said, most times we ok but every now and then she is out of order...perhaps I should just tell her outright. Will she take it on the chin?

It's in a Bull to care for ( mother, smother ) those we care about. You're in our circle. If it were me I'd prefer you told me outright to quit being your mum and just be a friend. Even if she's a bit miffed over it, she should shrug it off. Be kind, be amusing. No ill intent behind it, just your comfort level. 🙂

I did not know you were a lesbian

(which is totally fine. I just had not a single clue...)

Posted by brianafay
I did not know you were a lesbian

LMAO! I don't think she's a lesbian Bri, I think she's saying "girlfriend" like a friend who is a girl. I say that all the time too, like, "Me and one of my girlfriends went out," etc.

In respect to the topic. I don't nag people, but I can be bossy in the sense that if I'm fed up with something and I feel people are dilly dallying, I do "take the reigns." I sit on myself a long, long time before I do it, but after a while it drives me nuts when people are indecisive, so I just take control.
I don't know or think that's the case for sweethearts friend, but maybe she just "takes the reigns too?"

@ USC I've let it go on a few occasions but think I should tell her more directly for the sack of the friendship...it's more like she is annoyed so maybe that time of the month or something but generally it comes about out of nowhere and towards the end of the night!

@ Bri...if I decide to change sides I'll let you know 😛

:X my bad.


Wow.





:/

So uh now that it's out in the open that I'm a complete jack ass....

I have a bossy Tau friend too. But I'm bossier than her. So it's fine.
She tells me when I'm showing too much cleavage...like my mom. Lol So I repay the favor by telling her very honestly when yes, that dress does make her look fat. 🙂

She likes it.

Mine is a bit of a thing anyways...if you know what I mean. Diva status. Everyone has to be paying attention to her.
I notice that's mostly when she gets bossy - when someone else is getting attention besides her. She'll pout for a few minutes and then she just bullies everyone into stepping out of the spotlight so she can have it back. Lol

It's cute. 🙂 I'm totally on to her
I tell her, Jess you look very pretty tonight. *bats eyelashes*
Get someone else to agree. Then there's two people paying attention to her, she's all good. 😉

LOL Funny how everyone is different. I like direct but subtle attention. One on one, cross a room. Not being spang in the middle of something with all eyes on me.

Posted by venusianbull
LOL Funny how everyone is different. I like direct but subtle attention. One on one, cross a room. Not being spang in the middle of something with all eyes on me.

Yeah, I don't like to be the center of attention or have too much attention on me either. It makes me uber uncomfortable to be honest. For a long, long time I could NOT accept a compliment without saying something negative about myself. One of my Scorp cousins was like, "Look girl, if somebody gives you a compliment and says you are pretty, or something, just say, 'Thank you' and leave it at that. Don't say something negative about yourself to counteract the compliment!"
I even struggle with that now! But at least I just say, "Thank you!" I did learn 🙂

@ Bri - yeah, in respect to being honest to a Tau, you do the right thing by telling her if she looks fat in something. I don't take offense to anything like that either. I'd rather someone tell me the TRUTH than to tell me what they THINK I want to hear!! I CAN handle the truth, and I'm not going to be mad at them either.

Yup, yup. ^ I do that a lot too. If someone says "You're lovely" or ( ..insert compliment ) I have to reign in some self depreciating comment and just say "THANK YOU".

Posted by venusianbull
Yup, yup. ^ I do that a lot too. If someone says "You're lovely" or ( ..insert compliment ) I have to reign in some self depreciating comment and just say "THANK YOU".

I know, it's so tough 😢 I wish I was like my Leo girlfriend who is like, "Sh!t, I'm the damn bomb, I thought you knew! You ain't gonna find nothin' better than this right here!" LMAO! I love that about her. I just shake my head and laugh. She is NOT lacking any self confidence. I'm confident in myself too, but in a different way, and I don't need to say nor hear others talk about it. I think it's called, "Quiet confidence." BUT, I am NOT mad at her for being so verbose in how fly she is!

I absolutely agree with everything. Leo lights up a room megawatt and just says "WHUT?!" Taurus slinks in like fog and smolders. Both great, but different.

First time I handled her by biting back when i had had enough and then didnt bother going out for a while and hung out with other mates but her and I are the most compatible out of all the others and tend to like going out and venturing to other places or eating out alot. The others tend to want to go to the same noisey clubs over and over. So will take it onboard tell her straight up next time it arises. I'm sure you're right and she will take it on the chin.

No offense taken Bri, who knows these days, have always joked about jumping the fence as the quality of men are in short supply and soooo difficult to get someone in touch with their feminine side...not that gays have it any easier!

Thats a good one MB 😄 I like that!

It doesnt happen that often, I guess I was just annoyed because it happened again after such a long time and thought I had already nipped it in the butt. As you all have said I'll be more upfront next time and tell her straight.