Cancer rejected by Taurus

She must of gotten back with her BF and I didn't know... I asked her to dinner and she said maybe. But then later I said don't worry about it. It was just a friendly proposal... Sucks... Right when everything is going well to. Now all the work I have done to be comfortable around her is gone! tho at least now she knows I'm interested in her.

If a Taurus says no to lunch. Does that no mean she will probably won't go out with me once she brakes up with her BF? Does no (I'm taking the "maybe" as a no btw) mean never to a Taurus? Damn I had a gut feeling inside of me saying it was too soon and that I'm just now getting to know the Taurus girl.

Again she did brake up with her BF I know this. But I guess while I was working my ass off to bust up the courage to ask her out. She got back with him. F'in hell.

Weird tho. Usually I would be crying but it. But I haven't! Tho I feel like shit. She is going to start ignoring me now.... witch sucks. I must move on to save my heart. tho like all cancer crabs my pinchers are still clutch onto her.

Btw the strong attraction is still here. I'm confused. My sun is conjunct to her south node. So from help from Elena the reason why we have such strong attraction is that we have been together in the past life. Maybe we are still learning and not ready to be together just yet.

you know...it's still possible that even though you asked her to lunch she doesn't realize you like her.....

I worked with a cancer guy once, and ALL the girls at the restaurant we worked with wanted him - the gay guys too - and I never thought he liked me, he was just friendly and would ask if he could tag along with me and my friends - I thought because I was the only one in the restaurant that was constantly drooling over him.... one night me and my friends went bowling and he went with us - then we all went to Denny's and he paid for me and I didn't get why, but I had driven with him to Denny's in his car because he didn't know whewre it was so he had to take me back to the bowling alley later to get my car and when he did he told me that he wanted to kiss me but wasn't sure if I would let him... I was really surprised I had no idea he liked me....later I went and told one fo my friends that was there "guess what Ehsan told me??" and he was like "yeah...we ALL knew that...you're the only one who didn't..."

So you may be wrong in assuming she knows... despite what people think we bulls don't jump to conclusions - even ones that are staring us in the face!

but anyway if she's back with the ex....back off until you get another chance.

well she didn't actually move on...he said she went back to the ex... but yeah - cancers do drag their feet in relationships....... or potential ones.....

oh don't get me wrong though! I did advise shishno not to rush in - but it's been weeks and you've only just asked her to lunch "as a friend"? you could have at least done that much before....

I'm going to be my normal self around her like I've been doing for the past couple weeks. I'm going to forget that I ever asked her out. My learning experience has just begun. Least I asked her.
Until then all I can do is wait. I am willing to wait for this Taurus girl she is worth it! Tho atm I will practice my game. I think I'm going to ask this other girl out. She's also a Taurus... I don't have a crush on her so it's easy to talk have a conversation with her. She shows interest and I'm going to say F it I'll give her a shot!

Yea I'm going to apologize to her. I think that was just too quick of a move. But you gotta under stand how long I've been waiting to just ask her out. 6 MONTHS!

how should I apologize tho?

no shishno...you don't need to apologize...what I was saying is that you shouldn't have waited so long to make a "freindly" move... I told you to try being a friend first and see where it goes.... but you were afraid to even approach her as a friend.... you've got to calm down man!

Yea I screwed up. Live and learn right? Yea you are both right. I think I wanna be a love guru....

No its not. But I'm feel like shit. I'd never go for 2nd best?. But I've never tried.
I'm still head over heels. But she has a bf? what am I going to do? There isn't anything I can do. Obviously this magic I'm feeling is just in me?.

Cancers and Tauri are kinda slow and aloof about the interest thing. For a long time the Cancer guy Im involved with didnt believe I wanted him and I didnt believe that him in all his gloriousness would really consider me. So ONE of yall are going to have to step up and really make something happen. I had to call him and come completely clean with my feelings for him and how much I missed him after not seeing him for about 5 months. Then he just opened up like "viola". Bot Ts and Cs and scared of rejection and if the possibility is there i think we'd both rather be in a more comfortable though not more desirable position.She said maybe which probably means she's unsure, and if it took you so long to ask she's probably wondering WHY you're asking now. If you really want to go out with her then try asking her why she said maybe and try telling her why you're just now asking.

I dont work with her anymore so I'm coming clean.

I miss working with her. Tho I'm trying to move on. But it's hard to work at my new job and stay positive when all I think about is wishing I kept my old job to work with her. I want to move on but it's hard. I'm starting to feel like shit at the same time faking a positive personality. My self esteem is low. I saw her outside of work the other day and she saw me talking to some other girls with my friend. She say me and I think she was mad bc when I try calling out to her she ignored me kinda gave me a quick half hug then left. I felt like crap after that bc I felt like she didn't want see me. If she was interested, she is not anymore. I screwed up somewhere. I'm repeating my past mistakes. This bs always happens. Thanks for trying to help. T'was fun while it lasted. I'll miss it(her)!

Ferdy-
Luv your answer--so exact, yet so eloquently said--IT'S YOU SNOOZE, YOU LOOSE with us! If you put it out there that you like us (be direct), and we like you--its as easy as that. If you play games or try to be coy--we won't catch on--I've had so many guys like me--that I never even had a clue (till long after the fact)--I never had a thought of anything else about them besides friendliness--and Ferdy is right--we never assume anything so its gotta be laid out right in front of us otherwise we'll just think your a cool person to hang out with and just being friendly.

Here is a tale: There was once this guy who liked me in H.S.-I wasn't friends with him as he was a year older than I. I did know who he was--and he was very wealthy, popular, and attractive--but he had a girlfriend of like 2 years. Anyway, He followed me around, began to mysteriously show up where ever I was, and would sit by my when ever he had the chance. He even went as far as to get his locker moved right next to mine his final year in year in school. I thought this was kinda weird-but didn't assume anything and went about my business. Then one New Years Eve I walked into a bar years later--(I saw him walked up to him and said hey your----and your are so damn fine) Now, I had been drinking alot--otherwise there would have been NO WAY IN He** I would have ever had the guts to be so direct--but that was it he grabbed me and kissed me and you couldn't separate us all nite. But, see what we mean— If i hadn't said anything to this guy, we would have just kept passing in the wind-until--if ever--he gained the guts to approach me. This guy was a Libra (weird, since I thought they are supposed to be so flashy,outgoing, and flamboyant).