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Confusing Taurus behavior..pls help to understand
Posted by snipi89
I am with this Taurus guy since last 8 month. I am really confused with his behavior. Since the time we met we meet everyday not a single miss.... on weekends we are together day and night. we enjoy together. After being so much with him, i fell in love with him and i expressed my feeling to him. He said he is not sure about his feelings, lets see what happens in future. and then after two days he told me that we are not compatible, we dont have common interest levels and we cannot be together for whole life.He also told me that he does not see me as his final life partner. But, still he likes to be with me and still we meet everyday. He is planning for further studies and may go to abroad. I am not sure what should i do? I love him so much that i am not ready to move one. He told me all these but i am still behaving as if nothing happend and i am cool about it.He is also behaving the same way. I am not sure what should i do... as i love him sooo much and i want him anyhow..everyday i wake up and i think what should i do to get him forever... i am getting crazy...But sometimes he hurts me alot by saying that we are not compatible and sometimes put me down that our intellectuals doesn't match. Sometimes, he tells me that he likes me alot and i am his best girlfriend ever. He also told me that he may regret in future for his this decision. By telling all this he gives me hope and i continue being with him. I am really confused what should i do?
Please help.....
Oh please read the book "Why Men Love Bitches"....
Well... you have to give him credit for being honest.
So.. it sounds like you have been given a choice... you must first decide to hurt now and get it out of the way... or hurt later which would hurt more.
Here is a little secret... Taurus doesn't do so well with sudden change that was not brought about on his own terms. He told you this and now you both act as if nothing happened... nothing changed... but for YOU something IS different. You see ? YOU are his habit... and YOU have more control than you realize.
My advice to you... take what you want from him... make everything as memorable for him as possible... then dump him... dump him on his ass and disappear as suddenly as possible... and without him expecting it. There is nothing that will get his attention faster than this !
You are making it too easy for him to walk away on his own time... weening himself from you. He has basically said that he will leave you in the end... so you really have nothing to lose by taking the risk and rushing him out the door.
So.. it sounds like you have been given a choice... you must first decide to hurt now and get it out of the way... or hurt later which would hurt more.
Here is a little secret... Taurus doesn't do so well with sudden change that was not brought about on his own terms. He told you this and now you both act as if nothing happened... nothing changed... but for YOU something IS different. You see ? YOU are his habit... and YOU have more control than you realize.
My advice to you... take what you want from him... make everything as memorable for him as possible... then dump him... dump him on his ass and disappear as suddenly as possible... and without him expecting it. There is nothing that will get his attention faster than this !
You are making it too easy for him to walk away on his own time... weening himself from you. He has basically said that he will leave you in the end... so you really have nothing to lose by taking the risk and rushing him out the door.
I totally agree with David. It sounds harsh but that would deffinatly get my attention! If he has strong feels for you this will make him realize that he needs you in his life. If not then really you aren't missing out on much. You will be sad for awhile but you will find someone new that loves you the way you love them.
In situations like this relationships are like being at war...you have to get to know your opponent...and be strategical!
In situations like this relationships are like being at war...you have to get to know your opponent...and be strategical!
Posted by snipi89
I am with this Taurus guy since last 8 month. I am really confused with his behavior. Since the time we met we meet everyday not a single miss.... on weekends we are together day and night. we enjoy together. After being so much with him, i fell in love with him and i expressed my feeling to him. He said he is not sure about his feelings, lets see what happens in future. and then after two days he told me that we are not compatible, we dont have common interest levels and we cannot be together for whole life.
Please help.....
Firstly, he's a bit arrogant and domineering like alot of Taurus men. My hunch is that he cares alot for you but is playing these disparaging games because he is just afraid it won't work out. Ask yourself if you can (and want to) change the things he is saying are incompatibilities. Alot of Taurus men do things like this to test and see if you can change them (he sure as hell is not going to change anything). To be very blunt, I think you're letting this bull really walk over you, you've kind of given him everything without making him work, and he doesn't respect or cherish you enough. I think you're in a really bad situation but you don't look like you have the strength to get out. I think you are in for a alot of hurt here but we all have to go through stuff like this and learn. Keep us updated.
I second that emotion about TLS's comment. I am learning more & more about how Taurus men are and I see mine this way...
He's like a child. He wants 100% guarantee that I will never, EVER, never, ever till I die leave him. Of course we all know there's no such thing.
I will NEVER cheat on him.
I'm 101% honest with him even though it's not what he particularly wants to hear.
He is THE only one in my heart, eyes, mind, soul.
My attention is on him only.
I remember when my daughter was 3 years old... she had similar traits. She was needy, insecure, asked me 1000 questions, proded, cried when I wasn't paying attention to her or whenever I left for work. If I paid attention to anybody else, especially other children, she pouted, hit the other kids and chased them away.
That's how I see my Taurus man. But when I gave him all he wanted and he didn't give me what I wanted... I walked. It has to be a 2 way street... and then he chased me.
You can't be too soft with these guys. And be strong... make sure you're strong enough to stand on your own 2 feet and live without him if it doesn't work out. Don't verbalize what you want, do it with action. That's the only way they will understand your statement.
Don't spoil him with his antics, but spoil him in the bedroom though. hehehe 🙂
And their hot/cold ways... still drives me nuts, but I call him on it and he stops. Again, just like a child.
Good luck.
He's like a child. He wants 100% guarantee that I will never, EVER, never, ever till I die leave him. Of course we all know there's no such thing.
I will NEVER cheat on him.
I'm 101% honest with him even though it's not what he particularly wants to hear.
He is THE only one in my heart, eyes, mind, soul.
My attention is on him only.
I remember when my daughter was 3 years old... she had similar traits. She was needy, insecure, asked me 1000 questions, proded, cried when I wasn't paying attention to her or whenever I left for work. If I paid attention to anybody else, especially other children, she pouted, hit the other kids and chased them away.
That's how I see my Taurus man. But when I gave him all he wanted and he didn't give me what I wanted... I walked. It has to be a 2 way street... and then he chased me.
You can't be too soft with these guys. And be strong... make sure you're strong enough to stand on your own 2 feet and live without him if it doesn't work out. Don't verbalize what you want, do it with action. That's the only way they will understand your statement.
Don't spoil him with his antics, but spoil him in the bedroom though. hehehe 🙂
And their hot/cold ways... still drives me nuts, but I call him on it and he stops. Again, just like a child.
Good luck.
Ahahahaha....JessiedLeo - you have it down pretty well. But the love of a child is so pure and precious, isn't it? :-) That is exactly how you have to deal with us though - all fo it - demanding reciprocity, the strength and willingness to walk, and spoiling in the bedroom especially...hahahahah
Thanks a lot to all of you. It really gives me strength to take some action now.
@ Torro i have tried alot to match up his criteria for his ideal partner
@ David @ Sugerbear @ jessiedleo i agree with you all, your advise sounds really helpful and the last available option...for sure i will try this and will keep u posted about it
@ TLS @ Yelloweather I know that he is domineering... but i love the way he is... and i think he is the only man, i will let dominate me 🙂
and i also accept that being an impatient Aries i have given him everything without him work for it.. 😢 but i know that, its in my hand to take all the privileges back.. if he doesn't deserve them ...Will keep you all posted..
@ Torro i have tried alot to match up his criteria for his ideal partner
@ David @ Sugerbear @ jessiedleo i agree with you all, your advise sounds really helpful and the last available option...for sure i will try this and will keep u posted about it
@ TLS @ Yelloweather I know that he is domineering... but i love the way he is... and i think he is the only man, i will let dominate me 🙂
and i also accept that being an impatient Aries i have given him everything without him work for it.. 😢 but i know that, its in my hand to take all the privileges back.. if he doesn't deserve them ...Will keep you all posted..
Sounds like a lot of heart ache. I wouldn't keep investing my feelings in a guy that thinks you aren't a life long compatible mate. I don't want to sound mean but protect your feelings too. The most you invest, the harder it is to walk away. He is obviously very slow at making his decision about love. I would slowly back off and continue to go on with life. If he truly cares.... He will.definitely step it up. Good Luck!
I am so sorry. I totally understand.how you feel. I finally gave up on my taurus because of all hot and cold behavior. I agree with Carrlexzzi, total heart ache... Taurus is usually honest with what they are saying and there`s no budginh. I know it`s sooo hard but trust me...Don`t allow him to.think this is.ok... Is he just around until.he finds something else? Pleas....you deserve a man that will.give you 100% ... Just saying hun..
I recently decided to let a taurus male go. Instead of giving it to him "leo style " (lol) I was very calm and expressed how I felt about his inconsistent behavior, we only seeing each other we he initiates and his lack affection. Despite these very important factors I still felt he really liked me. He did ask me what I wanted and what I expected from him before I could answer he told me he didn't think he could give me what I wanted. I asked him what he thought I wanted and he said the whole 9 and a relationship. I responded calmly with "I don't want anything from you or any other man that is not what you want to give me", and ended the call with I have to grab this call.
this is my experience...
in August I've met a Taurus guy. I've seen him before and was quite interested in him on a first sight. We started playing in a band together. As we've been working together more and more there was strong attraction between us. I felt it. The thing is I am older then him (7 years) and the fact that we are band members made things difficult that we can start something romantically, but it was in the air.
More and more we started meeting out of the band. I was completely sure he has feeling for me. He invited me to hang out with his male friends. He acted very proudly, like he is presenting me to them. He walked me home and I thought that was it, I made the first step but he backed off. I was a so surprised cause I didn't expecting that. All signals were there quite obvious. He told me he can't do it, it will complicate the situation in the band. I accepted it and tomorrow sent him a message saying let's forget bout what happened and keep our relationship as friends, whit smiley. The whole moth we hang like friends but attraction was all over the place as well as the connection between us. He wanted to hang with me,saying how he never met a woman as I am, inviting me everywhere, watching movies together, sleeping by my side. I was patient and trying to keep my emotions still.Never speaking bout it. I knew he has feelings but I gave him time.
Finally, one night, after party, we were alone and he opened up saying how he is crazy about me but he fears for the band. After conversation we've kissed and now we are together for two month. He adore me, showing his love in every possible way. I showed him I respect his feelings, was patient and showed him he can trust me. Everything is going so smooth and the atmosphere in the band is great.
I would say, give this guy time,don't chase him, be patient and go your own way. It needs strength but if you truly love him then it will be worth it.
in August I've met a Taurus guy. I've seen him before and was quite interested in him on a first sight. We started playing in a band together. As we've been working together more and more there was strong attraction between us. I felt it. The thing is I am older then him (7 years) and the fact that we are band members made things difficult that we can start something romantically, but it was in the air.
More and more we started meeting out of the band. I was completely sure he has feeling for me. He invited me to hang out with his male friends. He acted very proudly, like he is presenting me to them. He walked me home and I thought that was it, I made the first step but he backed off. I was a so surprised cause I didn't expecting that. All signals were there quite obvious. He told me he can't do it, it will complicate the situation in the band. I accepted it and tomorrow sent him a message saying let's forget bout what happened and keep our relationship as friends, whit smiley. The whole moth we hang like friends but attraction was all over the place as well as the connection between us. He wanted to hang with me,saying how he never met a woman as I am, inviting me everywhere, watching movies together, sleeping by my side. I was patient and trying to keep my emotions still.Never speaking bout it. I knew he has feelings but I gave him time.
Finally, one night, after party, we were alone and he opened up saying how he is crazy about me but he fears for the band. After conversation we've kissed and now we are together for two month. He adore me, showing his love in every possible way. I showed him I respect his feelings, was patient and showed him he can trust me. Everything is going so smooth and the atmosphere in the band is great.
I would say, give this guy time,don't chase him, be patient and go your own way. It needs strength but if you truly love him then it will be worth it.
Posted by soultalkPosted by lucyL
so r u guys a couple now?click to expand
Yes we are. Two month now.
What I figured, with Taurus it goes slowly. I had experience before and you never know exactly what he is thinking until the moment he opens up. Once he does, there is no second thought. He is going right down that road. But don't push him to tell you, let him do his thinking. If you can't do this, for whatever the reason you will get frustrated cause he wont give you the answer until he has decided. No sooner.
In this case, that I've told you, he could have behave in a few ways: make out with me that night and then tomorrow get distanced or if he really didn't have feelings for me he would probably avoid spending so much time with me knowing how I feel for him and the last, how he acted, he refused me that night explaining his fears/reasons but kept me close to him. I put my mind together and really tried to not be emotional but let things develop in their own way. He was the one usually calling me out, more and more. I figured from that behavior further that he really likes me but he had to decide firmly within him self am I the one he will step into relationship with and "perhaps" risk the atmosphere in the band. Guess that when he was completely sure of his feelings towards me he opened up. From that point he never showed second thoughts or any kind of fear.
oh yeah, just to add, afterwords he told me how he appreciate immensely that I wasn't pushy and that I respected his decision although I had feelings for him. He said that was a huge bonus and that really showed him the sincerity of my feelings. He was more relaxed with me cause he felt he can trust me.
We are very honest. I learnt to really trust their words and actions now. Sometimes when you are so in love with someone it stops you from seeing the whole picture. I am sorry you are in this situation. We are also stubborn. He made a decision that you two are not compatible and you are not suited for his ideal life partner.. I know it's hard but please take words for it.. We mean what we say.. You are allowing him to have his cake and eat it too.. I suggest now you are with him. Do everything on this earth to leave the best memories possible.. Whether that will be cooking his favorite meals.. Give him tons of affection..spoil him to no end... Then one day drop the bom and leave for good. Don't expect him to chase you either. You got to move on for yourself.. But know that you have given it all your very best.. And there's nothing you can do anymore. I hope he changes his mind down the track but knowing Taurus... We normally don't... 😢 good luck!
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