POURED MY HEART OUT

SO offically a week ago today, I poured my feelings out to my taurus guy.
We had been seeing each other off and on for 3 years. We don't live in the same city, anymore.
Anyway.. We had a good/physical relatinship before this. We didn't see each other much, but he made a alot of promises to spend time together.
Anyway.. He said he only see's me a a friend because he is focusing on his career. I told him I would wait, and that said that was nice but he didn't want me to miss out on another opportunity.
He has contacting me a few times to see how I am doing.
I really don't know what sense to make out of this. I thought it was over—

Help..

Thanks Pisco 26.
Nothing else I can do at this point but let him contact me.
My heart is really broken over him. I love him so much. I don't believe he didn't/doesn't have feelings for me more than friends. He wants to focus on his career, so even though I think differently, I have to respect what he is telling me.

I am sorry to hear of this. 😢 It is hard because tauruses are so attractive in many ways. I have agree that he cares for you in a friendly way. Have you 2 ever been intimate? Just curious if he evr went down this road, because if that's the case he may care but generally they take a longer time to love someone.

I am sorry to hear of this. 😢 It is hard because tauruses are so attractive in many ways. I have agree that he cares for you in a friendly way. Have you 2 ever been intimate? Just curious if he evr went down this road, because if that's the case he may care but generally they take a longer time to love someone.

@ Mamacita351, Yes we have been. It's just in the past few months that we haven't been and he says that is out of respect for me.
He has done a little something similar to this when we both lived in the same city. And then 3 months later we were on again. We hashed it out this time like never before. It was like an emotional autopsy for me. I told him I love him and he said "thank you, and I don't deserve that" REALLY?
I am just going to leave him alone. If he wants to contact me, he knows how to find me.

@Torro,
I get what your saying.. but why is asking
1. his boss how I am doing?
2. Texting my friend telling her to take care of me that he broke my heart..
3. Texting me twice to see how I am.

Dont you think that is a little immature?

Posted by woodenmeow
SO offically a week ago today, I poured my feelings out to my taurus guy.
We had been seeing each other off and on for 3 years. We don't live in the same city, anymore.
Anyway.. We had a good/physical relatinship before this. We didn't see each other much, but he made a alot of promises to spend time together.
Anyway.. He said he only see's me a a friend because he is focusing on his career. I told him I would wait, and that said that was nice but he didn't want me to miss out on another opportunity.
He has contacting me a few times to see how I am doing.
I really don't know what sense to make out of this. I thought it was over—

Help..

did he say this after you started living in different cities? i read that taurus are not good with long-distance, could it be that?

wooden, not alot of info. to go off of here, but a taurus in love, in my humble opinion, would not knowingly/consciously put his career over pursuing a relationship with you. Sounds like he's potentially using you or was in the past. I would get out of this fast, and take the time you need to heal. The followups he's done with you, your friend, etc., seem typical of a taurus who feels for you in a caring sort of way, but not as a love interest. Time to move on IMO. Do not blame yourself; it could just be that its the long distance thing....Often its out of sight, out of mind for us....

Thanks for all the input. Yes, we were both in the same city for a year then he transfered.
Before he did, he made sure everything was good was us. Spent all the time he could with me.
When he left I assumed we were going to keep it going, since he last words were you will come see me. I re-assured him but he didn't for me. The relationship was romantic from the begining, but we have gone through a time before where he cut off the physical part of our relationship.
Here we are 3 yrs later and I am as confused the day he left. He contacted me yesterday to wish me a happy easter.
And the work emails he sends me are overly wordy explaining everything he is doing (even though I haven't asked). I have been keeping things professional as I told him I would. We work togther not in the same office but through emails and setting up things.
I am not sure what to think...?
Or how to handle things.. I am really not sure if I can be his friend. I told him, that I don't feel just friends feelings for him.

Two weeks after the dust has settled with my taurus. I find myself still somewhat confused.
We indirectly work with each other. He has been pretty persistant about being friends with me. Which I am not so sure I can do, since my feelings are more for him. We have had to text for work communication and he has been flirty. Trust me I didn't get excited like before.
Now, it seems like he keeps contacting me to help him with work things. This weekend when I am not working, he emailed me 7 times, Text me 4, then called to help him with something he really could have done himself. I am starting to feel used.
Seems like he wants to be friends for his own benefit. Thats not cool.
Let me know what you think..?

To all my forum peeps...
Here is an update. My and my taurus still have to work together, not the same building. Communicating through emails and phone calls.
So I helped him with something yesterday for Admins day. We were texting and somehow we started to speak on a person level. I told him that if are truely friends that he shouldn't just contact me when he "needs somthing".
He said he was trying to be respectful to me. I told him thank you. I was honest with him and said... I would be lying if I said I was over you. Then I can't understand is you really feel NOTHING for me? He said "It's not that I dont feel anything for you. It's just that I can't do long distance. I said we work for an Airline and the distance isn't a big thing for me. He said I understand but thats for you. My taurus also said.. "You asked and I answered. I'm not trying to be proven wrong". Like I said I just can not do the long distance things. Its just not for me. I said... I am just trying to make sense of it all. He said "it is what it is"
I said I do miss you. And he said I miss you smiling face as well.
I really don't understand. Any taurus assistance would be helpful...

my experience with a Taurus guy says they are really so complex individuals and usually takes longgggg enough time to love or commit someone... I would suggest stop answering to his messages and calls... show him that you don't want his sympathy anymore and you are strong enough to move on and if he does not want to be in distance relationship, don't force him. Just get out of his way completely...if he really loves you he will come back chasing you.. if he does not come then let him go.. you will find someone better then him. I know this is very difficult...even i am going through the same phase.. 😢 my Taurus also told me that out of sight out of mind... bull sheet crap.... but you have to be strong sometimes and hope for the best...

Thanks for the input...
Knowing myself I am sure I have over complicated the situation. I think what is difficult for me is that he doesn't give me the same answer.
One Minute is that he doesn't have enough time, then it's the distance.
If I felt like he was consistantly honest with me, I might feel better and some resolution.
It feels more like I would be with you if I still lived there, but since I don't. Sorry...
I am worth him making that effort. He just seems lazy.