MissWaterbearer16
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FIGURING OUT THIS TAURUS GUY
Thats a weird situation... you guys have been acting like that for a year— I think he just doesnt know about you... maybe even a booty call cause if i was interested in someone id let them know how i feel about them... it takes awhile but eventually i will!
ya.. thats why im so confused..
now im actually thinking to ask him, but i dont know what are the right words to say..
now im actually thinking to ask him, but i dont know what are the right words to say..
Posted by taurusman
Thats a weird situation... you guys have been acting like that for a year— I think he just doesnt know about you... maybe even a booty call cause if i was interested in someone id let them know how i feel about them... it takes awhile but eventually i will!
when u say awhile, how many months would u have to wait?
i read this somewhere (see the bottom) .. i figured, youre a taurus, so what do your think?
im confused bec #1 and 2 applies to our situation.. i couldnt figure it out...
Speak our Language
by: The Bull
I'm also a Taurus. The answer to your problem? Speak our body language and observe our actions.
(1) If we're very affectionate with you, consistent with our actions, introduced you to our family members, extremely generous with you, constantly want to show you off, and balancing BOTH our time with you and work....WE'RE IN LOVE! Telling you we love you {verbatim} will not be necessary.
(2) If we're very affectionate with you, spoiled you, but inconsistent with our actions, have not introduced you to our family members, call you every now and then for sex, and have not incorporated you into our private lives or inner circle...then we're only partly interested. We like you, but we're not feeling you all that much.
(3) If we're not affectionate with you, have not spoiled you, have not introduced you to our family memebers, private lives or inner circle, but will hear your problems, nurture it and give you good advice, then we just want to be friends.
robyn808: I'm confused, I mean your fucking him, your spending time with him... doesn't that already say you like him, likes you?
>>>>>>AAAAAAAAAA!!!!!! I don't understand other signs for this reason. How are you sleeping with someone regularly and anxious about whether or not he likes you—? Everyone seems to accept FWB or casual sex as legitimate, but then we see this....a lot. How are you able to get naked and let another person inside your body, but you are too afraid to tell him you like him? Is it just me, or is this just obviously all backwards?
>>>>>>AAAAAAAAAA!!!!!! I don't understand other signs for this reason. How are you sleeping with someone regularly and anxious about whether or not he likes you—? Everyone seems to accept FWB or casual sex as legitimate, but then we see this....a lot. How are you able to get naked and let another person inside your body, but you are too afraid to tell him you like him? Is it just me, or is this just obviously all backwards?
OMG.. Thank u to everyone who gave inputs.. thanks soooo much
well, I really like this guy, but i have a feeling that he may not be ready yet to commit, hes younger than me and i guess enjoying things.. thats why im holding back what i have.
but right now, im pretty much decided to talk ho him, i just dont know whats the right approach in doing so..and the crucial part, is the timing. i dont know if i should do it now or wait in the next few months. gosh, i cant believe, its been a year and were still in this stage. its my 1st time to deal with this..
ok... ya we consistently meet up. we go out, and its not all the time that we meet up ending up having sex, but sometimes we just do dinners or movies. talk. kiss. and just hug..
what gives me doubts and confusion in our situation is that.. well, we dont sms each other everyday. sometimes we dont even sms each other for 2 weeks.. and we have been like this since day 1... way before we became intimate, now this we have come this far, its still the same.. is this normal?
i dont know if its a taurus thing or his thing.. sometimes i dont sms bec he doesnt, i guess im just too prudent, i ddnt want him to think im obsessed or crzy.. im aquarius, it may not be easy, but it's also not difficult for me to get myself detached or go along this "sms - or - not" thought.
another thing, when we go out, we will be like all too sweet, etc the next 2 days or so after we meet up, i dont hear from him. and it's like wtf.. sometimes if i send him a msg asking him how he is, of course i get a reply, sweet replies.
i dont understnd, these things makes me puzzled..
i honestly think he likes me too, but i also have doubt of the booty call idea.
or. mybe he likes me, and could it be that he still just feeling the situation.. ? knowing these taurus are slow?
well, I really like this guy, but i have a feeling that he may not be ready yet to commit, hes younger than me and i guess enjoying things.. thats why im holding back what i have.
but right now, im pretty much decided to talk ho him, i just dont know whats the right approach in doing so..and the crucial part, is the timing. i dont know if i should do it now or wait in the next few months. gosh, i cant believe, its been a year and were still in this stage. its my 1st time to deal with this..
ok... ya we consistently meet up. we go out, and its not all the time that we meet up ending up having sex, but sometimes we just do dinners or movies. talk. kiss. and just hug..
what gives me doubts and confusion in our situation is that.. well, we dont sms each other everyday. sometimes we dont even sms each other for 2 weeks.. and we have been like this since day 1... way before we became intimate, now this we have come this far, its still the same.. is this normal?
i dont know if its a taurus thing or his thing.. sometimes i dont sms bec he doesnt, i guess im just too prudent, i ddnt want him to think im obsessed or crzy.. im aquarius, it may not be easy, but it's also not difficult for me to get myself detached or go along this "sms - or - not" thought.
another thing, when we go out, we will be like all too sweet, etc the next 2 days or so after we meet up, i dont hear from him. and it's like wtf.. sometimes if i send him a msg asking him how he is, of course i get a reply, sweet replies.
i dont understnd, these things makes me puzzled..
i honestly think he likes me too, but i also have doubt of the booty call idea.
or. mybe he likes me, and could it be that he still just feeling the situation.. ? knowing these taurus are slow?
Posted by robyn808
You already know the answers for questions 1 through 4. Want you really want to know is does he want a committed relationship and how do you get that. Nobody here can answer that question for him, and his decision will likely not just be based on his feelings for you. Understand that how he feels about himself and where he is in his life at this moment will also be a likely factor.
You are at a crossroads, you enjoy what you get but also realize its not going to be enough. So you either need to move forward and take your feelings more seriously or move on. Yeah its scary to lay your cards out on the table but your not going to double your money if you don't, at best you'll walk away losing whatever anti you played in the first place.
Just tell him how you feel about him, tell him what your looking for, what you want. And give him that opportunity to think about it, and decide if he can wants that too. If you're afraid the answer is no, so you never ask, then how are you ever supposed to get a yes? and whats your best chance at getting a yes? leading him into it... telling him how you sets the example, but from what you say here, I suspect you are actually the one who is being lead in this situation,
So my advice is simple.. just follow, stop over thinking it, just be open to what your experiencing with out worrying about what is or what isn't (did he or didn't he hold my hand in front of his friends? who cares? did it feel right? did it feel good? awesome that's all that matters). Love and relationships are a natural progression with bulls and your doubt and insecurities are keeping you in one place treading water. Just float!
robyn -- you are so amazing - everything u said.... wow, u could read between the lines.
Posted by BikerCh1ckPosted by MissWaterbearer16
It is not necessary to tell him that you like him. He is not insecure or searching to find out. So it will just come out awkward.
The only thing that you need to tell him is that at some point you need to sit down and talk to him and make sure that you two are exclusive. That could freak him out but it is necessary.
.click to expand
BikerCh1ck ... im considering this idea.. what u said... thats really helpful.. omg.
after all, we are just friends since there is no proper definition, at this time, i mean ya we get physical, his friends know he is dating or going out with me but he never introduced me as his gf, so ya, it is considered that we are friends.. thats sad..
Posted by feby16aqua
Taurus people are very insightful. They come to conclusions and see the logic and big picture. It's something that I admire.
The text thing? I just remember getting angry when he wouldn't respond lol. The texting and keeping in touch like how I wanted caused some strife. He was definitely on a different frequency as I was. But when I saw him I could always see how much he loved me.
hey.. my bday is feb 16th~ lols!
actually this is the 2nd taurus im dealing with. my ex was a taurus, we were tog for almost 3 yrs.. actually we moved in together for 3 yrs..
i see they have some similarities but their approach are different..
i seem to have an attraction with taurus.. i hate and love it at the same time..
Posted by soultalkPosted by MissWaterbearer16
But who usually initiates the text after 2 weeks? I have come to learn that taurs can keep quiet for months on end before initiating anything. If you can't wait long, it has to be you who initiates with a taurus, or wait for few months to hear from them. And yes, whenever taur gets back in touch, he'll be talking with same passion and intensity like he was there all the time. It can be confusing to normal people who like regular contact to understand the interest.click to expand
either one of us. normally he messages me to ask how i am then he will invte me to go out.
i also send him a msg asking how he is.. then thats it, sometimes i would invite him to go out as well, but a rare ocassion, i would normally jst messge without thinking to go out, u knw . just being in touch.
robyn808
BikerCh1ck
i think what i have decided.. its maybe to talk to him in a casual way telling him that i like him.. making it clear on the exclusivity.
if he agrees then , we take and start from there.. and if he doesnt like it, and would prefer a buffet, then i would have to ditch him and move on..
thanks for all the inputs.. 😉
xx
this is the 2nd taurus im dealing with, my ex is the 1st.. and we were together for almost 3 yrs.. actually we moved in together , close to 3 yrs..
they have similarities, but their approach is different..
i guess i will always get magnetized by the bull, they are so romantic, a little odd. on and off kind of thing, but they know how to melt a heart, and treat a lady, based on my experience with them.
aquarius woman and taurus man, well maybe, opposites attract.
complementing each other, showing what he has in his world and what i offer in mine, makes it interesting for us. for how long, i dont know. but would have to be worked out i guess.
i think the guy likes me, i mean, i can sense that.
probably the reason its like this is bec he couldnt offer me something more, for now or forever, i dont know. i will figure this out..
or maybe he is still feeling himself and the situation.
that sucks bec no one can tell until when..
Posted by taurusman
Thats a weird situation... you guys have been acting like that for a year— I think he just doesnt know about you... maybe even a booty call cause if i was interested in someone id let them know how i feel about them... it takes awhile but eventually i will!
This was my first thought too. And this is coming from a male Taurus. If you're fine with the frequency, great. Enjoy it for what it is. Just don't go looking for a ring.
What do you want from this relationship? You need to answer that in yourself first. I think women get caught up in wanting to catch the man and don't really ask themselves if it's worth the effort and if the man's really right for us. Good luck.
It makes me giggle how other signs clearly don't understand us! We do not offer our affection to everyone! Nor do we share our lazy moments with everyone either. If we didn'tike or see a future with you we won't waste time on you. You as aqua sees the world differently everyday and we being fixed consistency sign confuses u airy nature. Most likely of we are beig consistence with our actions then we are definately into you however it depends on where he is in life. If he's ready to settle down and get married then he will make your relationship more seriously otherwise he's just going to cruise along thinking nothing is wrong... Well nothing is wrong .... to us anyway... :s
Robyn is right and biker chick could do a little better in understanding us. I don't understand why you are so confused whether he likes you. We don't bother with you if we don't like you full stop. Him not initiating texts r his bull nature and most likely he is just too lazy n stubborn to text. Sorry girl but you have to kick his lazy ass a little. People often approach me if they wanna get to know me. I dont Persue not in my nature at all. The way to know if I am into you is how much affection n time I'm willing to give to you. I suggest you asking him out more often than 3 times a week. Spend more time with him... Maybe 3 times a week and see if his action changes ( most likely wont) . I wouldn't initiate the talk with him just yet!!! My advice is to slowly spend more time with him. if his action chances then you get the answer if not then you get your answer also.
Posted by MissWaterbearer16
i think the guy likes me, i mean, i can sense that.
probably the reason its like this is bec he couldnt offer me something more, for now or forever, i dont know. i will figure this out..
or maybe he is still feeling himself and the situation.
that sucks bec no one can tell until when..
yeah the year thing is nothing to a taurus. Time and Patience...lots of Patience....is on their side (generally speaking)
Someone had it right: he just doesn't know you well enough. Maybe it'll take another year, maybe 3 years, who knows. But FWB? Why didnt you ask him firsthand for a commitment? Like a gf/bf thing even if marriage isn't in the rocks yet. Fwb is gross in my opinion. Now commitment? That's a slice of heaven and makes you feel SECURE.
Posted by SunTauVenGem
It makes me giggle how other signs clearly don't understand us! We do not offer our affection to everyone! Nor do we share our lazy moments with everyone either. If we didn'tike or see a future with you we won't waste time on you. You as aqua sees the world differently everyday and we being fixed consistency sign confuses u airy nature. Most likely of we are beig consistence with our actions then we are definately into you however it depends on where he is in life. If he's ready to settle down and get married then he will make your relationship more seriously otherwise he's just going to cruise along thinking nothing is wrong... Well nothing is wrong .... to us anyway... :s
I'm a Taurus ascendant & have my share of Taurean friends so I reckon I have a decent understanding of your sign, giggly. Thing is one year of 3X a month contact doesn't spell the kind of love this woman is obviously looking for. Sun signs are really just guide posts. They don't tell the whole story of a person nor do they reveal insights into dating patterns. In other words you can't form universal judgements based on sun sign information. Namaste.
Posted by lisabethur8
yeah the year thing is nothing to a taurus. Time and Patience...lots of Patience....is on their side (generally speaking)
Someone had it right: he just doesn't know you well enough. Maybe it'll take another year, maybe 3 years, who knows. But FWB? Why didnt you ask him firsthand for a commitment? Like a gf/bf thing even if marriage isn't in the rocks yet. Fwb is gross in my opinion. Now commitment? That's a slice of heaven and makes you feel SECURE.
omg. seriously, a year is nothing? i dont know how long i could keep up with this. will make me go nuts i guess.
i ddnt ask for a commitment bec i rarely do, it would always be the guy who will bring this up to me.
i did this once to a virgo but it ddnt work out, but thats fine bec we are still really good friends now, it has been 7 yrs i guess that we are friends..
and fwb being gross for you, i totally respect and understnd that. :-)
anyways, i like this guy. i really like this guy, and i dont love him yet. so, if he is not ready to commit, that is fine with me, but exclusivity , i need to make this clear with him.
and by the way, he is a taurus frenchman. lolx
Posted by Este8Posted by SunTauVenGem
It makes me giggle how other signs clearly don't understand us! We do not offer our affection to everyone! Nor do we share our lazy moments with everyone either. If we didn'tike or see a future with you we won't waste time on you. You as aqua sees the world differently everyday and we being fixed consistency sign confuses u airy nature. Most likely of we are beig consistence with our actions then we are definately into you however it depends on where he is in life. If he's ready to settle down and get married then he will make your relationship more seriously otherwise he's just going to cruise along thinking nothing is wrong... Well nothing is wrong .... to us anyway... :sclick to expand
I'm a Taurus ascendant & have my share of Taurean friends so I reckon I have a decent understanding of your sign, giggly. Thing is one year of 3X a month contact doesn't spell the kind of love this woman is obviously looking for. Sun signs are really just guide posts. They don't tell the whole story of a person nor do they reveal insights into dating patterns. In other words you can't form universal judgements based on sun sign information. Namaste.
^^^ we don't do FWB well as we don't like sharing. How can you not discuss being exclusive after a year? I dont understand that! We expect exclusivity since the first time we sleep with you.... We are possessive in nature... Thoughts?
Posted by robyn808
But if you want an advantage... have that conversation, have that conversation in a great atmosphere, with great food, music, a drink no more then two. Relaxed happy bull, will provide the best possible outcome. If he's sitting in an uncomfortable chair, he might have an uncomfortable feeling about whatever your disusing. You can laugh but its totally true.
Take this advice....^^^^^^^^
Bulls are ruled by the senses.
I can't stress this enough.
I see many threads created on this board in regards to texts, FB, Twitter as a means of communicating or getting through a Bull...
Bad move!
A more direct approach would suit your situation a lot better.
Posted by SunTauVenGem
^^^ we don't do FWB well as we don't like sharing. How can you not discuss being exclusive after a year? I dont understand that! We expect exclusivity since the first time we sleep with you.... We are possessive in nature... Thoughts?
Yes, this is the bull that I know. Possessive and a bit jealous on one hand but loving and committed on the other. Bulls are patient but when they've had enuf, there she blows! I got together with a good friend yesterday and we were talking about relationships. She said this millionaire matchmaker had 1 rule in dating: no sex before monogamy. That really hit home with me. I'm a Cancer and we're on the same page as far as expectations and needs related to a romantic relationship. Given who WE are and what WE need to be happy, no sex before monogamy makes nothing but sense. I also think it's important because having sex really opens the emotional and spiritual flood gates. You don't want to do that before you get to know the person you're interested in and see that there's more than just sexual chemistry. Chemistry w/out compatibility is hurtful. It's a brief period of pleasure and euphoria followed by months of hurt and disappointment. What's key is knowing who we are and living our lives in ways that support that. Hope this helps.
Posted by soultalkPosted by TaurusBull1977
But isn't the man supposed to do the pursuing and asking? Why is it with bulls (men) that they expect everyone to understand that they are slow and want the women to take the lead?click to expand
Yea.. exactly. this should be the way actually. well, that's for me.
i'm still a girl, and it would be so much pleasant if he will do this move..
however, i dont have any certainty if he would, or when.
i dont know how much slower pace could it ever get, im sometimes, getting fed up and just thinking to stop seeing him without even talking about it. but i guess i would have to initiate the talk.
and tomorrow, he's doing another bbq at his place, which he msgd all his friends like 2 days ago, of course inclding me for the invites..
everyone in the whatsapp group replied (whther going or not), and i havent given any confirmation or decline yet..
he messaged me separtely a few hours ago asking if i could come, i havent replied yet.. just not sure if i wana go. i think im almost always available for his invites.
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I really like this guy.. and my questions:
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I know i could always ask him, but maybe some things to guide me or some advise would be helpful before I ask bec, I dont want to scare him or put pressure in this set up. I like him so much and I dont want him to run away!
Please help.