Help me with my Taurus man PLEASE

I've been seeing my Taurus for a few months now. We clicked basically straight away and began seeing each other at least 3 times a week (this freaked me out a little as I like my space and not to rush things). He was affectionate, put effort into driving an hour to see me often and I did the same for him, he cooked me dinner, always stared at me, always touched me, took me on thoughtful little dates, constantly told me I was beautiful etc. we had a few bumps in the road along the way, but we always worked them out...until recently. Our first bump was when he did something to someone else that I thought was morally f*cked up and I told him that I did not agree with what he did, we talked it out and moved on. The second bump was when we went out clubbing together for the first time. I have a tendency when intoxicated to just walk off without telling anyone and going home when I have had enough. I did this to him that night and the worst part is I had lost my phone earlier so he had no way of contacting me to see if I was alright or where I was. I genuinely felt bad for what I did and apologised the next day and we sorted it out. The next was when I was supposed to go to his friends birthday party, we had some miscommunication, things got a little blown out of the water and we had what I would classify as our first fight. He came to see me the Monday and we talked it out and that night the sex was amazing, it was on another level. We aren't in love, at least not on my part but I felt like I was making love. It was sensual and heated, it had more essence to it then the usual fun, rough sex we usually have. Everything returned to normal and we were great, until 2 weekends ago when I had my friends birthday party. He said he wasn't going to come out as he needed to save money etc. I went to his before going to my friends and on seeing me when all done up (without sounding conceited, I did look good)he changed his mind and was trying to arrange with his friends to head out and meet up with us. Me and my friends started early and before even meeting up with him, I was pretty drunk and ready to do my usual trick and go home. I don't for the life of me know why, but I text him saying "don't message me. Peace". I know, immature and it doesn't even make sense why I would say that to him. He tried to call and text and then wrote that it was clear that he was trying and I kept pushing him away. I didn't text back as that very night I was in a car accident on my way ho

Cont* home. The accident was serious as the car was completely wrecked, but I only walked away with a few minor scratches and bruises. When I spoke to my Taurus the next day, I told him what had happened but for the first time I saw a cold side to him. He didn't seem compassionate and I know he was angry about the text but I didn't really think it was that terrible. I have known girls to fully abuse their partners when drunk and even sober. I can't explain why I sent it, it had no meaning and I thought he would just wrap it up to me being drunk. I asked if he was going to come down and see me, to which he replied "I'll see how I feel after my smoothie". This infuriated me!! The girl he apparently likes just got into a car accident and you'll see how you feel after your smoothie? So I made other plans with a friend and just text him real casual and said that it was all good and I had plans so he could just recover. He came to see me the next day and things were weird in comparison to normal but we still got along fine. I had realised over time that he played games where he would say or ask things to see my reaction, it was like a way of him getting reassurance of if I liked him or not. It annoyed me because I felt it caused unnecessary drama in some instances. The next day I gave it some thought and I had enough and told him I was done. He tried to work it out with me and then had a go at me for always pushing him away and being hot and cold. I told him that I felt he was having a hard time opening up to me, yet expected me to open up to him (Him being a Taurus and me being a scorpio (opposites) I think we both have a lot in common like stubbornness and difficulty opening up). Anyway that was the end of it. In my mind I still liked him and thought maybe we just needed space and would work it out. Not even 24 hours later he posted an old picture to facebook of when him and his ex went bush walking and it was just of her sitting on a ledge looking out over the forest and tagged her in it. They broke up like 6 months ago and when I saw the picture, it appeared as thought they were together at that moment as it said that he was with her. I screen shot the picture and sent a text saying —this just popped up on my news feed. I'm kind of confused but if it is what it is then just say ??_??. He called me straight away and said —why do you care? You called it off??. He then proceeded to tell me it was an old photo and that he just thought it was —cool??.

Cont* I told him I thought he did it purposely to get a reaction out of me as it was just odd timing and weird that someone would even do that anyway. Who takes a walk down memory lane of when they were with their ex and posts it for the world to see. I could understand if they were still friends and it was a recent photo, but I think any girl would find that disrespectful of the guy they were just seeing to post a photo of them when they were with their ex. That was basically it. I??d had enough of his games. We didn't speak again till the Friday and he tried calling me at 3:30am and sent a message about catching up the next day as he wanted to talk this out. We didn't end up catching up until Sunday and he basically begged me for another chance, which I ended up agreeing to and thought everything would be fine with us. He said he would come down after work the next day and sleep. Come Monday afternoon, he calls me and says he has to cancel (He had a good reason). I at least expected a good night message or a call that night to apologise and reschedule but he never did. Tuesday I never heard from him other then a couple of snap chats but they were just common, nothing personal. Tuesday afternoon, after spending all day wondering what was with the distance, I called him. He answered and after a minute of the normal how was work chit chat, he turns around and says —I'm tired so I am going to go to bed soon??. It was as if he didn't even want to talk to me on the phone and he made no effort to reschedule to see me. I should have probably mentioned that I leave for Overseas for 5 weeks in 2 weeks time and had said previously that maybe we should leave this till I returned (what originally prompted me to even say this to him was because he asked what we were going to do when I went to Europe, otherwise I would have just went with the flow and took each day as it came) but he insisted that we continued to see each other and that he really liked me. But Tuesday, on the phone, he turns around and says out of no where —Maybe we should try again when you get back??. I was so confused by this point. Why come see me Sunday, beg for another chance and then 48 hours later completely change your tune and now you don't want this. After the phone conversation, I gave it some thought and out of anger messaged him telling him not to worry about this and —I don't want to waste my time on someone who is trying to decide if I'm worth it or not??, as tha

Cont* as that is how he made me feel. He messaged me telling me I have issues that I need to sort out if we are going to make this work, like completely spinning this whole situation around on me when I had done nothing wrong. I had given him the second chance he wanted and then he went cold on me. Is there something I am missing?? Has this guy met someone else or he just isn't interested anymore? I know I may have had my issues with pushing him away but I did nothing of the sort this time, he's the one that pulled some kind of Bipolar move on me. Can A Taurus man please give me some insight. And sorry this is so long.. Maybe there's just too much drama involved with this guy and I should just chuck it in the f*ck it bucket and move on.

hello fellow,

Our problem is just freaking out over something that could lead into big trouble.

Your guy is just like any other taurus he is calm and collective. So when he change his mind

then be supportive in approaching him.. maybe he had something to do..

My advice: Please be soft and not too pushy. Be gentle because taurus people are sensitive.

Winning their heart is just a big task...

Posted by scorpvixen
The second bump was when we went out clubbing together for the first time. I have a tendency when intoxicated to just walk off without telling anyone and going home when I have had enough. I did this to him that night and the worst part is I had lost my phone earlier so he had no way of contacting me to see if I was alright or where I was.

Oooh. This would piss me off so bad. I would be up all night wondering what the hell happened to you imagining the worst. I'd probably not take you too seriously after this. If this is how you act when you get drunk, I'd probably just decide that, since you aren't going to stop drinking, there's a current sizeable portion of your personality that I don't like.

Posted by scorpvixen
I was pretty drunk and ready to do my usual trick and go home. I don't for the life of me know why, but I text him saying "don't message me. Peace". I know, immature

How old are you guys? You seem to play a lot of emotional games. A Taurus may hang with you despite this, but he's going to compartmentalize you. This would piss me off so bad and I'd just put you in a box labeled "hot and fun, but not mature enough for anything serious or long-term".

Posted by scorpvixen
This infuriated me!! The girl he apparently likes just got into a car accident and you'll see how you feel after your smoothie?

The girl who plays with people's (very protective Taurean) emotions by disappearing unannounced and drunk? The one whose actions say not to take her too seriously? As long as you weren't seriously injured, I'd probably be very cold towards you too.

Posted by scorpvixen
I had realised over time that he played games where he would say or ask things to see my reaction, it was like a way of him getting reassurance of if I liked him or not.

Good intuition. We do this. Don't like to take unnecessary risks or make assumptions that could have us feeling rejected.

Posted by scorpvixen
He called me straight away and said —why do you care? You called it off??. He then proceeded to tell me it was an old photo and that he just thought it was —cool??.

Well, he called your bluff to see how "done" you were emotionally. You fell for that one...lol. Nice work, bull. As a Scorp you should've sniffed that one out. LOL, he thought it was "cool"....HAHHAHAHAH....

Posted by scorpvixen
Has this guy met someone else or he just isn't interested anymore? I know I may have had my issues with pushing him away but I did nothing of the sort this time, he's the one that pulled some kind of Bipolar move on me. Can A Taurus man please give me some insight. And sorry this is so long.. Maybe there's just too much drama involved with this guy and I should just chuck it in the f*ck it bucket and move on.

Honestly, its the opposite from what I'm reading. You seem to be the cause of the drama, and you're hot/cold Jekyll/Hyde yourself. In the beginning, remember, "He was affectionate, put effort into driving an hour to see me often..., he cooked me dinner, always stared at me, always touched me, took me on thoughtful little dates, constantly told me I was beautiful etc". Now its reduced to games, and it really seems to be primarily over your immaturity when drunk. That's fine. You guys are probably young. If you don't take it seriously in your actions, don't take it seriously in your expectations either. Have fun, be young, find a bull when you want something serious, mature, stable. Without maturity on the part of both partners, this pairing doesn't stand a chance. Any Astrologer will tell you that.

yay.. I was once drunk after my ex told me... M, i don't love you. I lied. I was wrong.

ok... I drank the whole bottle and sleep.He woke me up. M,get up. I made for you a soup. drink this

medicine so you don't have headache.. lmao. I threw the medicine in his face. lol... that was past.

Not a male but I have to agree w TLS here.

Sounds like maybe he said 3 'bumps' and you're out. Too much partying and craziness going on.

Posted by TaurusLovesScorpio

Posted by scorpvixen
Has this guy met someone else or he just isn't interested anymore? I know I may have had my issues with pushing him away but I did nothing of the sort this time, he's the one that pulled some kind of Bipolar move on me. Can A Taurus man please give me some insight. And sorry this is so long.. Maybe there's just too much drama involved with this guy and I should just chuck it in the f*ck it bucket and move on.

Honestly, its the opposite from what I'm reading. You seem to be the cause of the drama, and you're hot/cold Jekyll/Hyde yourself. In the beginning, remember, "He was affectionate, put effort into driving an hour to see me often..., he cooked me dinner, always stared at me, always touched me, took me on thoughtful little dates, constantly told me I was beautiful etc". Now its reduced to games, and it really seems to be primarily over your immaturity when drunk. That's fine. You guys are probably young. If you don't take it seriously in your actions, don't take it seriously in your expectations either. Have fun, be young, find a bull when you want something serious, mature, stable. Without maturity on the part of both partners, this pairing doesn't stand a chance. Any Astrologer will tell you that.

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I fully agree with this. Both are equally to blame with the various situations mentioned, but I actually feel sorry for the Taurus guy. Actions speak louder.. your actions showed him now much you DONT care.. you may say it or think that you care but your actions say something completely different. He used the mind game with the old ex pic clearly to get a reaction out of you and it worked. But can you blame the guy for trying? His coldness was from the lack of response you were giving.

hahaha

Thank you all so much for your response's and yes I can honestly take owner ship that I have played a part in this relationship going down hill. I do not mean to push people away, it is almost like self preservation kicks in and I want to protect myself from getting hurt. The funny thing is that I am older then he is, and though it may seem I am being immature with some of my actions, I myself have found it hard to deal with some of his immature actions. I am 24 years old and he is 21. This was a huge issue for me as I have always only been interested in older men (my previous relationship I was in for 7 years and he was 4 years older). You are right, my drunken antics of walking off is definitely an issue and I can completely understand what could have possibly been going through his mind. Though I know he knows what kind of girl I am and that I would not have gone off with another man, I am sure the thought still may have crossed his mind (If the situation was reversed, I would have definitely thought that to be the case). I have started looking at avenues and ways to help my self control when drinking, as I don't seem to know where my limit is when social drinking. My problem is that I have admitted to him that I can see where he is coming from and have put myself in his situation, yet he doesn't seem to understand where I am coming from. That I have pulled away because I have felt his attitude has changed in the relationship. If his attitude hadn't changed then I wouldn't be pulling away. We have been speaking over the last few days, he rang me yesterday and we spoke for a little. He told me he still wanted this etc and I did ask him to be straight with me and if someone else was in the picture then just to say (I couldn't grasp the idea of how a man could willingly go 2 weeks without sex when they had someone right there (me)). I have trouble expressing my emotions verbally. I write as a hobby, it is how I express myself, so in situations where I do have to express my emotions I can come off as guarded or to people who don't know how to read me well, I appear nonchalant and as if I don't overly care, when inside I care immensely. So when asking him if there was someone else, I know I didn't seem emotional by the prospect of that possibly being the case and he probably took this as me not caring, when inside I was dreading how I would cover the shaky voice if he was to answer that there was someone else. When he said there wasn't bu

Cont* but he was sick of the bullshit, I felt relieved that we were on the same page. I am sick of it too. I don't think either of us started this with the intentions of playing games. We both have our funny way of trying to feel out how much the other likes them, but because we were both so hard to read, it ended up turning into confusion and each of us thinking the other was playing games. Now I am afraid that the enjoyment is gone and despite both of us wanting this and wanting each other, that we don't know how to be normal with each other and that it won't go back to how it was and it was amazing. I have never met someone I had so much in common with, it was actually freaky. He and his brother were both born on special event days and so are me and my brother. He has a dimple on the left side of his face from an accident and so do I (and the stories are very similar as to how we got them), we loved all the same movies, had the same sense of humour, loved the same types of food. Both seeked adventure, both loved to surround ourselves with good company but both also valued our alone time??_I mean the list goes on. I have really taken a step back and am giving myself space to clear my head. He messaged me yesterday afternoon but I have not replied. I need to figure out what I want and if I think this has potential to work before trying to pursue it any further. I am afraid however that maybe he thinks I am giving him the silent treatment and this could anger him. I honestly just don't know what to do any more.

TaurusLoveScorpio you mentioned that it was good intuition and that was his intentions of saying and doing certain things to see my reaction, but see this to me is him playing games. I just want him to be open and straight forward with me. If he wants to know how I feel for him, then ask me. I may not openly display or tell you how I feel, but if asked I am 100% open and honest, perhaps even a little too honest. I don't want the games and I don't know how both of us ended up being a part of them. I just want to know can it be stopped? Can things go back to normal? and how?

Angeleyes17 - I can understand what you are saying. My response was probably not what he expected and probably did not show that I cared. But I am guarded, Its how I am, I can't change it, I have been this way my whole life. I find any sign of emotion or caring to be a weakness and god forbid anyone see that I am weak. Though on the inside I am hurting immensely. And as for the photo, I tend to rationalise everything and overthink things before reacting. I could have called him, acting like a jealous banshee but then he probably would have thought "this girls crazy". So I Tried to show I cared by simply msging him about it (If I didn't care I would have seen it and not been bothered by it, therefore not said anything), yet doing it in a way where I felt he wouldn't need to lie and that came across friendly so that if we were to end, that it would end on good terms. I have a motto I try to live by - "One day, you'll just be a memory to some people. Do your best to be a good one!". I never like for things to end badly, so by me saying what I did in response to seeing that picture, it wasn't me not caring, It was me caring so much that I wanted my memories of him to be fond and his memories of me to be fond.

Scorpvixen,

If you can't change the way you are... then don't. but you will suffer on it. To show emotions is not

the sign of weakness... its courage. Being Vulnerable is a sign of affection and that means you

are human. Since you are unevolved Scorpio... just grow up and learn the hard way.

Posted by scorpvixen
I just want him to be open and straight forward with me. If he wants to know how I feel for him, then ask me. I may not openly display or tell you how I feel, but if asked I am 100% open and honest, perhaps even a little too honest. I don't want the games and I don't know how both of us ended up being a part of them. I just want to know can it be stopped? Can things go back to normal? and how?

Scorpios want 100% honesty and vulnerability from their partner, but seldom are prepared to give it. I think Scorps have the hardest time being vulnerable about their feelings to their partner (espec. early on in a relationship, and when young), moreso than any other sign. You yourself write: "I appear nonchalant and as if I don't overly care, when inside I care immensely." Its subconscious for you folks, so many years of wearing a mask to hide that inner intensity and sensitivity. You can't help but have your guard up, hide the depth of your feelings, etc. Focus on modeling the behavior you want to see in him.

TLS,

Because Scorpio are loving people but hate to be played and used... it's triple pain than any other

sign could feel. and it's hard to move on.

@scorpvixen: you have wall built up high 😐 try being honest with him, just straight up tell him how you feel. Taurean males are suckers for glimpses of vulnerability in their women, makes them feel like they are doing a good job in protecting you....atleast the taurean males tht i know of are. Just try being honest with him.

M143 - I always thought I was an evolved Scorpio, I guess because I compare myself to my mum who is also a scorpio and though we have some common personality traits there are others which she has that I don't, such as jealousy (yes I can get jealous but I value myself enough not to allow it to effect me or to be nasty), she is possessive, a massive control freak, she holds grudges and can be very resentful. She has said on many occasions that she admires how I can just walk away from anyone or anything that has a negative impact on my life. Where as if someone does something wrong to her she allows it to fester until she lets that famous stinger out. But maybe I am an unevolved Scorpio, I guess I do have a lot of growing to do.

TaurusLovesScorpio - I can give 100% honesty, however I do struggle with the vulnerability. The thing is, I have been trying to show vulnerability over the last few days. I want him to see that I want this. I feel, however, like he is still playing games. He is still testing me, seeing how far he can push me, how much he can make me grovel and beg. I will never beg, I will never put myself in a situation where a man, or any person for that matter, thinks they have power and control over me. So now I am growing frustrated that I am trying and he just keeps testing me. Maybe he is not, but I am usually pretty on point with my intuition. I replied to his text from last night, so I could give him peace of mind that I wasn't giving him the silent treatment and said "I'm just letting you know that I am not giving you the silent treatment. I'm just taking the time to really think about this all. I miss everything about how we were, honestly I felt like we were perfect and I don't know how we got to where we are, but I'm scared we aren't going to get back to that place. So I'm just taking a breather 🙂". To me that was extremely vulnerable. I expressed how I felt about us (prior to this drama), I expressed I had fear etc and his response was "That's alright, like I said I'm willing to give it another shot, but I'm not going to take any crap if you send me more of those messages out of nowhere. Just talk to me! Anyway take as much time as you need xx". The messages he is referring to are the ones where I push him away, telling him that "I'm not feeling this" or whatever it is that I say when I feel myself growing fond of him and I get scared. If he and I are both able to see our wrongs and try to improve, do we have a chance or are we too young? I know my situation with going over seas in less than 2 weeks is playing a massive part in this. I can't help but wonder if I should just let it go and if we cross paths when I return, then we will see what happens then. From his response does it seem like he cares and that he wants this? I've never met a guy that is this way towards me, usually they chase me and I have no particular interest. He's so hard to read

You're only going away for five weeks. That's not long at all. You say it as if it's forever. Use that time to focus on what you're going away to do (work?) and then come back refreshed and try talking to each other like adults.

All the posts here have offered you excellent feedback. In my opinion, you think you're handling this ok and doing things like an adult but you say the words but your actions do not match and from what I've read here the 'unevolved' Scorpio is an easy label but I think it's age, you're 24.

As a Scorpio you're highly emotional and as I think back ten years to when I was 24 I was probably similar to you. I did things to provoke a reaction from my then boyfriend (a sweet Pisces) so I would feel more secure but it didn't really work. In hindsight, it just annoyed him and I was a pain in the a*se!

It sounds like this 21 year old Taurean has a better grasp on this situation probably because he's not an emotional mess like you. Although the mind games from both of you are getting in the way.

Well done for sending that text to him to let him know you were taking time out and not ignoring him. That shows promise for you. I know that would have been very hard to do as ignoring is so tempting for two reasons, it gives you space but it continues the drama.

The other post is correct in saying you need to grow up or at least take a deep breath, take time to think about what you want to say, write it down so it's clearer, take the next few weeks to relax, if he likes you he isn't going anywhere, then meet up when you're back and you will be in a better position to try and gain the outcome you both want.

scorpvixen...

Your mom and I still the same.. I had those atomic bomb jealousy before... I promise you it's not going anywhere but suffered the end of relationship... I have many failures relationship. too many.
I even gave up the man I loved rather than to be hopeful in the future. Buried people as if they
don't exist...this is just to escape the pain but cried behind closed door. I have this motto that Pain is temporary and I will be fine soon...lol. Until astrology taught me how to minimize the negative traits.

Since you are struggling about vulnerability.. this makes you unevolved scorpio.

To gain taurus men attention... do not give them your 101% attention. He likes you. He will pursue.
He will call. buy for you some thing. just don't add drama. I many taureans in my life.. these people
are too slow... just be patient. Be also sensitive to his emotion. Don't be demanding.. just stay
like a good scorp... waiting even it's nothing. lol. I have this behavior until my man declared his
love... and it takes months.. too long to wait. Learn to be patient.

Taurus men do not like women who play games, you can be the most gorgeous girl in the world. But if you play too many games and they feel disrespected they will start to disappear. Taurus men always keep their options open and what you don't do for them they could easily find somewhere else. Now sometimes if you're dealing with an immature Taurus male they will just try to cause the same amount of hurt you put them through right back to you. It all just depends on how much you truly mean to them. The best thing to do is just leave him alone and give him time to think and then once he gets over his anger/emotions he will text you or call you if he finds the relationship worth his time.

AgentP911 - Yes I am only going away for 5 weeks, but it is a holiday with my best friend and as Mr Taurus puts it to "party up". I think maybe there is insecurities on that level of not liking that I will be on the other side of the world and he will have no knowledge of what I am doing (though I have no intentions of doing anything).

M143 - Thank you. I have come to the realisation that I am making him a priority and to him I am not one, so I am best to get on with my life and what will be will be

xxbrittxxtay - See this is the thing that gets me, he feels disrespected that I pushed him away on a few occasions because I naturally have walls built up. Yet I'm supposed to not feel disrespected that he keeps his "options" open, if this is in fact what and all Taurus men do. I'm the type of person that when I like someone or am seeing someone, then that someone is the only one. It doesn't matter if we have the "titles" or not. So I'm taking it that he is the immature Taurus because yes, I feel he is now trying to put me through grief. Why not just be straight if he is no longer feeling it and walk away? Because by the time he realises this is what he wants, it will be too late. And honestly what kind of person intentionally tries to hurt another human being? If I hurt him, it was not intentional, so there is no need for this "getting even" kind of attitude. I have made the effort on numerous occasions now and have opened myself up to him (which was immensely difficult for me). I sent him a text stating that I felt we were both playing games, without realising and that we need to stop. I told him how I feel about him and why I push him away (so that maybe he can get a better understanding that it is not me saying I do not like him, but more that I like him that it scares me). He replied saying that he would call me "soon" but 3 hours later still not call. I text him saying I was going to bed as it was getting late and he responded by saying "I'm out at the moment babe, just dropping my mate home and I'll call, just wait 🙂". To me this felt like a game, why not say laid it on the table and he made me feel like it was not important. I feel like the problem we are having is due to our different style s of communication. Maybe Scorpios and Taurus's are too alike, both stubborn and hard to read, that this will never work. What this has showed me is that if we work things out and in the future find ourselves faced with problems, then he if going to pull this stunt. In all honesty this should have been sorted out long ago, I feel it has been dragged out and I am now growing tired of it and there is nothing left that is worth fighting for. I realised that I have to do what I do with everything else in life that has a negative impact on me, and that is to walk away from it. I have read up on Taurus's and from what I have gathered from the information, was that I need to give him space and that if he didn't still care then he wouldn't be calling or texting me. But

Cont* But it's been two weeks since we were intimate and its just been back and fourth texts and calls but the issue hasn't been resolved. So maybe he isn't clearing his head and is instead a douche trying to string me along.

One more thing I should probably add is when speaking on the phone last night he did say to me that his concern and why he is distancing himself is because he is worried that He will allow himself to get close to me and start to really, really like me and then I pull away from him again. I don't know if he is just saying this to try to continue to string me along or if he actually means it. I'm not going to text him anymore and maybe I am best not even replying to his texts or talking to him until I return from Europe. I leave in 10 days so there really isn't much point trying to sort this out now.

It sounds like you've both started to be open with each other a little bit. He said he's worried about getting closer to you in case you pull away again. That sounds pretty straight forward to me. You then throw a spanner in the works by worrying if he means this or is just saying it. That's your defensive wall going up again and to be fair, it doesn't really help the situation. If you want any chance of this situation or relationship having a positive outcome you need to just trust what he says and go with it.

So what if later down the line it was all a load of sh*t?

What's the worst that could happen?

You might get a bit hurt, feel a bit silly, cry a bit, or a lot, get over it, then you'll move on.

BUT... What if he IS being genuine?

Think about what you might gain out of it all. Personally, I'd take the chance because you just never know. Stop the drama and the sabotaging and just relax.

Go on holiday, don't contact him, have a nice time and what will be will be.

Trust me, I've given myself my advice this year and it's going ok so far.

I'm a Scorpio woman and I'm also interested in a Taurus man, we are both 34 years old. I have read pretty much every post on this forum and on the Internet to try and learn more about the Taurus man. I have not detailed my own situation on this forum as many of the posts on here have been extremely enlightening and very helpful. I'd recommend taking the advice from the Taurean's themselves plus others with relevant experiences AND actually following it. It's easy to read something and think you have 'listened' to it but you have to follow it too, that's the hard bit!

AgentP911 - Thank you for your insight. I always trusted everything he said up until recently. When a man allows a woman's questions to fester unanswered, she begins to come up with the answers herself. I just feel if this was important to him then he would have called when he said he was going to, especially since I just laid it on the line. Maybe I expect too much! Since you yourself are a scorpio and your man is a Taurus, how do you find the compatibility? Can it work and how?

In the beginning we spoke of making this official but both agreed to wait till I returned from Europe. I suggested it and he agreed, saying that if I weren't going he would have already made this official. I feel like he can't let go of what has happened, he brought it up again last night and I told him that if he keeps living in this negative realm and can't see the light at the end of the tunnel than this will never work. Are Taurus men able to let things go?

Whoa, hold on a minute, this man has not allowed your questions to fester unanswered thus leading to you making up answers as you see fit. You have decided to let them fester and you have decided to make up answers. Not him.

Just because you want something and it suits you doesn't mean it is fair or right.

Yes, you do expect too much. You decided to lay it on the line, you decided it was important, you expected him to call you and when he didn't respond in the way you wanted him to or in the time frame you wanted you work yourself up and will no doubt hold it against him. He won't even know this has happened!

Sure, it might have been nice for him to call when he said he would but from re-reading your posts it seems to me he has generally called when he said he would. If he gets 8/10 right then why focus on the 2/10 he didn't? Cut the guy some slack. I don't think Scorpio's realise how intense their nature can be. It can be suffocating and impossible, and other people can really struggle with it. Lighten up!

It's been three months. Three months— All this has gone on in three months. That is just crazy.

Perhaps have another talk before you go. It doesn't have to be a torrent of emotions or serious. You can just build on your last talk. He probably can't let go so do not expect him to and do not keep bringing it up. Just focus on going forward. If you like him and want to be with him then tell him, keep it simple and reassure him. Tell him you understand he might be apprehensive about you going away but you're not interested in anyone else plus I assume this holiday was booked prior to you meeting him. Maybe you can show him you're doing sight seeing rather than getting drunk every night and wandering off like a dumb a*se! It might be nice to arrange to keep in contact with him while you're away, like a set time for a Skype call or something. I'd keep off the text messages as you don't want to have a b*tch fest via text but an email here and there just to let him know what you're up to (positive stuff only and nothing that would cause him to worry or make him jealous) and to let him know you're thinking of him would be nice.

Try thinking from his point of view for once. Yes, it might seem unfair but we are women, emotions and empathy come more naturally to us plus being Scorpio, once you clear away all the crap you're focusing on you might have a chance of actually seeing your situation for what it is... Which in my opinion is a three mo

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Which in my opinion is a three month emotional roller coaster where both of you have provoked and played games with each other and look where and what it has brought you... A big mess!!

AgentP911 - again, thank you. I haven't held anything against him, I'm not one for anger. I get mad for about an hour and then move on. Grudges and resentment are not my thing. So no, I'm not mad at him about the phone call situation. Yes it frustrated me at first and confused me, but it's not the end of the world, sheesh! As for my scorpio nature, yes I might seem impossible but I'm far from suffocating. I rarely text and dislike talking on the phone, I prefer talking face to face. I guess that's all I really wanted, to sort this shit out face to face rather then through stupid phone calls etc. Anyway I'm kind of at a place right now where this doesn't even bother me anymore. I'm not sure what this means, but I just realised I have other things going on in my life that I need to focus my attention on. In no way do I mean I don't care for him, I wish him all the happiness in the world. It's just as if in the last 24 hours I've woken up to myself and realised this isn't my normal behaviour. I feel content, as if I have not a care in the world 🙂

Titiani - thanks for your point of view, perhaps that is how he sees me too. I, however, am not a player, strictly a one man kind of girl!

Tiziani*

Scorpvixen,

It sounds to me like you have it all figured out. Scorpios always think they are right and guess what so do Taurus' so it is like beating a dead horse, or in this case a vicious cycle that never ends. Taurus men are most of the time extremely selfish and will put their feelings first before they even consider yours. My best advice is to pretend he does not even exist and out of the clear blue sky you'll get that text or phone call saying he misses you or wants to see you. I am telling you it happens every time. It may not be this week or next month but it will happen. If a Taurus had a good experience with you he will always keep that in the back of his mind, and when he gets lonely or feels like he needs someone BAM that's where you come in. But you just need to let this one go, he is too immature to see the issues here that need to be resolved go for a more mature man. Men in general take a while to mature and figure out what they really want lol. But my previous experience with Taurus men and I am also a Taurus myself they are very unfaithful and like to keep their options open until they meet that PERFECT woman. Which in their case they let slip through their fingers most of the time because they can't keep their d*** in their pants. Good luck to you, I hope you either find someone who suits you better or he gets his head out of his ass.

Posted by scorpvixen
I will never beg, I will never put myself in a situation where a man, or any person for that matter, thinks they have power and control over me...The messages he is referring to are the ones where I push him away, telling him that "I'm not feeling this" or whatever it is that I say when I feel myself growing fond of him and I get scared....I've never met a guy that is this way towards me, usually they chase me and I have no particular interest. He's so hard to read

In this response, I can see a lot. For one, like a typical Scorp, you are extremely proud, and with that, a bit entitled. You are also used to having all the power (being disinterested, the men chasing you). Even your pushing him away because you like him, though it evidences your immaturity for sure, is IMO based in fearing a loss of control/power. I think the plight of a Scorpio, who Astrologers sa, always seek out power, is to actually learn what real power is all about. All of the things you've done to maintain control and have power, have actually hurt you, and weakened you.

Taurus is different. While acting that way with some men might get them to chase more, put the power back in your hands, etc., we will just become disinterested ourselves. Sorry if it sounds arrogant, but very much along the lines of the thread TaurusBull1977 posted, just like you are used to men chasing you, we don't need to chase women. We're Venus-ruled, and like a woman, we have that power of attraction. Plus, I agree with the comment I posted in that thread from that link, we're really not that into people who seem to not be into us.

But yeah, you're in the early phases of the whole Taurus/Scorpio power struggle. Its said to be a learning experience, a big opportunity for growth, even karmic, when these two link up. He's turned the tables on you, and now you're in a tough position. You obviously really like the guy to be here posting about him, in a state of confusion, but your pride isn't going to let you show it fully. The more you show it though, in vulnerability, the more you actually get what you want - which is his heart back. When a bull feels disrespected? We can drop the most gorgeous, charming, funny, intelligent woman in a heartbeat. If you want it to work, you're going to have to be a lot more patient and show him you're trustworthy again by your actions - some of which, were groun

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....some of which were grounds for him breaking it off completely IMO.

Posted by scorpvixen
It's just as if in the last 24 hours I've woken up to myself and realised this isn't my normal behaviour. I feel content, as if I have not a care in the world 🙂

LOL....Ah, if only it were so simple. Good luck with that. More than likely, though it has its highs and lows, and waves of intensity, this issue with the bull is going to go on for quite some time.

What is your Moon and your Venus btw? And do you know his?

Xxbrittxxtay — Thank you so much. I think I am best just moving on, what will be will be.

TaurusLovesScorpio - It may go on for some time, who knows?! But I am not letting it consume my life. It is obviously something we both want as one or both parties would have lost interest and cut all ties by now. But it's not good for either of us to stay in this never ending cycle and limbo land. As I said, I am content and have faith that everything happens for a reason. Perhaps we are both a good lesson for one another and that's the only purpose we served in each others lives, to help one another grow.

By the way, my Moon is in Scorpio and my Venus is in Sagittarius. His Moon is in Gemini and his Venus is in Aries.

Scorpio Moon...that's a very difficult placement for the Moon. As I was saying, key for you, more than even Scorp Sun, is going to be vulnerability, openness, honesty about feelings - not the mask you wear that seems like it protects you, but only hurts you:

"Scorpio is not an easy place for the Moon to be. She is considered in her —fall?? here, because the depth of your emotions, their strength and potential power can be so intense as to be at times overwhelming. Especially when young, you may find yourself swinging between crises of emotional peaks and troughs, feeling intensely and acutely every dimension of life. Greater self awareness develops over time as you make your way through the many layers of emotional introspection available to you. You may keep your true feelings very much to yourself, for Scorpio is also a sign of great privacy...

"There may be a tendency to try and protect this vulnerability, and hide the true depths of your feelings. Then, you may attempt to control and dominate others with moodiness, lashing out at them before they can —get to you??, so discovering how sensitive and vulnerable you really are. In this way, you end up missing the benefit of true intimacy by not letting others see how deeply your emotions run....

"This placement calls for great emotional honesty; an all-or-nothing preparedness to live from a position of power and truth...If you fail to live from a place of honesty, you could display the more negative and poisonous potential of the Moon here. Overwhelmed by your own vulnerability, you could seek to destroy others. You may (unconsciously or not) try to take others down, rather than face the truth about your own darkness. If this happens, you need to transform first the pain in your own life before involving yourself with others and what they do with theirs."

http://www.starslikeyou.com.au/moon-in-scorpio/

Posted by scorpvixen
I think I am best just moving on, what will be will be.

Eh, Sag Venus can be a bit of a runner, but I think the magnetism of this connection is gonna suck you right back in. I apologize if some of the comments seem harsh about the immaturity of some of the behavior, but you are young, you acknowledge it yourself, and its nothing personal - just hard truth that really does help snap us out of cycles of poor choices sometimes. Don't be too proud to keep coming back here if it does continue. Its a good place to anonymously practice that emotional vulnerability/transparency you'll need to develop. And as far as Taurus men being unfaithful, nonsense. Its considered the most loyal sign by many astrologers for good reason. And I've never cheated on a woman in 36 yrs and know a lot of Taurus men who can say the same.

TaurusLovesScorpio - thank you. I'm not the type to want some kind of revenge or whatever, so there will be no lashing out on my part. I guess all I wanted to know originally was if he cared or still wanted this. But that's not really my problem anymore. Yes he hasn't ended it and he said he needed time to think and I've given him that space, but this last week I have been faced with some of the worst things in my life and he hasn't been there for me. Granted, he doesn't really no what's going on but I don't feel I could tell him either, that line of communication is no longer there. As I said, I wish him all the happiness in the world, I guess it's just not going to be with me. Thank you all, I appreciate your advice and words of wisdom, all the best to you all!

So here I am, posting about my taurus for hopefully the final time! Long story short we agreed to see each other yesterday (Saturday/Saturday night). He went out Friday, which I didn't mind, but continued to send snaps right up until 7am so I figured he would be hung over and tired and how could we spend quality time together when he was like that. I was nice about it and told him not to worry about coming down and I'd see him when I returned from overseas (I leave in 5 days). He was fine with it or I think so, kind of short with me but didn't seem to really care. But then things escalated and I called him as he asked me in the past to talk to him rather then walk away. He answered and told me he couldn't talk so that was that. Got off the phone and sent him a message saying that I want him and this but if it's not what he wants then he needs to let me go....and nothing. I'm honestly trying here! Trying to be vulnerable and I guess I'm just hurt that I once again made him a priority (it's my last weekend here and instead of making plans with family of friends, I just wanted to spend it with him). Can any of you taurus people tell me if his behaviour is him just not interested anymore?? I've never had someone not be interested in me so I don't know how they would behave but I get a feeling this is it. When I'm not interest though I tell the person so I guess I can't understand why he doesn't just tell me.

ScorpVixen,

I'm a Scorpio and I can see very clearly what you have done.

You may or may not be aware of it but you have, indeed, created yourself a little drama.

So let me see if I get this right but bear with me as it's midnight in the UK and I'm tired.

You guys arranged to meet up 'at some point' on Saturday. I assume this from your Saturday/Saturday night description.

He was out on the Friday night which you knew about and clearly he did not get to sleep until 7am ish which you also knew about.

You then took it upon yourself to assume he would be tired. You assumed he would not be fit and well to meet you. You assumed you would not have quality time together because of this.

So after you had assumed all of the above you then took it upon yourself to completely cancel the arrangements you had both made for meeting up 'at some point' on the Saturday.

In addition, you said you were 'nice' to him about cancelling it and were almost doing him a favour by telling him not to bother and you'd just hook up when you're back. To me it means you were actually very p*ssed off that he went out until 7am and wasn't tucked up in bed by 11am in preparation for your Saturday arrangements. Don't even try to deny that one, you know exactly what I'm talking about. That's got Scorpio written all over it!

What choice did your man have?

What choice did he have but to say ok to you. Ok if that's what you want then no problem. I can't comment from a Taurus perspective but what I have read from the Taurean folk on here he would have just taken your words at face value and agreed. Most blokes would probably have done the same regardless of astrology.

You think he didn't seem to care but that is your interpretation. He probably did care. Very much so. Quite frankly, he probably couldn't be ars*d to deal with your emotional drama, manipulation, and passive aggressive bullsh*t.

Then the rest just turned into phone call drama etc about nothing that I can't even be bothered to scroll back up to read and detail.

The result being you're p*ssed off. He's p*ssed off. You've wasted the entire Saturday by creating unnecessary drama and for what?

Answer me this...

Why couldn't you just leave it alone?

Why couldn't you just do something else Saturday day time and then once he's had some sleep and a shower and food etc you could have arranged to meet up later on Saturday night or worst case scenario you leave meeting Saturday (if he's still