Help me with my Taurus man PLEASE (Page 2)

sleeping, tired, not answering etc) and see him another day before you go?

Sure, in ScorpVixen world he would have been in bed by 11pm Friday night and be sat on your doorstep at 9am with flowers and chocolates in hand ready to go. You'd have had a whole day of whatever planned and it would have been perfect... But it didn't work like that and it doesn't work like that... And because he didn't act as you would have acted or done what you would have done you have persecuted him for no reason other than because you wanted to.

Congratulations, another drama...

I may not be 100% accurate here on all the details but I can tell you now that my read on what you have written is EXACTLY spot on.

You don't need a Taurus to advise you. You need to look at yourself because that is where the issue is. How do I know this and why am I confident with what I have written? Because I used to do things like that... When I was your age!

Go on... Tell me I'm wrong... I date you...!!

Apologies for the 11am/pm error and the date/dare error. It's nearly 1am here and I'm on a damn iPhone. Damn you auto correct for changing my words!!

I was going lightly too... If I were commenting 12 hours ago I'd have been on form!!

No I didn't expect him home by 11, I would have been fine with him being out late. And I wouldn't have expected flowers (to me they are a waste of money, a superficial item). I did have things to do Saturday so I didn't expect to catch up till later. But yes AgentP911 you are right, I should have left it and waited till he was recovered and came down to see me. I don't know why I sent the message, it was impulsive I guess. I dug my own grave and now have to lay in it. Thanks

By the way, the being in bed by 11pm, bringing you flowers and chocolates comment was sarcasm...

So with the above aside, what you're saying is I'm right. God damn it, it feels good to be right! Allow me to indulge myself for a few seconds... Ahhhh pat on the back for me...

ScorpVixen, you have seen my point. Once you have the answer to 'why did I send him the message to cancel our plans?' You will then be able to deal with it.

Before you start to wallow in your own self pity, which is what you will be doing right now, allow me to shed some further light and insight into why you did what you did, and this is in no particular order and the list is not exhaustive.

You did it because it's a habit. You probably create this whirlwind of emotional drama a lot. Sometimes with other people but probably only someone you are emotionally attached to but don't feel secure with. It's in your nature to do this because you haven't yet learnt to recognise it.

You got angry and therefore you assumed many things. My ex virgo used to tell me my problem was assuming all the time. He was right. I did. It brought nothing but problems.

You wanted him to react to you cancelling, probably with some dramatic declaration resembling a Shakespeare Romeo and Juliet sketch. You wanted this to fuel your need for security as you think it would make you feel better. It didn't work.

You wanted to provoke him for a reaction but he didn't do or act the way you wanted him to which fuelled the insecurity and just made it worse for you. Yes, a case of made your bed now lay in it does spring to mind.

Has anyone ever said you're your own worst enemy?

Well now they have.

When you stop trying to control and manipulate the situation and your man you might see things differently.

I once read in an astrology book somewhere that a Scorpio kid would manipulate their mother for a drink of milk because they simply didn't know how to ask. Or my version is they didn't think to just ask.

The point is it is so inbuilt to be the way you are that nothing will change until you change how you react and deal with things.

Again, I'm not a Taurus so it's hard to comment on that perspective but he operates entirely different to you so he just doesn't 'get' all the emotional drama over something do simple as meeting up for a beer or a bite to eat.

I wonder when you've had a melt down if he's just stood in front of you with a blank look on his face!

He may understand or

He may understand or see more than you think regarding your actions but it's highly likely, and at 21 years old, he just doesn't get what all your fuss is about.

Much of the advice provided to you from the Taurus folk on here has been very insightful. If only you'd have had the intelligence and foresight to follow it.

I have read pretty much all the posts on this forum relating to Taurus men so I can gain a better understanding. It is hard to understand the differences but if you genuinely want to understand and learn then you would have taken your blinkers off and practiced the art of patience, trust me, it's hard BUT it has assisted me in gaining the results I want. Putting emotions to one side or at least taking the time after being angry or emotional, which is a Scorpio's initial reaction, to look at the situation again with rational and logical eyes and then you'd see it a little more for what it is rather than sitting in your emotional well of sh*t getting nowhere!

I don't think the Taurus board is where you need to be. You're clogging it up with drama and what do bull's hate? Yup, you got it, drama! See, I paid attention in class... **smug smile**

Just relax and chill out. Nothing is the end of the world. Maybe call him tomorrow. Apologise for being an overly emotional twat, blame it on PMT or stress of packing or whatever, don't make a big deal with it, then tell him you'd like to buy him lunch or swing by his place with his favourite food and beverage, dress nice and feminine/sexy etc, come on girl, you're a fooking Scorpio, you know how to work it!! Leave the emotional baggage behind for the day, seduce his a*se, forget the Taurus thing, he's a 21 year old lad for Christ sake, how hard can it be to make him happy!! Beer, burger, blow job, what more does he need to put a smile on his face!! Pull out all the stops, make him feel good and important, like he's the only man etc, leave him with a nice memory of you, and you know what? You'll feel a million times better for it!! You'll walk away and go on holiday on a happy note thinking 'I've still got it!' 😉

Get your sorry a*se out the pits and get on it. Jesus, you're giving us Scorpio chicks a bad name!!

Ps: if any Taurus have better or more suitable suggestions on how she can make it up to him then feel free to add the 'Taurus Touch' to it.

And what's with the not liking flowers crap?

Every girl likes receiving flowers!

Any girl who says they don't like receiving flowers because they're a waste of money and superficial probably hasn't received any flowers in her life time or is unable to appreciate such a kind gesture.

If he pitched up with a more practical toaster you'd soon be bitching about that!!

Learn to like flowers, it ain't that hard! I'm not even a girlie girl but if some dude wants to send me flowers then I'm having them!! Damn right, smile on my face from ear to ear!!

Stop being so 'hard' and defensive all the time, it's ok to be soft you know!! Being soft lures them in... They don't see your stinger lurking in the background... Just in case!! 😉

AgentP911 - you are very wise (and kind of insulting haha but I know it comes from a good place). I'm not wallowing in self pity, best to keep going with life. I messaged him apologising and thanked him for being a part of my life. I don't expect anything in return, I know I'm to blame here and you are 100% right about the assumptions. They ruin good things, I'll have to learn how to control that part of my mind. As for the flowers, don't get me wrong it is a very sweet gesture but I don't require them. I think it's kind of been instilled in my mind that because every time my father did something bad by my mother, he would buy her flowers out of guilt, so I have a negative outlook on it. Anyway all the best to you and your taurus man. Sounds like you two have both found happiness and I look forward to learning the patience that you've acquired 🙂

Why aren't you seeing him before going away—

Why are you doing the dramatic 'thanks for being part of my life' and the 'this is the final message I'm sending before I leave...' Cue dramatic ending music as ScorpVixen dramatically leaves the stage...?

Sorry, but it's how I interpret the way you have written things.

Yeah, my words, humour and sarcasm can be pretty direct and a bit much for people but it cuts to the chase. If you're American (my Taurus is American) then it can be hard to take, you guys are used to everything surrounded by 'nicey nicey' fluff 😉

I'm only commenting on here about you because I can see what's happening very clearly. Perhaps more accurately than a Taurus might as I'm Scorpio. Aren't you lucky!!

Change the way you look at flowers. So what if your dad bought them for your mum every time he did something wrong. I'm not lacking empathy here but you don't HAVE to think that way. You choose to think that way. The flowers thing isn't really important, I just thought I'd pick on it as I could see there was obviously a reason for the defensive 'push away' comment about thinking they're superficial etc.

You are definitely interpreting that the wrong way. I genuinely meant "thank you for being a part of my life" as in regardless of what happens from here, I'm grateful I met you. There was no intentions of dramatising anything. Most girls I know turn into crazy, revengeful bitches or sooky cry babies. I do not have a single ex or guy that I have seen who hates me or would try to avoid me in public. I still hear from most of them from time to time to this day.

Now you are doing what you told me not to do and are making assumptions. I guess old habits die hard!

And get over the flowers, you are making a big deal over nothing. I have respected your constructive criticism and advise and taken it on bored, but now you are trying to start an argument over something as petty as my non care factor for flowers?! Really there is no need for it! You asked why I didn't care for them and I told you, plain and simple.

And no I am not American so trust me, I've pretty much been torn a new a**hole on this forum when coming to my behaviour and I haven't been offended, so I can handle how direct you are being and I admire it. The truth hurts but I wouldn't want anything less.

Posted by AgentP911
Apologies for the 11am/pm error and the date/dare error. It's nearly 1am here and I'm on a damn iPhone. Damn you auto correct for changing my words!!

I was going lightly too... If I were commenting 12 hours ago I'd have been on form!!

Thank you!

ScorpVixen,

Yawn.

Go see your man or something. It's words on a forum. I read you like a book that no longer interests me.

Loving the flowers Astrobyn!!