help plzz!!!! where do I stand with this bull?? :$

First let me start off by saying this would be my first time dating a taurus man. We met in january (of this year 2014) we met through a mutual friend, she was dating his dad @ the time. We all went out the same night to a party. I wasn't really paying him any attention @ first not only because I was single but it the first in the longest while I been out and to top it off there was another female there who I thought they were "together" so initially I just went about my business when we reached @ the party. During which I noticed from time to time he would be looking @ me from the corner of his eyes, which creeped me out and intrigued me @ the sametime. That's when I realized that I'm attracted to him. The night drifted down to an end an that's when he "innocently" flirted with me. I didn't think nothing of it cause I don't like to assume... So I tried to forget about him the next day, which was sooo hard. Anyway our mutual friend told me he wanted my # which I was shocked like literally caught me off gaurd. I gave it to her, couple days passed no call no msg ntn. I felt confused, but still didn't took his behaviour personally. I was over my friends house and it got late so she called her bf (which is the taurus's dad) he came to drop me home, and to my surprise he was there. Didn't felt excited, upset, nada. I went with them but they initially stopped @ a party so I got tagged along. The taurus guy started to pick light convo asking why I'm always so serious an whatnot, and after talkin the whole time @ the party I found out we had a lot things in common even tho he was preserve and laid back (which I liked). After the night eneded nicely. I felt good about us communicating on that level even after find out he actually lives in england and he was only here for vocation, kinda had me skeptic considering I live thousands a miles away.. So anyway he decided to text me the next day after saying he enjoyed talking with me and how it was like we knew each other for years which I felt the same way. We started to communicate regular from then. After roughly three weeks into intense chemistry filled convos (over the phone that's is) we decided to meet up. He came and picked me up, he was very affectionate but not tacky,he lightly touches foot while driving cause I decided I wanted sit behind him cause he had a friend there anyway. The chemistry between us is unbelievable, we can stare @ each other with saying a word but yet still can understand each other. We had

(Continued!!) We had sex that night (which was mind blowing!) Atfter we kept the communication going steady until one night he made plans for us to see each other, as the hours where passing. I got impatient and told him I'm cancelling and I'm going out with ma friends. He was sooo upset, he was like "I changed ma plans for u and u go and this" and he didn't tlk to me like 2 days he came bk around and we kicked it off again. Then we were suppose to link up and he called me and said he was coming after he leaves a party his dad was keeping. I was ready waiting on him, I called and no answer. I got took off my clothes and indeed I felt upset. He was always reliable when he said he was gonna do something so I was kinda surprised when I he didn't showed up. I sent hin an text he didn't reply the next day after. 2 days passed and he called me saying he's outside @ my gate I should come out, I went and he started to explained what had happened that he fell asleep cause he was a lil out of it and whatever. So he said he didn't answer ma text nor did he called cause he knew we would argue. So he rather to come see me face to face. He then said he was sorry and aske if we were "good" (I didn't neccessarily understood what he meant nor did I asked him) but I said u "u really asking me that" as if we weren't.. And he asked the same question like 3 more after again and I gave him back the same reply he looked @ me intensly and then said ok that he was gonna go and he was gonna call me after he reaches home... 3 weeks passed I haven't heard from him. So I decieded to add him on my bbm (which he gave me his pin when we first met) he took a while to accept didn't know who it was @ first, I told him and he acted all happy to hear from me and whatnot. Then he's letting me know he had left the island and he's now back home. I was upset that he didn't even told me he was leaving but I didn't said anything.I acted like ok whatever. Anyway we started communicate often. In one particular convo he was saying I was horny and stuff and I said it was the disadvantage of being "single" he was like "no, ur not single" he said it indirectly that we were "together" and I ask him y don't he say it directly but he was being stubborn! He then started to act a lil jealous and was always watching my status and my dp that I would use (he's also on my what's app) I then honestly came to terms that I am inlove with him. After weeks passed I told him through a msg, and he repliyed and was shock

(Continued)he then said "this is getting serious" he then said he wanted to hear me say it so I vn him and told him, he replied with a vn and was rather happy about it about and he said he loved me too.. He then told me all he wants is just for me to be a lil patient and understanding and we should be good. He then told me that he never been in a long distant r-ship before but it work and it can once he puts his mind to it. He also wants to move out here, but I'm not sure when, but he's making plans but I dint know if he's just saying stuff!! The bond strted to grew thicker, he then asked me if I wanted anything I told him no I was ok and I would trade it all just to have him @ that moment he loved that. Now I kinda think I messed things up cause I asked one of my friends to test him to see if he would easily flirt and all with her but he didn't feel for it he then said I had something to do with it (which I did, but didn't admit it that I did) and was upset with me. He was so upset (silently) that he was suppose send me some money to deal with something (he was the one who said he would) and he didn't! It was the same day everything happen. I sent him a msg after days passed with him talking to me and he said he was upset anymore but yet he was giving me the cold shoulder!! So I sent him a vn expressing how I felt and he said I was over thinking the whole thing and admitted to being pissed. I said ok and I didn't msg him for like 3 days neither did he, so one day I decided to to say hi and hope he was doing ok, which he responded quickly that he was but is just going through a lil stress @ the moment. I didn't reply immediately cause I didn't wanted to seem overly available, so he then sent a next msg and I reply and kept it short. I then asked what he was up to and no repky!! He's gone missing again! From wednesday! Now its monday and I woke up like 4 in the morning from a msg from him saying "miss u...sorry...but when I get in a zone its hard for me to come out of" what does that mean——? Some plz let me knw, I know I messed up by letting my friend flirting with him, but its just that I had trusting issues, I just don't wanna get hurt again! I love him so much but I never the one to be a nagger so I don't know what to do! I rplied and ask him what that zone was... No reply and then I just told him I hope he was ok differently and I do miss him too. I know I won't be saying anything after that!! Let me if u think he's really feeling me or just wasting

Welcome to the harem!

Welcome to the harem!

Huh

Ok being the "jovial" person I am, I refuse to take that offesnsive. Yes I can make them, but I didn't know this was english class.... I'm new here, so please forgive my ignorance.

Well nobody wants to read all that, and idk why I did. So this is what the zone means, I'm being nice enough to at least tell you something vague, because I really don't feel like explaining it to you right now. So just trust me and back off, till I'm ready to give you more detail.

And BTW some people should be thankful for the vagueness, because sometimes, we don't even like giving up that much.

Well I could careless about being "vague" I'm pretty blunt myself so that doesn't bother me. I figured after typing, nobody would be reading all a that considering its a whole lot... I probably wouldn't read it myself. Anyway life is about learning from experinces, Messed up here i have no prob formulating my story over as to where it would be bearable to read.

hmm, u never told him it was u?...

He could say that he wasn't upset anymore about that whole situation and all, but from what i understand some taurus men do that..they'll tell u 'oh im fine' or 'oh don't worry, it's cool' or the one i've heard before 'ur over reacting about it'--when in their minds, i don't think it's really ok. lol. He might be getting distant with u because of the fact that he's well aware that u had something to do with the 'tricking'. They don't really like those things at. all. I would just flat out be honest and tell him the truth, cuz it's weird with these guys...they know exactly when ur being sneaky, or when ur not completely honest. lol.

@Galactic fun89. Thanks for your input. I have thought about that but it has happened a lil over 2weeks ago!. I don't think I wanna resurface all a that. I know I did it with the "right" intentions but I know I was wrong just the same! Sigh. My question is though if If just wanna call it quits and I have basically been distant myself, then why did he reach out to me?. He msg me saying he misses me, and that when ever he gets in a "zone" its hard to get out of! What does that mean??