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First of all, Hello! I'm new and I've been reading this forum for a while... offline.

I'm a Leo woman (Sun), rising sign Capricorn, Moon in Libra, Mercury in Virgo, Venus in Cancer, Mars in Cancer, Jupiter in Taurus, Saturn in Pisces. I guess that's most of my charts.

My "young" Taurus man is:

Rising sign, Leo, Moon in Capricorn, Mercury in Taurus, Venus in Aries, Mars in Taurus, Jupiter in Leo, Saturn in Virgo.

Here's the deal... we are coworkers. We work in a very small office, very closely, most of the time, it's just the 2 of us. Our work entails a lot of planning, details and we work side by side about 95% of the time. I've only known this man for about 6 months and from the moment I saw him, it was instant attraction. I remember the first time he saw me, he was wearing his sunglasses and he took them off just to take a good look at me.

I'm older than him... by about 10 years.

He's young, attentive and have been sending me very mixed messages. He calls me darling, sweetheart, and touches me lightly on my arm, my hands when we're working. He assures me that he's in this tough project we're in for the long haul (which I believe him) and since he's new to the area, he wants me to show him around, "I want to see this town through your eyes".... that just throw me off a bit. He's afraid of heights and he tells me, "I will face my fear and go to the top of the Gateway Arch with you"....

Then shortly after those beautiful sentences, he tells me that he's glad that we work well together and that I'm such a great person to work with... or he throws sentences such as, "I'm sure raising a kid is tough, but I'll have my future wife there to help out, hahaha!" WTH?

We have heavily flirted with each other through the phone, text messages... we're bordering sexting, but nothing vulgar or any dirty words... lots of innuendos and it was light and fun.

We get along great. We have had a couple of minor bouts/disagreements but nothing like some have described as Leo/Taurus fights where we both storm out of the building and leave a path of destruction type of an argument.

We've shared a lot of personal things about each other... and since I'm a bit older, I've lived a bit longer and have done and share more "life experiences". He's gone through "numerous" of women in his past due to a tough break up with his ex-Gf of 7 years cheated on him.

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As a Leo woman, in the past, I've always been the pursuer... I love to chase, to tease. I am a proud, mature Leo woman who is kind, generous, ambitious, lively, etc. etc... I exude Leoness and this young Taurus just drives me up the wall with his presence and his mixed messages.

I don't want to be the aggressor and I get the feeling he wants to pursue, but our work, our project is what's stopping us. When we're out to lunch or dinner, I feel like we're the only 2 in the whole place... his attention is on me.

Recently, he went on a business trip and even before the plane taxied onto the gate, he was already texting me saying he's home and he wants to know when we can see each other... that just melted my heart. But his mixed messages... I'm afraid that if I make the first move, which I so want to... that he'd reject me. Firstly, because of the age difference. That would crush my ego... secondly we work VERY closely together in a VERY small office... and if he rejects me, I would have to quit.

His actions... let me tell you... he does whatever I ask. I am a senior level than him at work.

I've also noticed that Taurus men gives off mixed messages a lot. Any advice would be great. Thanks!

I think you are right about the mixed messages. I do it all the time, and to the more aggressive female signs, I think it is even moreso the case. We get a little nervous I think when things are moving to fast, and the mixed messages thing is like almost instinct on our part - a way to slow things down. Sometimes we play hard to get if we sense we are being pursued as well. Sounds like he is obviously attracted though. As a Taurus myself, I can say, besides Scorpio (which a magnetic/obsessive thing on a whole other level), Leo woman are the most attractive to me. In fact, I don't know if I've ever seen a Leo woman who wasn't beatiful in some way, particularly the eyes. I would think very carefully about whether or not you want a relationship with him though. That is a very tight and potentially uncomfortable office situation if it doesn't work out for real. I've known some Taurus/Leo relationships and marriages that have been VERY rocky. Like furniture smashing, TVs thrown out the window, kids hiding in closets, police knocking on the door kind of rocky. The sexual chemistry is apparently really good, but there's alot of tension elsewhere. From what I see, if the Taurus man isn't passive enough to let the Leo woman really wear the pants, there's going to be some issues.

@TLS - Thanks for your response... my high school sweetheart was a Taurus and we got along great. Our relationship went on for 5 years. I was an immature Leo girl who craved attention, started partying, going out, but never unfaithful. My high school sweetheart was the love of my life at the time and my heart and soul belonged only to him. I tolerated his homebodiness and became bored. I craved going out, taking short trips, yet he wanted to just stay home, have his 1 best friend around and just chill... when our sex life became less than at least twice a day (became 3-4 times a week), he took it as a rejection and started an affair with some ho at his work and the rest was history. I was betrayed, my heart crushed into pieces and it took me a while to recover from that. That was my last Taurus guy and that was a long, long time ago... now, this guy comes along and it re-awakened something inside of me. The attention, the subtle touches, our chemistry. Like yesterday, we were working together (on a Saturday) and when he walked me to my car and he leaned on it while we talked briefly, I wanted to plant a big kiss on him and just ravage him... it took a lot for me to hold back. 🙂

So, you think he is attracted to me, eh? Oh, I hate this. This is why I stopped dating and just took up a FWB. At least then, I was in control, I knew where I stand and my emotions aren't in the relationship and purely sexual with no emotions or attachments whatsover.

@Jynja I agree with you. My high school sweetheart who was a Taurus came to me like a loose tornado, a mile wide long and anything that came onto his path to get to me were destroyed... he charged and pursued me like no other. But he made his decision so quickly and again, that was when we were kids. I guess thinking and not allowing the logic of getting hurt came into mind. But this guy, OMG! Jynja, I so want to pursue him but I'm afraid with the way I'm feeling I'd put the poor kid in the hospital! 🙂 I guess I need to be patient or if he does go out with another girl, I just need to accept it. Almost every morning (like this morning) I get a text saying, "Good morning love, have a wonderful and blessed day" He is a big church goer and loves the Lord. Ooohh, this is so hard! Why does it have to be like this? Maybe I should just come out and tell him how I feel about him! There were times when I just want to throw away everything, tell him how I feel and just go for it! But then aga

OOppss, got cut off..

But then again, I'm afraid that he doesn't feel the same as I do and I get rejected, I don't know if I can handle another rejection like that.

JessiedLeo - are you prepared to deal with the "homebodiness" from this new Taurus? Leos tend to prefer the spotlight, no? I personally am a major homebody. I like to go out to a movie, a play, art gallery, a nice restaurant, social gathering if I *know* the people. Maybe shoot pool or something....Hate clubs, dancing, live music, and crowds in general. Tend to get ovewhelmed by the *vibes* and agitated. I'm sure not all Taurus people are like this but if you're a Leo who needs to be out and about more often than not, might be worth checking into.

My advice is also to hold back your feelings for a bit. Honestly, if I were a woman courting a male Taurus I'd give them a little bit of a taste of their own medicine (and not to be vindictive). When a woman lets the emotional cat out of the bag quickly with me (usually after 1 week of me playing hard to get), I'm a) a little scared and b) a little disappointed. There's something to really be said for a drawn out courtship. Its like foreplay. These can be some of the most magical times - the times you think back to....when you were brimming with excitement, curiosity, etc. Let that chemistry build; enjoy those sparks that result from your subtle interactions. When a girl folds too soon I don't think she was "easy" in the slutty way; I think her *heart* was too easy to win. Taurus instinctively feels valuable things take time and hard work to acquire. Make him work. If the most attractive woman in the world throws herself at me too quickly, I will feel like she probably has deep self esteem issues, doesn't love herself, etc. I will just be less attracted.

Use body language, touch, and sensuality to express feelings that are boiling over. Mask something like a shoulder/neck massage as a friendly thing; it'll drive him crazy and you can project your feelings into the touch. Then if he gets too into it, joke with him, like "ok don't get all hot and bothered now...." I would totally give mixed signals to a Taurus who was giving them to me.

A Scorpio girl is currently using very seductive body language with me, and def. throwing some mixed signals as well. It is driving me crazy and I've never felt stronger for a woman.

Taurus also like compliments - maybe not as much as Leo, but we like to be admired (all the Leo in my chart probably makes it excessive for me). I personally feel compliments from a woman give me the confidence I need and actually get me to move faster in a courtship. Don't do the over-sexed compliment though. Notice some good feature he has (maybe his broad shoulders or eyes, etc.), and compliment them (one at a time - don't read off a list on the same day), but there is a key to doing this (Taurus men usually do it real well). Leos usually *know* how to give a compliment. But do it in a very objective manner. Like you are just a cool detached observer. Don't throw a lusty tone into it or make it too seductive.

@ Jynja,

Thanks for the advice... I'm taking it. ACtually, this whole thing is exhausting and I'm just going to let it happen if it happens... I don't care right now.

Just tonight we'd been texting and he asks me, " what is it like to have a child? Would you consider having more if the man took better care of you?" WTf?

That question just TOTALLY threw me off and then after I answered that with a worthy man, yes, I would... then he said, he wants kids with the right woman... who wouldn't? But he is not looking for a wife now, in the future... WTF?!!!!

This is totally mind game to me, In my opinion. I'm tired of it.

@TLS, I'm going to take your advice too! The poor guy's going to melt and I won't wipe him up! 🙂

Thanks again... but he's too darn confusing and he's scared and playing mind games and I don't like it... I'm just going to kick back. But I will try the massage thing though when I get a chance. 🙂

@TLS I'm prepared for Taurus's homebodiness.... because now, that I've matured, all of those party days are behind me. We have gone out, he wants to see this new town through my eyes and he wants me to show him around... I'm a mature Leo woman... I like to party, but I prefer to have close friends or family rather than what I used to do.

I would tease the s h i t out of him. lol. If you really see something long term with this guy and want to win his heart, *and* you share his same beliefs, go to church with him *as a friend*. A Taurus who is religious will be looking for a woman who can be involved in that aspect of his life as well, has the same values, etc. Taurus men can be very conservative and often would not date a woman, or take her seriously, if he feels their belief systems are too far apart.

hehehe TLS I love it! Tell me more! I've already invited him to my church and we do share the same beliefs and values.... he said to just name the date and time and he will come to my church. 🙂

He texts me all day, calling me "sweetheart".... tell me more! I want to drive this man insane! LOL

Ok, here it is....

I think its often best to court someone the way they would court. Even though we don't naturally follow the Golden Rule when we're hurt (and at our most self-centered licking our wounds), I think when we're trying to do good to someone else, its often through the intepretive lense of our own desires - we do unto them as we'd have them do unto us. For instance, you probably wish he'd just be really aggerssive and jump your bones at this point (as you being a Leo would probably like to do to him).

Here's the recipe. And I'll tell you up front its a species of "hard to get" and it'll take patience and a wee bit of deception on your part (not lying and there's nothing immoral about it IMO). For your own conscience' sake, basically determine first in your own head that you are considering this time of getting to know him as building a friendship. Then go about doing everything possible to tease the Taurean aesthetic/sensual/indulgent nature, under the guise of this friendship. The setup for this is to actually preface everything you're doing with phrases like "I don't want you to get the wrong idea.", "I don't want this to seem like I'm hitting on you or pursuing you", and in the middle or at the end of spending time with him, say things like "Isn't it great just to be able to be friends with someone of the opposite sex?", "I'm really just looking for a friend right now; somone I can spend time with and share things with", etc. etc. Stick him right in that friend zone....

Now for the mixed messages/Big Tease...lol...

As you're doing these things, use your sensuality...physical touch wherever you can get it in, and communicate the sensuality PHYSICALLY, but with your words be cool, objective, and even on guard against him interpreting it wrong, as we discussed with the shoulder rub. If you have decent massage skills, actually offer to give him a real massage, or claim to be practicing your technique and ask him if he can handle you practicing on him. The key here is you have to actually have a talk up front and explain you aren't trying to get frisky with him or spark up something sexual, and ask if he thinks he can handle that, or is he going to be a typical guy and interpret it wrong? If you can get in there with a real back massage, forget it. He'll die. This is risky and I'd wait til later, after a good intimate friendship has been developed.

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Touch his neck fairly often...do little sensual scratchy things with your nails on his neck - just very briefly though - when walking by him.

Can you cook? Good food always makes an impression on Taureans. If you cook decent, tell him you love to cook and are trying a new recipe, and need an audience. Hook up a steak or something hearty, some mashed potatoes, a nice glass of wine, some soft music playing in the background. Pay lip service to how much you appreciate his friendship a few times throughout the night. Leos are almost always funny as hell - just very entertaining and charming people. The more time you spend like this - building that "friendship", the deeper he'll fall. Hell, he's already flirting with you.

Entertaining at home, delighting his senses (relaxing music, soothing smells, hearty food, sensual touch) - all of these things are heaven to a Taurus. This is more seductive than you walking around in lingerie during the early phases. We are creatures of comfort. Rent a movie you know he wants to see, and share a blanket, but dont' get frisky. Just lay there next to him, maybe your thigh slightly touching his. Laugh and slap him on the upper part of his thigh if there's a funny part.

Look how many times people are complainign on this board about Taurus sending mixed messages....Its what we do. Start doing it to your Taurus interest. It'll win him over. You're winning his heart, but at the same time, he is left wondering where he stands with you....He'll probably get assertive and just charge. If not, after enough of this, you'll just know you've pretty much won him over and you can get aggressive at that point, and one of those massages can have a happy ending...LOL...sorry, had to do it....

Oh I love it TLS! Thank you! I'm definitely going to try all of these... I am a GREAT cook... and I can give a sensual massage... lots of practice. 😄 Thank you! I'll let you know how it goes at church... I already have something in mind "cooking up" 🙂

Cool...remember to really control that Leonine flirtatiousness and overt sexuality. You start doing all that winking, bent over cleavage-flashing (yeah I know how you Leos operate), and "oops, I bent over in front of you to tie my shoe and backed up into your groin" stuff, and he will pick up on it in a second. Restrain the body language, verbal cues, any overt sexual talk, etc. - no matter how worked up you're getting. It all comes down to whether or not you have the patience and self control to pull this off.

TLS

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Cool...remember to really control that Leonine flirtatiousness and overt sexuality. You start doing all that winking, bent over cleavage-flashing (yeah I know how you Leos operate), and "oops, I bent over in front of you to tie my shoe and backed up into your groin" stuff, and he will pick up on it in a second. Restrain the body language, verbal cues, any overt sexual talk, etc. - no matter how worked up you're getting. It all comes down to whether or not you have the patience and self control to pull this off.

TLS

Ah, thanks for the reminder TLS.... so far, so good... I have my flirtatiousness and "other" tricks in control LOL. I am actually behaving well considering this man's driving me crazy. We are going to church together on Sunday.... as friends. 🙂 But I do have something up my sleeves... nothing aggressive, just something innocently suggestive. 🙂