Typical aqua man doing his disappearing act?

I have a crush on this aqua guy. Mind you I'm a leo woman

We hooked up at a party about 3 months ago. We didn't immediately exchange numbers but by coincidence we bumped into each other a few days after and well.. hooked up again. He then asked for my number but didn't call. I did call him a few days later since I had forgotten something at his place and well we started chatting. I found out that he has had a girlfriend for the past 4 years but she had once cheated on him (he also told me how it broke his heart cause he hadn't laid a hand on another woman while with her). He also asked me whether I had a problem with the fact that she was in the picture. I told him that he was the one with hell of a lot to lose so it's not my problem.

So we chatted away for about two months, not all the time like crazed lovebirds but every 2-3 days. The talks were innocent, only mild flirting here and there depending on the topic.

After about two months he asked me out to coffee with him but cancelled on me the last minute saying his girlfriend was coming over. I was like okay, fine, whatever, and then he didn't utter a word to me, not a text message not anything for a whole week. The next weekend he asked me out again, I agreed hoping he wouldn't cancel this time, and I went to his place, we had coffee, chatted away and stuff, he taught me his favorite video game and the attraction was obvious. He asked to kiss me and well, since I'm really attracted to him, I agreed. The date wasn't all fireworks but it was okay. But then he ignored me for another week, even though i messaged him on facebook the next day. Last week I ran into him and his girlfriend at a party. Needless to say I felt awkward, but he politely said hi, and after she left came to me. I told him I was a bit pissed at him, and he automatically assumed it was because of his girlfriend. When I clarified that it was because he hadn't texted he apologized, made up some excuse but then proceeded to tell me something along the lines of "Truth is I can't really communicate via facebook or texts because of my girlfriend.." then asked to kiss me again.. then next day we said our goodbyes, he kissed me and said well talk to you later..and has been ignoring me ever since.. it's been another 4-5 days.

I don;t get it. Is this the typical aqua male? Is he even remotely interested? What do you guys suggest, that I ignore him back? I honestly don't know what to do and he frustrates the living days out of me.

He wants a 3some.

yes, i have been cheated on which is why i feel that if someone in a relationship is interested in anyone else it's usually because he/she isn't all that okay in the situation they are in. if he were happy he wouldn't go looking around for someone else.

i didn't mention the fact the they have this open relationship thing where both of them screw around with others but (he never really stated this but i have to guess that this is the deal with them) aren't supposed to keep in touch with those people. I know for a fact since he has been with me while she was there with someone else. so that relationship is kind of f-ed up.

Posted by leowoman09
yes, i have been cheated on which is why i feel that if someone in a relationship is interested in anyone else it's usually because he/she isn't all that okay in the situation they are in. if he were happy he wouldn't go looking around for someone else.

i didn't mention the fact the they have this open relationship thing where both of them screw around with others but (he never really stated this but i have to guess that this is the deal with them) aren't supposed to keep in touch with those people. I know for a fact since he has been with me while she was there with someone else. so that relationship is kind of f-ed up.

But they are still together...

Posted by size zero superhero
Suppose he's miserable with the girl. Nonetheless she's the one cracking the whip, dictating whom he is allowed to correspond via phone & internet. Not only does he allow it to continue but he's also obedient, given your communication ceased whence his dear mistress forbade it.

+1

For some obscure reason he might still care for her which is why he's putting up with her behaviour. Not really a disappearing act if you consider the fact he just doesn't care for you beyond filling the void i.e. the intimacy factor through you.

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Long time! How's the new town going?

He could be just getting even with the girlfriend and doesn't care about you at all except for to use for for revenge.

Hello Leowoman do you want him to be with you? Then you should out-stand the girl who he is with now, for that you dont have to be more glamorous or sexy than her but you should be smarter in stimulating his intellectual mind, start reading readers digest and ask his opinions about whats happening in this world, once he is high then tell him what you gona do to him in bed (Leo's are lazy in bed thats a fact) even you don't have to do it. That will be far enough for him to ditch his girl, then he will be all yours. If you didn't act NOW then the chances are high he is getting back to her. Aqua's famous for forgiving their cheating partners.

Posted by geminidude
Hello Leowoman do you want him to be with you? Then you should out-stand the girl who he is with now, for that you dont have to be more glamorous or sexy than her but you should be smarter in stimulating his intellectual mind, start reading readers digest and ask his opinions about whats happening in this world, once he is high then tell him what you gona do to him in bed (Leo's are lazy in bed thats a fact) even you don't have to do it. That will be far enough for him to ditch his girl, then he will be all yours. If you didn't act NOW then the chances are high he is getting back to her. Aqua's famous for forgiving their cheating partners.

You got the lazy part right. 😄 I mean why all the hard work when you could just sit around and enjoy? But yeah, good point.

Posted by feb16aqua
I can attest to the "forgiving" the cheater. I've let it go twice in my past, like kept seeing them. It laid trememdous damage to the relationship though. Sometimes I think it would have been easier for me to just leave them right then and there, knowing how I am, but when I love I can't just leave just like that.

I think you forgive your cheating partner BUT you will never forget and for that reason you just keep him only as friends, just because you are curious to know how he ends up his life without you.

Really? No one else saw it as revenge to the girlfriend?

I do see it as revenge- everything he's been doing in the past year or so ever since she cheated. I mean I can't really see it as anything else. He'd told me how he had never laid a hand on another woman during their relationship and she just goes off and cheats on him with her best friend. When I asked him about his relationship with her, this was all he said, then added that the situation really is much more complicated then I could ever imagine. And after seeing them both cheat on each other in unison I kind of have to agree.

Posted by truecap
Really? No one else saw it as revenge to the girlfriend?

Im seeing it as `indifferent` as in " well why should i give you all of my loyalty, its all for nothing, whats good for the goose, fuck ya!" ... but he doesnt want to leave, he loves her, he wants her to love him. i dont think aquas like letting go unless theres a reason they cant handle, now cheatinng is bad, but i wouldnt consider something you cant handle if youre pretty evolved in your way of thinking, also often cheaters use the victim card to get in someone elses pants, how bad their partner is and what nots, if its that bad then leave rather than stoop to the same level, its your integrity that places you above the rest