I rushed Taurus guy or not?

taurus or not, there are ways to say things to people.

rather telling him that he is not moving fast enough for you and your timescale, it would have been better to communicate in a way that doesn't put you in opposition but on the same team.

why tell someone that they are failing in your expectations? how does that get you closer to your goal ie seeing him again? it just pushes them away rather than bring them closer to you.

About a month.

Nah this all sounds like bullshit to me. If you met up and had a date and he's not asked you out again within a few days and there's no plan in place to meet that week (or the following week if you have prior plans) then it's just not happening. Either he's not interested or is not sure what he's looking for. It might be nothing to do with you. It might be him. Shit happens.

I'm not sure what 'almost met' is though? I mean, you either met in person or you did not meet in person. You don't 'almost' meet someone! Or do you? WTF!

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Nah this all sounds like bullshit to me. If you met up and had a date and he's not asked you out again within a few days and there's no plan in place to meet that week (or the following week if you have prior plans) then it's just not happening. Either he's not interested or is not sure what he's looking for. It might be nothing to do with you. It might be him. Shit happens.

I'm not sure what 'almost met' is though? I mean, you either met in person or you did not meet in person. You don't 'almost' meet someone! Or do you? WTF!

most of these guys just don't go at that speed, especially just after one date. you need patience to hook these suckers and coming at them with "i don't like to talk online" (even though that was their main communication medium) and "i'm not going to chat online forever" makes her appear like it's the start of her being demanding and overall hard work. after a month, he's definitely due a prod though.

and you might be right, he could have been all mouth. if however she was irritated by his speed, only a month in, he probably did them both a favour given that speed thing is not going to change.

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Nah this all sounds like bullshit to me. If you met up and had a date and he's not asked you out again within a few days and there's no plan in place to meet that week (or the following week if you have prior plans) then it's just not happening. Either he's not interested or is not sure what he's looking for. It might be nothing to do with you. It might be him. Shit happens.

I'm not sure what 'almost met' is though? I mean, you either met in person or you did not meet in person. You don't 'almost' meet someone! Or do you? WTF!

most of these guys just don't go at that speed, especially just after one date. you need patience to hook these suckers and coming at them with "i don't like to talk online" (even though that was their main communication medium) and "i'm not going to chat online forever" makes her appear like it's the start of her being demanding and overall hard work.after a month, he's definitely due a prod though.

and you might be right, he could have been all mouth. if however she was irritated by his speed, only a month in, he probably did them both a favour given that peed thing is not going to change.

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I'm 50:50 on it. He's either slow or unsure what he wants in general or with her.

I say that only based on my recent experience of those two Taurus guys. One was on it, no issue asking me out etc. The other fucked about as really he was only looking for casual but two months later after remaining in contact he asked me out again, the first time he kinda made a joke, I reckon testing the water, asking what I was doing at the weekend then when I said I was away he said shame as he was gonna ask me out. I said there's always another day. Then a week later he asked if I wanted to meet up but I was busy. Then the other Taurus who I'd had six dates with during that two months asked to be exclusive and I said yes. I liked the other one, we got on well but the dude was fucking proper lazy and slow. He didn't feel the importance of putting any effort in. Two months passed, he knew I was dating and I don't think he wanted the 'competition' but he had a HUGE window of opportunity at the start when I wasn't dating others but he didn't bother. Too little too late but it's just where he is in his life. I don't think those two months changed what he was looking for. I think he was just going to try his luck again and get at least a snog!

In OP's case it had been a month since meeting? A month? And he's not asked her out? Nobody, and I mean nobody is that fucking busy. Sure she could have worded it nicer but in reality, would asking differently have made him ask her out? I think not. He's either bothered or not. In this case, he's not bothered. OP, move along, leave him alone, go date othe

In OP's case it had been a month since meeting? A month? And he's not asked her out? Nobody, and I mean nobody is that fucking busy. Sure she could have worded it nicer but in reality, would asking differently have made him ask her out? I think not. He's either bothered or not. In this case, he's not bothered. OP, move along, leave him alone, go date others and keep your options open. Apologies, I read the also/almost bit incorrectly.

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In OP's case it had been a month since meeting? A month? And he's not asked her out? Nobody, and I mean nobody is that fucking busy. Sure she could have worded it nicer but in reality, would asking differently have made him ask her out? I think not. He's either bothered or not. In this case, he's not bothered. OP, move along, leave him alone, go date others and keep your options open. Apologies, I read the also/almost bit incorrectly.

True. Just one thing - should I still apologize to him (with no general "how are you doing etc"? more like apologize and wishing him all the best) or would that not be important? Before posting this topic I actually REALLY did not realise that I was being rude. In general, you guys are also right that I do not like to wait and would like to have guy who is more-more proactive and faster. :-)

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In my personal view, I'd just leave it. Your intention wasn't to be rude regardless of how it came across to him or others reading it here. There'd be no point in texting. There's nothing to achieve or gain. To me, it's a simple case of you two not being a match. He's dawdling about doing whatever and you're looking for someone who is interested in you and who shows it. That's allowed. It doesn't matter how much great conversation you had or how lovely he is etc. If he's not making his intentions clear, leaving you hanging or in doubt, not asking you out, or if he's just on a different level or place or takes it slow etc then it's never going to be a match so you can't force it.

Multi date. Go out. Enjoy company of other guys. Build up what you are and aren't looking for and see who is still standing at the end in a few months time.

Shit happens. Don't flog a dead horse. Been there, done that. It feels horrible. This fella I'm seeing now (Taurus) leaves me in no doubt of his interest and intentions. He's falling over himself to ask me out and do things for me. His consistent persistence is something that made him attractive to me.

I always say there's 7 billion people on this planet or whatever. You'll find one!

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In OP's case it had been a month since meeting? A month? And he's not asked her out? Nobody, and I mean nobody is that fucking busy. Sure she could have worded it nicer but in reality, would asking differently have made him ask her out? I think not. He's either bothered or not. In this case, he's not bothered. OP, move along, leave him alone, go date others and keep your options open. Apologies, I read the also/almost bit incorrectly.

True. Just one thing - should I still apologize to him (with no general "how are you doing etc"? more like apologize and wishing him all the best) or would that not be important? Before posting this topic I actually REALLY did not realise that I was being rude. In general, you guys are also right that I do not like to wait and would like to have guy who is more-more proactive and faster. :-)

In my personal view, I'd just leave it. Your intention wasn't to be rude regardless of how it came across to him or others reading it here. There'd be no point in texting. There's nothing to achieve or gain. To me, it's a simple case of you two not being a match. He's dawdling about doing whatever and you're looking for someone who is interested in you and who shows it. That's allowed. It doesn't matter how much great conversation you had or how lovely he is etc. If he's not making his intentions clear, leaving you hanging or in doubt, not asking you out, or if he's just on a different level or place or takes it slow etc then it's never going to be a match so you can't force it.

Multi date. Go out. Enjoy company of other guys. Build up what you are and aren't looking for and see who is still standing at the end in a few months time.

Shit happens. Don't flog a dead horse. Been there, done that. It feels horrible. This fella I'm seeing now (Taurus) leaves me in no doubt of his interest and intentions. He's falling over himself to ask me out and do things for me. His consistent persistence is something that made him attractive to me.

I always say there's 7 billion people on this planet or whatever. You'll find one!

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Thank you for the nice words :-)

^^^ fuck! I'm going soft in my old age! Must be this Taurus fella having an effect on me ”

Is no one else mentioning the fact that it has been 3 weeks since they last spoke?

That alone says the ship has probably sailed. Sorry.

Since you probably still want some closure, you could of course just let him know you felt there was a miscommunication and you didn't mean to come across so brash.

am i the only one who is not in a rush?

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am i the only one who is not in a rush?

Yeah ! The only person I know who is not a Taurus but knows and can handle the 'Taurus slow traits' better than a Taurus that's why you are called 'Libraus' cause you are half libra and Taurus . An honorary member of the Taurus family! 😄

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haha! you know its true busy. my bull and i have moved at the speed of molasses but you know, i don't mind anymore. i'm grateful for him, his presence in my life and the feelings we have for each other, i don't care so much about our pace. i'm just enjoying the ride but if you asked me this 3 years ago, i would never had put up with it! he's worth it though.

Good luck

Aries and Taurus my god they get along great but man there are some really harsh words that spew out their mouth sometimes and can be a little more sensitive than you are used to.

@shopgirl- I mean I feel really impulsive around fire.. lol. I don't have any fire placements except in my houses one of each fire sign in my chart. So many risks I may take with Aries. Just know there is always going to be a magnetic attraction. But when we are both done we are.wither you remain friends or enemies.

@shopgirl- What did you say to him?

But normally aries, taurus are way too close in the zodiac sign to be compatible. 50/50 long term.

I said that I can be sometimes brash, I apologize for that. However, if he felt that he just does not want to chat with me anymore, then it is OK. And then said I value the conversation we had.

@xxxAliciaxxx- Hey since you are a cusp, which ones do you tend to just be friends with? Aries or Taurus? I mean which one has been your longest out of the two?

I mean what did you say to him in the first place@shopgirl—

You don't understand Taurus man it takes alot to understand both personalities..We are both strong, leaders, and egos. This is where some problems will occur all the time. TAURUS show and talk way more calmer and it shows. Why we want you to be the next one forever. So while you are rushing I am the one who will put the brakes on. It's already am attraction and I am interested in you before sex. And after.

Oh, I told him something like I feel like I have nothing to write about, because I feel not comfortable writing in internet - it is kind of boring texting (I was probably secretly hoping that he would ask me about again but I just made him stop writing to me).