I will...Have you at the palm of my hand.

I was reading an article about Taurus males on this site...

Very interesting.

http://www.aphroditeastrology.com/2007/09/experiences-with-taurian-male.html<BR>
But I will address this question to BOTH Taurus men and women.

Bulls, how do you manage to draw those people or relationships to you?

How do you have someone at the palm of your hand, without even trying?

For me, it always seems to happen naturally. Although I have a Venus in Aries, I'm still terribly shy. I have never been a chaser. However, I do flirt in many subtle ways, half the time I'm not even aware that I'm doing it. I get warm butterflies in my stomach, but have always kept a respectful distance during the initial stages of dating. Not very open about my feelings. Their guards are down immediately when they're around me. They feel safe, trusted, at home, almost. The conversations have always been light convos, nothing intense.

I draw them in subtle ways, perfume, a smile, a swaying of the hips, a slight swag, giving him a compliment or two, light touches on his back. Soothing conversations.

What I'm actually thinking, and what's being conveyed are totally different. I have a very feminine conventional persona, but what goes on in my head..."I will have you tied to my bedpost."

During my assessment period, when I need to re-energize, or determine whether this individual will make a life-long prospect, the potential partner has already decided I'm "it"...but I'm moving too slow. Then all of a sudden, my 'process' time becomes an air of mystery.

Why am I moving slow? Isn't this where I wanted them to be? Disarming them, and making them think this courtship was solely their decision. Thanks for initiating and putting in work, helps me combat my shyness. But...I have you right where I want you but... I don't know whether or not I see see stability with you.


Bulls, have you experienced this before?

This was/is my entire experience with my bull. You worded that perfectly. He to has his venus in aires...

I definitely think this is on point. So if you are used to them chasing you, what do you do when they give up the chase and move on? or in my case I pushed my Taurus away first and now he has distanced himself but still expressed that he wants me but doesn't know where his head it at. I chased him for a while but now I am giving up. Does this make you want he person more or do you just move on to option B?

Posted by CluelessCancer
WOW someone is feeling themselves a bit too much. Egotistic!

LOL.
It was not intended to be, the title of this thread came from a catch phrase the author referenced in the article(it is mentioned within the first few paragraphs).

From the comments on that site:

"I am also Taurus male, and its not that we crave attention or adoration, it's that most of us are self indulgent out the ass. I see myself as a catch and I deserve good things and people around me. So why waste my time with someone who isn't that crazy about me? The truth is most other taurus people I meet, including myself, do not trust people at all, and are always in our minds wondering about your motives, even the ones close to us. So as an act of self preservation we may keep alot of women on the side who we know we can have at any moment without even trying. This doesnt mean we arent trustworthy, and it certainly does not mean that we intend on cheating on you with one of them. Its a way of saying "hey, im a prize to be had, and ill give you all of me and be great and loyal to you, but if you screw me over or decide you dont like me, its no big deal because we have the next girl lined up" (and most of us do have a magnetism about us). We will never completely put all of our cards on the table or completely be open with our emotions. WE HATE FEELING VULNERABLE. big time. We rarely let ourselves get in situations while we are at someone elses wims. I would never put myself on the line unless I knew for sure I could get what I wanted. Alot of people think that is due to fear of rejection. It's not. We dont care one way or the other about what people ultimately think of us, we just would rather spend our energy bringing ourselves and others around us, comfort and joy, then wasting our time for a chick who will turn out to be crazy or illogical. Why take the effort to jump off the diving board headfirst to find out the pool doesnt have any water in it? lol It's also best not to play games with us because we are EXTREMELY perceptive and always know whats going on around us and what people are really thinking. It's best to be direct and know what you want. If a girl cant make up her mind about me, it doesnt matter how attractive or funny she is, I lose interest and fast. My ideal meeting situation would be spotting a women from across a room, giving her certain glances and looking away and pretending im not interested, lead her over to me, make her so curious she cant resist, and she would be DIRECT. If we know for sure without a doubt that you are into us from the get go, it makes US more comfortable to let our strong silent gaurd down and be our normal charming funny comforting selves. Especially in sexual scenerios. I

Posted by TaurusLovesScorpio
My ideal meeting situation would be spotting a women from across a room, giving her certain glances and looking away and pretending im not interested, lead her over to me, make her so curious she cant resist, and she would be DIRECT.

^^^^^That's gangsta^^^^^

Posted by TaurusLovesScorpio
WE HATE FEELING VULNERABLE. big time. We rarely let ourselves get in situations while we are at someone elses wims. I would never put myself on the line unless I knew for sure I could get what I wanted. Alot of people think that is due to fear of rejection. It's not. We dont care one way or the other about what people ultimately think of us, we just would rather spend our energy bringing ourselves and others around us, comfort and joy, then wasting our time for a [man] who will turn out to be crazy or illogical.

I can't speak for other Bulls. But I agree with this statement 100% .

Thanks for posting this comment TLS,

It wasn't my intention to create an egotistical thread, I just loved the context the author 'used' to describe the Taurus.

Most Tauruses want a guaranteed return on their investment.

Although some of us draw people in with little or no effort at all, the motivations behind it are usually fairly genuine, hoping for the best with longevity for any long term prospect, but still exercising caution through risks and assessments.

The 'weening' out process seems to create a lot of confusion.

So does the Venusian 'aspect' of drawing them in.

TaurusBull1977,

I am a Taurus born (4/30) I am kind of like you as you described above except not very shy. When I see something I want or someone I will take the initiative to initiate conversation or make them notice me somehow. And yes that's where the good perfume comes in, a nice outfit, etc. I am very seductive I know what to say how to say and when to say it. I think all Taurus women are very good with this! It's like we naturally have this energy that draws people in! I have been in your position before where the other person (who is a Leo and we're actually together going on 3 years) moves extremely fast. He wanted to be in a relationship wanted me to move in all in a 4 months period. I felt rushed and not ready, and unfortunately slept with another man during the first few months of our relationship. I did tell him because I felt bad because he was falling in love with me and he needed to know how I felt and why I did what I did. But in a weird way me straying made me realize I really did want to be with him and that I could love him.

I think that some people are just blinded by our charisma that they don't try and look deeper to see our potential bad side. So they immediately start to fall for us then later realize what they got themselves into. But from that point on it's time for them to realize whether they can handle us or not. Taurus women are not easy to please! We can be stubborn, possessive, easily to anger etc. But like I said previously we can draw people in very easily because we are very seductive and manipulative sometimes even when not trying to be lol

I hope this helps, I think you should open yourself up more and start giving people a chance. You never know they could be your potential soul mate or best friend 🙂

Posted by TaurusBull1977


I can't speak for other Bulls. But I agree with this statement 100% .

Thanks for posting this comment TLS,

It wasn't my intention to create an egotistical thread.

Yeah, I agree with that dude's comment for the most part. I didn't realize half of it got cut off. The only part I disagree with, from my own experience, is in that I do feel there is a huge fear of rejection that also keeps me firmly in the state of attracting rather than pursuing. I guess, to me, rejection is an unnecessary risk. As far as egotistical, I've read that article before, and there's a lot in it that I think is true, but its hard to talk about those things without seeming arrogant. Obviously it resonates with a ton of people though. Read through the 5 billion comments on that article.

Posted by Impulsv
To me it reads insecurity
Need from the outside to fill ego. That's all it is. Ego feeding. if u only realized u don't need to do this how free u could be.

Well, the article is about the darker side of Taurus, so I agree with you to an extent.

Posted by TaurusLovesScorpio
As far as egotistical, I've read that article before, and there's a lot in it that I think is true, but its hard to talk about those things without seeming arrogant. Obviously it resonates with a ton of people though. Read through the 5 billion comments on that article.

I equate 'egotistical' with confidence, bravado and absolute certainty.

I'm more of a shy introvert in regards to my personal life outside of business. I draw them in subtle ways to avoid the possibility of rejection. Feminine charm, politeness, a feeling of safety, mannerisms, and etc. I'm being myself. No pick up lines, no assertiveness, no aggressive tactics, no lies, no BS. There is always a possible chance that I may not draw them in, and I'm OK with that, after all, it's all or nothing with me....and I would rather walk away from it gracefully as opposed to someone who had more confidence, kept pursuing, (insisting on pressing the issue for their desire for a budding romance).

Too much work.

Why put in any stock for a potential possibility. It's not worth the investment.

But to no avail, very little or no work is put in on my end, and BOOM, they're IN!

....And they want it right now!

It may appear as arrogance on the surface, but internally, it paints a totally different picture.

'Interested' doesn't always equate to verbal diarrhea of romantic linguistics....

But more like "Interested....and we will see."

Posted by TaurusBull1977

There is always a possible chance that I may not draw them in, and I'm OK with that, after all, it's all or nothing with me....and I would rather walk away from it gracefully as opposed to someone who had more confidence, kept pursuing, (insisting on pressing the issue for their desire for a budding romance).

Too much work.


But to no avail, very little or no work is put in on my end, and BOOM, they're IN!

Exactly...A lot of people seem to have trouble understanding this here. They see it as a bull settling for "easy". In a sense, maybe, but its not really a settle. Its a preference. If the person is a great person, attractive, intelligent, etc., compared to a person who is all the same, but requires more work/maintenance on our part, we're going to go with the former. I feel most comfortable with a person that I DON'T have to impress, don't have to really work hard for to court, to continually entertain, etc. Just come at me fully impressed with my presence alone, some intangible thing about me or our chemistry, etc. - and from there anything I do on top of that is a bonus...lol. If it takes *convincing* to court someone, or any kind of stunts at all really, to me it just isn't meant to be....After all, I'm not going to be doing any of that crap when we're actually together. I'm just going to be my regular old natural self, by your side, as your companion....So why set the bar at an unreasonable height with a bunch of fakeness? It just sets both of us up for disappointment.

Posted by TaurusLovesScorpio
Exactly...A lot of people seem to have trouble understanding this here. They see it as a bull settling for "easy". In a sense, maybe, but its not really a settle. Its a preference. If the person is a great person, attractive, intelligent, etc., compared to a person who is all the same, but requires more work/maintenance on our part, we're going to go with the former.

+1000.

We do hate 'fakeness' don't we? 😉

Posted by scorpvixen
I definitely think this is on point. So if you are used to them chasing you, what do you do when they give up the chase and move on? or in my case I pushed my Taurus away first and now he has distanced himself but still expressed that he wants me but doesn't know where his head it at. I chased him for a while but now I am giving up. Does this make you want he person more or do you just move on to option B?

It depends on the Venus and Moon placements.

My moon is in Gemini and my Venus is in Aries.

Out of sight + Grass is always greener on the other side = Out of mind.

It also depends on the personal quality and the intentions behind the person who is doing the chasing.

Posted by xxbrittxxtay

I think that some people are just blinded by our charisma that they don't try and look deeper to see our potential bad side. So they immediately start to fall for us then later realize what they got themselves into.

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For us to put stock into anything you tell us, it has to be proven over a certain period of time. You like us. You love us. Do you really know us well enough to make that determination?

Posted by Impulsv

I agree one should be as u are from the start. But what if ur judgment is so off about a person thinking they be high maintenance when not. What if u judged wrong! But it does t matter because u won't know what u lost. A win win for u guys as u always make the most secure decision n will be content with it. Out of sight out of mind.

Agreed. But you don't seem high maintenance to me at all. You seem obviously really chill/easygoing to me, so I don't know how your bull would get that impression.

Posted by jeannegrey
I dislike this article. meh.

Love the avatar. Love Frida!

Posted by TaurusBull1977

Posted by scorpvixen
I definitely think this is on point. So if you are used to them chasing you, what do you do when they give up the chase and move on? or in my case I pushed my Taurus away first and now he has distanced himself but still expressed that he wants me but doesn't know where his head it at. I chased him for a while but now I am giving up. Does this make you want he person more or do you just move on to option B?

It depends on the Venus and Moon placements.

My moon is in Gemini and my Venus is in Aries.

Out of sight + Grass is always greener on the other side = Out of mind.

It also depends on the personal quality and the intentions behind the person who is doing the chasing.

Posted by xxbrittxxtay

I think that some people are just blinded by our charisma that they don't try and look deeper to see our potential bad side. So they immediately start to fall for us then later realize what they got themselves into.

For us to put stock into anything you tell us, it has to be proven over a certain period of time. You like us. You love us. Do you really know us well enough to make that determination?

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This is such a profound question "You like us. You love us. Do you really know us well enough to make that determination?" It puts things into perspective. I have spent almost 2 years consistently interacting with a bull trying to get to know him, the real him. We can talk for hours and hours for days on in and I still don't feel like I'm being let in. The struggle is real and one can only hope that in the end it was worth the time and energy. I can respect the taurus way, nothing more upsetting like investing in someone that is not the one.

Posted by TaurusLovesScorpio

Posted by TaurusBull1977

There is always a possible chance that I may not draw them in, and I'm OK with that, after all, it's all or nothing with me....and I would rather walk away from it gracefully as opposed to someone who had more confidence, kept pursuing, (insisting on pressing the issue for their desire for a budding romance).

Too much work.


But to no avail, very little or no work is put in on my end, and BOOM, they're IN!

Exactly...A lot of people seem to have trouble understanding this here. They see it as a bull settling for "easy". In a sense, maybe, but its not really a settle. Its a preference. If the person is a great person, attractive, intelligent, etc., compared to a person who is all the same, but requires more work/maintenance on our part, we're going to go with the former. I feel most comfortable with a person that I DON'T have to impress, don't have to really work hard for to court, to continually entertain, etc. Just come at me fully impressed with my presence alone, some intangible thing about me or our chemistry, etc. - and from there anything I do on top of that is a bonus...lol. If it takes *convincing* to court someone, or any kind of stunts at all really, to me it just isn't meant to be....After all, I'm not going to be doing any of that crap when we're actually together. I'm just going to be my regular old natural self, by your side, as your companion....So why set the bar at an unreasonable height with a bunch of fakeness? It just sets both of us up for disappointment.

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Maybe that is the reason why my Taurus and I felt such chemistry since the beginning.
As an Aries, I loooooooove the attention and courtship. Meeting this guy, it was the complete opposite. He gave me enough attention to show me he was interested. But beyond that, he never did anything extra to show me he was interested or good enough to date me. It was me, curious as heck, trying to get to know him. And I've always been okay with that. It's not that I'm willing to settle for less or whatever gets in my way, it's the fact that I feel a balance with him.