I'm in a bit of a pickle, help me taurus men!

hey 🙂

some of you may have followed my posts on the virgo board..

Anyway, long story short.. i am a scorpio female and me and my virgo boyfriend have been a bit rocky lately and broke up recently, we are back together and things are going quite well, when we broke up we took it off facebook and although we are together again we havent put it back up on facebook, just cause we don't feel the need to, it's just facebook. ANYWAY, we have alot of mutual friends, most of them are my male friends who i have introduced to my virgo and my virgo is also now quite good friends with some of them, and he will go hang out with them etc without me there which is good 🙂

However, I am pretty sure my taurus friend has a crush on me, i only see him as a friend but as soon as me and my virgo broke up he began messaging me more so then he ever did, it's all been pretty friendly really just asking how i am etc. not long ago when me and my virgo boyfriend were broken up, there was a small group of my friends and the taurus guy was there, we were all pretty tipsy and we were talking about relationships in general and in the mids of the convo, the taurus guy said that he thinks im girlfriend material and wishes i was his girlfriend. it was kind of awkward coz i just dont see him like that, since then i have sortof distancing myself a bit from the taurus coz i dont want him to get the wrong idea/feel embarassed. We have been to a few birthday parties lately and i have always attended them with my virgo. i think all our friends are confused though and might not be sure if me and my virgo are together or not cause we dont do PDA (never have). I don't know what they think but i havent seen any of them properly or spoken to them that much to explain that we are infact together again.

when the taurus messages me i still reply but i dont really give him much to reply back to but he still replies, i defiently think he has a crush on me, and i dont want things to blow up so i have been showing my virgo the messages so that my virgo knows exactly whats up. My virgo appreciates this and doesnt seam to worried about the situation cause he trusts me 100% but he agree's that the taurus defiently likes me. 😢 The taurus even asked me to go with him to our friends engagment party this weekend, and i didnt reply cause im going with the virgo. i dont want to be like "sorry im going with the virgo" coz im not sure if he knows that me and the virgo are together or not and i really d

and i really dont want to make him feel unconfortable/embarassed if i just randomly say "oh by the way we ARE together"

i dont know what to do? i dont want to be rude/make him feel embarassed, cause at the end of the day he is my friend, he's not just a random boy.

By not telling him straight you are leading him on, so fess up.

And I wouldn't go giving an necessary ammunition to Virgo either...they don't think like woman!

yeah but how do i say to him "me and virgo are together" without making him feel embarassed? how do i bring it up and what do i say??

the only thing i can think of is to say something like "not sure if u know but me and virgo are together again, im not sure what ur intentions are but just thought i would clear that up 🙂"

i have no idea, help!!

if someone said that to me i would feel soooo rejected/embarassed/stupid 😢

Just add Virgo's name into any conversation. You don't have to spell it out...think it's self explanatory. When he asked you to the party, come back with I am going with Virgo but thanks for asking.

I don't think it's going to break his heart or put your friendship at risk...and if it does. Then he has a problem, you have a life!

yeah maybe ill just add virgo's name into convo! haha good thinking

well i just didnt reply.. coz didnt want him to feel embarassed, then he messaged me later saying "or not you bitch! haha" (i was asleep when he sent the second one)

so in the morning i replied saying "heeey im not a bitch, i read your message when i was half asleep and forgot to reply" (this was a lie but i just didnt know what to say) and he replied "haha i was only kidding.. what u doing today" and then i kept replying but wasnt asking him any questions back, but i wasnt being rude.. and he just kept replying with random questions and i havent replied to the last one.

ooooooops

Posted by robyn808
the key to pulling this off with grace and leaving everyone with their dignity in tact, is to act like a freaking idiot!

Forget that you ever thought he liked you, and go back to the mentality that you are just friends and nobody wants nothing more.

He was just a good friend concerned about you, and how sweet he was to be such a good support and offer to take you engagement party, cus he knew how hard it might be on you to there alone, right after you broke up with your boyfriend who will also be in attendance.

your a lucky girl to have such good friends.

hahahaa, yes i think this is a good idea actually! but other people are jerks and i wouldnt want TAURUS to think that i am leading him on, and then go tell all the other boys about how im leading him on even though im with virgo and start drama (this is also why i have been completely honest with virgo so he knows exactly what is going on)

i dont know much about Taurus men.. but i know that a few of the guys in the group can act like the biggest jerks and create drama if they think someone is up to no good, it's happened in the past with other girls (nothing ever concerning me) but i do know not to get on some of their bad sides otherwise they will go around and make everyone dislike you. They are my friends, but it's not like we are all best friends and super close or anything... i havent noticed this taurus do it but one of the guys who has created drama with another girl who actually WAS being secretive in her case is a pisces, and the other guy is an april 21st taraus..

Posted by robyn808
Dude I'm over this, you care more about letting go of that extra attention, then you care about embarrassing him.

what??

okay bye :/

yeah i guess you are right, i dont know.. just the fact that i have been replying in general makes me feel bad, ohwell it's not even a big deal when i think about it, i just analyze things to much probably!

Can't really figure out why your making this so complicated.

It really bugs the shit out of me how much everyone likes to dance around playing passive aggressive mind games. Being non-confrontational under the guise of 'oh, I just don't want to hurt/embarrass'.

Just be straight up and clear with him.

'Hey bud, I'm actually worked things out with (Virgo). So he'll be going with me...'
(if you want) 'Your welcome to join us.'


Easy as that..

Sure he may be butt hurt about it for a while. But he will get over it, and come out the other side with a lot of respect and appreciation for you.

But if you don't want, or don't have the stones to be straight with him. Trust me. At some point it will come out. And the more he has invested in you, the more he is going to resent you for letting him.(leading him on)

okay perhaps ill give u the rest of the story cause it will probably make more sense.. i wasnt sure if it would be relevant but i guess it is:

between me and virgo and also virgo's house mate (who is not in our friendship group) us 3 have a silly personal joke between us, where we pretend that me and virgo are just friends in some situations, It sounds stupid/silly but you would have had to be there at the time to understand the personal joke.

A couple of weeks ago we were all at a party and we were all heaps drunk (the housemate wasnt there) and me and virgo were really drunk aswell, and after the party a few people went back and stayed at Taurus's house cause his house was the closest to the party, our houses were over an hour away.. when we got there he gave me and virgo a bed to share in a seperate room, me and virgo were lying on the bed while taurus gave us our blankets, i dont think taurus was that drunk but me and virgo defiently were, and i remember taurus saying "so are you guys together again?" and then my virgo who was obviously not thinking, started laughing and said "nah we are just friends" which was clearly the wrong time to bring up our personal joke infront of someone who doesnt get it, while tauras was still in the room, virgo began spooning me and then taurus left to obviously sleep in his own bed. Anyway, i didnt really think anything of this until i realized lastnight that tauras obviously wouldnt have understood the personal joke between me and virgo and then virgo spooning me would have confused him? i dont know, i wish i replied to tauras and said "me and virgo are going to engagment party together but u can come along with us if u like" instead of ignoring him. but this is a big reason i dont want to embarass him coz it might look like virgo was trying to be a jerk to taraus.

i dont even know. i'm over it, whatever. haha

i dont want him to think virgo was being a jerk to tauras and making him look like a fool, and i dont want tauras to think i was leading him on...

do you sortof see how this could blow up to our other friends? i said to virgo lastnight "you shouldnt have done the personal joke infront of taurus, he obviously thinks we arent together now and it probably explains why he is messaging me" and virgo was like "meh, just dont reply"

arghh!

Maybe I'm a tad bit to old for the kid games so forgive me if what I say Is harsh... Hun, your playing games. You might notice it you might not. Your adding unnecessary fuel to the fire. Just tell him exactly what you told us and say you still want to be his friend if he allows it. Your just liking the desire he has for you, it will backfire in your face. Perhaps you keep this going and he decides to tell your circle of friends or worse your boyfriend? Think smart and be a nice person, if the roles were reversed you wouldn't enjoy it, would you?

Posted by scorpio24
well i just didnt reply.. coz didnt want him to feel embarassed, then he messaged me later saying "or not you bitch! haha" (i was asleep when he sent the second one)

so in the morning i replied saying "heeey im not a bitch, i read your message when i was half asleep and forgot to reply" (this was a lie but i just didnt know what to say) and he replied "haha i was only kidding.. what u doing today" and then i kept replying but wasnt asking him any questions back, but i wasnt being rude.. and he just kept replying with random questions and i havent replied to the last one.

ooooooops

Prime opportunity to say to Taurus you'll see him there you and Virgo will be there around whatever o'clock, but you chose not to use the opportunity, why? Because that way you won't have the attention you're getting from Taurus. And the oooooops doesn't fool anyone, its like sending one of those text messages on purpose to the wrong guy by mistake and following up with oooooops, silly female.