Is He Lying To You?

Observe the nerves

When most people lie, they get nervous about it. While this may not be true of master truth twisters, the average person telling a lie is likely to be fidgety and uncomfortable. He or she might look around a lot and shift position, and may or may not look you in the eye. The jury?s out on that one (some experts say liars will look you in the eye in an attempt to appear earnest while others say they look away to avoid being seen through), but the point is to recognize a change in the person?s physical embodiment of him or her self. If a normally animated guy is strangely calm, it may be because his story is well thought out and rehearsed. If you?re laid back Jack is extra vivid and uses his hands, it may be an attempt to fill in the gaps in a story he can?t see ? because it didn?t happen. Look for variations from usual behavior. And trust your gut!

The devil?s in the details

Changes in temperament aren?t the only significant variations when you?re trying to discern the accuracy of someone?s statements. Take notice of changes in the details of the story. Different versions on different days complete with different time frames, locations and durations tell you something is probably up. Whoever said telling the truth is easy ? because you don?t have to remember the details ? was onto something.

Now this doesn?t mean that years after the fact, getting a little mixed up about exactly when or where something happened or how it went is indicative of dishonesty. Be reasonable here. Get your answers when the story comes into question rather than hanging on to something building curiosity or animosity over time.

Finger pointing 101

While it?s not always the case, you may have cause for concern if the person in question accuses you of lying or being deceitful when you haven?t been (or given him/her reason to think you have). People tend to apply their own behaviors, thoughts etc. to others and thereby make the assumption that you are doing/seeing/speaking as they are. So if you?re triggered into suspicion but when you ask about it, you?re met with unmerited accusations ? look out. And while you?re at it ? remember that your mate/friends/family, etc. are not you either, so try not to do this yourself!

You can run, but you can?t hide

If you?re not getting answers ? more specifically if the person you?re asking is deliberately avoiding your questions or absolutely refuses to answer them, take note of the behavior. Extreme defensiveness can mean he or she is trying to hide something. However, it?s not always the case. Take into account a person?s mood and the fact that there is a time and place for everything. If the refusal/defensiveness is ongoing, you probably have reason to worry. But if it?s a one time or occasional deal, stop and consider the subject matter. In addition, think about when the last time you said you didn?t want to talk about something at the moment but really meant that you would get to it at another time was. We all do this on occasion and as long as the subject is addressed within a reasonable time (not weeks, months or years), it doesn?t necessarily mean a lie is being told.

Sometimes the best thing to do when you suspect someone of lying is to ask them directly. When confronted outright many people who have been dishonest will confess, grateful for the opportunity to be relieved of their guilt.

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I got it from some website, but the one that I do agree on is the finger pointing cuz one time I asked my guy why he hadn't answered his phone and to tell me if he was with someone else and that the only reason why I wouldn't answer my phone was if I was with someone I didn't want him to know I was with... ooooooooops lol anywho, it's a thing of your own judgment and gut feeling

I have also read that those who lie a lot know the signs and become quite good at it...all the books out there have given away their secrets so they gotta "change up"...I agree with Tauruschic...most definately trust your gut it seems to be right on.

I had a sister who was great at lying...she mastered it well but somehow we were still able to tell she was...silly girl!