Is taurus guy inconsistency and controlling? Is it wrong if i still like him?

I am sagittarius and we dated for three months. He was inconsistency and that made me insecure. He called me needy and childish before. And when he felt like i started to being like that he just stopped messaging me and ignored me. thought he like the attention that i would be so submissive and trying to get him to talk to me. Because it happened lots of time and when he felt like that we wouldn't hangout. And yes i felt like he's a bit controlling sometimes. He thought that we were not a good match and i agreed. we stopped dating status and agree to be friends.
2 days After this agreement with no contact. He messaged me and i replied very shortly. He thought that i was ignoring him and he wanted to see me and had a talk. And he said that he misses me and want to try again. I said yes.

After that im more calm with his inconsistency and can feel like myself in this again. I even happier with myself who just tend to trust him and stop overanalyzing things. But he was too quiet and said that he has plan when i wanted to see him. Normally he would tell me about it but this time he just said that he has a plan. I left it at that and then he confessed that he think he met someone that he might like. Nothing happens yet. He just met her and he wanted to pursue things with her. Because deep down he has never truly believe that it would work between us. I said i was disappointed but we have never yet talked about being exclusive anyways. And he said i want you to stand for yourself. I just met this girl and i want to tell you first as i don't want to date two girls at the same time. I told him that i appreciate your honesty. And i want a week to think about it as he asked that if we could be friends. And i ask him not to contact me

That night he went out with the new girl and her friends. I got back to my flat and found that my bathroom glass door fell off the floor no idea how it happened and the glass just exploded all over my bed. I could contact anyone so i texted him i need some help and what i got from him was you know that i am busy tonight. That when i got so furious and didn't reply anything.
Today (6 days after the glass door incident) he msged me on Facebook (i deleted all his contact including facebbok) ask me if my flat is ok and what happened. I gave him some short ans and told him that i don't want him to contact me. Because its messing with my head. He said he's sorry and he wont do that again. He said he's just worried about my flat. I said i know you miss me. Even you aren't going to admit it. Or else you wouldn't msg me. He said no comment. You smartass! I said seriously i do like you and we had such great time. Think about it. If you don't want to try again. I wouldn't want you to message me anymore. And he said that he will think about it.

I know that he still like me but would a taurus guy say he will think about it ? If he wants to get back? What should i do to make it work more? Keep in contact or wait for his msg?

My Taurus casual sex partner was somewhat like that. He would never talk down to me though or he knew I wouldn't tolerate that. However, with the inconsistency and then getting all weirded out when I wouldn't see him...that. He was just a casual sex partner to me so I never went all ballistic or anything like that. It was kinda crazy watching him do his thing though. This is what I observed in that situation....he wanted what he wanted WHEN he wanted it. He didn't want to give me up, because the situation between us was comfortable for him. He could remain detached and do his own thing, yet we would get together about twice a month. I finally released him of the whole kit and kaboodle a few weeks ago. I flat out told him that he's not the kind of guy that I ever want to be with in a relationship, so therefore, I needed to just let it alone. The reason why I told him that is because, he's extremely sexy and much of our time spent together was of him regaling how this or that female here in the US and internationally keep chasing him after a few sexual encounters (the sex WAS amazing...this guy has stamina of NONE other), but I never got myself caught up with him. In thinking about it after he WOULDN'T stop contacting me, I thought that was the best route to take. Well, for the next three weeks he went into this thing of wanting to talk to me and wanting to know what he did and why, why, why. He said that I was his sweetest trusted female friend (he did confide some deep and intimate things to me), but it wasn't mutual. I don't see him as my best trusted male friend although he was supportive in some ways. What struck me as odd is that he had this emotive way of pulling at me, but that was just it...there's wasn't anything MORE than that. I mean like...it's not like I know a lot about him after a year of off and on casual sex, etc.

Finally after sending me a dozen back to back unanswered texts last week (with the last one begging to see me face to face so that we could talk things through), he texted me on Monday to say that he was moving on. I feel for him as far as IF his feelings are REALLY hurt, but at the same time...he did it to himself. He was the one in our first encounter who said, "Now, don't go falling in love". I looked up at him and said, "Ok." and guess what? I never came close to falling in love with him. Ask and ye shall receive.

Any of that sound familiar?

Yeah but we werent fwb be you are right about he wants what he wants and when he wants it. I think its that we both know that we arent not really a good match because i want him to be more inattentive because when he does its really amazing. And yes the sex is amazing and he even thinks so too. We love the banter we have together. The point is i know we both want to make it work but it turned out im the only one he thinks that it should be me who try to change and make it work.

you want to make it work despite not being a good match?

Posted by nbtts
Yeah but we werent fwb be you are right about he wants what he wants and when he wants it. I think its that we both know that we arent not really a good match because i want him to be more inattentive because when he does its really amazing. And yes the sex is amazing and he even thinks so too. We love the banter we have together. The point is i know we both want to make it work but it turned out im the only one he thinks that it should be me who try to change and make it work.

BINGO. Notice that in the convo with the Taurus who just voluntarily exited my life (thank God), that he never once mentioned trying to change? That he never once offered to put something on the table that he didn't want to previously give me? He wanted more of my attention and my time to try to convince me to be the one to do things differently. I have no time for that kind of relationship. Your situation might turn out differently, but if I were you, I'd go into it eyes wide open, expecting to be the one to make the sacrifices until you're completely out of your own will and into his.

Yeah i guess he is weighing a new girl and compare it with me. And i guess she was not really what he expected. And thats why he msged me. And thinking about it again.

The point is should i wait for him to contact me?

Posted by nbtts
Yeah i guess he is weighing a new girl and compare it with me. And i guess she was not really what he expected. And thats why he msged me. And thinking about it again.

The point is should i wait for him to contact me?

that is quite a number of assumptions.

don't wait. he's not.