Need some input here...(Long story)...

Hi new here, long time reader though, love this board.

Guys I'm in a serious emotional state of mind right now and don't know what to do.

The thing is that I think I've fallen in love against my will, really, I had this FWB relationship, I tried to separate things, you know, trying not to involve feelings. After we met one year ago we saw each other a couple of times but talked through internet almost everyday, we chatted, had fun, hung around etc I thought we were friends having some fun until my birthday came and he didn't send any message not even posted on my facebook wall, nothing at all , I waited like three days and still nothing. I honestly felt hurt because I didn't expect it, of all the people who greeted me that day the least person I thought I wasn't going to receive a "happy b-day have fun" message was him. so three days later I sent him an email saying how felt about it and he didn't respond, no answer back not even saying " don't be such a dramma queen" or " I forgot about it sorry" ...whatever. The reason I felt hurt is because he told me he didn't want to lose me as a friend that he cared about me that he wanted to be important for me and he did things who actually showed that he really cared about me being helpful for example when I needed help, favors, worried etc. But my attitude was always cold/hot because I didn't want to be sentimental knowing he told me once he was still suffering for his ex girlfriend, so I put a wall on my heart. well, as I didn't receive any reply to my email I didn't call him or sent messages or talked to him for 5 months and during that time he didn't try to make any contact with me either. Then I realized I missed him so much and wanted to know how was he so I logged in to his gmail account and he was online, we started talking again and he was the nicest guy ever, he acted like nothing had happened, this was on October. We hung out two times, had fun, nothing sexually happened just like good friends but now I feel terrible,I decided to give him some clues about how I feel but then felt like shit the other day when he once again told me he had been seeing with his ex girlfriend and felt the feeling between them was stronger than before, which I honestly believe is a lie because he had told me he was ok, alone, no women around etc. ALl of a sudden he said that, I controlled myself and told him I was glad but that he had to do something if he really loved her or cared...

Looks like there is only one real solution that can end your suffering. 🙂

wow it's taking me to long , sorry.

The thing is I don't know if he's playing mind games with me, I know he's a bit inmature and his biggest problem is communicating, expressing how he feels because he's afraid of being hurt, he's got some issues I know that, he told me today he feels panic after we talked a bit on how he manage to deal with some stuff I told him I wanted to know something and if he was willing to give an honest answer, he said "ok, but would it be convenient to know now?" and I said I wanted to know somehting and I asked him why he didn't reply to my email then he said " I don't remember that email did you send me one?" ..........and I got mad hahahhaa I said, you know what forget it I gotta go".

damn it why does he act that way!! like he doesn't remember when I think he actually does otherwise why he didn't talk to me for 5 months and when I clearly read on twitter that he missed me. ( some confused messages I got but I'm sure they were about me).

I finally said "we'll talk later and that he owns me a conversation he said ok".

what do you think? does he or not have feelings for me. we're clearly both stubborn fellas but he confuses me. The only reason I don't want to tell him how I feel is because I don't want to make a fool of myself because he may actually don't want anything more from me.

arghh

sorry it took me a while, read the rest...what that solution would be? hi btw🙂

hid that because sometimes I give out tmi,then feel creeped out.lol

but welcome anyway. 🙂

Will you be fine to just let things continue the way they are right now?

Posted by TauritaTerca

Guys I'm in a serious emotional state of mind right now...so I logged in to his gmail account.

Wow! So you're stupid and you're crazy.

I was going to leave it at that but uhm, grow the fuck up! Can't make a ho a housewife. And a crazy ho? Don't tell that bitch where you lay. But a stupid, crazy ho? Don't even tell her your real name. That was his mistake. He told you real shit and now your wacked out ass is breaking into his gmail and catching feelings and shit. You aint seen his dicknballs in five months and you're in love? You're decoding his 100+ character tweets to be secret messages to you?

Whaaaaaaat?

Bitch, he doesn't even give a damn that you were ever born...literally.

Cutiebullie you're damn right, I don't know who I am fooling, well yes I know.... myself. I was expecting him to tell me he feels something for me and then I would give the next steps, but well you're right I've got nothing to lose.I'm gonna have to get courage to do so though:S and I don't know how long that could take lol. I'm a bit slow when is about emotions.

thank you very much.

I meant I logged in to my gmail account and he was there in the chat, I don't use it , I use msn and he uses gmail chat.

don't need those tough/rude words caligula.

thanks

Hi Taurita..what sign is he? Or did I miss that?

I'm taurus ascendant taurus, moon in leo and venus in aries, he's a taurus ascendant pisces, moon in pisces and venus in aries.


I've never had a fwb before, this is my first time ( had a long relationship before which took me a while to move on), I thought I was mature enough to handle it and could act like the independant woman I am taking the right decitions in order not to get involve in a relationaship and just have fun...well I was so wrong it backed fire at me,now I'm sure I won't do it again. And yes I recognize I am a player too, I always get what I want, it's always been easy to get men's attention but this one got me hanged.

I won't tell him anyhting, I'm gonna turn the page and that's it.

thanks.

Lol...venus in aries is one crazy bitch. Gotta love her though.

If you are in a FWB situation with him, then that's all he feels for you. You can't expect him to feel anything for you. He got involved in the sex with you, not anything else. Sorry, but that's how I see it.

cuttiebullie you're right in everything you've said so far, what do you want me to say? "it is what it is as simple as that" " you started it wrong" " you're expecting too much".......all right to the point, in some way I knew this deep inside but I just wanted somebody to tell me the awful truth right in my face, as politely caligula did LOL!.

I'll explain you guys a little bit more the whole situation.

Am I scared? yes I am, after my last long relationship I got a bit insecure, I loved my ex so much, he was my first love ny first man, my first everything, it's like I am afraid to give and love so much as I did before and get hurt again eventhough my ex treated me like a queen, so well, he broke up with me for other reasons and we actually talked later about it in a very nice way, we didn't end up things badly. But anyway I know is something I have to work on. I know I'm not getting any younger either haha.

Now what I got into is with no doubt the worst choice I've made in my life but I'm to blame for this from the beggining 'cuz when we started dating ( 1 year and 1/2 back)everything was ok, I was glad to have met him I tought he was the right one after my ex and I was ready to give it a try, 1 month later he told me he had met another woman he apologized saying" I'm sorry I'm not usually like this but I'm charmed by her" I reacted coldly and said "ok wish you the best" and kept on with my life,of course I got hurt, mad, wanted to kill him etc but didn't do anything I just ignored him and gave him the cold shoulder, three months later he came back to me started talking on msn and I was nice, polite like a friend like I didn't care what he had done to me, months passed by until we met and I fell in his arms, two days later he broke up with the other woman and from there it became ugly for me. let's say that from january 2009 till may 5 2010 we had sex two times, the rest we just hanged out , went to concerts, watched movies, ate and that's all, that's why it hurt me so much when he didn't greet me for my birthday.I could not understand his reaction why he was doing this to me again? was he testing me, what the hell did he want? was so confused so I got mad sent him a short email saying good bye and I have to recognize that I lied and said something stupid like " eventhough we had intimacy we are adults and we are supposed to be friends and friends care for each other and greet her/him in that special day" I wanted a reaction and he did nothi

that's the truth now hit me.

Look, when you first meet a man it should be on FIRE! Ok, I'm an Aries but that first contact should be pretty great. When he went for another girl AFTER knowing you, that should have been enough for you to know it wouldn't work out. No do-overs, no 3 strikes (this ain't baseball), he met you and still had the hots for another. That is a slap in the face and he knows it. Never let a man back in your life after he rejected you.

Shake it off. Let it go. It's a learning experience. If you are ever tempted to do the same thing again then remember the sting and that will help you from making further mistakes. 😄 Above all, be good to yourself, protect your heart & soul and only give it to those who can cherish it.

are you telling me that this was his way of dumping you?


---yes it was and he did the same with the other woman, he told me he broke up with her through email. I told him it was wrong blah blah and he said he knew. I think he's the one with the issues to feel panic to love someone? and my issues is with the security, 'cuz if I knew he's got feelings for me I know I'd do something,,,,, anyway that tells you a lot about him and his behaviour but me? I'm so dumb I know. he still continues talking to me, we have a good communication but when is about our feeling we don't. It's impossible to me now not to talk to him. Last night for example he told me about his trip for this holidays what he has bought etc he was even willing to help to move out from my apartment, he inicitates conversation most of the time. Arrrrghhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh I'm so angry but I can't resist to laugh at his jokes. He may feel just confortable sharing things with me.and that's it!.

arrrgh

Posted by cutiebullie
both of you are a taurus 😢

i'm sorry but i think if it was me, i wouldn't be talking to him anymore. i will tell him honestly how he makes me feel and stop pretending i am ok with how he treats me, he may not like what he will hear from me, but atleast i was real.......

I think he is a Pisces CB...and Taurita, CB is giving you great advice!

He as a Pisces and maybe sees you as more distant emotionally. He also might be thinking you are fine with a FWB relationship and not serious about him. So TELL him you want something more with him. I know it may be hard for you to do this, you are scared to be rejected. But at least you will know and if he rejects you, then you can move on. Maybe he will be pleasantly surprised. Keep us posted, whatever you decide.

He's a taurus with his moon on pices mine he's taurus too but moon in leo.

I did have a short conversation with him,I didn't tell him anything though I just misleaded the conversation so that he could say something I wanted to know...and well I got this "we're ok as being friends". At least I know "that" without telling him what I feel. and all honestly is better this way I also found out that when he knows something isn't working with the girl he is with he just says "NEXT". he says "if love comes it comes, if not I'm gonna have fun in the meantime". I have to remind you that after we started talking again 3 months ago, nothing has happened between us, so we just chat.

he usually talks to me during the day through msn making jokes, asking me things etc. I sometimes iniciate the chatting too, but that's it! but I'm fine. I sort of feel now I have this good connection with someone I happen to know :S

OK, not a Pisces, my bad CB

yeah CB, well, that's it.

thanks for the input, you guys are great and FUN! 🙂