nice girls finish last. starting to see the truth

wtf..im a little aggravated because this is a reality 4 me..it seems every man always say you are a good woman/good girl dam but it seems to not work out,,then they come back later and say you were the best thing that has ever happen to me i want to be with you blah blah blah,okay by then im not interested at all in the person..any other taurus women experiences similar to this..now granted most men that i have came across tells me you are nothing like your exterior,maybe seem cold on the outside,but down for most things on the inside//exterior tomboyish,sometimes girlie,realist,quiet,reserved/interior-very girlie,like to dominated by the right man,traditional,supportive and ambitious,confident..i guess i said all of that to say just tired of the games that men have to offer..i think it just comes a time when the games and b/s should cease i guess the world would be better,,but that too much like right..ole well..Sighs......i guess today i just dont feel as confident as i normally do-needed to vent

Girlfriend - go ahead and vent away! Yes, I get that from men I've seriously dated all the time that they thought I was snobbish/stuck-up/prissy, etc. THEN, they get to know my other side that's crazy, loves sports, loves to cuss and loves to cook (and eat) - they fall in love with both parts of me because I am all of those things wrapped up in a phenomenal package, and so ARE YOU! Not defending the men at all, but sometimes you really DON'T know what you had until it's gone, but as you stated, "by then im not interested at all in the person." Their loss. Timing is EVERYTHING, and sometimes the timing just sucks. Think about those stories of people that went to highschool/college together and then didn't see each other for 10, 15, 20 years, just to meet again and fall in love and be together. It happens. It doesn't make either of you bad people, but sometimes we ALL need to grow up.
Take care of YOU and the rest will come in time 😉

Posted by taurus35
most men that i have came across tells me you are nothing like your exterior,maybe seem cold on the outside,but down for most things on the inside//exterior tomboyish,sometimes girlie,realist,quiet,reserved/interior-very girlie,like to dominated by the right man,traditional,supportive and ambitious,confident..i guess i said all of that to say just tired of the games that men have to offer..i think it just comes a time when the games and b/s should cease i guess the world would be better,,but that too much like right..ole well..Sighs......i guess today i just dont feel as confident as i normally do-needed to vent

^^this is so true....i think that goes for most taureans, we act different among friends, family and people we don't know, thats why we seem contradictory at times!!
i am told a lot that i seem distanced/unapproachable/reserved and downright rude at first when actually i am the total opposite, i guess we like to get to know people first and then decide to let them get closer or not!
After all we are very private people...

That's right BulLeo, we ARE very private people. If only people would understand that, then they would have a better chance of "getting us."

thanks everyone for your replies,just had to get it out,,normally dont say much,,just observe,,but ohh did it feel good to get it out...any yes it is their loss very much their loss and sometimes it feels good to know that....but it just seems like such a waste of time and energy...thanks again

i feels ya!

and yes, it's happened to me more than i care to admit. you're with someone. you do your best to be the best you. you "turn the other cheek" in regard to their shortcomings and try to view them for their good instead of their bad. the relationship falls apart. if it's my choice, it's whatever, but those times when it's been his choice, yes...they always seem to come back and in a way, that hurts more than the original departure. like wtf did i have to endure THAT in order for you to realize you want to be where we once were?

sadly, as much as i might still care for the person, wish him no ill-will, the dream of "us" was shattered the moment he walked away and i don't care to put it back together.

i questioned this mentality once though. what happens when you know that someone is right for you in many ways, that if you were just willing to allow them to repair the damage that things could end where you originally thought they would? would you try again? should you try again?

for me, the answer has be "no" on at least two occasions. i wonder if it's my stubbornness that refuses to allow the mend? maybe maturity has caused me to realize i don't want this person in my life or maybe resentment and anger on my part keep us from moving forward? either way, i don't feel capable of "reloving" someone. i either love you or i don't. what's dead is gone and never will be.

i'm ok with taking my time to find someone that is the right fit for me. hopefully i will have long days ahead of me so where my friends of a similar age are in a panic, i wait calmly and patiently for my prince to come..."yeah, like a dumbass" as my scorp friend would say.

i agree with that it is something about the coming back..i dont think i would go back because it would be lack of trust there how do i know you wont do it again,,we would be forever strained and i dont think i could live with that on my mind on a daily basis that would be too much 4 me..

^agreed

i agree it takes a long time for me to let someone in also..even family members,,im so quiet and reserved its crazy and sometimes i wish i could be more open....its just not going to happen and the killing part is the older i get the more closed off i get...most of the time i just dont want to be bothered,,then there are times when i just have to get out,,then it goes back to not wanting to be bothered..im the true form of introvert...and i only let people in who i can trust...and that has to be earned over time