Older Taurus Male and Older Scorpio Female

Here's one for all of you out there....I know that alot is said about the Scorpio's Eyes, but have you really looked into the eyes of the Taurus Male...they're just as deep and mystical. I never noticed this Taurean until about a month ago at work...he is older around 50 I am about 46 and he works in another department that was just consolidated into ours. I had seen him before, but I really never paid attention until he sat in front of me....there's this calmness about him..and his voice, well, talk about calming me down....I know he's interested but I don't want to ruin a potential friendship. He comes over at break time and is always asking me questions...he seems a little nervous at times...don't know what to do....he's very attentive, which is what I like, but I'd like to get to know him better without scaring him off...He just broke off a relationship that he had for about 3 years> What should I do—

I would leave him alone, unless you want to be his rebound. Someone who is just getting over a relationship isn't ready for another one. If you don't mind being used, then maybe you could have sex with him, but it will never turn into anything good. Trust me I know!!! Better to have a good friend then a lousy lover!

Don't think that being the "Rebound" hasn't bothered me.....But with him I guess I'll just have to wait and see....I would prefer to be a good friend..to be there for him and not just a fling.....being a typical scorp I don't want to use anyone and don't want anyone to use me

65,

I would say give him at least 6 months maybe more? That way you can get to know each other as friends first and it may work out great!!! I was in a relationship and married for 10 years and then two weeks after that I was in another. I met him in the bar and I was down there to see my husband and the new guy it, but went for me anyway! We were together 14 years, but 5 years ago it ended sexually and emotionally. The years together were not good! He paid for it and so did I!!!

That should have read, and the new guy knew it. In other words he understood my situation at that time.

By the way, I have moved on and I am single.
I have had more than enough time to get over the past.
The next time around will be the last as far as I concerend for me, and will be the best and it will be solid, supportive, and a loving relationship!

I would take all the time you need to see if this person is the one you want to be with BEFORE you invest too much emotion into it.

...and give him the time he needs to get over his 'stuff'.

There is no way a person can just move on to the next person and forget about the other that they had shared a life with, not that quickly!!! It's not like flipping on and off a light switch. It doesn't work that way. You will catch all of the anger, sadness, grief, etc. The end or break-up of a relatioship feels like someone or thing died and it takes alot of healing.

Good Luck and hang in there if you care about him! Hope it works the way you want it to. "Good things are worth waiting and working for!"

Thanks for all your good advise....I'd like to hear from a Taurus Male around 40-50 years old also....

How do you know that I am not a Taurus male around 50?

I don't but if you are, thank you..

If you are that Taurus (Over 50) then what's your take on relationships when you're at our age....What do you look for in a person who you want a relationship with...I always thought that aside from the physical aspect, the female should be much appreciative and warm....some people have said that when men get over 40 they regress emotionally and start to act like teenagers again...I don't believe it, but I have met some pretty shy guys over 40 and mid 50's who are very shy....they tell everyone else they're interested but when it comes to me the person, too shy to talk to me....How do I bring this person out...

Hi 65,

I am thinking here that you are not responsible for bringing him out. If he is shy, he is shy. One must accept him for his qualities. Maybe he isn't shy and you are perceiving him to be that way. Let it ALL go and let it happen naturally. If he is interested, he WILL respond and in his own time. Would you really want it any other way? Think about this....if a man really, really desires you, he will find ways for you to notice him. He will come "alive" with passion, fire and the hunt will begin. If you care for him, you too will challenge him, your fire will be lit by his actions. When you two come together the relationship will be one of both desiring to be involved. Hopefully, there will be honesty, respect and love along with happiness, peace and spontineity. A relationship where both will choose to participate out of desire to create and love. One must learn patience and understand that everything in it's own time will be revealed.

"Any man can give you the key to his bedroom, but a real man gives you the key to his heart." ~Leslie McKay

Awwww, I like that Freebird are you a free? I think I am in love with you! 🙂

Where's Taurus Male on this one?

I miss ya, luv!

(sorry for some reason I felt the need to get all British there for a second. lol)

Yes, where is TM?

I hope he decided to register, because you can't reply now if you don't.

We miss you, "two cents" LOL. I hope you didn't run out of pennies! 🙂

LOL!

*looking through purse for pennies to donate to TM

: )

"Any man can give you the key to his bedroom, but a real man gives you the key to his heart." ~Leslie McKay


I don't know about the rest of ya'll, but I would like to do more than just bump into whoever wrote this little hummer!

What a beautiful and romantic thing to say! Where can I find you, and how much will it cost me? LOL!

I am serious! I will pay big money for someone to talk to me like that! I think it would be well worth it. Do you write for a living? I bet you make your girlfriend's dreams come true. WOW WEE!!!

You have really got it and then some!!! I think you are very special!

Sincerely,

Sunflower *who's pouting and wishes she could have him for her very own*

PS too bad it wasn't a man that wrote the quote, but at least some still no how to be romantic!

Oh my Goodness!!!!!! THANK YOU Suzy-Q and Sunflower for your wonderful comments and special thoughts of me. I did not mean to confuse anyone here but I am a female.

I need to go for now as a friend has just shown up and needs my attention....will be back later 🙂

Well, let me chime in too! It makes no difference to me if you are a female or not, I wouldn't pay ya but the laughs would be on me! hahaha!

"A friend has shown up and needs my attention", huh? What exactly are you doing to your friend since you bought it up— This ought to be interesting!!!

Hi there, "Nice Slut"..... you have a very interesting name there....how did you aquire this? Boy am I nosey or what?

Loved your question about my friend showing up. LOL....

We just spent the day shopping, laughing, walking, spending....drinking coffee and oh....chocolate martini's....OMG...that chocolate kiss in the bottom does it for me everytime. Now, if only I had been with a guy...I would have asked him (very unsuspectedly) "do you want a kiss?" He hopefully would have said yes thinking it would be the kiss in the drink and I would sit up OVER the table and take his face into my hands and give him one with my "martini lips" Hmmmm...thoughts. You know what they say about THOUGHTS...behind every action is a thought!

that was my day...so far. Next?

Hi! Freebird,

Sounds like you and your friend had a great day! It is always nice to have a friend to do things with!

My name is pretty self explainitory, dontcha ya think?! You sound pretty smart; what do you think it means— It means just what it implies. I'm exclusive and nasty! LOL!
No, I have no more questions for you.

Have a great evening and see ya on the rebound!

Those chocolate kiss martinis sound great; I'll have to try one or two!

PS: I really liked what you had to say about behind every thought there is an action! Yes, this is true! Thanks for keeping me aware!

Freebird...what a truly inspirational thing to say..Well this weekend I found more things about my Taurus Gent...It seems that the breakoff has not been the 1st time...and it's seems that he ex had a substance abuse problem...this man opened up in such a flood of emotion that I had to keep pinching myself...he kept saying though that he didn't want me to think of him as a "Low Life". He opened up because there was another person who was telling me about her trials and tribulations with her soon to be ex..and he was sitting in a close vicinity and just let out his emotions....the three of us continued the conversation in the parking lot of our jobs and when we left we all hugged each other.....I don't think he's going to be shy, but the next day I did notice him to be a little offstandish...I thought about giving him a card....Do you think I should?

Hi Sammie5,

Thank you for the compliment, I really appreciate it. 🙂

What a wonderful experience the three of you had. Feels to me that everyone was comfortable to share their feelings and express themselves. Isn't that cool when we can share life with others? This reminds me of a particular quote, "We don't remember days, we remember moments."

"I thought about giving him a card....Do you think I should?" I will share with you my very honest opinion. I say, follow YOUR heart as it is unique to who you are. Your thought came to you for a reason. Ask yourself this question, "What would I do if this were my last day on earth?" Sammie, what would light you up, make YOU feel good? If it will make you feel good to send that card, I am very sure that the receiver will be so glad that you were thinking of him. Trust your feelings and you won't go wrong.

Him being standoffish.....well, one never knows why one does what they do. It just happened and may not mean a thing...could be that he is struggling with his own emotions...your kindness can never hurt.

I hope that I have been able to help in some way...take care, Sammie and keep me posted!

Freebird

Oh. My. Bloody. God.
pheonix 😛 haha

Luz dearest?! I heard my name? What can I do for you m'lady? lol : )

btw...this is such a nice thread! I've been reading but not posting yet...perhaps I will when I have more time later on.

Hey Freebird, I did give me the card yesterday, and he seemed very pleased...being a true Taurus, he started to smell the card and asked me why I did'nt put perfume on it? I guess the games on.....