Taurs Guy.... Ehhhh Not Sure

I met a Taurus guy a little over a month ago while visiting some friends in Chicago. I live in a small college town about 4 hours away from Chicago. We met the night before I left. The only time I was able to see him in person was in the club while we were talking.

He was on me like white on rice the entire night. Not in a disrespectful way, but there was no doubt that he was interested. I have been home. He has mentioned coming to visit me. He tells me that he is interested and would be open to see if a long distance thing would work. Buuuut... I am an action oriented person. Actions speak louder than words. I figure if he is REALLY interested, he will make a move and come visit me. I am also concerned about the distance. Long distance relationships are hard and men are visual creatures. Out of sight out of mind...

Consequently, I have not really taken him seriously. We face time here and there. He texts and calls me semi regularly. But again, I have not really taken him seriously. I was talking to a friend and she called me out for not taking him seriously and said that Taurus men are slow to make a move. My response, "that's not my issue". Lol. Not to sound like Billy Badass at all. I just figure if he was interested, he would make the appropriate provisions to see me and cultivate a relationship.

Idk... Do Taurus men move slow? Does this sound like a bunch of crap?

Oh... and he's young... well he's young than me. He's 27. For some reason, I always attract younger men... Anyhoo, thoughts?

Thanks!

Posted by BikerCh1ck
They are comfusing aren't they?
I think that you should flirt without investing any feelings. Make him horny. Excite him. If you sense that he is trying to play a power game to make you fall for him let him believe that he won. Pretend that you fell for it and you are after him. Observe what he is doing. Is he disappearing? Is he coming closer? Does he put extra effort into getting sex? These are his true intentions. He can't fake them.
That's your clue afterwards and where you chose to invest or not to invest. 😉

lol @ get him horny. well that's not hard! i kid... i kid... lol.

maybe your suggestion about observing him can be something i do until:

1) he proves himself

or

2) someone else comes along (lol)

hmmm.... idk.

Posted by BikerCh1ck
I meant that you are chasing him. Make him believe that you are in love with him and then observe what he's up to.
( My english is crap 😢 )

in love?!? lol. i barely know the man! ha!

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Posted by natural25

Idk... Do Taurus men move slow? Does this sound like a bunch of crap?

yes. we do. for the most part.
i'm a pretty fiery flavor of taurus, and even then, there is a typical slow and deliberate pace. i can be a bit shocking at times. but that's about it.

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ok... duely noted. hmmm...

bikerch1ck - yes. i get it...

i know about the dating/flirting with other men until we are exclusive.

you're basically saying to be flirtatious with him and see how he responds, correct?

Posted by Slicks
yes actions do speak louder than words, if he's interested he'll make moves but you have to give him something to work with, a lil' impetus to get things going...push/pull. but that depends on how much you're interested too

makes sense.... i have flirted with him, but not as much as i normally would, because i was not taking him seriously. maybe i will increase my flirting... what do i have to lose? it's fun.. ha!

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Posted by BikerCh1ck
I meant that you are chasing him. Make him believe that you are in love with him and then observe what he's up to.
( My english is crap 😢 )

in love?!? lol. i barely know the man! ha!

hahaha! I didn't say that you should fall in love until you are sure. I said pretend that you are more interested than what you are.
People reveal their true self in people they think they have for granted or are not as important. This is when noone is wearing a facet. You want to know this don't you? And you also want to know this fast so you won't invest feelings. Isn't that right?

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oooh ok.. i was going to say... lol

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Posted by natural25
bikerch1ck - yes. i get it...

i know about the dating/flirting with other men until we are exclusive.

you're basically saying to be flirtatious with him and see how he responds, correct?

YES. CORRECT.

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roger that.

taurus men are so interesting to me. either they live these lavish lives or they are boring as hell... at least that has been my experience.

Posted by Slicks
yeah that's all it should be at this point..fun. I take it you only met this dude once?

Yup just once. That's another reason I do not take him seriously. I really do not know him. We haven't spent much time together.... In person, we had amazing chemistry, but on the phone he was not much of a talker..

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Posted by Slicks
yeah that's all it should be at this point..fun. I take it you only met this dude once?

Yup just once. That's another reason I do not take him seriously. I really do not know him. We haven't spent much time together.... In person, we had amazing chemistry, but on the phone he was not much of a talker..

OMG! I have seen my taurus too only once. He is not a talker either. We had plenty of chemistry too when we met.. Passionate kisses. I almost had sex with him. It took lots of effort from my part to take the decision and kick him out of home. He still remembers the passion. hahaaha!
Worry about how he is when you two are together. He will open up 🙂 with time

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The issue lies in the distance. I have been in a long distance relationship before and in order to be in a successful one, both people have to be able to communicate. They have to be "talkers". Lol.

Posted by Slicks
if you're still interested try to appear available/welcoming then wait and see how he responds. if the chemistry was that good the first time you met and something else hasn't taken over his life in the meantime (work, personal issues, another female) he'll pull through if he's as interested as claims to be. 4 hours though? that's a lot of effort lol

just do you, don't wait on this guy as you said its not that serious

Yes, four hours is not close by any means. Lol. I have a male Taurus friend who I used to be really close to. Well, first we were dating but he turned out to be really shallow. Anyway, we ended up as friends and I remember him saying that he could never be in a long distance relationship. It seems like that might be true for many T men, as it appears they appreciate and like to enjoy (lol) beautiful things/people in person.

We'll see what happens.... Who knows.

Yup, going to do me and see what he does.

Posted by Slicks
physical interaction is a big deal for me. skype/facetime only goes so far...it doesn't matter we're doing as long as we're together.

taurus guy as we speak is probably working out the logistics of making a long distance relationship work or weighing up his chances of making you a friend with benefits.

I can understand that. As I said in my op, long distance relationships are hard. When with someone, most people by nature crave intimacy and companionship. Long distance relationship lack in both areas. It takes a lot!

FWB— Naaaahhh not happening... Lol. But if he decides to make a bet on that hand, he will have to find that out for himself.

@natrual 25.. Taurus men are worth the wait. In your scenario though, long distance relationship can be a rocky start especially for scorpio and Taurus paring. We don't always speak the same language so physical interactions is a must . Taurus and Scorpio paring needs strong physical connection to create that long lastiing bond. The fact that he calls you and bother to keep in touch with you knowing that you are far away proves me that he's interested but he feels you are not that interested. There's a lot of risk involved and we Taurus hate risky things. We like to see a practical results. So in my opinion if you want to see anything happen at all between you and him.. You have to be straight forward with me. Don't take him seriously but say it otherwise. Taurus wont bother with you once he feels he's just being played etc. They are very cautious. good luck !

@ milky soft. We are taruus with venus in Gemini and we move as fast as lightning when it comes to knowing what we want !!! I feel that Taurus men move slowest.

Girl dont even waste your time . I met one two months ago and he hooked me with all this same story. Then started dissapear ing w issues . There are others on here too same thing same story. Read the post taurus and silence below? I'm telling you you are going to get hurt big time especially with a distance . It's fun now after he gets you it's hell. Sorry so blunt but My experience right now..

I took it lightly too just as you did. At first. Reserved. Then they have a way of putting some kinda passion chemistry spell on you and then your left with your heart hurting so bad . I wish I would have walked big time cuz I have been misserable for almost a month now and I did not want or need this .

Mine wants to see me everyday and we are only one hour apart. So that is part of it . Which is rediculous what's an hour lol. But it's hard with jobs during the week . You crave to see each other and miss them cuz you gotta wait a few days 😢. I also had a four hour relationship for six months back and forth on weekends once. It gets hard . Things come up you can't go . You are dying missing them crying and sad . And eventually the distance broke it . I nearly died and never have gotten over it. Once again sorry to be so not fun but I've been there done that and it's amazing first then kills you

No wasn't flirting w anyone . We are older its not like that anymore . Sounds like you have it under control just be careful is all I'm sayin

Posted by MilkySoft
It's kinda a rocky foundation to begin a long distance relationship (meeting once at a club), though you seem to know this. Have you had deep conversations that have allowed him to really get to know your personality and heart, or is communication more along the lines of "hey sexy, how was your day?" "how was work?" the latter gets old fast, but the former can really intrigue and definitely inspire someone to do a bit of traveling to meet someone they connect with.

Do flirt and encourage him. You've only met once, it's kind of weird driving 4 hours to see someone if you feel like the reception might be tepid. If there's a feeling that you're not that interested, he may back out.

I understand not wanting to take it too seriously until he puts some action behind his words (which he definitely needs to do) just make sure you're properly enthusiastic when he mentions visiting.

And no, I actually don't think Taurus moves too slowly when it comes to romantic matters. I feel like making a huge post about it.

Yup, the distance is the clincher. I'll flirt and see how it goes.

But I am definitely not going to get ahead of myself.

And about the moving slow part.... Now that I think about it... When I dated a Taurus guy a couple years ago, he did not move slow. He was asking me out and making an effort IMMEDIATELY.

Posted by saweetz1988
@natrual 25.. Taurus men are worth the wait. In your scenario though, long distance relationship can be a rocky start especially for scorpio and Taurus paring. We don't always speak the same language so physical interactions is a must . Taurus and Scorpio paring needs strong physical connection to create that long lastiing bond. The fact that he calls you and bother to keep in touch with you knowing that you are far away proves me that he's interested but he feels you are not that interested. There's a lot of risk involved and we Taurus hate risky things. We like to see a practical results. So in my opinion if you want to see anything happen at all between you and him.. You have to be straight forward with me. Don't take him seriously but say it otherwise. Taurus wont bother with you once he feels he's just being played etc. They are very cautious. good luck !

Thanks for the feedback! I know youre all for the Scorpio/Taurus pairing. Lol.

Posted by BikerCh1ck
Don't think about it as a relationship when flirting with him. You never know if he choses to move out from where he lives and move closer to you. Just flirt and whatever is meant to be it will.
Don't sleep with him either.
If he is interested and there is a chance for him to move closer he will. In the meanwhile keep it light and have fun.
I know you are excited right now but don't get focused on him.
A nice ego boost isn't he?

Yea... Ill just flirt and see what happens.

Im not too worried about having sex with him. Not going to happen. Lol. I dont have sex with men unless we are dating.

You know what.... I am not actually really not all that excited... Im not apathetic. But I am not burst at the seams. I just feel calm about it. Whatever happens... happens. lol. Maybe that is not a good sign. Ha!

Posted by Super-Sag
I took it lightly too just as you did. At first. Reserved. Then they have a way of putting some kinda passion chemistry spell on you and then your left with your heart hurting so bad . I wish I would have walked big time cuz I have been misserable for almost a month now and I did not want or need this .

#dead. you are hilarious!

he COULD get me, but I am not so sure. i truly am not very excited at all. im in school and i just started teaching a class. i have a lot going on... that has actually been a little of my problem within the past year in regards to dating.