First taurus ever *confused*

I'll try to make this short. I am 33 and I met a taurus guy who is 27. Wasn't attracted to him at first but he was persistant. I recently got out of a long relationship and told him I wasnt looking for anything serious. In the beginning he would call or text all the time. He would tell me he missed me. Once we started being sexual he would say things like u got me open and he wants me to be his. The very last time we were having sex he said he loved me (during the act). I ignored it because I don't need love right now. He said it a few more times that night. The next day he said he was drunk lol.

This is longer than I thought...sorry. But in the last month after the whole love situation, he hasn't been around much. The calls are less frequent. He said that he has his 2 year old son more and he would have him more that monthand that's where his time is spent. I told him to handle his business and if we are both still interested then we could go back to normal. He assured me that he would make time for me. There were a few times he was supposed to come see me but "something" came up.I get really mad when actions don't match words. He finally confessed that the reason I want come to his house is because he let his childs mother move back in for a month.

Ugh.... that last statement. smh Why bother? He has too much going on in his personal life.

Part 2
I was pissed but not surprised. I felt like that was the case. I told him that I am nobodys mistress. He claims that its just business and she sleeps in the finished basement. He said he just wants things to go smoothly until she moves out. Really— He is secretive, especially now. He saying that he wanted a relationship with me but I hurt his feelings when I said I didn't want one. I think he's saying anything to keep me around. The more I tell him I'm done with him the more he calls. I told him to try and make it work with her. My 12 year relationship ended because my childs father left me for a younger taurus girl (how ironic). Persistance paid off for her. I guess I'm not confused at all just wanted to tell my story and get feedback.

Ok, I am a capricorn and we usually think things through before acting. No I don't think that there is longevity with him because our personalities are not in sync (could be age), not sure. However, he is not a rebound. I have dated a sagittarius and an aquarius previous to him. The aquarius was very open. He could talk to me about other women and I wasn't bothered by it because im just not interested in a love relationship until I have healed fully. I want to be able to give my all when its time. I just don't like for people to lie when they don't have to. I actually want to write an astrology book based on my experiences. I needed a little more insight cause that was just one taurus. I see that they tend to keep exes close.

Oh yea btw I am still very good friends with the aquarius. He understood how I felt I appreciated his honesty after being lied to for years. Its not about love, its about honesty. I would hope for him and his childs mother to work. That's why I choose to step aside. I can say that the sex is amazing but I'm not selfish. Although my situation with my ex was volatile I sometimes wish that taurus girl woulda took my same stance. No feelings for ex anymore but it woulda been nice to have a choice. He could have real feelings for me but Im not that girl.

Lol as I type this he just sent a text...funny!

I like what robyn is saying here.

All you have a choice to do here is believe him or not believe him. Its your choice, and if he's lying that is on him . You are not built to care, since you dont see a future with him. And since you dont see a future, Im not sure what the issue or problem is at this point cause if nothing is there it should be easy to just back off and not concern yourself so much with his honesty or dishonesty.

I have totally backed off. He is still in pursuit. I am not heartless. Just because I don't want a love relationship right now doesn't mean I don't care about him. I have shared my body with this guy. Friends with benefits with the keyword "friends".

+1 Robyn & Inana

You want your cake and you wanna eat it too but life doesn't work that way, the moment you said you did not want something serious all bets where off that he had to include you in his personal life.

He actually sounds/seem like a nice guy, he was honest with you about his current situation, a lot of men would tell you nothing and keep getting into your panties so he can't be that bad..

You added sex to the mix and yet still wanted sex well you got it but what you don't get is to be in his personal business when you are the one that pushed love and intimacy out of your life. You don't get to be mad at him when you choose to avoid real love and real intimacy.

You rejected him and he moved on. Guess the baby mama was persistent too because she got to him first. You snooze you lose.

Next time open your heart to a man or yes he'll move on quickly, men are aware of their options and if they want love love will find him.

I don't know one man who will stick it out with a closed down woman who uses him for sex, a man might do it to a woman but they damn sure don't want it done to them.

Forgive and let go and don't get involved with a man until you're absolutely sure and love and being in love and in a relationship is on the table.

Being in love/a relationship should at least be an open option but you closed that option down with this guy so he opened his heart to someone else who would reciprocate.

Stop punishing the guy and take responsibility for your fuck up...

Tiki and the rest, he pursued me knowing how I felt about having a relationship. He was a willing participant regarding sex with no strings. He didn't say he wanted a relationship with me until he HAD to tell me about the ex. The fact of the matter is he lied to me for weeks. You all don't mind being lied to that's on you. He's such a great guy that he is trying to cheat on his babymama with me. I'm a bad person for stepping aside? Not answering his text? Or sending him pics as requested? You all are very one sided smh

I honestly started this thread because I wanted to know if anyone else has experienced anything similiar with a taurus man. I have seen some posts about tauruses and exes. I just dont buy the whole sleeping in the basement thing. I gave him the benefit of the doubt at first. But he started to act like a married man (only calling from work, turning his phone off at night esc). I feel like I dodged a bullet. I didn't know I would be judged because I prefer fwb at this point in my life. I never strung anyone along. I told him up front and that's all I asked of him. If the roles were reversed and I caught feelings and he didn't ...u would say well he told u in the beginning.

girl just read the whole taurus board...taurus men are known for this imo....harem of women and plenty of options always.

You set the boundary "FWB" thus he really didn't owe you an explanation. This is a situation where you are looking at your situation in YOUR SHOES only which prevent you from seeing the part you played in the outcome.

I'm not saying he's without fault. I'm saying you too are at fault. You want to be the victim well fine but doing that prevent you from seeing your own errors which prevent correction.

Next time you want sex with no strings well fine but don't expect anything more than that. He threw back in your face what you had been doing all along, being UNAVAILABLE and you didn't like it.

As for his ex he didn't lie, he just didn't tell you his ex was still in his life and because you only wanted sex he owed you no explanation.

He only came clean because you began ACTING as more than a friend with benefits after the fact. The moment you displayed a STANDARD he went out the door.

You have no standards in the BEGINNING and then you turn around on him and define a standard by expecting him to do what he says he's going to do but WAIT, he's just a sex buddy so what in the hell are you talking about with this new expectation. Maybe you should learn/relearn FWB etiquette.

See it's not just him, it's you too so the next time you meet a man and you only want sex let it stay that way because here's how it really should have went down.

He didn't show up and instead getting mad, you drop him immediately b/c getting mad means you BELIEVED all that mumbo jumbo talk about love and interpreted that as him being so into you he's going to be with you as in be his girlfriend. Getting mad is a standard a girlfriend has for her BOYFRIEND, not a fuck buddy.

Instead of just letting it go, moving on, dropping the guy you suddenly come up with an expectation whereas before there was none.

Do you see why it's over? Because truly if he was just a sex buddy you wouldn't give 2 shits about some other woman and continue to get your freak on.

Dang, i was like well...miimii does have a point, but Tiki you have an even better point.

Miimii, im a capricorn too, and you caught feelings. You can deny it or go back n forth until you are blue in the face, but "we" do set the tone, and a screwed up one at times i must admit.

With no strings attached there shouldn't be a reason to lie to me. I actually answered his phone call last night. She is still there. He still insist that there is nothing between them but he still can't call me from home. He still acts like a married man. He says he's keeping the peace so he can't let her know he's dating anyone ( I wasn't the only one). Having been cheated on in the past I just don't understand the motivation behind him trying to keep me around now that his woman is back. Sounds like he wants his cake and eat it too.

I could care less about what y'all don't understand about my situation but there is not a woman on here, feelings or not that wants to be lied to. I chose to get into the situation and I'm choosing to let it go.

Never said he is doing me wrong. Actually he's trying to do the babymama wrong. The post wasn't meant to bash him. I thought I would gain insight for knowledge purposes. Didn't know if was a taurus trait to run game on women or do they really fall in love with unavailable people. Wanted to know if the harem of women thing was true. I have never dated a taurus and was curious. Guess I have to seek answers elsewhere lol. I wasn't hurt just disappointed in the lies. Its almost like I'm typing in some other language no one else understands lol. I guess everyone wants to be right.

Btw although I'm not his victim I don't like him trying to make me apart of deceiving someone else.

Don't mean to keep talking about this but just got back from the club and I'm buzzing. Ok so Taurus has been calling and texting all week. Tonight I'm just fed up so I tell him to put that effort into his relationship. I said there is no ppint in us communicating especially if we never see each other anymore. I told him that I'm done answering him and I am not his babymama. He said " I know u not my babymama u my wife. And u not done with shit I will talk to u tomorrow when I see u". He might be a little off. He really doesn't take no for an answer and its kinda scary. Maybe he doesn't take me seriously. I need to ignore all texts and calls again...sorry people, I just felt like posting this lol OSDS(on some drunk stuff).

Omg I forgot the best (or worst) part. The last text he wrote love u gn. He must be drunk...I can't