Taurus and sex....

Now that I got your attention....

Do Taurus folks view sex differently between people that they "just date" and those that they consider permanent relationship material?

I have a Taurus fellow who has was very sexy, sexual, but also romantic...while we were together.

Then we split and over the years we have chatted online and he has been increasingly "super porn" focused, crude, rude, even violent in his sexual discussions. I am a sexual gal so I have played along with the extremity.

Now that we are talking again about a relationship and future and stuff....he seems to avoid talking about sex at all.

So what gives Taurus folks....do you like your fun time friends to be really naughty but your partners to be more virginal?
And how do you get THAT horse back in the barn?

Posted by ands
i would start out with respect and be romantic but say if i found out u liked to be pounded really hard and not be mushy then i adjust.

Omg greatest response

LOL Thanks guys... I was just trying to figure out the change in tone. Since at the moment we are so far apart, we talk a lot on line. The "ultra porn, ultra violence" domination aspect seems to have switched off. So I thought it might be a sign thing.

Posted by ands
i would start out with respect and be romantic but say if i found out u liked to be pounded really hard and not be mushy then i adjust.

Hahaha loved this

Hear me out: he wants to fuck you. He wants to spread your thighs aggressively yet sensually and invade your body. Probably bite you, pull your hair...dig his fingers in your hips and grip your soft arse while he pumps you like he's never taken you before. Maybe even yell a curse word from your positive reaction to this and finally cum. It's a release like no other. But...you played along, did? Did ANY of what he said to you online truly turn you on? Did IT? Hopefully it did. Be shrewd...be smart because you MUST gad about this guy...seduce him when you see him. Slightly resist but tempt him to grab you and then let him fuck you..and YOU...fuck HIM. React to it. Revel in it. When you cum...smell him, kiss him. Tell him how you feel. Tell him you enjoyed it. Tell he was wonderful...tell him to fuck you like that...again. tell him only HE can. Post here again when you're happy with you're lover. You have nothing to lose and if it doesn't work out you will have gained knowledge that being open with your lover truly DOES remove plenty mental hang ups men BEGIN relationships with. Ex: chick is sexual but doesn't wanna be MY whore. I want to be HER whore. She WANTS the good good but never GIVES the good good...calls me a fucking year later to see if I still care. I'm a virgo..I ignore...the bull will either trample you or exploit that chink in your armored tiara. All the best.



Thanks so much for your reply..this makes perfect sense....I am a freaky Aries...so I am down with it all....but the retreat from porn mountain was so sudden. I will just take his lead.

Posted by minata
I think he sees you in a different light now which is awesome. He wants a future with you, his future wife can still be a freak in the bed but romance and sweetness first. Ive done the same before...when you stop seeing someone as just sex but something more...everything else about you matters now...but sex is still a big deal. Still I'd never talk about hardcore bdsm style sex talk with someone I respected. If you want that and push for that kind of talk you'll just confuse him, lol.

Thanks Minta, that makes perfect sense!

Posted by TauruSaurus
ScarlettGirl- "Now that we are talking again about a relationship and future and stuff....he seems to avoid talking about sex at all." Since you're talking about the actual relationship and your future, more things probably come to his mind than the sex as other factors are involved. If by "virginal" you may be describing innocent, then in a way that might be a quality he values in the sense that you can control yourself to be naughty when you want to be. You said you both already talked about all the sexual stuff right? Time to talk about the other things now...Answering your ?, I would say: NO, they view the relationship differently more than the sex. Lot's of great points from everyone here. Overall, his sexual energy might be higher than yours and in his mind it might seem more normal, which is why he may turn it down some if he thinks it makes you uncomfortable. @ANDS-Good view, got to start out with respect and see where it goes/adjusts between the two people.

@TauruSaurus

Thanks for your reply. To be honest, I think that there was a lot of pain on both sides when we split and over the years, some of the sexual stuff on reflection seems more about humiliation and punishment. Now that we have sorted out a lot of those issues, that aspect seems gone...which is good...but he now seems like he is trying to take it back...which you can't...and seems uncertain how to go forward. I think that maybe I will avoid the sexual aspect all together for a while and let him initiate that conversation when he feels comfortable.

As an Aries, my typical response would be to just throw it on the table, talk about it and move on...but you mysterious, private, contemplative Taurus folks are much deeper. :-)

Posted by TauruSaurus

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Posted by ands
i would start out with respect and be romantic but say if i found out u liked to be pounded really hard and not be mushy then i adjust.

LOL

indeed.

^ Makes it sound like ya'll are thinking the person making the most sexual demands get's to manipulate/change the other person. That's not always the case of course, but while looking at two individuals with high sexual energy it could indeed be so...Like water (&heat, or sexual energy) it would respond to its environment. If it is perhaps cold and stored away it will become solid ice. During normal tolerant temperatures it is an abundant, fluid liquid. Adding extreme heat and it will begin to boil to evaporation, waiting to become fluid again. You should probably treat it as such too, because extreme heat is sometimes wasted on ice and you must work through the processes. It is best to adjust the heat & water to what you want to achieve, because you might waste/exhaust one or both of these resources in the process and have to wait to get some more.

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What a long detour to say the same as Ands 🙂
He's right, you start out respectful and with kid gloves since you don't know what they like. As you go along with the fun, you're both mature enough to talk about it and say what you like & don't. You evolve from your initial ideas to a more realistic one filled with the true expectations on sex for each partner.

Fuck plenty and see what gets the best response! Be it noise or body squirming, you'll figure it out 😉

Posted by TauruSaurus
Hahaha...I did take a slight detour from what Ands said, but agreed with him. This was to help people not get confused at the end of the journey with what he said though. Because what I said about it: "Makes it sound like ya'll are thinking the person making the most sexual demands get's to manipulate/change the other person." Not all people are able to "adjust" to demands, or the "adjustment" might be ending the interaction. This again comes back to the overall sexual energy the two people have, as I described, and what Ands stated in general. *Mischievously wonders why ormas jumped back into Taurus country & -1 for BullGem 😛

I never left, I'm just lurking from the river that runs through this meadow & forest.
Lovingly observing with my 1/4th devilish/evil side according to certain bulls. 😄
Come, dip your hooves in the water if you dare.

Posted by 25thDecan
Then we split and over the years we have chatted online and he has been increasingly "super porn" focused, crude, rude, even violent in his sexual discussions. I am a sexual gal so I have played along with the extremity.- you played along.

Hmm...now that you're headed back into the domain it is up to you to shed the "I am virgin to you, you may sex me but I am not your personal wanton woman". So he dials it down...dude truly values you. Yet he doesn't want to see you as manipulative either.

Hear me out: he wants to fuck you. He wants to spread your thighs aggressively yet sensually and invade your body. Probably bite you, pull your hair...dig his fingers in your hips and grip your soft arse while he pumps you like he's never taken you before. Maybe even yell a curse word from your positive reaction to this and finally cum. It's a release like no other. But...you played along, did? Did ANY of what he said to you online truly turn you on? Did IT? Hopefully it did. Be shrewd...be smart because you MUST gad about this guy...seduce him when you see him. Slightly resist but tempt him to grab you and then let him fuck you..and YOU...fuck HIM. React to it. Revel in it. When you cum...smell him, kiss him. Tell him how you feel. Tell him you enjoyed it. Tell he was wonderful...tell him to fuck you like that...again. tell him only HE can. Post here again when you're happy with you're lover. You have nothing to lose and if it doesn't work out you will have gained knowledge that being open with your lover truly DOES remove plenty mental hang ups men BEGIN relationships with. Ex: chick is sexual but doesn't wanna be MY whore. I want to be HER whore. She WANTS the good good but never GIVES the good good...calls me a fucking year later to see if I still care. I'm a virgo..I ignore...the bull will either trample you or exploit that chink in your armored tiara. All the best.

:o