Taurus and the Ego

How does the Taurus Ego really stack up to the rest of the zodiac? Few things started me thinking about this;
Many conversations about the humbleness of this signs influence. How Taurus seem to have more trouble seeing the greatness that others can see in them.

Taurus?? seem to have real good sense of how to prioritize what's truly important, and disregard the insignificant. Not to say we don't have our issues with pretty shinny things, but with people and relationships, I tend to see a purer and more authentic sense of self and perception of others.
Anyway it's just a theory in development; That the Taurus influence have built in attributes that can make it easier to shed parts of their ego. So I thought I??d open the idea to discussion, since my moon often confuses me.
On one hand Taurus don't seem to really get caught up with the approval of others so much, they tend to fear little... except when it comes to loss. But let's face it they can have control and power issues.
So I welcome all thoughts and opinions for why or why not.

Well, what I have seen is that those who are seriously insecure about themselves have an ability to try and make up for the insecurity by boasting ego. My self being a taurus, no. I am the self aware one that doesn't see my own achievements as suitable or sufficient. I have my own insecurities, loss of losing out on love and more currently loss of my Scorpio love interest.

I would go into a maddening fit of self destruction trying to figure out why I am not good enough etc...

The ego junkies also try and belittle those around them. My boss and my self are both taurus, him being only a year older than me and being the ego junky. We have had a few fallouts where he tried to rally me for a fight and belittle me. One such incident recently led to some disappointment as I made it clear that I will take him down if he ever pulls that shit on me again. I'll run him down like the little insecure asshole he is. It's one thing to yell and scream at a woman, as if your some kinda wannabe alpha, it's a different story when you up against someone that can be just as ruthless than you when pushed to those extremes. Since then, much better lol

Do you think its more rare to find a boasting bull?

I think I have too much Leo in my chart to be a reliable guide on Taurus and the ego...but....If we are talking about ego in regards to sense of self-worth, I fluctuate constantly. If I do something well and get a little praise, my head used to blow up. Now I downplay other peoples' compliments to avoid that. I've learned that people elevate you to an undeserved status, when you cultivate a talent for instance, and when I was younger I bought into that kind of hype. It gave me a sense of entitlement that only hurt me when it came to actually making something of myself in the real world. And I realized how empty it was, having to continually feed a bottomless pit of an ego by earning the praise of other people who don't really care or know much about what you're doing anyway.

On other days, I beat myself up really bad, judge myself harshly according to my lack of significant accomplishments, compare myself to others unfavorably, etc. Mostly, no matter how hard I try to avoid it, I tend see myself as valuable or not, based on what I am producing at any given time. If nothing, then I am nothing and often feel purposeless. Being of service to others, particularly helping close friends with issues or financial difficulty, is really the only thing that makes me feel whole, and purposeful, and it is that sense of purpose that I think grounds a healthy self-worth for me.

Posted by Astrobyn
Do you think its more rare to find a boasting bull?

More rare than say a boasting Sag? Yeah, I think so. I have met my fair share though. It depends where they are in life. The higher up the ladder a bull is, and the more they have accomplished, I think the more likely they are to boast, or at least have a really strong sense of pride in their abilities and accomplishments.

I think boasting can be playful, humorous, and creative, and not necessarily negative. I like to boast when I'm winning at any sort of game for instance - video game, cards, board game, etc. Its part of the mental game in a lot of forms of competition. If you can get in your opponent's head, it gives you an advantage. Not only that, but to have extreme self-confidence in competitive sports is clearly an advantage. If you look at a professional boxer for instance, they are extremely confident in their abilities and rarely entertain the possibility of losing before a fight. There's a good reason for that. That kind of extreme belief actually aids them in extreme performance under extreme pressure. Rarely is a top-ranked athlete truly humble and self-deprecating when it comes to their sporting ability.

But I'd agree that a lot of social boasting is rooted in insecurity, and a desire to convince one's self, and others, of one's own greatness. From *my* experience, I think water sign men are some of the worst in this area. Cancer men and Pisces men are some of the biggest boasters IMO, at least when I first meet them, and a lot of it is obvious overcompensating. My theory on that is that men who are more emotional and sensitive, grow up feeling shame about these qualities in a society that sees them as intrinsically feminine. They learn to hide their nature, comprising their first lessons in acting. From there, they learn to be a little more creative in how they present themselves, and even in the kind of person they make themselves into. But I think that water sign men, who have come to grips with their nature, and accept themselves - even if they are an extremely sensitive, insecure, blubbering mess all the time to do so - are more authentically masculine, for being brave enough to embrace the truth of who they are, in the face of the strong opposition of societal expectations and roles.

For fire sign men, also incredible boasters IMO, I think their boasting is actually more rooted in what they actually believe about themselves, than what they wish to project.

Earth sign boasting -

Taurus - look at my home and all the beautiful shit in it.

Virgo - I don't need to boast, I can just criticize you down to size.

Cap - I own the company now, get back to work or you're fired.

For me it's a subtle level of confidence.

I detest being the center of attention. Too much pressure, restricted privacy, unrealistic expectations, and constant praises. This is where my insecurities are at an all time high. Compliments are seen as an act of distrust and insincerity, disingenuous and driven by hidden motives. (although many of the statements are in fact, sincere, I have trouble believing it from strangers). I'm rather shy, and can have a dose of social anxiety when I'm unsure of my footing.

However,

When I'm moving behind the scenes, I'm very confident. I trust my instincts and my judgement. I have a strong sense of who I am, my objective, my purpose, and the individuals who I will slowly collect to become a permanent part of my inner circle. Other people's opinions of me (those are left outside the circle) doesn't really matter. Just the opinions of those that are close to me. I will have to agree with the previous posters, the ego boost is needed for those we love. I don't deal well with loss of a loved one. I have separation anxieties [initially] for people who have been a permanent fixture in my life....and in some distorted way, still require their approval.

But because my Moon is in Gemini, I'm able to make this transition with ease.

Taurus males specially....the bulletes are down to earth and good-strong women (in my exp.). I have noticed that once a taurus man loses the one woman he loved and was invested in...he creates an alter ego, and the playboy facade is formed which woos stupid women and a harem is formed. The next thing you know he has girlfriend every few months. Once a taurus has gone through pain the insecurities arise and literally haunts them. To appear strong, aggressive sarcasm and an arm candy is used.

Posted by Geminlove
The next thing you know he has girlfriend every few months.

LOL, ok, but isn't this pretty much the Gemini male way of life?

Posted by TaurusLovesScorpio

Posted by Geminlove
The next thing you know he has girlfriend every few months.

LOL, ok, but isn't this pretty much the Gemini male way of life?

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Its rather the result of a taurus man losing the girl he whole-heartedly loved. "why am i not good enough?" and insecurities arise and the man feels hollow. This phase usually lasts until he comes to his senses and realizes its not worth it. Its not just your sign that does it, its a human thing. Its just the taureans (or any other earth sign) that goes through hell because of something like this and its like losing yourself. Some of my close friends have been burned by love and regardless of their sign or gender they've gone thru this and came back to their senses.

As for gem males, i know gem and taurean males who are faithful and good husbands who married their first love after a good ten yr relationship with their wives. I also know shi+ty gem and taurean males who cheat like there is no tomorrow on their gfs/wives, this bunch is unevolved and i ended up cutting off all contact with them. I'd say your point is invalid there are diff types of ppl regardless of their sign.

Posted by Geminlove
I'd say your point is invalid there are diff types of ppl regardless of their sign.

More of a joke than a point 😉. But in all seriousness, you may have met some bulls who played around after heartbreak. I have known plenty who did not. I'm one of them. As I've said on here, I isolated completely after I was cheated on by my first love. I didn't go near another woman for at least 5 years.

Posted by TaurusLovesScorpio
Earth sign boasting -

Taurus - look at my home and all the beautiful shit in it.

Virgo - I don't need to boast, I can just criticize you down to size.

Cap - I own the company now, get back to work or you're fired.

Lmao!

Posted by TachiMichi
from my experience, taurus is a force to reckon with.
he never looks for approval.
he is more concerned about doing what is right.
he can do great things, yet he never brags.
he does them because he wants to.
he feels responsibility and lives up to standards he has set
being the oldest of 3, he had a sense of leadership since he was young
he does not like letting ppl down.
my taurus is methodical and follows the plans he set
it is hard to detour him once his mind is made up
gentle, sweet, but strong as a leader, mentally, and in the physical
he does not do things to get praised.
he does things because they need to get done,
no matter who sees or not.
the outcome of his actions are his reward, rather than pats on the back.
i love that man.

Very accurate, and very sweet.

This describes my brother to a T. He has both a Sun and Venus in Taurus.