Taurus games

I'm a Capricorn just recently out of a relationship with a Taurus who flat out lied about making a commitment. He played me for 2 years. I would put my foot down and say let's be together with a future or forget it. So he'd promise, we'd have amazing sensuous evenings for a while then he'd vanish into thin air.

The pattern is exactly the same as all the other women asking for advice on how to snag a taurus. I've come to a conclusion... Taurus men don't take lovers, they take hostages.

The jerk broke my heart again and again. Everytime I got to the point I could leave, there he was Prince Charming in a jar. He was never satisfied until my life was totally turned upside down and I would run to him every time he snapped his fingers. Then boom, he stops taking my calls and won't call me back.

Don't you dare tell me this was my fault. He knew I loved him and he used that to manipulate and control me. He came after me again and again. Everytime I said that's it, we make something of this relationship or I am finished, He promised to be committed, etc. etc. etc. If it was just to get me into bed that would be one thing, but noooooo... He had to have my heart completely open and vulnerable so he could smash it.

Of course being a Capricorn with a stubborn streak of my own I insisted that he explain his behavior, face me like a man and deal with my feelings. Needless to say now he's mad. (insert obvious understatement here.)

Any advice on how to handle him now? He's charging and I don't know how to get it to stop. And don't say the obvious 'leave him alone'. I am leaving him alone. Each time in the past he was on the charge he ended up softening before the conversation was over and we'd end up back together. I don't want to end up back together. I just want him to quit yelling at my voicemail. I don't want to fall for his empty promises again by allowing him any opportunity to sweet talk me either.

And if you are looking for advice about dating a Taurus male, here it is. Run like you would in a field with a 400 pound bull after you until you reach the safety of the fence, then run faster and don't look back.

i don't get along with taurean males that well (i have a cancer moon - i find them to be too stiff sometimes), but i do have a few exceptions with one or two friends that i've met in the past.

but taurean males, in general, either care about their sex lives a lot or not even a little. but the ones who are after sex usually always change when married - if not, they either don't respect you enough or think that you are too weak to futuristically stand them. they also think about your well being, and they know how they can sometimes be (unintentionally harsh). so if they notice that you are too easy to push over, then they prolly won't think that you'd survive in the long haul - they look for life commitment.

basically, they don't let their emotions run all over them if they are not sure whether or not your love for them is a done deal - they're good with protecting themselves from heartbreak. but i'm talking about the typical taurus guy. there are always exceptions becuz of the varying in charts, but the general taurean isn't a player (especially when female).

how do you know if a taurus guy is serious about you? if he proposes - and how he proposes may sometimes play a role about his level of seriousness. think about it: a lot of ppl date taureans, but not many are asked to be wed by them. it really depends on where they see themselves with you. for example, my aunt is a capricorn and her husband is a taurus. it was his second marriage and he never looked back at his first. he wasn't serious about his first wife becuz he was kinda forced into the marriage, and she was too bossy and insecure for him anyway. but in his second marriage, they seem to complement one another very well - especially since they are both very strong and unemotional individuals (they have unemotional moons, as well).

with your problem, it's prolly becuz he saw you as weak. tauruses are strong lovers, so they need someone who isn't too emotional nor too needy, or else they will feel like they have to run the show. (but you should also know their whole chart before you begin to judge). taurean men sound like the perfect husband, but only for the perfectly secure. they see partnership as a give and take - not a give, give, and give some more becuz their partner is too emotionally fragile to keep the relationship going steady.

i'm sorry about what happened between you two, i really am, but he prolly saw you as a potential life partner until you started to sound too flimsy. i don't really know the case, but i'm merely guessing. but it also depends on what his moon and rising signs are. since my moon placed at its home sign (cancer), i'm ok with the emotional stuff from time to time since i feel very deeply, and i'm more of a hopeless romantic than any other taurus i know. i just don't get emotional myself, very often. but my sagittarian rising does make me hard to read, since my ascendant, sun, and moon are all contradictory toward one another.

but yeah.. i'm sure that you're better off without him. you sound like you deserve much better, and someone who will fulfill your needs without being too flighty (which is kinda strange for a typical taurus - but most ppl don't realize that tauruses aren't as accurately defined as they are in the zodiac, and the same goes for all the other signs). just make sure that you realize what you actually need from a relationship and where you stand in the emotional field before you get into any partnership. tauruses aren't for everybody, and they certainly know that. we're just content with going at our own paces.

Well, thank you ladies but you didn't pay attention to what I was asking at all. The only comment that even showed a hint of understanding what I was saying is sagitauries. Anybody else?

I don't want advice on how he saw me as weak, or how to get him back. I'm obviously not weak if I managed to thoroughly enrage a patient forgiving Taurus right? Like I said before, I'm through, finished, over it. I just need to know how to get him to stop yelling at me without picking up the phone to give him a chance to sweet talk me back again.

You can answer the phone and say what you have to and once you're done tell him that he's about to meet mr. click 🙂

Oh and then you click right away lol or write him a letter...

i was merely giving you a different perspective on the issue, but he must have cared about you somewhat in order to have tried to toughen you up like that. however, i know how some taurus males can be, and the bad ones can't even be sensitive if their life depended on it. it's just how some of them are by nature, but it doesn't mean that they have no heart.

but in your case, i wouldn't advise you to give in to him. you should state your problems directly and tell him the things that you mentioned in here yourself. if you do decide to talk to him again, address to him your concerns and tell him specifically what the consequences are if he does not respect your wishes. (that is, if you happen to give him another chance). sometimes, tauruses are just down-right ignorant about what they do - they don't usually realize that they make mistakes becuz their intentions are always good. but anyway, i don't think that that's the case with him, cuz he sounds like a dishonest person.

but no matter what you decide to do if he happens to call you again, you should tell him straight-out how much of a dickhead he is (in a sophisticated manner) before you make your final conclusion.

good luck and keep your head up high - don't just focus on his sweet talk alone when you two communicate about the situation.

he's just really self centered and doesnt know what he wants, he has too much up his ass... you gotta leave him for a bit, see what he does. if he goes looking for you, then maybe go back to him. if he doesnt, he isnt worth it. damn bastards. i hate taurus's when they get into their stupid moods...but i love them when theyre all nice and loving. argh. its so hard. he takes you for granted.

Funny...I am a taurus and my capricorn spouse is doing the same thing your taurus genitals are doing to you..must be a boy thing......

I'm getting involved with a taurus right now.... what exactly am I dealing with here? How do you think our relationship will start out like?

Are you a cancer? Who knew there was so many Taurus/Cancer couples...?! Even my crabs parents are Taurus/Cancer... his mom is Taurus and she's adorable and I know she really likes me too and his dad a Cancer like him lol

Well generally... you'll drive him nuts but he'll still like you 😉 lol

I'm freaking out here with that poor Capricorn lady, is this what I have to look forward to when dating this Tarus male? YUCK!!!!!!!!!!!

Just tie her up to a chair and stand infront of her with your arms crossed and say "I like fully devoted relationships, or nothing. no middle ground, no settling for someone who doesn't put as much devotion into it as I do. it's as simple as that, you don't like it you know where the door is!" And walk away lol

I love your username 'crankybull' lol

He had a fully devoted relationship. He was the one that strayed, lied, and constantly tried to get to middle ground. It's settled. I took him to court and now he's out of my life. He was selfish, sadistic and working out issues from his divorce. His wife left him for another man and he took his anger over that out on me by playing me for over two years. I guess I should have paid a lot more attention to why she left him. Seems it was his appetite for drink and frequent travel. Never again.

And no this is not unfair to bulls. This is a story about a bull gone wild. Now that he realizes what he's lost, he lost it. I gave him love, didn't ask any questions I didn't want to know the answer to and trusted him blindly without checking. When I finally got tired of the on and off garbage, I checked. What I found was a selfish player with no morals or qualms about lying whatsoever. Unprotected sex with 3 partners he was juggling. I guess I should feel priveleged. I was after all the favorite. Doesn't make up for the fact that I will have to get tested for HIV now and six months from now because he's a deceptive prick.

NEVER EVER AGAIN.

capricornfool, despite some of the sarcasim that goes on here, I'am truly sorry for the mess that you have gotten into with this individual. Hopefully it is truley over and you can move on from there. I was alittle alarmed to hear the reason his marriage was over. The tarus one I'm with loves his sauce and apparently she strayed as well, but the juggling of woman?........... is he born on a cusp or something? That seems out of character.

It had a lot more to do with the fact that he felt he'd been faithful and committed all those years in his marriage and it was his turn to par-tay, than anything to do with his horoscope. I just wish he'd been honest with me about it because I would have been out of there so fast it would have made his freaking head spin. Instead I wasted 2 years and now I have big issues trusting anyone about anything. Plus the court costs. Yes it is OVER. Just keep your eyes wide open. If your guy doesn't say much what he does when he isn't with you, you can be pretty sure he's catting around. Blind trust will hurt you. Check his alibis a few times.

tarus is the best of all when it comes down to thinkin

i know this is an old post but i am dealing with the same issues...........this taurus dude, has lied, lied, lied so many times but always had a good excuse.

worst part is he won't commit and i finally know he LOVES to play with not only me. yuck......

finally 2.5yrs later, i am not taking those phone calls. he has called, and called and called and even set up a date and i am not responding.

we get along so well, have been good friends over 10yrs, but getting romantically involved was a mistake.

he screwed up in too many ways............. can't take it anymore!

taurus men are just too tricky for me!

Wow Capricornfool!

You sound like you let this guy get the best of you---he's got you all emotional--don't let your emotions get in the way (I know its hard, believe me!) I'm a Taurus girl and this does not sound out of character for someone just divorced who wants to get out, play the field, and catch up on all they have missed while being married. This guy sounds like he wants his cake and to eat it too. In this kind of situation it's not uncommon for Taurus's to keep a person on the side with whom they feel like they can play "relationship" with and have fun too. They like to be in a relationship but sometimes they feel they must play the field because they always rushed into relationships prematurely before. If you want to get rid of him one sure fire way is to ignore him! Taurus's hate to be ignored. That means no phone calls, no texts, no e-mails. He'll get the point. And later (after a long long while of absenteeism) if you want to resume a friendship with him he'll be able/and willing to do that because you didn't make a huge emotional episode about it. Maybe he'll have settled down by then too and be able to make you his primary focus--if it's what you want--If he does realize he is ready for a relationship with you and you want one with him--Make him whoo you! Taurus's love to do that for those they love--Plus, you deserve to make him work to get you back--if you want the opportunity to arise again.

I would ignore him. The one time i had to put my foot down with my bull and set him straight, he must have felt like i fell off the face of the earth. and i only did that for a few hours. but i found out one thing by doing that.. how much that man loved me. cuz you aren't going to fake snot running down your nose heaving crying shaking... it was CRAZY. but i wouldn't take a call or a text or anything and he real quick changed his tone with me. I don't play around. He knew if he didn't come to me, the right way... he would never hear from me again. so if your serious about leaving him alone.. don't even waste your time listening to him scream at your answering machine. Delete the msg. don't humor anyting about him. that is if you are TRULEY serious about leaving him alone.

Theres alot of taureans who like to play mind games.

Damn skippy on that one! Im in the mind game now with mine.