Taurus girl confused by Aqua guy

Hi- I posted this on the Aquarius board got some insight on the behavior of this person. I wasn't sure if this was typical behavior of this sign. Was wondering if any of you Tauruses had similar experiences with Aquas...

Long story short (yeah right), I met him and became good friends with him after moving next door and becoming his neighbor. Over a couple of months, it became apparent the attraction we had-we flirted all the time. Well, we ended up having a physical relationship-he initiated I might add. Right from the beginning, he told me that we were "just having fun." I understand that you never take what Aquarians say literally-watch their actions. That's comforting in that I am not crazy (looking back). Here, he was telling me that we just had a phyical relationship all the while, he gave me deep stares, emailed/IMed me all day every day, followed me around at parties, asked me to just stay over etc. All his actions screamed that he considered me his girlfriend, but he was always the one to point out I wasn't (I'd never bring it up-he would). He talked of plans for me to visit his parents house and mentioned I'd get along with his brothers, showed me pictures of his parents etc.
Mentally, we got along great. We had so many discussions about everything and anything. We were perfect buddies with a physical relationship but no title of boy/girlfriend. After a couple of months, I sort of felt him quite suddenly start to distance himself. Stupid me didn't give him his space (I didn't know the issues of Aquarians at the time)and finally it happened one night out of the blue where he sat me down and told me "we can't do this anymore" (a week earlier, I spent the night with him). It was devestating. I just couldn't comprehend how someone who gave me all these signs and indications of being more than just friends could all of a sudden, just put the down the axe.

He still says to this day that he ended it because he saw that my feelings were becoming more than just physical and he didn't "want to hurt me." I just couldn't believe it. Many of my friends saw his behavior and confirmed that he did treat me like a girlfriend. Some even suggested that he stared to fall in love with me and was scared big time. I always thought that he may have been caught off guard in that what was just to be a fun fling turned out to be something completely different.

After this happened, he knew he upset me and tried to be all nice and the "good friend." He continued to email/IM me. I always secretly wished we'd get back together (as I couldn't- I was still his neighbor) so I treated him as a very good and supportive friend. This continued for another couple of months until all of a sudden after I mentioned that I was moving, I began to suspect he started seeing someone else. He never outright told me about her(thought Aquas liked brutal honesty) but it was such a coincidence that as soon as she came in the picture (she's an old high school friend), and I moved, he stopped all communication with me. Nothing. We use to talk at least once a week and now nothing for 2 months!

I eventually wrote him a rather harsh email telling him I'm hurt by his indifference, lack of communication considering we're still friends and it shouldn't matter if I moved etc. He was "floored" by the email and gave me all these apologies but was so "clueless" to how I felt and what he was doing to me. I just couldn't believe it. He was like.....this happens when people move-you don't hang out with them as much (I moved 5 minutes away).

Gosh, all I wanted to do was somehow align it so the situation would make it possible for us to get back together and this is how it came to pass. I was wondering if it had anything to do with the fact that I am not his neighbor anymore. That was the one thing that always made me "unavailable" and as soon as I said I was moving, he disappeared and started seeing another person. He has not come o

hii! i work for an aquarius and with another one on occasion, and they are literally a blast! the only tradeoff is... i doubt either of them believe in marriage! the one i work for is married but is a bit emotionally detached (much like sag's i think, they are always up for an emphatic joke, but once commitment comes around i guess they get a bit skittish)the one who i work with is in a live-in relationship, but whenver we talk about relationships he always mentions how dolphins are non-monogomous animals and how we should seek happiness in the way of the dolphin... or something... i'm kind of exaggeratnig, but i think that's an aquarian mindset of commitment
it's a little different i guess because guys look at guys differently than girls (regardless of the sign) he might have felt that when you moved away, you were trying to get away from him? it might not have been the best idea to move next door to him 😢 (personally, i would love to live next door to someone i was in a relationship with, you still have privacy, and closeness without actually living with each other yet)

i wish i could give you better advice, or at least hope for something, but in my experience air signs are difficult to catch in general 😢 it's not impossible of course, especially if one has the persistence of a bull 🙂

Thanks for you insight. Yeah, Aquas are confusing people. When I moved next door, I barely knew him so it was by living there that this all happened.

I do agree to a point that living next door to someone you're seeing is great with privacy yet proximity but I'm don't think it was great for us. As an Aqua, he was probably saw it as too much invasion in his space whereas being a Taurus, I will admit that I felt a twinge of jealousy if I happened to see a person (male or female) come over. Even though I knew I was being rediculous having those feelings, it still wore on me.

Has anyone else been in similar situations with Aquas?

Oh this can't be real! Jealous taurus and icy aquarious? I've been there baby!

The whole taurus/aquarius thing has gotten me really wondering what it is about this love/hate relationship. Or what is it? Either way, I know I will always be surrounded by them in my life, they find me even if I try to hide. We just need to learn how to live with them, because loving them comes naturally.

Hi Taurusgoddess...

Yes, (sigh)....this is all real. I've never dealt with an Aqua (friend or relationship)before so this completely blew me away. My last guy was a Cap and waaay more readable. I don't mind the element of some action and unpredicablity...I'm on the Aries cusp so I quite enjoy not conforming to the norm. In fact, this is what was so enticing about an Aqua. I just thought he was shy about expressing himself. Either he really is lying to me (and himself) or they are all just COOOOLD and heartless.

This happened to you? It's so hard...you want to kill them but still adore them at the same time.

i think taurus and aquarius have *the* best working relationship-- aquarius has brilliant ideas, and taurus has tenacity and attention to detail to make an astounding product... i'd be anxious to see what adding a scorpio and leo to the mix would do, probably conquer the world-- with those fixed signs it could probably happen too!

That is true. It works in the dynamics of creating something-they always say that both would make great business partners.

Well, I just heard from him....think I got my confirmation that she is in fact his girlfriend. Mentioned he is going with her AND her family to their second house for the weekend. Wow! For someone who seemed commitment-phobic, he's already going on a family vacation with her? You've got to be kidding me...

Well, I guess it's a sign that it's either a poor reflection on me...there's something this girl has that I don't or there is something that really clicked between them.

I really got stung by this sign't detachment side.

tauruslady2, yes this has happened to me in a relationship. I've actually gone out with 3 serious aqua relationships as well as live with my gay aqua bestfriend too! It's toooooooo much. Check out my old postings on the aquarius pages.

venusasapenis - THERE IS NOOOOOOOO WAY IN HELL I WOULD WORK WITH A LEO!!!! BAD idea. But I do wonder what the best combos would be?? I'd like to hear more on that.

hahah, why wouldn't you work with a leo? they don't seem all that bad 🙂 i think female leos might be more tolerable (i heard this from a female leo though, so perhaps she was trying to save face 🙂 )
i've never actually worked with a leo, but a very good friend of mine who went to the same school as me is a leo-- we only got into a couple of spats, but they were over seriously small stuff... he's a great guy and i miss him like hell, but there was a point where we were rubbing each other the wrong way

i went back to the book store today and figured i'd look up taurus/aqua relationships (i was researching taurus/cap anyway) and when i got to the part in linda goodman's book "love signs" when she said "taurus needs physical contact, you know aquarius, that thing when you actually *gasp* touch another human being" (or somesuch) i chuckled and put the book away-- i'm probably the least touchy feely of all taurus (my dad said i used to cry when people touched me as a baby, i think they were just tickling me too much) but anyway i definitely crave daily physical affection and now i'm sure it's because i'm a taurus; i dont know if i could be in a relationship that lacked the openness to be able to stroke playfully the shoulders or other areas when the mood hits.. if it makes the other person uncomfortable, i dunno that says a lot to me

I don't know how they cann't love beging touched. I love any physical contact or signs of affection. Funny this aqua guy actually was touchy feely but only under his terms and control. Very hot and cold...