Brokenhearted aqua girl, by taurus guy...what to d

I'll try and keep this short, as I would like as many opinions as possible, and don't want you all to get bored reading!!

I'm an aqua female who has fallen in love with a taurus male. I met him through work, and had always been very attracted to him, I was however aware he had a girlfriend.
Over time, I started to see he had feelings for me too...and we were both aware of what was going on. We started a relationship, he told me he was very unhappy with his long term girlfriend, and that he had already told her he didn't love her anymore. I told him, although I didn't want to pressure him, I couldn't be "the other woman" for a long period of time, as I feel I'm worth more than that.
He understood this, and things then started moving... he moved out of her home, in into his mothers.... and I thought this was the begining of a proper relationship for us... I was over the moon!
One week after he moved out.. he went back round to tell her it was all over, and to get the rest of his things, she asked him if there was anyone else and he said yes, as he didn't want to lie to her.
She begged him to stay with her and said they could work things out... he has told me he doesn't want to be with her, but she is "making it very hard" for him to leave... as he feels guilty to hurt her.
She has wanted to get married for a while, and when I said "does this mean you're getting married then?" he said "well ...thats what she wants" and " I thought I was stronger than this".
I'm now left feeling rejected. We really clicked together...more than I have with anyone else....and I do feel for him, as I know he's unhappy.

I know Taurus have a problem with breaking from old routine, but would they stay in a loveless relationship long term?
Please help with this.... I think he feels the same way about me, and I don't want to let this go yet.

As a Taurus female I can tell you that you may have a fight on your hands. We usually live by "Its better the Devil you know than the Devil you don't know". One thing we hate HATE is having to hurt someone. We will put it off so long until we just have to do it. Yes this practice does cause us to remain in dead relationships much longer than we should. We usually live in a comfort zone and its very hard to walk away from that safety.
Try reminding him of how you feel about him and the wonderful future you could have together. However, don't allow him to make a fool out of you. You could also try stepping away for awhile. That really gets our attention!! Maybe act as if sonce he is thinking about staying with her then you will move on asap. We a jealous streak in us that is amazing!
What sign is the girlfriend?

I agree with KocoaHauntis

Taurus' do hate hurting anyone. The girl wants to try to keep it going and work things out, he's going for the long haul. Sorry but true. Anyone dating a Taurus male with a past wife/girlfriend.. be prepared to have to compete.
I feel the same way with my mans ex.. he still talks to her, helps her out.. tried to make it work again cause 'she' wanted to try.. he found out he just can't do it .. he still helps her out when she needs it though, even for a place to stay!

Yes, do remind him of how good you two have it, and how good the future can be.
The 'steping away' bit also works. 🙂 been there.. I ignored for a bit, he came crawling to me... 'after' he found out that his ex and him just can't make it, and he threw her out.

Aquarian Female

Thanks for your replies so far.
What you said was what I expected to be true, Taurus do have a problem breaking away, and I know he doesn't want to hurt her..as he cares for her a great deal.
I have spoken to him today, with regards to a work issue... and we do still have that "spark"...even on the phone. I did tell him that I miss him, and he said he thinks about me a lot too ( he's not great with showing his feelings, so that actually means something!)
The thing is, as his girlfriend has found out that he was seeing me for a while, he no longer works in my department (she asked him to move), so it will be hard to "step away", or play hard to get as I will not see him that much.
I don't know her sign (would love to though!)
I think maybe, I will have to give it time, as there's not really a lot more I can do at the moment.

Am I right in thinking that Taureans are very faithfull?

Also, just to say... KocoaHauntis: it's funny that you said about the "better the devil you know" saying, as that is the exact thing that he said to me when he told me he couldn't leave her.

You are spot on!

Hi,

Well, I'm still crazy about my Taurus guy. I've seen him recently, and he's really unhappy at home, he said the only thing keeping him there are the "ties" and him not wanting to hurt her... not the relationship. He looks really sad, and has said he can't expect me to wait around for him to leave her, and as I've said before... I don't want to be the other woman in anyones relaionship, so things have been left for now.

He said it's very difficult seeing me, as it brings the old feelings back. I was dancing with another guy infront of him (on purpose!), and he said it did make hime feel very jealous.

I also found out that his girlfriend is a cancer.... is that the "homemaker"??

ooooh, what to do?...nothing I suppose!😢

ageofaqua x.

I did that last one, and got my free sample....it was amazing! I'd recommend it to everyone on here. It was just about word for word perfect, and described our feelings for each other exactly. wow!!

That's cheered me up for the time-being!

ageofaqua x.

sorry to hear your predicament, ageofaqua-- but depending on his ascendant/venus/possibly moon to some extent, you might have better luck pursuing him (in a low-key manner) if you know that he's what you really really want. i know personally, if a woman i was interested in pursued me i would be quite flattered and depending on her method, possibly even fall head over heals that this woman would defy gender norms because she didn't want me making a huge mistake, particularly in love. taureans are very, very responsive personalities, and i think as a result of that there is much going on beneath the surface than we let on-- so you never know what results any amount of gentle cooing and coaxing might bring.. (tender rationale might butter him up as well) if there's a lot of taurus/venus in his chart, i'm sure heartfelt and unpressured honesty will go a long way... like what others have stated above, i'm thinking he's a little worried about starting a new relationship when this other cancerian girl is ready to discuss marriage; whereas you are someone new and [emphasis] uncertain... from his point of view, the cancerian is almost like a sure thing, despite any unhappiness either of them are feeling. i'm certain he's banking on his own tenacity and perserverance to try and make or wait out the existing relationship into his own ideal vision. cancers are supposed to be quite devoted, i understand also? that is one heart melting trait for taureans, at least for me
one thing's for sure tho, there is definitely a way to his heart-- it might take some excrutiating patience on your part... hope this helps some, even if it's just a dab of crappy and probably irrelevant encouragement 🙂
if it helps explain where i'm coming from, here's some relevant birthdata:
asc=sag
sun=tau
moon=ari
venus=tau
best wishes

Hi Venus... great name btw!

Thanks for that advice, I've tried to do his birth chart, however, I don't know the time he was born.... I tried to do it on the information I had, but I don't know a lot about it, and didn't really understand what it all meant :-/ If anyone could help me with that, that would be great!

What you said makes sense about me being uncertain, and her being a "sure thing". I care about him so much, and would just want him to do whatver makes him happy (truly happy), if I knew he was now, I would just let him get on with it.... i'd be heartbroken, but I'd have to deal with that.... what a martyr I am...hee hee lol!!

Without running the risk of sounding soppy... he's worth being patient and waitng for!

I do really want to be with him... I know I'm going on again.. sorry!
I hear what you're saying about pursuing him low-key, but I worry that if I show him too much how much I want him, that I may just come across as needy, and that if the choice he has made is to be with her, I may be making things worse for him.
Do Taurus men differ from others with that, I know a lot of guys who would run a mile, if you pursued them!?

Hi, thatnks for that, this is what I got from doing his chart.... can anyone shed any light, I cant see any Venus here... have I done it right?

Sun-Taurus 4.38
Moon-Libra 29.37
Mercury-Taurus 12.12
Venus-Gemini 13.30
Mars-Pisces 10.24
Jupiter-Aries 9.00
Saturn-Cancer 13.31
Uranus-Scorpio 0.15 R
Neptune-Sagittarius 11.20 R
Pluto-Libra 7.11 R
Lilith-Pisces 8.49
Asc node-Sagittarius

Thanks to you all
ageofaqua x.

hallo-- thanks aqua, love yours too 🙂 his venus is in gemini, so i would think that would make him a bit flighty in love, regardless of his taurus sun... i've got an aries moon and it does in fact make me extreemely temperamental even though taureans are supposed to be calm and serene (particularly with my family, my fourth and fifth house cusps are both in aries also-- i didn't know that was possible?)
looking at the rest of his chart it looks like he has mostly/a lot of mutables, and the rest are equally distributed as fixed/cardinals... so that would explain his indecisiveness also
i think, though, that with that venus in gemini... if you were to be able to keep his interest romantically you might have a shot-- here are some links i found googling "venus in gemini"
http://www.astrologyzine.com/flirting-with-venus-in-gemini.shtml
http://www.horoscope-x-files.com/horoscope/gemini-venus.htm
and heres the google search link
http://www.google.com/search?hl=en&q=venus+in+gemini&btnG=Google+Search

in hindsight, i can see how the interest of yours got into the situation he's in-- the taurean complacency let him burrow his butt into a rut with the cancer lady, and the gemini fickleness is making it difficult for him to make up his mind now that he's found you
geminis are a lot of fun and need a lot of stimulation (i'm not sure if venus in gem still implies mental stimulation or not tho)... he's probably experiencing a lot of conflict about this, especially because i don't think gem in venus is a natural placement, like it would be in mercury or something...i would assume he likes to talk about love a lot?


and well, your last question in the previous post-- i think it would depend on me personally... i wouldn't really run from anyone, i'd be more inclined to discuss it if i weren't interested... but if i were interested and available, i would embrace the opportunity... the only way i would run would be if a scorpio wouldn't take no for an answer! :-P
g/l! keep us posted 🙂

lol, thanks for that!

The links are great, I'll read up on it some more. Thanks for all your help, and I will keep you posted.

Best wishes
ageofaqua x.