Taurus high expectations! How do you deal with it?

Growing up, everyone else (but me) thought I knew what I want in life/career...etc. And I was doing quite well, but that was for a very short time. I had very high expectations from myself and seemed to have the energy for doing what I wanted before I hit rock bottom. And, almost 6 years now, and I am still struggling with life/career... not sure what I want to do. And, of course that affects my social situation too, cause I shy away from gatherings, knowing people will ask "so what are you doing now?" (Scariest question to me now).

I also tend to want to do so many things, for example on a weekend I'd think I want to do my favourite hobbies, hang out with friends, finish some pending work, spend time with family. And, I end up doing only one thing of those.. Only one! Other days, I feel overwhelmed and do nothing at all of what I planned.

I am not successful career wise, or have a great social circle, but I know some Taureans do. How do you manage to do that? How do you manage to set reasonable expectations/goals.. etc.? How do you contain yourself, and not feel so overwhelmed by all your dreams?

Posted by DrinkWater

Maybe its procrastination, there is probably one thing you want the most, its also the hardest. The rest is just distraction's you're using as excuses to avoid the big thing...maybe.

That or you can do a little bit of everything and they will all benefit or compliment each other in some way, I have a whole bunch of different goals and things I love doing, when I do one thing, I get better at the other thing. My hunting makes me better at skiing through the way I navigate in the mountains, My skiing gives me inspiration for art and makes me move differently on my bike. I can put down some activeitys for a couple years and then focus on one thing while and then switch it up, I don't actually have to pick one thing over the other. Or maybe I'm just procrastinating.

I do agree with what you said, doing one thing can help with another. Gives me something to think about.

And yeh, I do have one big scary goal that I need to focus on.

Posted by Redbull

I think a lot of my outlook and what I have gotten done is due to the point I am at in life but I can answer some of your questions.

How do you manage to set reasonable expectations/goals.. etc.?

I have a thing where I have "must do's" these are things that I think about and its like "I gotta do it". Then its a matter of the steps to get it done. Who knows how long it will take. These are things that my heart is in sufficiently. Some instincts and practicality usually weighs into it to. These are easier decisions.

The harder ones are the ones like a current one-should I sell or keep my house. Because the "feel" side is kind of divided as is the practical. possibly gain money but how much and wht do I have to do vs. keep the house which costs money but I have a house...which will cost money, time, energy and needs a lot. but its hard to decide whether to move on for whatever reason. I think we can ponder and dont want to "mess up". Still trying to decide this one.

Sometimes its just a matter of getting going. If unemployed try to find a job which eliminates a lot of daily decisions. Gotta go to work if need that money. No debate. Which can open up other paths. Or start business. Get it going and the rest unfolds from there.

I understand you, the "feel" side is what's screwing me up always lol.. I did start a business (kind of), it was great when I focused only on that. Then life goes on, my attention is divided among a couple of other things. And now, my business seems more like a work of a hobbyist (SO not satisfied with that). But, you know I also see people managing their family, children, business and they amaze me, honestly!

Posted by Impulsv

Define success

To me, it is being satisfied with what you're doing in life. I mean.. when what you are doing aligns with what you need, whether it's doing valuable work, raising a family .. etc.