Taurus Man coming back in full force....

So a little update and I need your advice on some things.. Since I've back off he is messaging me everyday now

We originally met on a dating website so init ally we did't exchange numbers we use bbm or Whats app to text back and forth.. until today he still has not given me his number (red flag—? I dunno.. I kind of think he is waiting for whatever reason).

He messages me every day now even until late in the night. I don't initiate the conversations I just let him do it but I do respond ( not quickly though) I just make him e wait about 15 minute to a half an hour before replying unless we are making plans to see each other.

He's always asking me "What r u up 2" and so I think he wants to make plans but then sometimes he rears into another topic.. which is fine because I just go about my day normally now that I see that message will not always lead to seeing him.

On Saturday he did the same thing: "What r u up 2?" so he asked if he could come over and I said sure.. .. then he asks me if to come to his house instead.. and i said "no problem"..

We hung out and watched a movie.. I'm super reserved and I'm never gonna make the first move and I think he sees that so he asked me to come sit closer and then he slowly inches his way in my space.. He made me a drink and out of the blue grabs my drink and then starts kissing me (in a gentle way though which was super hot)I didn't see that coming because we were in a conversation when he decided to do that as well..... the kissing goes on for a while ..stops and then starts again.. Once he started slowly taking my sweater off and asked if I wanted to go to his bedroom I pulled back a bit and said maybe not because it was getting late .. he was really nice even after I said that .. we hung out a little more then he walked me out and I went home.. when I got home we messaged back and forth a bit.

So I'm unsure as to what he wants here.. Because of his message to me a while ago about not wanting to start something serious I cant sleep with him i just can't set myself up to get hurt..

He said in his message exactly this:
I've been distancing myself recently because I don't want to start something serious.
Because we got intimate so soon It becomes difficulty to detach after being intimate.

Given that that's what he said about being intimate and becoming attached, then why ask me about going to the bedroom..

Anyhow another thing that is really bothering me is that I don't even have his pone number.. why would I continue sleeping with someone when I don't even have their number. I'm not a phone person and don't care to talk on the phone but its the fact that him would bring me to his house but not give me his number that's odd.

He lives with his mother, grandmother, sister and nephew. I haven't met them but they were home when I went over..

I'm confused but I don't want to chase him away either by not being intimate with him..

I figure if it comes up again I'm

I figure if it comes up again I'm just going to tell him that given what he said before I just wanted to respect his wishes on not being intimate to avoid the attachment and also because I want to get to know him better so neither of us get hurt in any of this.

I just feel like if I don't set standards here then I'm asking for trouble.

I'm willing to give and take here but within reason and laying down for him isn't going to happen unless what it means for me to do that with hi

I'm willing to give and take here but within reason and laying down for him isn't going to happen unless he makes a change in what he wants and if he even develops feeling at all for me.

no they where in the living room and we were in the other living room.. he's nephew (3 yrs old) did come in a few times to see him but that's all..

Be honest and upfront. And don't settle for less. Then walk away because you already had this conversation. There are people who are honestly looking for a long term monogamous relationship.. which one do you need to have?

The longer I see stories like these. My I'm going to be single forever. Guess it's happening all over not just here in the west coast area. Sad really is.

the room we were in is separated by a kitchen and the other living room is on the other side of that kitchen.. I had a full shirt on under my sweater but I was nervous of anyone walking over but if anyone was to come over we would have heard them.... .. His room is actually off of the living room we were in...... He's 38 and I'm 36 so it's not that odd for him to have someone over I think.. ..

I guess I'll just keep my distance until I know him better and avoid being intimate until I'm 100% sure of him

Hmm this is one reason you should both have your own places for this reason alone.. more stress to deal with.

Wait back up, how long have you known him? & yes how are you communicating with him? . hm he's 38 and stable but his parents and siblings stay with him? And I assume very close to them?

"I've been distancing myself recently because I don't want to start something serious.
Because we got intimate so soon It becomes difficulty to detach after being intimate."

ugh. really? please tell me this doesn't work on women.

he doesn't want anything serious. he didn't have the decency to introduce you to his family even though they were in the next room. you don't have his phone number.

have you already slept with him?

it sounds like he is setting you up to a booty call.

@ busyeyes88:

We message/text one another. I rather the texting too just because I don't want to sit on the phone with anyone..I have work and school to deal with so long conversations on the phone isn't appealing to me.. I will however not go to his place any more because I agree with you..It's gong to seems like rejection if that scenario keeps happening so outside neutral places it is!

I also didn't initiate any kissing or any other contact.. it really came as a surprise right in the middle on a conversation so I'll keep that in mind.. but I think I might have to tell him SOMETHING about this being platonic before hand so he does try kissing me while we are out either right?

I have no intentions on having sex with him and DEFINITELY do not want to be apart of anyone's harem

@ FirstDecanTaurianWomen0428

We text each other.. His dad passed away a few years back and so he's still living at home with his mom. I knowwwww.. I though that was weird having him still live at home. but his mom is retired and grandmother does not work.. His younger sister has a son and doesn't have a great job so he's really the man of that house

@jeane

We did sleep together in August but we haven't since because I back off for a bit after getting that message from him

Damn.. ultimately it is your choice. Focus on school and work.. and just be friends. If you're physically or sexually attracted to him. It will be harder to be friends with ..

Posted by virgo29
@jeane

We did sleep together in August but we haven't since because I back off for a bit after getting that message from him

i would be verrry careful here.

honestly? my advice? stand your ground. are you after a relationship? if so, you need to draw that line in the sand. no visits to his house. no flirting. no kissing.

i had a bit of that when i first started with my bull. he at one point told me he didn't want a relationship. i thanked him for his time and wished him all the best. within a day, he was suddenly ready for a relationship.

people will give you what you let them. if you are saying that this is good enough, then this is all you'll get. if you want more, expect more from him and if he cannot provide it, don't be afraid to close the book on it and find someone who will.

crap!!!! well not what I wanted to hear but definitely grateful for the advice and I'm going to take it because I just don't have time for games and YES I want someone who also wants a relationship and not bullshit

Posted by virgo29
crap!!!! well not what I wanted to hear but definitely grateful for the advice and I'm going to take it because I just don't have time for games and YES I want someone who also wants a relationship and not bullshit

bullshit sound like exactly what he is feeding you. i would call him out on it. you have nothing to lose.

Posted by busyeyes88
How do you stay in contact with no phone number??

I think this taurus is not looking for a long term relationship but would add you to his harem if you have sex with him!!! Just be platonic friends.. No kissing etc and just hang out, from outside his house!!! You are just as guilty as you should have taken your date to neutral territory ie see a movie, go for dinner, go for a coffee?!!!!

If you don't want to have sex with a guy until you get to know them, don't go to their home!

Agree. I thought 'yeah right' when he established you were free by asking to come to yours and then he flipped it. I'm not keen when guys invite me to their place or when they want to even come to my city. I always choose another city or somewhere where it's not oh so convenient to end up at mine!

Posted by jeane
"I've been distancing myself recently because I don't want to start something serious.
Because we got intimate so soon It becomes difficulty to detach after being intimate."

ugh. really? please tell me this doesn't work on women.

he doesn't want anything serious. he didn't have the decency to introduce you to his family even though they were in the next room. you don't have his phone number.

have you already slept with him?

it sounds like he is setting you up to a booty call.

Yeah I didn't think that sounded like it even made any sense at all.

I've been distancing myself - yet he contacted her.
I don't want to start anything serious - but I still want to put my dick into you.
Intimate too soon - result, enter the booty call box.
Difficulty to detach - offering the impression he is including 'emotions' when he isn't at all.

Run. Away. Now. Quickly.

Posted by busyeyes88

Posted by AgentP911

Posted by busyeyes88
How do you stay in contact with no phone number??

I think this taurus is not looking for a long term relationship but would add you to his harem if you have sex with him!!! Just be platonic friends.. No kissing etc and just hang out, from outside his house!!! You are just as guilty as you should have taken your date to neutral territory ie see a movie, go for dinner, go for a coffee?!!!!

If you don't want to have sex with a guy until you get to know them, don't go to their home!

Agree. I thought 'yeah right' when he established you were free by asking to come to yours and then he flipped it. I'm not keen when guys invite me to their place or when they want to even come to my city. I always choose another city or somewhere where it's not oh so convenient to end up at mine!

Exactly above ^^^^!!!

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Unless I fancy a fuck of course, then I'll do whatever I please!!