ConfusedFemaleCancer
@ConfusedFemaleCancer
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Taurus man giving mixed signals...
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@OP-
1. How old are you both?
2. I love it when people introduce friends to another person they maybe interested in, that is how I can trust someone usually right off the bat..
And that way you get to see how he acts, speaks, thinks, and feels about you, towards other important or special people in their lives.
3.Aww so cute Wait so in 2 weeks tops you guys slept together not evening really knowing anything about each other?
4. You gave it up way too early for a Taurus...
5. I text the hell out of you or meet in person after I have sex with someone.
I am interested but not in two weeks of hardly knowing who you are yet.
6. How did you guys meet?
1. How old are you both?
2. I love it when people introduce friends to another person they maybe interested in, that is how I can trust someone usually right off the bat..
And that way you get to see how he acts, speaks, thinks, and feels about you, towards other important or special people in their lives.
3.Aww so cute Wait so in 2 weeks tops you guys slept together not evening really knowing anything about each other?
4. You gave it up way too early for a Taurus...
5. I text the hell out of you or meet in person after I have sex with someone.
I am interested but not in two weeks of hardly knowing who you are yet.
6. How did you guys meet?
@OP- What are your placements and his?
I'm 32, he is 27. We met through mutual friends. I did get to see how he acted around his friends, and he seemed quite mature around them, and I like his friends. He was very affectionate and treated me as if I was his girlfriend. I know we slept together too soon and I told him that. That's not how I operate. It would kind of make sense if we slept together and then he sort of disappeared, I guess. We have spent the night together a few times without having sex since then. When he has to leave early for work, he tells me I don't need to leave and I can stay and sleep. (I don't.) Whenever he wakes up in the night, he'll always kiss me or say, "Hi, baby." Etc., etc., etc. He is incredibly sweet in person, but it confuses me that he doesn't ask me out more often or text too much. I'm used to guys being obsessive over me. Maybe I'm overthinking it, but my intuition is usually right.
How do I figure out placements?
A couple of people who have heard the details seem to think he may think I'm giving him mixed signals. Two or three times, he has commented on how I leave so soon in the morning. The latest--he took a shower in the morning, and when he got out, I kissed him goodbye. He said, I'm not even dressed yet and you're leaving?? He says things jokingly, so I can't tell if he is serious or just kidding. He also has noticed that I take a while coming over to his place. I like for people to give me a heads up. If he asks to see me sort of last minute, I'm not going to just drop everything I'm doing and rush over. I don't think he likes that. But, when I'm with him, that seems to fade pretty quickly, and we get along great, and things seem just fine.
I definitely have a guard up because I actually like him now, and I'm having some doubts. I feel it's obvious I like him, but I don't know. Regardless of whether or not it's obvious to him how much I like him, wouldn't he still make more attempts?
He asked what I was doing tonight and I told him I'd come over. I told him I wanted to eat first, and he said pick up some food and bring it over and eat here. He warned me that he had been drinking a bit and I warned him I was sleepy. Then a bit later he texted me and said he was going out with his guy friends he hasn't seen since he and I hung out with them. I asked why would he ask me to come over then and he said they had had plans to hang before, but it got canceled, and then they made new plans. I don't think he is lying. My issue is I'm not a priority. It's only been 3 weeks, but I'm not used to that.
I definitely have a guard up because I actually like him now, and I'm having some doubts. I feel it's obvious I like him, but I don't know. Regardless of whether or not it's obvious to him how much I like him, wouldn't he still make more attempts?
He asked what I was doing tonight and I told him I'd come over. I told him I wanted to eat first, and he said pick up some food and bring it over and eat here. He warned me that he had been drinking a bit and I warned him I was sleepy. Then a bit later he texted me and said he was going out with his guy friends he hasn't seen since he and I hung out with them. I asked why would he ask me to come over then and he said they had had plans to hang before, but it got canceled, and then they made new plans. I don't think he is lying. My issue is I'm not a priority. It's only been 3 weeks, but I'm not used to that.
@Op- Right now I would just slow down, keep talking, and just see go with the flow. If he likes you, why are you having doubts? I would be concerned if after you had sex he bounced, but he didn't. So make a compromise and communicate. Keep the communication and honesty going.
You can try café astrology natal charts...
Yes you kind of are giving mixed feelings, that is why I said go with the flow, don't pressure right now..
You don't have to make excuses, just tell him you are tired and can you make it up later during the weekend or a day you both have off again. STOP IT..
He seems to be doing a really good job with how a guy is supposed to act if interested in someone, so right now take the take to get to know him some more, ask questions here and there, find common interests, and stuff like that. Keep interested in him.
I am very familiar with the heads up, and yeah I get what you are saying. So yeah just as long as you are not playing games.
You can try café astrology natal charts...
Yes you kind of are giving mixed feelings, that is why I said go with the flow, don't pressure right now..
You don't have to make excuses, just tell him you are tired and can you make it up later during the weekend or a day you both have off again. STOP IT..
He seems to be doing a really good job with how a guy is supposed to act if interested in someone, so right now take the take to get to know him some more, ask questions here and there, find common interests, and stuff like that. Keep interested in him.
I am very familiar with the heads up, and yeah I get what you are saying. So yeah just as long as you are not playing games.
@Op- I think you should ask him hey so are you seeing or dating anyone right now... Then progress as friends would talk Or what are you looking for if you haven't ask already?
@FirstDecan-- I really appreciate your response. As a Cancer, I tend to always overthink things. His actions tonight were a red flag for me, though. :/ It's been three weeks, and if he wants to go out and have a guy night, he absolutely should. I wouldn't mind at all if I were feeling more secure about things.
My ex did a number on me, so I question people even more now. :/ I'll try to stop analyzing and just take it one day at a time.
My ex did a number on me, so I question people even more now. :/ I'll try to stop analyzing and just take it one day at a time.
@OP- I am a Taurus, Aqua moon, and Cancer rising. All I do is over think about stuff like this. You know I would be sort of thinking oh okay you're going out with your homies after we made plans.. Ok well I am taking myself to sleep since you said you were tired and then catch up later another time, you have to have space sometimes....
This is his chart with unknown birth time:
The following table shows the position of the planets in your chart, by sign and degree. On the right, you will find the sign of your Ascendant and the signs on the cusp of each house in your natal chart. The Roman Numerals refer to the houses, where the Ascendant is also the first house and the Midheaven is also the tenth house. For example, if the sign Taurus is next to Mars, you know your Mars is in Taurus. If the sign Libra is next to Venus, you know your Venus is in Libra. If Cancer is next to Ascendant, you have a Cancer Ascendant, and if Leo is next to II, Leo is on your 2nd house.
Zodiac : Tropical
Sun Taurus 2°47'
Moon Cancer 19°05'
Mercury Taurus 5°11'
Venus Gemini 16°54'
Mars Aquarius 10°36'
Jupiter Taurus 10°14'
Saturn Capricorn 2°27' R
Uranus Capricorn 0°54' R
Neptune Capricorn 10°10' R
Pluto Scorpio 11°26' R
Lilith Leo 27°34'
Asc node Pisces 22°41'
None of that makes sense to me, but I'll read the website. lol I'll post mine after this...
The following table shows the position of the planets in your chart, by sign and degree. On the right, you will find the sign of your Ascendant and the signs on the cusp of each house in your natal chart. The Roman Numerals refer to the houses, where the Ascendant is also the first house and the Midheaven is also the tenth house. For example, if the sign Taurus is next to Mars, you know your Mars is in Taurus. If the sign Libra is next to Venus, you know your Venus is in Libra. If Cancer is next to Ascendant, you have a Cancer Ascendant, and if Leo is next to II, Leo is on your 2nd house.
Zodiac : Tropical
Sun Taurus 2°47'
Moon Cancer 19°05'
Mercury Taurus 5°11'
Venus Gemini 16°54'
Mars Aquarius 10°36'
Jupiter Taurus 10°14'
Saturn Capricorn 2°27' R
Uranus Capricorn 0°54' R
Neptune Capricorn 10°10' R
Pluto Scorpio 11°26' R
Lilith Leo 27°34'
Asc node Pisces 22°41'
None of that makes sense to me, but I'll read the website. lol I'll post mine after this...
The following table shows the position of the planets in your chart, by sign and degree. On the right, you will find the sign of your Ascendant and the signs on the cusp of each house in your natal chart. The Roman Numerals refer to the houses, where the Ascendant is also the first house and the Midheaven is also the tenth house. For example, if the sign Taurus is next to Mars, you know your Mars is in Taurus. If the sign Libra is next to Venus, you know your Venus is in Libra. If Cancer is next to Ascendant, you have a Cancer Ascendant, and if Leo is next to II, Leo is on your 2nd house.
Sorry, this doesn't paste aligned properly. This is mine:
Zodiac : Tropical Placidus Orb : 0
Sun Cancer 25°23' Ascendant Virgo 3°07'
Moon Scorpio 13°04' II Virgo 28°31'
Mercury Leo 5°26' III Libra 28°05'
Venus Virgo 5°01' IV Sagittarius 0°32'
Mars Cancer 12°54' V Capricorn 3°22'
Jupiter Sagittarius 1°15' R VI Aquarius 4°29'
Saturn Libra 27°58' VII Pisces 3°07'
Uranus Sagittarius 5°22' R VIII Pisces 28°31'
Neptune Sagittarius 27°08' R IX Aries 28°05'
Pluto Libra 26°45' Midheaven Gemini 0°32'
Lilith Aquarius 13°43' XI Cancer 3°22'
Asc node Gemini 24°43' XII Leo 4°29'
Sorry, this doesn't paste aligned properly. This is mine:
Zodiac : Tropical Placidus Orb : 0
Sun Cancer 25°23' Ascendant Virgo 3°07'
Moon Scorpio 13°04' II Virgo 28°31'
Mercury Leo 5°26' III Libra 28°05'
Venus Virgo 5°01' IV Sagittarius 0°32'
Mars Cancer 12°54' V Capricorn 3°22'
Jupiter Sagittarius 1°15' R VI Aquarius 4°29'
Saturn Libra 27°58' VII Pisces 3°07'
Uranus Sagittarius 5°22' R VIII Pisces 28°31'
Neptune Sagittarius 27°08' R IX Aries 28°05'
Pluto Libra 26°45' Midheaven Gemini 0°32'
Lilith Aquarius 13°43' XI Cancer 3°22'
Asc node Gemini 24°43' XII Leo 4°29'
@OP- VIG he will definitely have friends of all kinds in his life, he will like a woman who is spontaneous and mentally up for challenges. And not so clingy or emotional when he changes last minute plans..
He is a Taurus he will have all kinds of people in his life. He maybe a little emotional or sensitive if you are not spending time with him, calling, or whatever. So let him go out, have fun, trust him, and spend time when he calls and be versatile when you go out....
He is a Taurus he will have all kinds of people in his life. He maybe a little emotional or sensitive if you are not spending time with him, calling, or whatever. So let him go out, have fun, trust him, and spend time when he calls and be versatile when you go out....
Did you ask him what he wants in his life right now? Seriously What he is looking for?
@OP- So what is the latest?
@FirstDecan--He texted me late and said he didn't even end up going out, and stayed in bed. This morning he texted and said he was glued to his bed last night with a sad face. He and I are supposed to go out after a function I have, so we shall see.
Also, no, I haven't asked him what he wants yet. I just felt it was too early. I don't think I would end up with him in the long run, so I should probably just walk away from it. That's just easier said than done. :/ Right now, I'm just seeing where it goes, if anywhere.
I've read online that Taurus men take things slowly. Is that true? He didn't seem to be taking things slowly in the beginning, but things are a bit different now, maybe because he doesn't have to chase me. Who knows.
Also, no, I haven't asked him what he wants yet. I just felt it was too early. I don't think I would end up with him in the long run, so I should probably just walk away from it. That's just easier said than done. :/ Right now, I'm just seeing where it goes, if anywhere.
I've read online that Taurus men take things slowly. Is that true? He didn't seem to be taking things slowly in the beginning, but things are a bit different now, maybe because he doesn't have to chase me. Who knows.
@wicked--I just think we had sex too soon because I'm trying to be a "good" girl, and I was doing so well before I met him! ha The sex is great, and I can't really say I regret it. What bothers me is I just can't figure him out. Like I said, I'm used to men who like me being obsessive over me. I hope that doesn't come off as being arrogant or full of myself, because I really am not. I've never had an issue with my personality either. It's always when I'm blasé or unsure of a person where things seem to be the easiest--probably because I'm not overthinking everything.
I was just wondering how typical Taurus men are in the beginning of a relationship. Of course, signs don't make a person. Just curious to see if it would help me make more sense of him.
I was just wondering how typical Taurus men are in the beginning of a relationship. Of course, signs don't make a person. Just curious to see if it would help me make more sense of him.
It's the VIG placement.
Posted by FirstDecanTaurianWomen0428I'm not familiar with all this stuff except for the very basics. What do his placements say about him? Thanks for your help! 🙂
It's the VIG placement.
@OP- I'm joking with that btw. Lol.
BUT seriously though to a Taurus who is interested in finding a mate, and I mean you hear and see it from him.. will not just have sex right away..unless they're not ready and still seeing other people. That does mean casual..
BUT seriously though to a Taurus who is interested in finding a mate, and I mean you hear and see it from him.. will not just have sex right away..unless they're not ready and still seeing other people. That does mean casual..
Some people will hold you accountable for your actions around a Taurus.. I mean like how many partners you've had, how many guy friends you may have, how fast are you in jumping into bed, how you act at a restaurant or club. Lol
@Confused Cancer...
I am not going to judge the length of time you opted to sleep with him. This doesn't make you any less of a lady. You trusted your gut instinct and followed your intuition. Nothing wrong with this. However, your insecurities are causing you to doubt your intuition.
There had to be something about him that caused to you to move forward, to move fast, to move out of character (as you asserted that you have never been this intimate with an individual so soon).
Bulls are decisive. We know our minds.
But
We're very cautious. We may like you. We may love you. We may despise you. Time will tell. We don't know you well enough to make that determination.
To prioritize someone we have only known for three weeks is quite comical actually.
Gradual Transition describes the pace of the Bull.
Work.
Family.
Close Friends.
This is the nuclear circle of the Bulls. Everyone in this circle is vouched for. Their time will be valued more than yours at this moment.
Is this Bull genuinely interested?
Too soon to tell. Give it a little time.
I am not going to judge the length of time you opted to sleep with him. This doesn't make you any less of a lady. You trusted your gut instinct and followed your intuition. Nothing wrong with this. However, your insecurities are causing you to doubt your intuition.
There had to be something about him that caused to you to move forward, to move fast, to move out of character (as you asserted that you have never been this intimate with an individual so soon).
Bulls are decisive. We know our minds.
But
We're very cautious. We may like you. We may love you. We may despise you. Time will tell. We don't know you well enough to make that determination.
To prioritize someone we have only known for three weeks is quite comical actually.
Gradual Transition describes the pace of the Bull.
Work.
Family.
Close Friends.
This is the nuclear circle of the Bulls. Everyone in this circle is vouched for. Their time will be valued more than yours at this moment.
Is this Bull genuinely interested?
Too soon to tell. Give it a little time.
is HUGE requirement with Bulls.
I read your other posts on this thread, and you're coming across as somewhat disconnected.
You moved quickly...and then you're holding back...=INCONSISTENCY.
Posted by ConfusedFemaleCancerYou want to solidify your position with this Bull? Learn to be to be more assertive in making plans. Keep that consistent pattern going on.
I definitely have a guard up because I actually like him now, and I'm having some doubts. Then a bit later he texted me and said he was going out with his guy friends he hasn't seen since he and I hung out with them. I asked why would he ask me to come over then and he said they had had plans to hang before, but it got canceled, and then they made new plans. I don't think he is lying. My issue is I'm not a priority. It's only been 3 weeks, but I'm not used to that.
You can't expect him to choose his friends over you at this moment. Remember he doesn't really know you.
But if you're waiting for an @ss-kissing...the waiting game will take much longer. Especially with Venus in Gems. LOL.
Posted by ConfusedFemaleCancer
What bothers me is I just can't figure him out. Like I said, I'm used to men who like me being obsessive over me. .click to expand
Posted by busyeyes88You need to make your "yes" mean "yes" and your "no" mean "no"! Pointless saying to someone "I don't normally have sex til soon and then go and do the opposite of what you say!!!Busyeyes,
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I strongly believe that is the issue that most individuals have with Bulls.
I can not stress this enough...KNOW WHO YOU ARE...and
@SensitiveBlues- That is the best advice all day.....
You gave it up way toooooo fast! You gave him the most precious part of you cuz he was nice and introduced you to friends. men don't respect women that give it up as quickly as you did you can forget about it is over. He sounds like a nice guy so he may continue a cordial relationship - but men make women who won't give it up fast their woman, not a woman who will give it up without a commitment. He will never view you the same - you gave him the prize - without a lot of hard work, effort and sacrifice. Read - The Power of the Pussy.
I hear my brothers talk about it all the time! My brother treats mom and me like queens....but if a woman gives it up too fast they brag about and move on to finding a virtuous woman. Sit back and mark my word.
I hear my brothers talk about it all the time! My brother treats mom and me like queens....but if a woman gives it up too fast they brag about and move on to finding a virtuous woman. Sit back and mark my word.
Disappear for a little while, when he calls be coy and slightly distant.
But be polite.
Don't give so much, too soon.
Keep a part of you to yourself.
You will be fine.
But be polite.
Don't give so much, too soon.
Keep a part of you to yourself.
You will be fine.
How long have you guys been dating? I'm Taurus sun and Venus in Gemini.Initially, yes,I'll talk a lot and stuff.taking you to his friends is a good sign.For VIG,we people love keeping things fun and exciting.We like a chase.Keep us on our toes and we'll always be there.If he's lessened the texting over a period of time,then it's no big deal.Maybe he has realxed now,knowing he has you with him and is continuing with his life.It's because now he's comfortable wrt his relationship.However, if it has happened quickly,it maybe because you're not keeping him entertained, are monotonous (which is so boring) and he's losing interest.
Posted by LunarMaidenI'd say not to distance.Talk to him but be your fun and exciting self.Keep things happy and light and don't open up too soon.Let him try to decipher you.
Disappear for a little while, when he calls be coy and slightly distant.
But be polite.
Don't give so much, too soon.
Keep a part of you to yourself.
You will be fine.
Taurus men take their time. They move at their own pace. Yes, you did sleep with him too soon and he doesn't have anything to work for. You have to make him work for it and time with you. Don't be so available. Again, let him do the work. Stay busy. If he calls great; answer or not answer if he doesn't great, keep it moving and enjoy life. I've learned that these guys like women who have their own lives annd aren't waiting for them to supply the entertainment. It's can be hard and confusing but you have to do your own thing and allow him to come around when he is ready. In the meantime, you go out with other people.
Posted by LovelyLadyEverything you said--YES! When we are together in person, I have no doubts. But, when we aren't together, he doesn't seem to care much. Whenever I decide to let it go (to myself), he does something that reassures me. Whenever I'm reassured, I go right back to doubting. lol Very confusing. IS this a Taurus man quality?! Any Taurus men on here??
Wow I am cancer woman dealing with a taurus man and I completely agree on the hot and cold thing. While together nothing else matters..when apart I question if he is even interested. Idk if this is just how taurus men are or not but it's nice to hear your story. Sounds very similar with mine. I am at a cross roads. I have other men gladly putting in working and chasing for my attention..while I feel like I am semi-chasing this taurus man. My first instinct is to ditch..and it sounds like you feel the same..I believe it's the feeling of "not knowing" that is making it hard for us. We tend to be very intuitive so the fact that we can't figure these taurus men out..completely drives us crazy! Anytime I am ready to distance myself and walk away from him..he pops up and reminds me of the amazing connection we hold. Smh...I think I am going to try to be patient and just go with the flow. My tendency is to look so far in the future and try to plan it all out that I forget to just live in the moment. Good luck with what you have going and whatever you decide to do. I think taurus and cancer have something magical. Maybe sticking around is worth it?
Posted by TaurusBull1977You're right. I have been inconsistent, but I am reacting to his being inconsistent. At least from my perspective...
Consistency is HUGE requirement with Bulls.
I read your other posts on this thread, and you're coming across as somewhat disconnected.
You moved quickly...and then you're holding back...=INCONSISTENCY.
Posted by ConfusedFemaleCancerYou want to solidify your position with this Bull? Learn to be to be more assertive in making plans. Keep that consistent pattern going on.
I definitely have a guard up because I actually like him now, and I'm having some doubts. Then a bit later he texted me and said he was going out with his guy friends he hasn't seen since he and I hung out with them. I asked why would he ask me to come over then and he said they had had plans to hang before, but it got canceled, and then they made new plans. I don't think he is lying. My issue is I'm not a priority. It's only been 3 weeks, but I'm not used to that.
You can't expect him to choose his friends over you at this moment. Remember he doesn't really know you.
But if you're waiting for an @ss-kissing...the waiting game will take much longer. Especially with Venus in Gems. LOL.
Posted by ConfusedFemaleCancer
What bothers me is I just can't figure him out. Like I said, I'm used to men who like me being obsessive over me. .click to expand
What do you mean by Venus in Gemini? I don't understand these placements. Can someone please do a quick rundown on his placements for me? 🙂 I don't need to have my ass kissed, but this is very new to me. Men tend to get attached and fall hard. I'm used to being able to KNOW they genuinely like me. With this guy, I'm confused. I'm okay with slow. I'm just not okay with hot/cold and me not knowing where he stands for much longer. Thank you for your input! I'll do a quick update in another post so it doesn't cut off.
"However taurus men are lazy!! Once they think they have you in the" palm of their hands" they stop working for your attention."
Agreed with the sex thing. So, Taurus men stop working once they think they have you? Hmmmm..... Any other Taurus men here like that?
Agreed with the sex thing. So, Taurus men stop working once they think they have you? Hmmmm..... Any other Taurus men here like that?
Posted by Librawoman77That's funny you mentioned that book, because I actually just bought it after going against my "waiting" rule. haha You're absolutely right. I do think love and long-lasting relationships can happen, even if you sleep together soon, but it's probably rare. My question is--am I supposed to now hold on out sex? That seems a little silly once the deed has already been done. lol
You gave it up way toooooo fast! You gave him the most precious part of you cuz he was nice and introduced you to friends. men don't respect women that give it up as quickly as you did you can forget about it is over. He sounds like a nice guy so he may continue a cordial relationship - but men make women who won't give it up fast their woman, not a woman who will give it up without a commitment. He will never view you the same - you gave him the prize - without a lot of hard work, effort and sacrifice. Read - The Power of the Pussy.
I hear my brothers talk about it all the time! My brother treats mom and me like queens....but if a woman gives it up too fast they brag about and move on to finding a virtuous woman. Sit back and mark my word.
Posted by ConfusedFemaleCanceri don't think you should wait a moment longer. you guys are done. it's just a matter of waiting for the other shoe to drop now.
I'm just not okay with hot/cold and me not knowing where he stands for much longer.
Quick update:
The night we were supposed to hang out after my event, he said he was waiting for me all night. I was finally able to meet up with him at 11:30. I told him he could have gone out while he was waiting and I could have met up with him after my event, and he brought up me playfully giving him a hard time the night he said he was going out with his guy friends. I said he can go out with his guy friends if he wants and I didn't care if he did, I just didn't get why he asked me over, canceled, and then ended up not even going out. Anyway, things were fine that night.
In person, everything seems great. Away from him, he makes me question how much he actually cares. So, I had decided to back off from things. He ended up texting me more that next day and then asked me to go watch his game (he plays a sport). I told him I was falling in and out of sleep and asked when the game was. I told him I was hoping it was a later game so I could take a nap, but it wasn't. He sent a mad face when I said that, and then sent a sad face. So, I told him I would take a quick nap and let him know how I felt. I ended up telling him I would go and he said yay. When we were driving there, he would reach over and put his hand on my leg. After the game, he said when he scored the first goal, he wanted to point up to me as to say that first goal was for my girl, but he didn't want to look like an idiot. He said-so I just figured you knew it was for you. Later, I was telling him about trying to buy a house and we were passing this really expensive neighborhood. I told him he could just buy me a house there, and he said anything for my girl. We hung out that night after the game and laughed for hours together. It was a really good time. It made me second guess giving up on him because I had such a good time being with him. Well, the next day (yesterday)--not much from him. Today, crickets. lol Sooooo....back to being confused.
Last night, I did say we should go to a pro game together so he could explain things to me. He said, "maybe one day 😉" and I said "maybe I'll have to go with someone else then :-p" I only said that because sometimes he seems to put little to no effort in, and I don't want him to think he has me no matter what. Some advice here says back off. Some says don't.
He did mention recently that he knew he had me from the start. I laughed and said-oh, really? Because I was on the fence about you in the beginning. He mentioned joining me to watch a football game with me and how I paid more attention to the game than him (it was the championship game and my team was playing). I said--yeah, because I was on the fence about you! So, maybe he does think he just has me now?? Who knows.
Can anyone do a quick synopsis of what his placements could mean?
Thanks for everyone's input. I really appreciate it!!
The night we were supposed to hang out after my event, he said he was waiting for me all night. I was finally able to meet up with him at 11:30. I told him he could have gone out while he was waiting and I could have met up with him after my event, and he brought up me playfully giving him a hard time the night he said he was going out with his guy friends. I said he can go out with his guy friends if he wants and I didn't care if he did, I just didn't get why he asked me over, canceled, and then ended up not even going out. Anyway, things were fine that night.
In person, everything seems great. Away from him, he makes me question how much he actually cares. So, I had decided to back off from things. He ended up texting me more that next day and then asked me to go watch his game (he plays a sport). I told him I was falling in and out of sleep and asked when the game was. I told him I was hoping it was a later game so I could take a nap, but it wasn't. He sent a mad face when I said that, and then sent a sad face. So, I told him I would take a quick nap and let him know how I felt. I ended up telling him I would go and he said yay. When we were driving there, he would reach over and put his hand on my leg. After the game, he said when he scored the first goal, he wanted to point up to me as to say that first goal was for my girl, but he didn't want to look like an idiot. He said-so I just figured you knew it was for you. Later, I was telling him about trying to buy a house and we were passing this really expensive neighborhood. I told him he could just buy me a house there, and he said anything for my girl. We hung out that night after the game and laughed for hours together. It was a really good time. It made me second guess giving up on him because I had such a good time being with him. Well, the next day (yesterday)--not much from him. Today, crickets. lol Sooooo....back to being confused.
Last night, I did say we should go to a pro game together so he could explain things to me. He said, "maybe one day 😉" and I said "maybe I'll have to go with someone else then :-p" I only said that because sometimes he seems to put little to no effort in, and I don't want him to think he has me no matter what. Some advice here says back off. Some says don't.
He did mention recently that he knew he had me from the start. I laughed and said-oh, really? Because I was on the fence about you in the beginning. He mentioned joining me to watch a football game with me and how I paid more attention to the game than him (it was the championship game and my team was playing). I said--yeah, because I was on the fence about you! So, maybe he does think he just has me now?? Who knows.
Can anyone do a quick synopsis of what his placements could mean?
Thanks for everyone's input. I really appreciate it!!
Posted by jeaneWhy do you say that? Because Taurus men are known to be hot/cold, because he seems to not care, or...? My ex was a scorpio who became the biggest hot/cold, bi-polar acting man I've ever met in my life (when we were off and on). His actions never matched his emotions. It was such an unnecessary emotional rollercoaster/disaster. He gave me enough of that to last a lifetime. haPosted by ConfusedFemaleCanceri don't think you should wait a moment longer. you guys are done. it's just a matter of waiting for the other shoe to drop now.
I'm just not okay with hot/cold and me not knowing where he stands for much longer.click to expand
Posted by IlovemyaquaNot very long. About a month. It seems ridiculous to be posting on here after a month, but I'm caught between not wanting to waste time with him, but also not wanting to jump to conclusions and write him off too soon. I really like him when I'm with him. I just can't figure him out. I feel like I'm a pretty entertaining, quirky girl. We laugh a lot when we're together. But, I also wish he would take me out instead of just hanging at his place so much. He seems to be perfectly content being at home every day (even with me not in the picture). I like to get out once in a while.
How long have you guys been dating? I'm Taurus sun and Venus in Gemini.Initially, yes,I'll talk a lot and stuff.taking you to his friends is a good sign.For VIG,we people love keeping things fun and exciting.We like a chase.Keep us on our toes and we'll always be there.If he's lessened the texting over a period of time,then it's no big deal.Maybe he has realxed now,knowing he has you with him and is continuing with his life.It's because now he's comfortable wrt his relationship.However, if it has happened quickly,it maybe because you're not keeping him entertained, are monotonous (which is so boring) and he's losing interest.
Posted by ConfusedFemaleCancerfirst off, i would be delighted if proven wrong but it sound like is quite smug. i've not found taurus men to be hot and cold. i've found them to be independent and that's what i thought at first but as it's only been a few weeks, it sounds like this guy is treating you like an option, especially because he knows you like him now. he proved this when you backed off. he had a slight panic that he didn't have you where he wanted you and he chased, became more attentive. see the thread about the pisces cheating boyfriend and how he turn around once he realised he was losing his option.Posted by jeaneWhy do you say that? Because Taurus men are known to be hot/cold, because he seems to not care, or...? My ex was a scorpio who became the biggest hot/cold, bi-polar acting man I've ever met in my life (when we were off and on). His actions never matched his emotions. It was such an unnecessary emotional rollercoaster/disaster. He gave me enough of that to last a lifetime. haPosted by ConfusedFemaleCanceri don't think you should wait a moment longer. you guys are done. it's just a matter of waiting for the other shoe to drop now.
I'm just not okay with hot/cold and me not knowing where he stands for much longer.click to expand
i fear this guy will keep stringing you along and keep you a an option. when you start to disappear he will do a bit of fancy footwork until you get comfortable and then become lazy and smug. and the cycle will continue.
Posted by jeaneGotcha. That's also what I fear. Although, the weird part is he couldn't have known I had decided in my mind to back off and just let things fade away, because I had just made up my mind the night before. There wasn't enough time for him to even notice I was backing off. So, again, confusing. I would have never had known he had a game if he hadn't told me. He didn't have to invite me. We didn't have plans to hang out that night. I was perfectly content staying home. He also acted bummed when I said I didn't know if I'd go. Yet, then when we are apart, he is back to seeming to not be that into me.Posted by ConfusedFemaleCancerfirst off, i would be delighted if proven wrong but it sound like is quite smug. i've not found taurus men to be hot and cold. i've found them to be independent and that's what i thought at first but as it's only been a few weeks, it sounds like this guy is treating you like an option, especially because he knows you like him now. he proved this when you backed off. he had a slight panic that he didn't have you where he wanted you and he chased, became more attentive. see the thread about the pisces cheating boyfriend and how he turn around once he realised he was losing his option.Posted by jeaneWhy do you say that? Because Taurus men are known to be hot/cold, because he seems to not care, or...? My ex was a scorpio who became the biggest hot/cold, bi-polar acting man I've ever met in my life (when we were off and on). His actions never matched his emotions. It was such an unnecessary emotional rollercoaster/disaster. He gave me enough of that to last a lifetime. haPosted by ConfusedFemaleCanceri don't think you should wait a moment longer. you guys are done. it's just a matter of waiting for the other shoe to drop now.
I'm just not okay with hot/cold and me not knowing where he stands for much longer.
i fear this guy will keep stringing you along and keep you a an option. when you start to disappear he will do a bit of fancy footwork until you get comfortable and then become lazy and smug. and the cycle will continue.click to expand
Posted by busyeyes88I'm not sure which time you're referring to, but he doesn't text much during the day, which is a bad sign. He just texted me and asked how my day was. Maybe that's to try to get me to hang out with him tonight. ha He asked if I wanted to come over last night (around maybe 7:30), and I said not tonight. He asked what I was doing and I said I just wanted to have a night to relax by myself. He said-wasn't that what last night was for?? lol I'm sure he'll ask to see me tonight again, but I'm going to say no. I want to tell him this pattern isn't working for me, but I'm not quite sure how to word it. Maybe something like--We need to make plans earlier, because I have things to do. Any advice is welcome. 😉
Was it 11.30 pm?
Did you have sex with him?
Any man that engages with you in the "witching" hour eg after 9 pm and want to meet you and you have sex, you are just a "booty call"!!!
I agree about the booty call. I'm not about to start and keep that pattern going.
@OP- Damn they set the clock back on booty calls now to 9pm, Go figure haha. Last I knew about was 0000-0400.
@OP- It isn't a bad thing not calling during the day because of work but I will get back to you when I can. And then when we do, lets do something but no you want to play games? Why?
Posted by FirstDecanTaurianWomen0428I don't like playing games, but he just needs to know I'm not at his beck and call. I think he has gotten too comfortable and isn't putting in enough effort. He has put in less and less effort as time goes on. And, he doesn't work many hours. He owns his own business and has a lot of free time. He could ask to see me earlier.
@OP- It isn't a bad thing not calling during the day because of work but I will get back to you when I can. And then when we do, lets do something but no you want to play games? Why?
U are definitely coming off distant n doubtful. U are also being passive. One thing I hate is to say u are okay with something and u are not! Don't do that! Taurusbull gave great advice. The number one thing u will need to get through this beginners step is communicate to him and don't brush him off. He is making efforts but u giving him excuses like I'm tired or dnt feel like it tonight will become a turn off. Don't live in ur head like most cancers do. Communicate ur concerns and if he doesn't txt, then txt him. Someone mention earlier that we get comfortable n lack off. This is true. If I got u then I lack off a bit Bc I feel like we should have an understanding that I'm all for u n will keep focusing on other areas of my life. We do take on a lot work n family/friend wise so sometimes we spread ourselves thin trying to catering to the ones who matter the most. Just relax n go with the flow. Don't quickly put all ur walls up off of an assumption. That's when u begin to lose
Posted by HoneybunniieThanks for your input! But, don't you think he would be texting me more or trying to take me out rather than mostly texting me at night and asking to see me late? I'll see him tomorrow unless he is upset and doesn't want to see me. He's not happy I told him no again. lol
U are definitely coming off distant n doubtful. U are also being passive. One thing I hate is to say u are okay with something and u are not! Don't do that! Taurusbull gave great advice. The number one thing u will need to get through this beginners step is communicate to him and don't brush him off. He is making efforts but u giving him excuses like I'm tired or dnt feel like it tonight will become a turn off. Don't live in ur head like most cancers do. Communicate ur concerns and if he doesn't txt, then txt him. Someone mention earlier that we get comfortable n lack off. This is true. If I got u then I lack off a bit Bc I feel like we should have an understanding that I'm all for u n will keep focusing on other areas of my life. We do take on a lot work n family/friend wise so sometimes we spread ourselves thin trying to catering to the ones who matter the most. Just relax n go with the flow. Don't quickly put all ur walls up off of an assumption. That's when u begin to lose
Should I tell him I need more effort? A male friend of mine says it's too early to be up front with him, and it will scare him off. I can see that. It's only been a month. I'm not trying to tell him he needs to be my boyfriend and then propose tomorrow. ha I just don't want this to set the tone for how things continue.
@honeybunnie- Oh true that..
"If I got u then I lack off a bit Bc I feel like we should have an understanding that I'm all for u n will keep focusing on other areas of my life."
We love space and trust and will let you do whatever as long as there is communication, respect, and loyalty. I put a lot of faith in everything right away..i also trust a little too much right away...
@OP- We will be there for you and we don't say it much just our actions do very well.
"If I got u then I lack off a bit Bc I feel like we should have an understanding that I'm all for u n will keep focusing on other areas of my life."
We love space and trust and will let you do whatever as long as there is communication, respect, and loyalty. I put a lot of faith in everything right away..i also trust a little too much right away...
@OP- We will be there for you and we don't say it much just our actions do very well.
@Busyeyes88 - Yeah you are right. Guess what applebees is now open till 0100. Lol.. The thing with that dating at night though. Is most people don't wind down from their own jobs and usually have to wait till they are ready.
By then either I am tired or at work because most people don't work night shifts. Like I mentioned before my dates were usually a hour away too.. so yeah if you want movie datea I suggest before last showing, if you like pool halls and food then that's your best bet.
By then either I am tired or at work because most people don't work night shifts. Like I mentioned before my dates were usually a hour away too.. so yeah if you want movie datea I suggest before last showing, if you like pool halls and food then that's your best bet.
@Busyeyes88- So go back to platonic friends after sex. Oh no.
@Busyeyes 88- Yeah I get what you are saying. I am like that too. Lol. Yeah I'm not a last minute type either. These our the guys who had their schedule set as I did mine. Trust my schedule myself is abdnormal and it clashed with others. As long as I got to hear from them I was okay. A couple times got pushed back and was cancelled last minute. But I must say if another option came about another time, I would show how I was interested in that person. The air signs are inconsistent but honest and last minute types.
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