Taurus man pushing me away

Do Taurus men lie when they say they love you and want a future with you, SOME DAY? That they want you to remain excited for the possibility of a future together? I've recently been seeing one, long distance, and yesterday his ex-wife came out of no where and said she may be pregnant, but he knows it could be a lie and might not even be his because she had been cheating on him the last 6 months of their marriage (divorce was cut and dry done). But shortly after she told him that he told me we need to slow things down, stop talking so much but he loves me and knows in his heart he does. He just can't "focus" on a new relationship right now, he can't work towards it. His marriage concealer, which he now sees solo, since the ex wife is back to her home town, has informed him he needs to stay single for at least a year instead of jumping into a new relationship. However, I have plans to go see him at the end of the month, and he's very persistent that we have a "heart to heart for better or worse" when I get there.

We have 14 years of romantic history, and about 16 as friends. So it isn't something "new"....I am very confused about the situation. Because things seemed to be going smoothly, we were being sweet and lovey and out of no where, literally in a matter of 2 or 3 hours he flipped it to needing to slow down.

Am I crazy?

More than likely his ex wife didn't just pop up out of "no where".

if you were messing with guy who until recently was still sleeping with his wife then most likely he is not ready. if you want a future with him and he believes that he might want one with you too one day then the best thing you can do for that future relationship is to let him fully recover from his most recent failure.

pushing it too soon will almost guarantee that whatever you will have will fail as well.

he realises this so you should believe him when he says he can't focus on something new right now.

Posted by busyeyes88
You said you were romantically involved with him for 14 years?! were you both seeing each other while he was still married?

No, 14 years ago.

Posted by jeane
if you were messing with guy who until recently was still sleeping with his wife then most likely he is not ready. if you want a future with him and he believes that he might want one with you too one day then the best thing you can do for that future relationship is to let him fully recover from his most recent failure.

pushing it too soon will almost guarantee that whatever you will have will fail as well.

he realises this so you should believe him when he says he can't focus on something new right now.

Thank you, after a long heart to heart we have both decided it's best that we just remain best friends without complicating it, until we are both ready.

Posted by KaptainKhaos
More than likely his ex wife didn't just pop up out of "no where".

Aside from the divorce, which was settled 3 months ago, he hasn't spoken to her. He hasn't seen her, in person, in 6 months. His mother saw her and she says she doesn't look pregnant at all, she'd be at least 8 months by now. She's notorious for lying and the entire family believes she is lying about it.

Posted by MLVarley

Posted by jeane
if you were messing with guy who until recently was still sleeping with his wife then most likely he is not ready. if you want a future with him and he believes that he might want one with you too one day then the best thing you can do for that future relationship is to let him fully recover from his most recent failure.

pushing it too soon will almost guarantee that whatever you will have will fail as well.

he realises this so you should believe him when he says he can't focus on something new right now.

Thank you, after a long heart to heart we have both decided it's best that we just remain best friends without complicating it, until we are both ready.

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i think that's the wisest move and if your feelings have any substance then, although it sucks, there is no reason why you can be together a little way down the track. good luck.