Taurus Man Virgo Woman - Relationship advise

I'm so glad you mentioned this post, I had no clue Venus was in retrograde. Maybe someone can shine some light on my situation?

I've been seeing a Taurus guy for last 2 months, we've basically spoken every day for long periods of time and were immediately drawn to each other and hung out frequently every week. The catch is, he's British and only in town until this upcoming December. We haven't even had sex yet because wanted to take it slow and get to know one another. After talking about past relationships, I mentioned that I was burned by the last two guys I had been intimate with, and I think he took that very seriously to heart and said he'd never stop talking to me like those guys did - but that to me but he also doesn't want to hurt me. Anyhow this past weekend was kind of our unsaid night to do the deed and he said something along the lines of "Well, I don't want things to get weird between us." I wasn't sure what he was talking about and asked and he went on to tell me how much he loves hanging out with me, and how he thinks I'm gorgeous and he really wants to sleep together, but since he has to leave he's afraid he's going to hurt me, and that he had this happen before when he lives in Australia for a year and it was really tough on him and the girl he dated that and that I reminded him of that same feeling.

Anyhow, he then goes on to say that he wants us to be friends so we can keep hanging out but not sleep together / yet kiss and be flirty etc. At this point i'm offended and totally put off, and say something like well good thing we weren't exclusive because I've been going on a few dates with other guys, and I didn't want to be taken when I travel abroad this summer, yada yada (i know, like a brat - but in my head i was trying to seem "cool and not bothered") He goes to tell me he's put off by this other side of me, and we kinda go back and forth and I remain bratty and tell him to leave. So, he does.

The following morning I apologized and thanked him for being honest with me and he followed it up with saying he just needs to man up and do the right thing cause he didn't want to hurt me and with his career moves around a lot and just needs to be single, but still wants to be my friend and has been thinking about it a lot lately. I said something like "sigh, well i guess I'll see you around" and we haven't spoken since.

Now I'm reading all these commends about how everyone is reviewing things and yada yada, and now i'm wondering if there's anyway I can salvage something that was really quite sweet and promising. Or should I just be friends?

Thanks in advance.

It's an unfortunate mistake. Your feelings were hurt and you felt you were about to be rejected. You behaved incorrectly but understandably. You know where you mistake lay.

So I guess it is time for you to decide what you want. Relationship or friendship? If he can't give you a relationship would you still be happy with his friendship?

Your reaction is going to make him gun shy now. He's not quite sure he knows you anymore or thought he did but has realised he doesn't.

If you are only after a relationship with him, then you might have to wait a while and pay some sort of penance for your reaction. If you are happy to be friends, be friends! Show him consistency, show him maturity and who knows what could happen in the future?

This doesn't sound like retrograde stuff to me. This sort of thing happens all year round.

Thank you, Jeane. I suppose the fact that he as like 100% smitten with me and kept saying things like "what have you done to me, I can't stop thinking about you" one weekend that we spent entirely together doing cute couple-ly things. He kept flirting saying he wanted me to come over and cuddle and kiss while watching movies all during the week and didnt want to even wait till that Friday to see me, to that Friday being completely friend zoned. He didnt kiss me when he saw me or wasn't as flirty, I don't know what happened. Then boom, lets be friends.

I really enjoy being around him too, but I feel like I wouldnt be able to help myself but to flirt and go in for a kiss yada yada, which will make things weird. He knew I was going on different dates, so that wasnt like a big surprise for him, I knew he had been too but we kept just saying we're each others favorites and one by one another person on either side would be dropped. He also said after I got upset that he regretted telling me, and he didn't expect for it to turn out that way. He basically wants us to act like we're together, but then not get emotionally attached which is nearly impossible for me.

Thanks for the responses

@Nova83,

His work will take precedence over you.

He can not commit or make any promises to you at the moment.

He didn't want to hurt you in the process.

Although his connection to you is REAL....

His level of commitment to you at this time is not.

Why be 'pretend' friends.

Unless you plan to move where he plans to relocate...

Then I will strongly advise that you remove yourself from the possibility of a long distance romance.

Bulls and LDRs is like oil and water. It doesn't mix.

Bulls are physical creatures which explains his strong attraction to you.

Keeping this flame alive in two different countiries is TORTURE!

I agree with the ldr sentiment but I don't know. It's only April. A lot can happen between now and December. I wouldn't make any rash decisions. my reaction would be to play the long game.

Posted by jeane
I agree with the ldr sentiment but I don't know. It's only April. A lot can happen between now and December. I wouldn't make any rash decisions. my reaction would be to play the long game.

You messed up quite a bit up there, Virgo sister.

If you wish to play the long game, know that you'll have to move nearer to him one day.

For what it's worth, Taurus and Virgo share a natural affinity together, I myself have always find it easy to connect with Taurus. There's always a good chance with this pairing. Learn to find an arrangement which works for both of you.

For now, just focus on your own life and passions.