Taurus man wants to stay

Okay so I met this taurus guy around one month ago and we hit it off pretty well, he said that he finds me very beautiful and interesting. I'm capricorn girl so hearing so many compliments from the start kinda freaked me out, but he seemed sincere. We've had few dates and it was pretty intense, the attraction was strong so it wasn't long before we started sleeping together. He kept saying how beautiful I am, wanted to hold hands with me all the time...he gave me this really sweet smiles, kept touching me and hugging me, carresed my hair and face a lot and I just felt safe and good with him... We also have a lot of in common, we can talk for hours about so many topics so it's not just about sex... He appricietes my brain as well (if that makes sense 😄) I knew that he was interested in me, which I found reassuring and solid. The thing is he's supposed to leave in summer after he finishes school and wants to travel for few years. I knew that already, but still wanted to give it chance, I haven't pressured him in any way... Last time we were together he asked me if I wanted to be in relationship at this moment so I honestly told him that if I had chance and it was worth it then why not... I didn't think about it that much, neither I wanted to confront him, I was perfectly comfortable with the way we were since it was too soon for me to take it that seriously. However I really like him so it wasn't hard for me to imagine being serious with him one day. I just didn't want to rush him or push him into anything he wouldn't like... Yesterday we went out again it was good as any other time, he was still affectionate with me, held my hand but he hasn't kissed me which was strange because he's always done that before. Then suddenly he got all serious and asked me if I remembered how he asked me if I wanted to have serious relationship.. I told him I did and asked why... so he asked what have I expected from spending time with him. I was honest and told him that I haven't expected anything that I was fine with not knowing what's going to happen next. And I asked him the same question what does he expect from me... He said that he thinks that if we kept meeting each other like this that we would end up in relationship and that he thought about it a lot and since he wants to travel a lot next summer he thinks it's going to be better if we just stayed friends from now on. As you can imagine I didn't expect that so it took me by surpsrise. He said he wants to spend time with me that he enjoys me and if there were different circumstances he'd really want to be with me, but that he's scared that if we remain this way he's going to hurt me when he leaves for his travels and that he cannot imagine long distance relationship either. So he'd rather hurt me now before it gets too serious...I mean... we had only few dates so I was surprised and kinda hurt although I understood what he meant it still hurt. He said he's having good time with me and that he wants to spend time with me, but only as friends.... I told him that if he wants that, then we will truly be only friends and that in time I might even find somebody else instead of him that I'm not sure if I can wait around like that... He said that he understands that, also he noticed that he hurt me and he looked very sorry, he kept carressing my hair and apologizing and explaining... He kept repeating how he hopes he's going to see me again.. I got sligtly angry since it seemed cruel to me, him expecting me like I will accept it like nothing happened. He said that it's entirely his fault and that he knows he made a mistake. I don't know if I should stay his friend or just move on... He seems to really care about me and to like me and I want to see him again, but I can't imagine we wouldn't develop any kind of deeper feelings even if we stayed just friends... I don't know... I can't imagine I'll see him one day with some other girl... After I develop certain feelings for someone it's hard to go back. I'm just scared it's going to hurt me anyway.

I'm sorry that it's so long!

Rereading, it sounds like he only wanted sex. Got it, now he's moving in and doing it in a cruel way since you played it cool with your answer about being with him. Run and dont look back.

I'm not a Taurus, but this has little to do with what his astrological sign is at all. It is obvious he has put a lot of thought into this situation. From experience Tauro folk won't hang onto something longer than intended.

Yes he cares, for you and even likes you. Who knows where life with take your both.

For your sake right now in this moment to avoid more heartbreak ...you need to ease on a way from this.

Find you another focal point love.

-MsKrabz

*Will *You.

this is probably what you dont want to hear, but being friends with someone you have romantic feelings for cant work. You will just be hurting yourself in the long run. This is a time when you really need to think about you and only you, just like your Bull is only thinking about him and only him in this situation. When hes saying he wants to be friends what he really means he doesnt want to commit to you, but just keep you around for sex.

Do yourself a favor and cut off ties completely with him or you will always hope and wish for more and in the end the only person you will be hurting is yourself.

i would advise you to walk away. you've had a few dates, slept with the guy and developed feelings even logically knowing that he was never going to stick around.

maybe after a bit of distance you can be friends.

Posted by TaurusVenusGirl
this is probably what you dont want to hear, but being friends with someone you have romantic feelings for cant work. You will just be hurting yourself in the long run. This is a time when you really need to think about you and only you, just like your Bull is only thinking about him and only him in this situation. When hes saying he wants to be friends what he really means he doesnt want to commit to you, but just keep you around for sex.

Do yourself a favor and cut off ties completely with him or you will always hope and wish for more and in the end the only person you will be hurting is yourself.

Yes you are right I feel the same way about it... I asked him directly if he wants me to be his friend with benefits, he said no sex no intimacy at all.. I would like to believe it and I think he means it. However I know myself and I don't think I have that much of a self control to never be romantically or sexually involved with him ever again... One day we'd lose control and I'd hate that since it wouldn't change anything, I do understand his reasons and it's logical, but still it's upsetting . It's a shame though we have great connection and I think we'd be great together. And we just have to be friends so it's "easy" for him to leave... Well I guess timing is important after all. I will give it some time, think it over and see if I come to any solution, I told him I can't promise anything though. Thank you for your honest opinion!

Wow. My bull even he was about to leave before did not say anything as " let's be friends". Lol. And if soon he will leave and tell me like that...I would rather say No Thanks.

Posted by TauroMale22
Nechci číst všechno

Lol

Ahoj!! 😄 it's cute that you noticed I'm from Czech republic :-) you don't have to read it all if you don't want to xDD