Taurus men behavior of inconsistency.....please ex

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Hi Cancerlady,

I am little Pisces. I knew I was going to get a simple answered. It is a little more complicated than that. This Taurus guy is a childhood friend from grad school through high school. It has been 10 years since we met again. There is already a bond between us. If you know about Taurus they have a security blanket of people & things they treasure.

Yes, I have once brought up about the relationship because one night, while he was drunk, he told me & to another friend that I?m his future wife & that I?m everything he wanted. I know that he said it while he was drunk, but being drunk only looses your inanition more. The next day I asked him if he remember what he said & if he meant it. He made the excuse that he was so drunk & that he didn?t remember a thing. But I caught him tripping on his own lies.

But anyhow, a week later he said to me, ?You want something more don?t yeah?? I said, ?You are putting me on the spot.? He said, ?Take it for what it is. I don?t have a lot to offer right now, just be patience with me.? I don?t know what he meant by to be patience with him.

I just don?t understand his disappearing & reappearing act. When I want to see he never comes around but when he needs me I am there for him. I know I don?t have to, but being a compassionate & understanding person I try not to let anyone down. But every time I?m there, he tells me he is glad that he has met me & is happy to see me. I think he contradicts loves a lot, but I know he is going through some personal issues that only he could solve. I don?t know if he is being too stubborn not to let me in his life or he is dwelling on something or someone else.

I can?t make sense of all this??.
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Ha Ha Ha...Turnabout it fair play! It is karma paying you back for all your fishy indiscretions...How many people have YOU disappeared & reappeared on you slippery little Pisces you!

Just kidding...Seriously, you guys DO have a complicated background...but being that he said he doesn't have much to give right now, I would take that at face value until he proves in a more consistent manner that he is ready to be there for you.

If you love him you are really going to have to examin his motives and make sure they are true but if not I wouldn't bank on a relationship with him...Did he say WHY he doesn't have much to give, ie just got out of relationship, working alot etc.?

CL/CM2
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Yes I probably have disappeared for quit sometime, but only because I was dealing with my own personal demons. At the time I was with an alcoholic; turned abusive husband. I have separated from him for 2 years & divorce in April of 2005. I have not let anyone in life since than, but now that I got my feet on the ground & I?m more emotional stable, I'm really for the world!

He made a comment that really stuck with me. The comment is, ?Take it for what it is.? I tell ya—that is one of the greatest advice anyone have given me. Now, I don?t stress out about where the relationship is going or not going or what is going to happen tomorrow. It taught me to just enjoy the moment with him & make the best out of it. This can be relay to any given situations.

I?m still at a point where I do not love him?..yet, but I do care a great deal aobut him. I cherish the short time we spend & know that when I am with him I am safe & love. When we are together & for what ever demons he is fighting inside, I try to let him know that I?m here for him & to forget all his worries & just be happy around me.

One more thing, I don?t think that Pisces are meant to come off as wishy-washy; it is that we procrastinate a lot & we can?t make up our mind.