I'm really confused!!!!!

I met a taurus male about five months ago...and about four months ago he called and asked when we were gonna have a beer together...we ended up together that nite..we had a good time but one thing led to another..i don't have to tell u what happened...i am a leo female and we were attracted to each other from the git go..i am very much in love with this man now..we have been seein each other a lil over three months now until the other day...when we started seein each other he told me he had a x g/f and she had his kid ... i found out later he was lying about it..he is 27..i asked him if he was married and he said yes and told me that he wanted a divcorce...he said he filed he didn't ...he said he had an attorney he doesn't..she still lives in the house and he says he wants a divorce and she won't leave..but he won't force her out either..he says my feelings for him will b returned soon and we will b together when its all over...but he sees me less now and jus the other day he told me to not call him he would call me..i told him jus tell me its over..it took five times b4 he said it and then after he said it he jus hung up on me very quickly b4 i could say anything...i have tried not to call but don't have the strength to not call...i am soo ohurt by all this and lost now..i feel like i have lost my best friend whom i told everything to..i have not talked to him in 2 days now and don't know if i am coming or goin...i don't know what to do or what to think..everyone says he used me and played with my head and i refuse to believe that cuz in my heart of hearts i feel he did not and is not...or maybe i'm jus dreamin...i have called and asked him to plz call me and i also told him i would b by his side when he got rid of her...i also told him he had three weeks to do what he needed to do or he wouldn't see me anymore..i told him i would give up everything xcept of course my family, kids and some of my friends for him and would do anything for him...have i said something wrong or done something wrong????...i jus want him to do what he needs to do...so we can b together..but i fear that now i have ruined it...i see him drive by where i am at whether it is at home or visiting friends...but he never stops and never calls and ignores my calls now...what do i do now???? i really need some advice...

First of all he cant be trusted and thats Very imortant in a relationship.I strongly think u should stop talking to him all togetther or just be friends if you can handle it.He has a WIFE-that hes most likely not going to get rid of if hasnt done so yet, hes NOT forcing her out the house so obviously he still wants her to stay. And man.. he lied to u in front of ur face.thats HORRIBLE. those r things u shouldnt lie about."but he sees me less now and jus the other day he told me to not call him he would call me"-Does his wife knoe he cheated w/you?if not thats the reason y he doesnt want u calling the house.I know you said hes like ur bestfriend.BUT Best friends dont lie & intentionally hurt you.I dont knoe if he used you.Do u feel Used???He did play w/ur mind by telling u hes single wen hes not.Baby Gurl you havent done or said anything wrong youve just falling for the wrong M@n.Dont blame it on urself, balme it on him. I suggest u try 2 move on w/ur life .Meet somebody else thats not married .Have Fun!

P.S If he

suga,
ty for ur reply, and yes his wife knows about us...he called me one nite and he hung up on me when she caught him..she called me back but she was bein a smartass about it..i was nice of course...i don't play them games..i know it was wrong to get involved but that was my bad...now i'm attached and don't know how to let go...its very hard...easier said than done girl...i'm tryin tho...i thought mayb he jus needed space but like i said i could b dreamin...ty so much ...ur are very helpful...alsways someone not close to the situation does help...but thare are always two sides to every story...

J

his kid stops him ..he told me one day that he didn't know if he could do that to his kid..i don't feel used at all...when i asked him if he was married he told me the truth...he said his marriage had been over since last yr...(shakes head and hangs it low)..i feel like a bad person for messin around with him and since i caught him in his lies ...he hasn't lied since to me...i called him on his lies so to speak...i'm blonde not stupid..lol..but obviously i am stupid fallin for a man i can't have...i feel about an inch tall...

Well he is stupid for getting involved in a relationship when he is married. He may have honestly been falling for you, and wishing for a second chance at love, but he has stopped himself realizing that it was wrong. Here's your chance to realize that it wasn't right for you either. This pain will fade with time. I'm sure it will be hard to trust again, just be strong and look for honesty in your next relationship. I was with someone for 2.5 months a year ago, when he said, "um, i'm married - but we're getting separated" When I found out they still lived together, I was out. That is a mess that is NOT worth it. But you are worth much more.

ty, i know your right its jus doin it...and it will take awhile as i'm not ready for no relationship anyway right now...ty very much...J

ya know i feel like such an butt!!! it will never happen again...i jus feel 1 inch tall and i did dump him ...jus don't feel right yet ...ty for the advice...u guys have been very helpful...ty

Just wondering how things are going with you? I'll be your support!

i'm alive...things will b better when i get back to work on monday...it will help out alot...ty everyone .... it is gonna b a long road to healing but i think i'm gonna make it...J

I met a Taurus man and he wined & dined me...treated me with the UTMOST respect, treated me better than ANY man has ever before...Took me places like the Source Awards in Miami. I mean the WHOLE WORKS!

Come to find out after three months of this (He never BROUGHT up sex until we went to Miami and even when we had sex, he is the ONLY guy to make me orgasm in missionary position) after I come back...I was suspicious because certain things he did were leading me to believe he had another. I asked him straight up, are you married He said "kinda" I was like "Kinda? Kinda How the hell are you KINDA married?"

We ended up being good friends (no sex) after I forgave him for that and he let me know WHY he cheats on his wife. First of all, when he met (he picked me up from a Bus Stop in his BMW) he said there was something about me that he really liked, not just sexually but like a vibe. After that we discussed his marriage at length and he said she never cooks or cleans, never pays any special attention to him in bed or otherwise and is generally a cookiemonster. I was like, well you should leave her but he has 3 kids and I am pretty sure it's all because of them. He has NO spark in him when talking about her.

The point of this story is...Don't feel bad, we all get duped at some point. He is the low-life for cheating on his wife but if you are continuing to see him AFTER you know...that puts you right with him. BUT I do understand him to a certain degree because he works hard to make sure they have a VERY comfortable life style and she takes it for granted. Luckily I didn't fall for him like that, but I know what it is to truly feel for someone so keep your head up.

Just do the right thing and Mr. Right will eventually show up.

Cancerlady

ty lady...i am tryin...as of these days we are jus friends ... he still claims he wants a divorce and the other nite he brought up the fact he wants cutody of his kid..he said he shouldn't have never married someone jus cuz she got prego...he regrets what he did but can't turn back the clock..he has recently told me of feelings for me...but all we are is friends now..so if it happens...it happens if it doesn't it doesn't..jus like that song..my give a damns busted..i have gotten to that point now..

HE has also told me that he knows everything i do and where i go...don't know how..i don't tell him...its been sooo weird with him...he has told me he regrets cheating on his wife and he should have never done anything until he was divorced..but it seems as tho he procrastinating gettin a divorce...i don't know if i am bein naive or if he is bein truely truthful with me..so for now i will remain his friend..i can't break that off..he has become my best friend and i jus feel i need to b there for him as a friend to lean on...we all need that sometimes...

ty sooo much for your story ..it was like deja vu for me...i will keep you informed on what happens...

crystal