Taurus Males, Don't Play that game on Aquarius f

Tauus males, don't play the mind games on us Aquarius females.

it really don't work on us... if we are hurt, we withdrawl, we don't need you to turn around and play that cold shoulder game on us. We are not even aware that we are withdrawling.. we get hurt and back away.
playing that back on us will not work!!! you will only make us resent what you are doing.. and you will for sure lose us.

Aquarius Female

and if you lie to us.. We KNOW, aquarius female are very bright!!!
you can't pull the wool over our eyes, maybe some other signs.. not us.
don't do it, I'm warning you, the results will not be plesent.

yes I had just experienced this all this morning.

aquarius female

I don't think it has to do with "Taurus" in the sign sense. It is more to do with the person. I am dating a Taurus and he wears his heart on his sleave. He is solid and truthful. He is unlike any other. I am very lucky!

soul siren
are you aquarius? i'm talking about a taurus/aruarius relationship

hey Jollyjas, sorry for the relationship problems. I am taurus women with aquarius man, so i do know the miscommunication that happens. I have dated a taurus, my brother & dad are one too, and i for one, can say that he must be doing that to protect his ego while you are being withdrawn. It's our only defence. When you withdraw we get scared & we think we gotta act like that. I agree it's stupid. BUT, communication is the only survival, blaming him means you can only blame yourself too...just something to think about, but i don't know what the issues are either. Being withdrawn makes it hard for us to be sure if we can trust & give our true selves.

Good luck.

No I'm not, i'm a Cancer... sorry, I thought you meant a "taurus male" just by himself. My bad.

taurusgoddess,

We finally got things aired out lastnight. Thats the thing, Taurus, HAS TO talk about these things with us. Us Aquarians need that 'talk'.
And you were so right! it was all about a damaged 'ego', and is exactly where it all started. See, us Aquariuans tend to come out with comments at times, and we have no idea that we are hurting the others feelings.. unless they tell us so. My intentions was not to hurt him.. my intentions was to tell the truth.. big major flaw in Aquarians.
Meanwhile, I was kinda hurt myself, finding out something about him and his ex. My solution to the problem!.. withdraw.. just back away a bit, protect myself from arguing.. Just didn't want to deal with them emotions.

What does he do? plays the same game as me.. thats a NO, NO. [to us though, it's not a game] HE was playing that game.
cause I hadn't reolized that I did anything wrong, I hadn't reolized that I had withdrawn in a sence.. I know that don't make sense now, but thats what happened.

It just turned me 'off' and I was almost ready to pack it in. I couldn't deal with him being soo cold towards me.. he ignored me all day! I hated that.
Once though that I got the 'real' problem out of him, and we talked about his ex's.. something I didn't enjoy.. just needed a few details.. as in time frame. I told him exactly what I meant by my comment.. that in true reality.. I DID fall for him the first night I met him. Then we talked some more.. and all is fine now.. THANK GOWD.
We both agreed that the fight was Brain Draining.. emotionally draining.. and we don't want to experience it again.

I just wanted to say.. that when we aquarians do that to you.. don't play it back to us.. it turns us off... scary crap.

Aquarius Female.

soul1siren,

thats ok. I just wanted to make point about our relationship.
you yourself has made a good point to. you are right, taurus does wear his heart on his sleaves... and he is solid, , and is truthful.. you are so right.. and he is sooo beautiful LOL.. I tell him that all the time.

but, when we aquarians do our aquarius trait.. i was only asking that taurus not play that back.. we don't mean harm by it.. taurus does, cause he is hurt, he wants to hurt back.

aquauris female

Vanessa126,

Thank you for that! I sure hope that my beautiful Taurus male and I can always talk things out.. communicate, and express our feelings. I really want to make this work this time.

Aquarius Female

Jolly Jas...so help me understand this correctly. I just dumped my Aqua male for forgetting my Birthday and being an all around jerk...Now he keeps emailing me asking me questions about my last realtionship..which was with a married man. He keeps asking how I can deal with a married man and not with him. I told him it was because the married man made time for me and paid much attention to me...something that he, aqua male, would not do. He keeps playing the back and forth game and he feels that I should be okay with it and "go with the flow".
So to ignore his bad behavior will turn HIM off..but what about the way he treats me..do aquas really think their behavior should be understood and tolerated?? Does the fact that he keeps emailing me means that he actually does have feelings for me or just has sour grapes that I left..or am trying to leave?

Kacoahantis

All I can say is if he keeps emailing you.. he 'does' want something.. what it is I don't know the guy.. but personally, I'd think that he is interested in you or something from you to be taking his time to do that.

As for him asking about your ex. He's feeling insecure about things. I just had a talk with my long time Aqurarius male friend the other day about that. He's like that with his girlfriend now, he just needs to know how her relationship was with him.. what he is 'really' after, is for her to tell him that 'he [Aquruis male] is the best' and that you have no feelings left for your ex. I asked him "why do that"? "leave the past behind". but he will not listen.. just something in him that he needs to know how much she cares for him.. seems before he wants to open up his heart any further for her, he needs to have that solved first.

I don't know if I'd call his backing off as 'bad behaviour' cause in a sense he dont' even know/reolize that he's doing that. It's very hard for Aquarians to do 'relationships' We are more of 'people' persons, then personal relationships.. relationships makes us fearful,when things start getting deeper.. the harder it gets .. the thoughts of someone tying us down.. is a dreadful thought. We are very causious when it comes to love.. getting hurt, and haveing to deal with strong emotions is hard for us to do, backing away a bit, not discussing deep things with someone we love is alot easier.. then haveing to face the strong emotions. We really have to work on that on a daily basis. I am just learnng that lately with all the reading I am doing on these boards. If I want my relationship to work.. I have to face these emotions and talk thing through with the man I care about.

How old is your Aquarius male?
What are his planet signs? Moon?, Venus, Mars?
That would be a big difference as to where he is really coming from.

YOu asked if our feelings should be understood. would you believe yes? lol. WE think alot of the times that people should catch on to our feelings right away.. especially since we start to back away and withdraw the minute something hurts us. Dont' ignore him when he is like that.. thats the time to ask him whats wrong... we need to talk about things like this. It's hard for us to do, we don't want emotions pouring out of us.. we like to act the toughy in a sense, another thing about that to, I find that I collect information as I go.. I sit back and think.. then what I do is remember comments, insidents ect.. till I gather up enough information to confront.. but I know I have facts to deal with, not just something I thought it may be.. if that makes sense. I don't want the confrontation.. yet.. I gather information.. yea I must be weird. I guess if I am confronted with what is wrong in the first place, and made to 'talk about it' I will not have to withdraw as long LOL.

He could have alot of sour grapes.. Aquarius males dont' like to be dropped that easy without knowing the facts as to what is the 'real' reason you dropped him.
If he is asking in the emails about getting back together, then stopping it again.. it's the fear of the relationship. he likely needs to know you want him.. but will give him breathing space at the same time.

Hope I made sense
Aquarius Female

Thank you so much JollyJas!! Yes that make absolute sense. He emailed me today asking why I didn't have any patience for him but I did for the "married dude"..yes he keeps asking!! I can't seem to get it through to him that I dealt with him(Married Guy) because he spent time and made time for me. I keep giving him the answer to same question, but he won't stop asking just in different ways.
I figured what he needs is reassurance that he can let his feelings go with me. He said he backed off because I was getting too close and he warned me that he was hard to deal with. I told him that he is not hard to deal with he just needs to communicate more. If he felt the need to back off all he had to do was say so. Atleast then i would've know where I stood. He left me hanging and that wasn't cool.
Now that I have a better understanding of him I feel the need to baby him. But how do I reassure him that I'd never hurt him? I really don't owe him anything..he dogged me out. He needs to show me something too. Put up some kind of effort. He obviously wants to keep the lines of communication open. I guess I should just stand back and watch huh?

Oh I forgot..Hes 27. Born Jan 25 1978. I don't know all of his moons risings houses and stuff. Can you tell me?

Here's a reply I found on the board when asked the Question:
What make a good girlfriend Aquaruis?

1. Space and freedom. I don?t like taking orders or bullied around. So, no decided for me.
2. Intellectual Stimulation. I like a deep thinking women, someone who can keep up with my deep thoughts and theories. Someone who is willing to go beyond the surface of things.
3. Someone who isn?t clingy and isn?t around me 24/7. I have my own life and I like doing things by myself. It?s my nature. Let me do my own thing.
4. Don?t try to change my uniqueness. I like being different and trying different things.
5. Be understanding of my unsteady work habits. I am constantly searching for something. I will bounce from job to job and have money problems.
6. Don?t be jealous. I have many different friends. I like helping people and it?s not that I don?t like you, but that I have many diverse things to do and friends to help, interests, etc.
7. No nagging. I hate someone who tells me what to do over and over again. I will do things in due time. You only need to tell me once. I get the point.
8. Don?t use the past against me. Forgive and forget. I mess up as much as the next person, but if you contently bring up the past, how can there be a future?
9. Always tell me the truth to my face. No suspicion, bottled up feelings, or disappearing acts. Closed of people drive me crazy and especially in a significant other.

Tell him to stop asking about your ex. Tell him that you are not going to answer anymore questions about it, it's only upsetting him and makeing him draw himself further from you, due to being hurt. If he wants this to work out .. tell him to sh!t or get off the pot! litterly.. you don't want to play anymore games.

Reassureing him that you will not hurt him will take awhile. for me my Taurus man has asked me that question, and i didn't know how to answer him. All I could come up with is I'll have to find out for myself, observe for awhile, cause words and actions are two different things.
He is young yet, still on the path of freedom.. may take a bit for some of this to sink in.. that you are in fact serious.. it's time he was to. Be firm with him, tell him you are there for him, but if he's not going to get his act together.. you don't want to move on, but he leave you no choice. that may make him rethink about what he is doing.

As for finding out the planets, you will need his Birth-time. You will not get an accurate reading without it. Check your's for compatabiltiy on the VEnus and Mars planets.
http://cafeastrology.com/articles/venusvenussynastry.html

I found that to be about the best site.

Aquarius Female

Yes Thats pretty much what I have done. I let him know that I have leave him alone because he doesn't spend any time with me or make any time to be with me. I have had to tell him that at least four different ways. I guess in my own way I am trying to let him know what I want through answering his redundant questions. But if his questions are hurting him, why does he keep asking? If he wants me hes gonna have to let me know. SHould I tell him that or just let things go? I'm not chasing him anymore.
You are right..he does need to just come out with it or walk away.
Thank you. You have been so much help!!

You're welcome. This means alot to me, cause I am in a Taurus/Aquaruis relationship myself, and I want so much for it to work out.
all I can say is he keeps asking you.. cause he wants to know if you truely care about him.. kinda like sucker for punishment I guess. I know if it was me and my Taurus said something that made me feel like second choice, I to may keep asking different questions to find out just where he is at.
I would ask him that, I think [but I am female] that I would want my taurus to ask me that. to be firm with me, and say.. look.. do you want me or not, if not, i can move on.. would scare me, cause I want it to work.

all the best to you KocaoHuntis, I truely hope all works out for you and your Aquarius male. Do read up on the other planets as it does create new light on the whole matter.
Aquarius Female

Hey Jollyjas,

One question I do have is that when you back up and need your space & your taurus guy pulls off the ignoring thing to protect his ego, well what do you expect him to do? I'm asking because when my aquarian is acting distant I feel tempted to do the same but you say that's not what you want? What do you want?!!! I start getting paranoid about something being wrong. So to sum it up, what should taurus do when aquarius seems distant?

Hi taurusgoddess

It's hard for me to answer this one. Think you know we Aquarius are one of a kind.. we are strange indeed! lol

What I can figure from this is the fact that Taurus keeps us Aquarians 'grounded' my tauruus is always keeping me in my place. he gets me to meet him online 4 times a day!!! thats alot for us to keep time of lol.. I've been doing really well, but lately been letting other things [creations] to take up my time.. I'm fasinated with creating things.. and learning all I can about everything.. so much so that I forget about someone that's really important to me. does that make sense? lol.. don't me.

But you see, he's helping me to learn to be 'on time' and alert to other things around me.
Us Aquarians.. can't remember to much about time.. or if we even paid our damn bills.. we are to busy with other things that turn our minds on.

For the Taurus.. we bring inspiration.. we show Taurus how easy it is to deal with circumstances, and people. we are constantly busy creating.. and other things that turns us on.. that the Taurus is fasinated by that.

With this being said. what I can come up with is:
Keep us grounded.. talk to us, ask us whats wrong.. you will usually that find it's not cause of you.. it's cause our minds are overworking. Alot of times it seems we are distance cause something is bothering us.. when as you can see, thats not always the case. Other times, I find that I 'do in fact' withdrawl when i am hurt.. we don't like to have fights, we are peaceful loving people.. well I can mainly speak for myself.. I can't handle 'emotions'.. so my way of dealing with hurt is to just shut-up.. not saying anything.. cause i don't want my emotions to show.. and i don't want a fight.
If Taurus would confront us, make us talk about it.. we have to learn to talk about these things.. and make it better instead of hanging on to it.
see if we are both 'quiet' who breaks the ice? we do it when we don't reolize it most of the time... Taurus does it out of pain.. wanting to play payback. well that will only make it worse. We are both stubborn people.. someone has to give. To me I think the one thats doing it on purpose should.. what do you think?

Aquarus Female

Hi taurusgoddess

It's hard for me to answer this one. Think you know we Aquarius are one of a kind.. we are strange indeed! lol

What I can figure from this is the fact that Taurus keeps us Aquarians 'grounded' my tauruus is always keeping me in my place. he gets me to meet him online 4 times a day!!! thats alot for us to keep time of lol.. I've been doing really well, but lately been letting other things [creations] to take up my time.. I'm fasinated with creating things.. and learning all I can about everything.. so much so that I forget about someone that's really important to me. does that make sense? lol.. don't me.

But you see, he's helping me to learn to be 'on time' and alert to other things around me.
Us Aquarians.. can't remember to much about time.. or if we even paid our damn bills.. we are to busy with other things that turn our minds on.

For the Taurus.. we bring inspiration.. we show Taurus how easy it is to deal with circumstances, and people. we are constantly busy creating.. and other things that turns us on.. that the Taurus is fasinated by that.

With this being said. what I can come up with is:
Keep us grounded.. talk to us, ask us whats wrong.. you will usually that find it's not cause of you.. it's cause our minds are overworking. Alot of times it seems we are distance cause something is bothering us.. when as you can see, thats not always the case. Other times, I find that I 'do in fact' withdrawl when i am hurt.. we don't like to have fights, we are peaceful loving people.. well I can mainly speak for myself.. I can't handle 'emotions'.. so my way of dealing with hurt is to just shut-up.. not saying anything.. cause i don't want my emotions to show.. and i don't want a fight.
If Taurus would confront us, make us talk about it.. we have to learn to talk about these things.. and make it better instead of hanging on to it.
see if we are both 'quiet' who breaks the ice? we do it when we don't reolize it most of the time... Taurus does it out of pain.. wanting to play payback. well that will only make it worse. We are both stubborn people.. someone has to give. To me I think the one thats doing it on purpose should.. what do you think?

Aquarius Female

darn it!! sorry about two sends.

Taurus males don't care about feelings, to them it's an ego thing. You've got to know how to play with their ego. Taurus is an earth sign , earth signs are at the bottom of the pyramid of elements because they are instinctual and oriented to the material aspects of life. They also like to "posses" your mind. They do nasty things to throw you off-balance and they also make you feel good in order not to break the relationship, so this way they make sure you always think about them, about how to please them. Of course this is very draining, especially for an Aquarius , because we tend to overthink everything being an air sign and of fixed modality, we don't give up till we find our answer.
I say don't fall for his "sensitivity". He isn't sensitive, he is a bull. Even women have a very very big ego and tend to win in life by not giving in. He can fake his sensitivity in order to hook you. It's not difficult to pretend that you are sensitive, but a sensitive person doesn't do what he does to you, because sensitive beings are empathic, and they feel your pain...well he doesn't care. Simple as that. I think the lesson here is to let him go. Taurus are hard to get away from, mentally, so this should be good practice. Let him go, forget him. You have to learn this in order to properly deal with Taurus in the future. An evolved Aquarius won't even deal with a Taurus. I suggest to get to know yourself more, and I'm sure that in the future you won't even deal with a selfish, stubborn, shallow creature like Taurus. Life is too beautiful to remain stuck in the mud beside a Taurus. Free yourself!!! 🙂))))
Anyway Taurus men are good with women because this is their sign purpose, Taurus is the symbol of fertility. They would like to have a "cattle" of women. It's natural for them to make women feel good, so don't think that you are special for him, just because he makes you feel special, this is his gift, enjoy it, but don't get hooked. If he doesn't want to "play" anymore, simply move on, and enjoy life's many pleasures.Life is too short to torment yourself. It's stupid to expect him to make you happy,he isn't God you know...

I think it's about being honest and open. An Aquarius should walk away from a Taurus that doesn't display these qualities. Simple as that. Leave and never look back. Train yourself to do that. You will find many jerks that will gladly screw your brains ( it gives them an ego boost, makes them feel important ), so in order to maintain your mental health, move on early on. You'll see that this will become so easy with practice, and you will find the right companion , by not spending time with the wrong person, waiting for them.




—Waiting is painful. Forgetting is painful. But not knowing which to do is the worse kind of suffering.??
Paulo Coelho

—How much of human life is lost in waiting.??
Ralph Waldo Emerson

—Waiting is a trap. There will always be reasons to wait. The truth is, there are only two things in life, reasons and results, and reasons simply don't count.??

—Don't become a victim of yourself. Forget about the thief waiting in the alley; what about the thief in your mind—


Taurus men are experts at making you wait. They are time robbers , and they aren't worth it. They are the ultimate players. Why should he settle when there is a continuous flux of women coming, and much more waiting. You've got to be stupid to settle with one woman or be faithful. He enjoys women's attention, the sex , and keeps you (the woman of any sign) on hold and in confusion because he is to coward to tell you the truth risking embarrassment (that you aren't the only one) or worse he tells you and you cling to him like he is the only d**k on earth.
Love is just mating instinct. I think that men are luckier than us because they aren't brainwashed by some soap operas, or family ("you'll find mister right bla bla") to believe in love. I think that because of this concept that is defined by our society we tolerate so much BS from men. We have wrong concepts about love imprinted in our head from education, and these concepts work against us.

Wow so much negativity here... One of my best relationships was with a Aquarius surprisingly..




Yes the good things in life should have no waiting, no work. Delivered to you on a silver platter in your bed so you don't even have to lift your head... 😉

Why work so hard for something that is mediocre? Better save some effort and get something great. If a thing is hard to get , it doesn't mean it's precious. In fact all the great things in life come when we don't struggle and let nature take it's course. I also think this applies to relationships. You don't have to "work" for it. If you have to struggle so much, it means that the relationship is not suitable.

Hmmm. Every Taurus male in my life has been generous to a fault, quite kind, big hearted, down to earth and very magnetic. Even the players. And I am talking about friends here. But true blue, shirt off their back guys. They'd kick ass and take names in my defense. And I for them. It seems you were hurt by one Alis, and though I don't know the particulars, nor are they my business really, but I am sorry for that.
I do agree that one should not be in a relationship that does not suit. No one should have to endure that, but to come in on our turf and make a sweeping generalization like that is unfair. And don't mistake, I am not picking on Aquarius either. My mother and daughter and many wonderful people in my life are Aqua so I thought I'd get that one out of the way. In any event, your feelings are your own, as is your freedom to post what you will, but I will stand firm for myself and every Bull on this board. Cos we're just that Frosty and all. Peace.

I'm not saying that they are mean. I have friends that are Taurus both males and females. The males are indeed generous and I get along great with them. I was talking about romantic relationships and the fact that they don't let you know where you stand and how they really feel about you. My advice towards women dealing with Taurus men is to listen to their feelings, and not judge the rightness of their actions. They can be very charming (manipulative). Women usually lose in a relationship with them because they play by the "dating" rules , and in those rules it is generally "stated" that the man should make the first move bla bla bla, and they are in for a long waiting, so don't take into account any rules, and listen to your feelings. If it feels bad, and you receive red flags, your intuition as already told you about his intentions, anything else is a joke. So...my advice is to listen to your intuition.

Now that I agree wholeheartedly with. 🙂