Taurus men...please help!! Seriously confused Leo!

Met my Taurus, a one night stand on vacation which I wish remained a one night stand and I would not be in the confusion I am today. I am a Leo! We discovered we live about 2-3 hours apart. I chased him due to major magnetic attraction and told him I would convince him to visit me. It has been almost 3 months and we do not go a day without a text to each other. He has come to see me 3 times (twice before I drove to see him) and I have driven to see him twice. During my first visit, he had gotten drunk and ask me what I wanted from him and told me he loved me. We have never talked about liking each other or relationship...That week consisted of probably one of the very few serious talks we ever had. And rare compliments of enjoying me and I was beautiful - which Taurus rarely do. During the week after my first visit, he kept texting me how his friends love me, joking he loved me but we were worlds apart, poetry and mention how part of him wanted to be with me.The appearance of these subjects made me realize I had feelings for him too. During this time he had mention how our texting has taken a toll on him because we text 24hrs around the clock, I told him it was easily fixed and stopped texting him.Than he began calling me at night instead. After that visit, he had ask me to come the following weekend in which I said I couldn't.Plus he owed me a visit in regards to a bet we had.My Taurus came to see me, said he was only going to stay one night but I convinced him to stay the weekend. That same week I offered to come there that Friday for a night.After this visit,I told him I had feelings for him but never really mention it because I'm unsure if I even want something more than how it is now (open relationship).In his response, thinking I was asking for a "next step"-he told me that he knows he doesn't want a long distance relationship, that we went from nothing to good friends and lovers, he doesn't lead but adapts to life,has backed off because he knows he's walking a fragile line that he didn't know existed before and would feel really crappy because he would end up hurting me in the end but wouldn't deny he doesn't have feelings or think of me too.I called him and told him there was some confusion that I wasn't asking him for a relationship, I simply wanted him to know that there were feelings for him. My confusion, how does a Taurus 2 weeks before tell me sweet nothings and change his mind once I say I feel same? My next step to bring his feelings bac

He was drunk when he asked what I wanted and he loved me. He continue sober texts for a week about like me and relationships. Than after a visit to me again, and me to him, admitting my feelings...did a 360

Well his implying of "nothing to good friends AND lovers" is because we started off as a one night stand and though he travel to see me twice after, we were in a bit like strangers. But what one night stand ends up talking every day for almost 3 months now....we're no longer "nothing" in some ways.

It's hard as a Leo because I'm almost obsess with the situation with him though I often show him I am not. I have never had so much patience hidden away. I'm not sure if he has met someone else...if he has, I'm not sure when he would of met this person being as we have been together the last few times he was free. But maybe possible being as he's not as flirty with me. Even his best friend was surprise he shot me down a second visit and has no idea why Taurus had a change of heart because his best friend knew he really liked me alot. He said he shot me down a second visit because to him the drive is a burden....also he only gets off every other weekend therefore he has stuff to do and it's hard when I'm there. I guess Taurus are unlike Leos who love to spend as much time as possible. He said "the last few times I was off but once was with you. We've basically seen each other over a week straight of being off". But I found it odd when I told him it would of probably been the last time he would of seen me being as OCT is mostly out for me due to work and travels. In which he said "do you really think we won't see each other again".

The open situation was because in the begining (first month) he has mention he was just having fun out there. I told him I totally understood and glad we were upfront with what is happening with us. Though during this 3 months, I know he has slept with 2 other girls - he told me because of what is happening with us, though he slept with the other girls, he felt guilty in some ways. I told him none of my feelings would ever had surface had he not ask me to open up and be vulnerable. It's like he has 40 different personalities sometimes. Also in some ways, he RARELY ever talks serious...so I feel he has some respect for me to attempt to be serious when he knows it's most important to me.

I would like to prove if he's scared of distance...that if somehow it did work, I would be willing at some point to relocate if it were that serious. I wish I knew how to bring my Taurus back...i miss him, though we still talk everyday.

Posted by David13

You are the unstoppable force... he is the immovable object.

BR>

I love that quote too. I just don't understand how 2 weeks before a Taurus can joke of loving me and asking if I love him...so confused.

I hope if I back off, he will miss me and realize. I just find it hard in 3 months and it changes so much in a week.

Well the first 2.5 of the months were continuous text almost 24hrs around the clock. About 2 weeks ago, he had said that though he loves talking to me the texting all the time was kind of taking a toll because he always felt he had to be quick to respond, etc. So I told him simply it could be fixed and no longer texted him. After that day, he continue to initiate the texting each day and oddly also called me 3 nights in a row. This happened after my first visit when he was talking all lovey dovey to me. Before I admitted my feelings to him, there were several opportunities in which I gave him a chance for an "out" to stop talking to me so much.

I don't know if there is someone else because I haven't asked. I know of the 2 girls because at some point I had asked him not due to jealously but because if he was sleeping with me, I wanted to know if there were other girls he slept with. Both of which were just one night stands that don't live near him. And both girls happen before I ever did the drive to go see him.

So basically he came to see me twice (when we were still kind of strangers July/Aug)
I went to see him (after that visit was a week of telling me his feelings. And he use to joke and tell me "i hate you" but after this visit it because "ps love you" (Sept)

Than he came to see me on a Saturday (in which he said he was only staying overnight but I asked him to stay the weekend and he eventually did) and the following Friday I went to see him (last week)

maybe because I didn't cook for him when I went to visit LOL

david, are you a taurus?

Trust me I've cooked almost every time for him!!

Well he only gets every other mon/fri off and every other weekend. So it was his weekend off, he just said he has a lot of stuff needed to be done at home and that was why he was only going to stay over night. I told him 2.5hr drive is not worth just over night but he came anyway. When I asked him to stay, he did for the weekend. He was fine, very normal.

When I went to see him that same week, I only stayed overnight because we were only both off one day. It was when I went to see him, he seem a bit different and not like we usually are together though for the most part I think we had fun. Even when I left he asked me if I was ok and that I seem upset. I said I was fine and he still kiss me bye. After that visit, he still continue to text me. Even in text, when I joke that on my last visit our sex life wasn't the same and it was fun while it lasted (his chance for an out)....to which he still text me the next day.

It seem more odd after I told him of my feelings...I will have to send it to you later. But I thought Taurus men like to know honesty and how we feel. That's the only reaosn I had did it. Now his flirtation is barely there, though he still talks to me.

David13 i sent you a message

I never text him yesterday and he still text me goodnight.

In.some ways, i want him to chose me in the future in his slow taurus pace.

How do taurus like someone and run...

Dear, You are missing the big picture here. Comming straight from a taurus male **HES NOT RUNNING** You need to get that in your head or else your behavior will make him run. - female taurus.

If not running, than why the 360? And oddly even though he didnt want my visit, he spent the weekend texting with me.

I just dont see if you're not running....why did you give up probably the last time you would see me?

I find this somewhat amusing.
Regardless of the Taurus aspect -but very much linked in this case- is the texting/calling part of dating.

Sure people are available all the time to get into contact with, through the internet, phones, etc
It made dating so much easier in a way, but came with it's own unique set of problems.
I'm not going to dive into details on the pitfalls of the 'current communication ways', but lets stick to texting.

Say you text a guy you like. You're either just putting some feelers out casually and don't mind if he doesn't respond immediately, OR you're holding onto your phone and getting upset if it takes a long time for him to reply. Have you ever stopped to wonder why they don't respond? No need to go for the worst case scenario you know.
People have lives, are busy so there are so many possible reasons. Yet we always go for the drama filled one of 'he doesn't like me, he's cheating on me, etc'. For all you know he just left his phone at home, has it on silent, battery died, got the text/read it but hasn't found the time yet to reply. Stop stressing out about it.

When a guy texts you to reply to your text, he's not running but not exactly staying either. It can go either way so just enjoy it. When a guy texts you from his own free will without replying to something you send, he's not running away at all.
You have any idea how many roadblocks there were before you got that text? He has to think of you, then contemplate if you're worth it, grab his phone, not get interrupted by life, think about what to send, write it and don't delete it, send it to you. There are so many moment where he can just say 'naah not worth it', so the fact that you DID get a text... woman he's right there with you. Stop overlooking this and just realize that he send you something out of his own free will.

Sure Taurus will disappear at times to clear their heads, but they'll always come back if you provide them with a drama free happy place.