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Interpreting a Taurus male
Understanding a Taurus Male's Behavior
A Taurus male is often flirtatious and attracted but can be stubborn and sensitive to rejection. He may test boundaries and react strongly to perceived indifference. Recognizing his natural tendencies can help interpret his actions and improve communication in your relationship.
blah leave him be. you most likely bruised his ego since you denied the satisfaction of him trying to disarm you with his delicate filigree and twists of charm and guile. as a lady should. damage control would be to tell him you like him but make absolute clear of your boundaries - rare, medium, charred.
Alright, the best option seems to be: Ignore him when he ignores me and play it by the ear. And rationalize that all of this indeed stems from my behavior that night and has nothing to do with Taurean male behavior.
Thanks, Friction, but my Leo's pride and the crab's fear of getting hurt prevents that damage control option. Plus, there's always the fear of the grapevine!
Posted by cerulean
Alright, the best option seems to be: Ignore him when he ignores me and play it by the ear. And rationalize that all of this indeed stems from my behavior that night and has nothing to do with Taurean male behavior.Thanks, Friction, but my Leo's pride and the crab's fear of getting hurt prevents that damage control option. Plus, there's always the fear of the grapevine!
NO his behavior prompted you to close that door. If you or he do wish to revisit that evening and make it less awkward, have a conversation instead of this hunter verse prey tiptoe waltz. The game is about control. And if both of you rationalize too hard, you'll miss a potential wonderful connection that you both shared that one evening. He'll take more time, maybe initiate. Obviously you still think about that moment. Put down your lil crown for one minute and just go say hello, defuse some awkward tension, see if there is possibility. If not...move on. It won't do any good with this passive aggressive bullshit. until you make a move. Don't be a blockhead Lucy!
Okay... YOU are frustrating ME now ! Do you hear that sound ? *tic... toc, tic... toc, tic... toc*... this is the sound of the end of another year approaching... it has almost been a year and half since your shared intimate moment !!! Here's the thing... YOU turned him down... YOU must go to HIM ! Oh yes... he is still interested ! He lingers, he stares, he flirts with those other girls in your presence... but YOU still won't bite ! What you both REALLY need... is to go get a room ! IF you ARE a Leo... then you are the unstoppable force... he is the immovable object.
If I were you, I would just show up at his house... conclude your business there... what you both started 17 months ago ! HE will be easy... you won't even need to say a word (though you SHOULD probably know if he is indeed alone)... then just TAKE HIM !
So... you have until the end of the year to make this go somewhere (end of the world if you would rather) ! I don't care how you do it... just make it happen... all this 'nothing' is going no where ! Do SOMETHING !
PS - Send me your exact birthdate, time, and place, I will tell you what you are for certain... I'm not a believer in cusps. For example, Hitler was a Taurus, though he was born on April 20th which should be Aries. So... send me a message... I'm curious to know myself now.
Posted by cerulean
BumpI didn't want to create another thread since this is mainly a (frustrated) extension.
Since my previous post, it's been more or less the same pattern: Bull is foraying into my 'turf' (my division moved to another building), stares in an aggrieved manner, loiters around nearby,.... Usually, when caught, behaves as though I don't exist, flirts outrageously with the nearest female, and then the cycle repeats. And yesterday, we had an on-off staring match (I was the first to look away though).
The way I see it, this all borders on silliness and I dislike this uncertainty. If he really wants to talk, we have mutual friends (2 other Tauruses to whom he is much more close to than I)- although my heavy hints to both led to nothing.
So my Taureans, am seeing something which doesn't exist?
Seriously? have you no pride, fuck him, if he wanted you he would have tried to get you by now, are you going to continue to entertain his silliness as if you have the time or inclination to, forget him. This myth that taurus men are slow is ridiculous too btw, well in my experience with them it is. If he got miffed because the lady wouldn't honk back to his place after a few drinks then he's no gentelman. Jeez how easy was it for him to give up at the first sign of self-control and boundaries.
I know right ! He should have taken her to HER place ! 😉
Posted by David13
I know right ! He should have taken her to HER place ! 😉
Right! a real taurus man would have excorted her home and made sure she was safe, comfy and secure in her own bed before slowly removing her clothing piece by piece 🙂
Posted by David13
I know right ! He should have taken her to HER place ! 😉Right! a real taurus man would have excorted her home and made sure she was safe, comfy and secure in her own bed before slowly removing her clothing piece by piece 🙂
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I agree with everything you said... but I don't know if it would have made it to the bed... second session maybe. First times are always a surpise ! 😄
Now I am tempted to retreat into my shell and lick my wounds... 😄
But thanks for the volleys 😄 It has given me a much-needed dose of reality.
And of course, thank you all for your replies 😄
Posted by Jynja
@David13 & @celticlioness: Wouldn't have worked 😉 By the end of the night, he was rather drunk (and not on wine).
Coming to think of this, something else had happened: Someone offered to drop me at my place and I partly took him up on that offer by requesting him to drop me at a point where I could catch a taxi. We all left at the same time, so I don't know whether getting into someone else's car was seen in a different light. hmmm...click to expandLol, we were joking, well I think David was too 🙂
Your new post does shed some further light, he perhaps thought you went home with someone else. No matter, if he wanted you he would still come after you. You approaching him and attempting to get a date won't work either, men might like to say they love to be approached, and they do but merely its an ego boost, but they will back off from any woman who does the chasing so it goes nowhere. He's not into you so move on...
Posted by David13
Do you hear that sound ? *tic... toc, tic... toc, tic... toc*... this is the sound of the end of another year approaching...I hear it too which is why it frustrates me.
Obviously not a enough !Posted by David13
Here's the thing... YOU turned him down... YOU must go to HIM !I didn't turn him down per se- I only behaved as though his suggestions were all jokes. I would have been so happy to meet him later except that he behaved as though he has never met him (!)
Just admit that you turned him down !Posted by David13
but YOU still won't bite ! [...] IF you ARE a Leo... then you are the unstoppable force... he is the immovable object.I am not really the poster Leo- more of the very shy variety. And I must confess that haven't really been sitting still. I did drop strong hints to our mutual friends but I suppose they chose to ignore it. I did even try to get him into one of our projects twice but my immediate boss chose someone else he knew both times. But I can't do anything more blatant since we both work for a firm with a very green (and spiced) grapevine - I have to be careful.
That is for certain... a Leo wouldn't make up excuses like this and would thrive on the grapevine!Posted by David13
HE will be easy... you won't even need to say a word (though you SHOULD probably know if he is indeed alone)... then just TAKE HIM !So tempting! 😉 But the realist in me comes up with the phantom of an unknown woman- for if he was so with me, wouldn't he be like that with others?
After a year and half maybe... oh wait !Posted by David13
So... you have until the end of the year to make this go somewhere (end of the world if you would rather)click to expandThat would have spurred me but at the moment, I have more at stake at work.
Excuses... excuses... all right... I DARE YOU !
Posted by David13
Send me your exact birthdate, time, and place, I will tell you what you are for certain... I'm not a believer in cusps.It's there on my profile. I know (sigh) that I am a Leo but I often find significant crabby traits in me (this post itself should be an example). So the cusp theories seemed to be plausible.
click to expandI have seen, but I want to see it graphically... I'm a picture person damn it !
Posted by cerulean
And of course, thank you all for your replies 😄
And thank YOU for shooting them all down !!!
Posted by celticlioness
Your new post does shed some further light, he perhaps thought you went home with someone else. No matter, if he wanted you he would still come after you. You approaching him and attempting to get a date won't work either, men might like to say they love to be approached, and they do but merely its an ego boost, but they will back off from any woman who does the chasing so it goes nowhere. He's not into you so move on...
I so totally agree with your observation on men and this is something which my male friends (& brothers) emphasize.
The next time I bump this thread would be if there's truly any update beyond this silliness.
Posted by David13
Just admit that you turned him down !No I didn't 😄
Also, based on experience, I find that tipsy men often say things they truly don't mean... which is why I usually laugh off any such suggestions made when someone has too much alcohol.Posted by David13
That is for certain... a Leo wouldn't make up excuses like this and would thrive on the grapevine!I've been on the grapevine and it can be malicious... once bitten, twice shy
Posted by David13
Excuses... excuses... all right... I DARE YOU !click to expandI am very much a crab or a cowardly lion : $
Okay cowardly lion... I have a question: Do you know what will happen if you DON'T try ?
Do you want to know the answer ?
Are you ready ?
Are you sure you want to know ?
Okay.
The answer is...
NOTHING.
Posted by David13
Okay cowardly lion... I have a question: Do you know what will happen if you DON'T try ?Do you want to know the answer ?
Are you ready ?
Are you sure you want to know ?
Okay.
The answer is...
NOTHING.
Oh tsk tsk David, she's not a cowardly lion, she's a regal female who stayed dignified even under the influence 🙂 And what will happen if she does something, i.e. chase him
one of two things IMO
His ego will be massaged and he'll walk away with a huge head and a big smile
or
He'll respond and she'll eventually get one night in the sack, which will be memorable for the fact that he is a Taurus and every woman deserves at least on of those nights in her lifetime, before he skips merrily back to his pasture satisfied that he got what he considered his possession
😉
Oh tsk tsk David, she's not a cowardly lion, she's a regal female who stayed dignified even under the influence 🙂 And what will happen if she does something, i.e. chase him
one of two things IMO
His ego will be massaged and he'll walk away with a huge head and a big smile
or
He'll respond and she'll eventually get one night in the sack, which will be memorable for the fact that he is a Taurus and every woman deserves at least on of those nights in her lifetime, before he skips merrily back to his pasture satisfied that he got what he considered his possession
😉
I perceive two opposing suggestions here 😄
No interest in a one-off night in the sack ...
As for regal/dignified, I suppose that apart from cowardice, there's also pride and I really don't want to make a fool of myself!
Oh tsk tsk David, she's not a cowardly lion, she's a regal female who stayed dignified even under the influence 🙂 And what will happen if she does something, i.e. chase him
one of two things IMO
His ego will be massaged and he'll walk away with a huge head and a big smile
or
He'll respond and she'll eventually get one night in the sack, which will be memorable for the fact that he is a Taurus and every woman deserves at least on of those nights in her lifetime, before he skips merrily back to his pasture satisfied that he got what he considered his possession
😉I perceive two opposing suggestions here 😄
No interest in a one-off night in the sack ...
As for regal/dignified, I suppose that apart from cowardice, there's also pride and I really don't want to make a fool of myself!
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Yeah... celticlioness is making this more difficult than it needs to be. Sorry about that... my hands are tied... I can't fuck any sense into someone who is already spoken for.
'TALK any sense'... yeah... that's what I meant ! 😉
Oh tsk tsk David, she's not a cowardly lion, she's a regal female who stayed dignified even under the influence 🙂 And what will happen if she does something, i.e. chase him
one of two things IMO
His ego will be massaged and he'll walk away with a huge head and a big smile
or
He'll respond and she'll eventually get one night in the sack, which will be memorable for the fact that he is a Taurus and every woman deserves at least on of those nights in her lifetime, before he skips merrily back to his pasture satisfied that he got what he considered his possession
😉I perceive two opposing suggestions here 😄
No interest in a one-off night in the sack ...
As for regal/dignified, I suppose that apart from cowardice, there's also pride and I really don't want to make a fool of myself!
Yeah... celticlioness is making this more difficult than it needs to be. Sorry about that... my hands are tied... I can't fuck any sense into someone who is already spoken for.
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Lol, its not difficult you silly moo, he doesn't want to show the lady he wants her, so she closes the door gently 🙂
Posted by David13
'TALK any sense'... yeah... that's what I meant ! 😉
Of course you did 😉
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He's a natural flirt. He's attracted to you but a bit miffed over the decline to go back to his. Tough beans. You didn't do anything but behave like a woman interested in a man. He's overplaying his hand by a country mile though. Like...duh dude. Going out of your way to ignore me and so on. Pfffffffft. 😛