Taurus that wont go away remedy...maybe?

My story with Taurus is here in the dxpnet world somewhere so I wont recap too much. For 3 years I have been feeling stuck in a fwb thing and his persistence aways brought me back in. I date other people but most just want to have sex so they either stop talking to me or vice versus. So I decided to keep my sex partner (judge if u will).

Every time I wanted to end our "relationship" he would back off for a day or two then try to convince me that he is sincere in his feelings for me. I know better but I give in. Anyway, last night was probably a game changer. After spending the day as a fifth wheel at the beach and other places I was in my feelings. Taurus was came over at 5am and asked if I could set an alarm for 9am. That kinda did it for me. I proceeded to tell him about my day when asked and he had nothing to say. He just wanted to have sex I guess but I told him that I wasn't really in the mood. But he tried to get me there anyway. I tried to get into it but my brain was working overtime and could not shake it off. He was telling me he loved me as usual but this time I didn't respond. He said it over and over. He said he missed me...I didn't respond. It felt like he was trying to kiss me with everything in him and although I kissed him back it wasn't with the same passion. I could feel him getting frustrated but I didn't care anymore. He ignores my feelings all the time. He got up...I asked if he climaxed he said " no and this is the last time you will see me". I just sat there. He said that he needed two hours to sleep but then he started putting on his clothes and said he didn't feel welcomed. I knew that he would be upset and I embraced the fact that our thing would end one day. I was ok with it actually because I feel like he doesn't really care about me nor love me. Then 20 mins later I looked at my phone. He had called twice. This is too long. I thought it would be a shorter story but...

Maybe I'll post the rest...just venting again sorry

Posted by Redoctober2000
Remedy? Stop opening your legs... No one puts a gun to your head...

It sounds dead, ugly and passionless... It's time to "call it a day" Imo.

If you don't have anything productive to add you could have easily kept scrolling you soulless cookiemonster. Simply put... stfu!!!

Posted by miimii

Posted by Redoctober2000
Remedy? Stop opening your legs... No one puts a gun to your head...

It sounds dead, ugly and passionless... It's time to "call it a day" Imo.

If you don't have anything productive to add you could have easily kept scrolling you soulless cookiemonster. Simply put... stfu!!!

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If you don't want people to comment then don't post.

It does sound like this fella/situation has run its course. It was serving a purpose before but now it is not. It happens.

It sounds like you're after something more substantial now instead of a FWB. If so, then it would be a good idea to start looking for a guy who is also looking for something more substantial and not just a FWB. If you date and the guy only wants sex then bin him and move on. Sort through the potential candidates then sort the suitable from the unsuitable. Only date the suitable ones. Keep the legs closed as it helps with the sorting/selection process in determining which guys are only interested in sex from the ones who are interested in you and sex with you.

Alternatively, take time out on your own.

What do you really want? No one here can advise you unless you're truly honest with yourself.

You want him to go away? Stop making yourself available to him. Block his calls and texts. Change your number. File a restraining order. Steal his wallet. Throw a brick through his car windshield. If you really wanted him to go away...there are so many options.

I did read some of your history with him to try and understand the situation better. You set it up how you wanted it to be. You sold yourself short by only wanting to be fwb. And now you're wanting more? Or nothing? I can't tell.

Posted by AgentP911

Posted by miimii

Posted by Redoctober2000
Remedy? Stop opening your legs... No one puts a gun to your head...

It sounds dead, ugly and passionless... It's time to "call it a day" Imo.

If you don't have anything productive to add you could have easily kept scrolling you soulless cookiemonster. Simply put... stfu!!!

If you don't want people to comment then don't post.

It does sound like this fella/situation has run its course. It was serving a purpose before but now it is not. It happens.

It sounds like you're after something more substantial now instead of a FWB. If so, then it would be a good idea to start looking for a guy who is also looking for something more substantial and not just a FWB. If you date and the guy only wants sex then bin him and move on. Sort through the potential candidates then sort the suitable from the unsuitable. Only date the suitable ones. Keep the legs closed as it helps with the sorting/selection process in determining which guys are only interested in sex from the ones who are interested in you and sex with you.

Alternatively, take time out on your own.

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Your first message was good advice. Not sure why she got upset.

I agree with this post also.

You've been feeling stuck in a 3 year fwb situation.



That makes no sense.

If you want out don't fuck him anymore. But don't pretend like he's got all this power over you.

It's a choice you made to stick around so long with no expectations or hoping for commitment.

And men will fuck you as long as you let them with no commitment hun.

Should have ended it a long time ago once you stopped having fun and started feeling used.

Posted by happyface1

Posted by AgentP911

Posted by miimii

Posted by Redoctober2000
Remedy? Stop opening your legs... No one puts a gun to your head...

It sounds dead, ugly and passionless... It's time to "call it a day" Imo.

If you don't have anything productive to add you could have easily kept scrolling you soulless cookiemonster. Simply put... stfu!!!

If you don't want people to comment then don't post.

It does sound like this fella/situation has run its course. It was serving a purpose before but now it is not. It happens.

It sounds like you're after something more substantial now instead of a FWB. If so, then it would be a good idea to start looking for a guy who is also looking for something more substantial and not just a FWB. If you date and the guy only wants sex then bin him and move on. Sort through the potential candidates then sort the suitable from the unsuitable. Only date the suitable ones. Keep the legs closed as it helps with the sorting/selection process in determining which guys are only interested in sex from the ones who are interested in you and sex with you.

Alternatively, take time out on your own.

Your first message was good advice. Not sure why she got upset.

I agree with this post also.

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I think that sometimes people already know their own situation perfectly well but don't always appreciate it being pointed out to them. It makes it 'real' then and it can be a harsh but good pill to swallow. If lots of people are telling you the same thing then not everyone can be wrong. I like to call it a postcard from reality.

A Taurus is very good with his words he will make you feel special and like you're in his future, but remember actions speak louder than words he will convince you that it's more than fwb but when it comes down to it and he's got what he wanted he will go back to his normal life not even thinking twice about you. If you really want him to go away do not give him what he wants and see how long he sticks around

Posted by AgentP911

Posted by miimii

Posted by Redoctober2000
Remedy? Stop opening your legs... No one puts a gun to your head...

It sounds dead, ugly and passionless... It's time to "call it a day" Imo.

If you don't have anything productive to add you could have easily kept scrolling you soulless cookiemonster. Simply put... stfu!!!

If you don't want people to comment then don't post.

It does sound like this fella/situation has run its course. It was serving a purpose before but now it is not. It happens.

It sounds like you're after something more substantial now instead of a FWB. If so, then it would be a good idea to start looking for a guy who is also looking for something more substantial and not just a FWB. If you date and the guy only wants sex then bin him and move on. Sort through the potential candidates then sort the suitable from the unsuitable. Only date the suitable ones. Keep the legs closed as it helps with the sorting/selection process in determining which guys are only interested in sex from the ones who are interested in you and sex with you.

Alternatively, take time out on your own.

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To be fair, I owe Redoctober2000 an apology. The " gun to your head" reference put me in defense mode.

My post was for some of the women on here that are doing the merry go round thing with Taurus men. To be clear, this was the only time our sex was passionless and it was because of where I was mentally. I am a Cap and I use things to my benefit. In a sense I was using him for sex so that when I date, lust isn't the driving force pulling me towards someone. Most men try to rush the sex portion of the dating process and I weed those out right away.