ctom01
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Tendency to use people or something more?
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Could be anything really. Maybe she missed you. Why did you let her go?
Just curious ... What's ur sign ?
Second .... If I like a guy .... I will let him know....
If I dont like a guy .... But still keep contacting him , then I really enjoy talking with them and like them as a friend and also alittle more ... But the feelings just aren't strong enuff for me to do anything about it .
So I'd say she misses u .
It comes off as using because of how u treat her back ...
Second .... If I like a guy .... I will let him know....
If I dont like a guy .... But still keep contacting him , then I really enjoy talking with them and like them as a friend and also alittle more ... But the feelings just aren't strong enuff for me to do anything about it .
So I'd say she misses u .
It comes off as using because of how u treat her back ...
Posted by carcar19c
Could be anything really. Maybe she missed you. Why did you let her go?
Hi Carcar, well the long story short was, after about 8 months of chasing after her, I felt it was best to let her know how I really felt. And on her end, she wasnt ready. And that she doesn't really trust people on these kinds of things. I was heart broken, but my emotions took control and in short I ended up forcing an answer on how she felt about me where in her answer was "i dont know".
For me I felt really bad, because I didn't really want to force an answer but I did anyway. I haven't really forced her to do something till that point. And what I felt about her was really true. I followed my gut and it said to me, "if you love her, just let her go, to where she'll be most happy". But I still want to chase her though. But I guess now wouldn't be the right time.
Posted by Lil.ladie.taurus
Just curious ... What's ur sign ?
Second .... If I like a guy .... I will let him know....
If I dont like a guy .... But still keep contacting him , then I really enjoy talking with them and like them as a friend and also alittle more ... But the feelings just aren't strong enuff for me to do anything about it .
So I'd say she misses u .
It comes off as using because of how u treat her back ...click to expand
Hi Lil,
My sign? Aquarius.
A few questions if you don't mind. How long would it take for you to tell the guy you like them?
So I suppose at where we are at, she sees me as a friend?
I've been a bit cautious with the whole "using" thing because of what happened with another guy. The guy liked her and she didn't like him but she would ask favors from him. Well, the guy would do so thinking it would win her and really it didn't. But its probably because of what he did before. Or maybe because, as I was reading in another topic, there was no challenge there?
And for me in regards to the favors, I don't mind favors as long as you ask properly. Don't just go asking without a please. Comes off to me as demanding.
And for her, I've as much as possible not push her to something she didn't want. But do see the reply to Carcar to get a bit of background as to why I'm wondering if she's using me.
Of course, the full story with this is pretty long.
Anywho, Thanks thanks to the both of you! 🙂
Takes me about 3 months ... But that's me .... I've played the cat and mouse game with a guy who used me and spread rumours .... So I knew I couldn't trust him .... So I ended up playing his game ... Times I felt I felt more for him .... But it became more of a conquest ... Since I knew I could not trust him .....
If she said I don't kno .... It's a probably a no .... But Becuz there's some feelings ... And ur pushing her for an answer ... She's gunna say I dunno
If she said I don't kno .... It's a probably a no .... But Becuz there's some feelings ... And ur pushing her for an answer ... She's gunna say I dunno
Posted by Lil.ladie.taurus
Takes me about 3 months ... But that's me .... I've played the cat and mouse game with a guy who used me and spread rumours .... So I knew I couldn't trust him .... So I ended up playing his game ... Times I felt I felt more for him .... But it became more of a conquest ... Since I knew I could not trust him .....
If she said I don't kno .... It's a probably a no .... But Becuz there's some feelings ... And ur pushing her for an answer ... She's gunna say I dunno
So what happened after the conquest? You moved on to the next?
As for the I don't know. It probably is a no. However, that's where the question arises. If it's "No", then why keep asking for favors/help? Is this a way for me not to forget her?
Or do I take another risk and try and try again? I would though. Definitely. But only in the right time.
Lol couldn't tell u what happened .... Sumhow everything unravelled ... I ended up apologizing ... And I'm still texting every blue moon
Becuz there are some feelings .... And plus a Taurus can't let go easily .... They are possessive in nature
Posted by ctom01Posted by carcar19c
Could be anything really. Maybe she missed you. Why did you let her go?
Hi Carcar, well the long story short was, after about 8 months of chasing after her, I felt it was best to let her know how I really felt. And on her end, she wasnt ready. And that she doesn't really trust people on these kinds of things. I was heart broken, but my emotions took control and in short I ended up forcing an answer on how she felt about me where in her answer was "i dont know".
For me I felt really bad, because I didn't really want to force an answer but I did anyway. I haven't really forced her to do something till that point. And what I felt about her was really true. I followed my gut and it said to me, "if you love her, just let her go, to where she'll be most happy". But I still want to chase her though. But I guess now wouldn't be the right time.
Posted by Lil.ladie.taurus
Just curious ... What's ur sign ?
Second .... If I like a guy .... I will let him know....
If I dont like a guy .... But still keep contacting him , then I really enjoy talking with them and like them as a friend and also alittle more ... But the feelings just aren't strong enuff for me to do anything about it .
So I'd say she misses u .
It comes off as using because of how u treat her back ...click to expand
Hi Lil,
My sign? Aquarius.
A few questions if you don't mind. How long would it take for you to tell the guy you like them?
So I suppose at where we are at, she sees me as a friend?
I've been a bit cautious with the whole "using" thing because of what happened with another guy. The guy liked her and she didn't like him but she would ask favors from him. Well, the guy would do so thinking it would win her and really it didn't. But its probably because of what he did before. Or maybe because, as I was reading in another topic, there was no challenge there?
And for me in regards to the favors, I don't mind favors as long as you ask properly. Don't just go asking without a please. Comes off to me as demanding.
And for her, I've as much as possible not push her to something she didn't want. But do see the reply to Carcar to get a bit of background as to why I'm wondering if she's using me.
Of course, the f
Posted by ctom01Posted by carcar19c
Could be anything really. Maybe she missed you. Why did you let her go?click to expand
Hi Carcar, well the long story short was, after about 8 months of chasing after her, I felt it was best to let her know how I really felt. And on her end, she wasnt ready. And that she doesn't really trust people on these kinds of things. I was heart broken, but my emotions took control and in short I ended up forcing an answer on how she felt about me where in her answer was "i dont know".
For me I felt really bad, because I didn't really want to force an answer but I did anyway. I haven't really forced her to do something till that point. And what I felt about her was really true. I followed my gut and it said to me, "if you love her, just let her go, to where she'll be most happy". But I still want to chase her though. But I guess now wouldn't be the right time.
could be because you sort of forced her. if she really does feel the same way she'll keep the lines off communication open somehow.
Ohhh. So I guess it is somewhat similar to what I'm in. I suppose its going to become a game of cat and mouse if I really wish to continue pursuing? Or do I just give myself in its entirety? My my.
Hi Carcar,
Well, I think she did keep the lines of communication open. The last thing I talked to her after that event was to say "thank you for everything" and for her to focus on her goal that she was really intent on doing. And in that sense, that's where I let her go. She is still asking for favors once in a while. And I could also talk to her, but I haven't yet. And in similar to what Lil said, apparently there is some feelings there, hence the communication from her.
Who knows, maybe after she finishes her major goal, I can see what will happen. Maybe I'll write a letter. Lol.
Thanks for your input! 🙂
And Lil,
Thank you too! 🙂
Well, I think she did keep the lines of communication open. The last thing I talked to her after that event was to say "thank you for everything" and for her to focus on her goal that she was really intent on doing. And in that sense, that's where I let her go. She is still asking for favors once in a while. And I could also talk to her, but I haven't yet. And in similar to what Lil said, apparently there is some feelings there, hence the communication from her.
Who knows, maybe after she finishes her major goal, I can see what will happen. Maybe I'll write a letter. Lol.
Thanks for your input! 🙂
And Lil,
Thank you too! 🙂
My first reaction is that you must be reliable. Since she's able to "use" you for favors, I'd figure you must know how to do it and are capable of fulfilling it. Funny how you don't let her push you around and you guys play a game of cat and mouse...
How did you exactly "end it" with her? Or stopped chasing her? Did you tell her directly?
How did you exactly "end it" with her? Or stopped chasing her? Did you tell her directly?
Posted by Lil.ladie.taurus
Becuz there are some feelings .... And plus a Taurus can't let go easily .... They are possessive in nature
word.
In a way it is nice - nice to know you touched someone's heart. But boy it is hard when your heart is broken and you set the bull free because it is the right thing to do and they keep coming back and leaning over the fence wanting a pat.
Heart wrenching. Do you want us? Do you not? (I am a friggin Aries - love me or hate me but don't keep me guessing)
do y'all like to have a back up plan? Not having a go - I have a bull fetish, but jeez it would be nice to know what the hell was going on in there.
Posted by ReallyNiceAriesPersonPosted by Lil.ladie.taurus
Becuz there are some feelings .... And plus a Taurus can't let go easily .... They are possessive in nature
word.
In a way it is nice - nice to know you touched someone's heart. But boy it is hard when your heart is broken and you set the bull free because it is the right thing to do and they keep coming back and leaning over the fence wanting a pat.
Heart wrenching. Do you want us? Do you not? (I am a friggin Aries - love me or hate me but don't keep me guessing)
do y'all like to have a back up plan? Not having a go - I have a bull fetish, but jeez it would be nice to know what the hell was going on in there.click to expand
okay i am going to speak from expereince..... i love to be loved and i love to be there for people... if i get left behind, i am hurt..... so i keep messaging..... for two reaosns.... 1. i want to kno why they are levaing me... and 2. i want to prove to them that i care about them, and wont ghive up on them
i guess its selfish of me to keep holding onto some people, when they want more ( even though they never tell me they do )
but i figure.... why wouldnt anyone want sumone to care for them like i do?
i guess i dont see it as " im playing with ur heart strings "
i see it as " why wont u let me love u, even as a friend? "
Posted by everevolvingepithet
Depending on the person though, it's more a case of feeding off that other person, like an emotional/energy vampire.
Some create that energy, some need to feed off it. As bloody as that sounds I feel it's true.
Not sign specific either.
I guess noting whether they turn vile and parasitic once a person takes that luxury away would be telling as to whether they are of this type or if their intentions are true. 🙂
truueee
Posted by ReallyNiceAriesPersonPosted by Lil.ladie.taurusPosted by ReallyNiceAriesPersonPosted by Lil.ladie.taurus
Becuz there are some feelings .... And plus a Taurus can't let go easily .... They are possessive in nature
word.
In a way it is nice - nice to know you touched someone's heart. But boy it is hard when your heart is broken and you set the bull free because it is the right thing to do and they keep coming back and leaning over the fence wanting a pat.
Heart wrenching. Do you want us? Do you not? (I am a friggin Aries - love me or hate me but don't keep me guessing)
do y'all like to have a back up plan? Not having a go - I have a bull fetish, but jeez it would be nice to know what the hell was going on in there.
okay i am going to speak from expereince..... i love to be loved and i love to be there for people... if i get left behind, i am hurt..... so i keep messaging..... for two reaosns.... 1. i want to kno why they are levaing me... and 2. i want to prove to them that i care about them, and wont ghive up on them
i guess its selfish of me to keep holding onto some people, when they want more ( even though they never tell me they do )
but i figure.... why wouldnt anyone want sumone to care for them like i do?
i guess i dont see it as " im playing with ur heart strings "
i see it as " why wont u let me love u, even as a friend? "
what is a "friend"? My friend was dying so I moved into the hospital and held her hand until she drew her last breath.
If I am your "friend" that is my job.
So when I say to the Bull "I love you - I understand you don't love me and I love you sooo much I am cool with that, so off you go. Be happy and always know you were adored."
Why would he want to hang around in the background? Taunting me because I am not special enough to love? That is not a "friend" in my world.
If you don't love me, that's ok, but don't be lurking about reminding me all the time.click to expand
yeahhh.... taurus guys i dont understand....... i really dont....
and ur sure u said those words to them?
maybe he does love u, but hes scared? or cant be pushed—
lol ive told my taurus friend that i respect him and hes special to me... but im by no means in love with him.....
and i kno that i do need ppl to be very blunt with me, otherwise i do NOT clue in at all.... even if i have a hunch.... if the words arent said loud and clear.... well i cannot be blamed for my behaviour...
make sense? no? lol
and i kno that i do need ppl to be very blunt with me, otherwise i do NOT clue in at all.... even if i have a hunch.... if the words arent said loud and clear.... well i cannot be blamed for my behaviour...
make sense? no? lol
lol the taurus im tlaking to is part gemini too.... may 19 lol
maybe i will ask him for u 😛
maybe i will ask him for u 😛
well I have had it drummed into my head over on the Gemini board not to use harsh terms like "Love" to them
I just feel a bit used and stuff because I have been so supportive of things in his life and really need someone to be there for me now.
I am used to having to do stuff by myself/fend for myself etc and it would just be nice to have someone care about me.
I just feel a bit used and stuff because I have been so supportive of things in his life and really need someone to be there for me now.
I am used to having to do stuff by myself/fend for myself etc and it would just be nice to have someone care about me.
i asked my taurus for u... he jsut said : i dont kno
lol so u might be right haha
and i kno what u mean about feeling used...... you dont have to say u love him, but if u are feeling used... tell him.... u will get ur answers alot faster if ur honest...
then u wont have to wonder anymore if u are on the same page
lol so u might be right haha
and i kno what u mean about feeling used...... you dont have to say u love him, but if u are feeling used... tell him.... u will get ur answers alot faster if ur honest...
then u wont have to wonder anymore if u are on the same page
I am not making myself clear. We are NOT on the same page, but he keeps writing to me anyway. like some satellite friend.
I want him in my life 100% or out of it.
Hi, I am from Planet Aries and I don't fuck around with people's hearts - please be kind enough to extend the same courtesy to me.
sorry - I know this is now how the rest of the world operates. I am just letting a lot of crap get on top of me. Thansk for letting me let off some steam - no one better than a bull for that sort of thing!! hugs R
I want him in my life 100% or out of it.
Hi, I am from Planet Aries and I don't fuck around with people's hearts - please be kind enough to extend the same courtesy to me.
sorry - I know this is now how the rest of the world operates. I am just letting a lot of crap get on top of me. Thansk for letting me let off some steam - no one better than a bull for that sort of thing!! hugs R
lol im sorrryyy..... im just confused... becuase in taurus land if i were to like sumone as much as u do..... where its all or nothing...... i guess i would give it my all first.....before i walk away
yep - I gave everything. You are invoved with an Aries - you know we don't do things half -azsed.
My everything is not enough.
Aries = love. I have failed.
Things are supposed to spin right again after this stupid Mercury retrograde thing finishes next week.
My everything is not enough.
Aries = love. I have failed.
Things are supposed to spin right again after this stupid Mercury retrograde thing finishes next week.
well then ur right... lol that is very cruel behaviour on the tauruses end :S
Posted by doubletaurus
My first reaction is that you must be reliable. Since she's able to "use" you for favors, I'd figure you must know how to do it and are capable of fulfilling it. Funny how you don't let her push you around and you guys play a game of cat and mouse...
How did you exactly "end it" with her? Or stopped chasing her? Did you tell her directly?
Hi Doubletaurus,
Well yes, I've been the person she's usually gone to when she needs help. The always there when you need them kind of person. And of course I give it, but only after the games of cat and mouse. But once in a while I give in quickly, but only recently, I decided to put the game up again.
Well, I got mixed feed back from friends on the way I did it. Some say you ended it, others say you left it open. I suppose I'll let you be the judge. I ended by one day asking her for a very short amount of time, probably 2 minutes. (Of course on chat, which is like super lame but hey, I got work and she lives far.) So during that short time I told her, Thank you. And she asked "for?". I said "everything". Then she gave a "🙂" then I said this comes from deep in my heart... then she said "thank you as well 🙂" Then, the last thing I said was "you have something important to do. and don't let anything get in the way of it. when you do it, i'll be most happy. 🙂"
In that sense I didn't tell her directly, but I suppose she got the point? But it is true, I suppose I did leave it a bit open. My my.
Posted by ReallyNiceAriesPerson
yep - I gave everything. You are invoved with an Aries - you know we don't do things half -azsed.
My everything is not enough.
Aries = love. I have failed.
Things are supposed to spin right again after this stupid Mercury retrograde thing finishes next week.
Seems like you also share the same feelings. Kinda like you gave everything and it didnt work, and you want some space, yet they're there asking for something, giving something, taking something...have no regard for your end. :/
I am getting emails from someone who doesn't love me.
I need a cuddle from someone who does.
I don't understand why if I am not cuddleable he would want to keep in contact with me...I guess he wants to keep a support person in the wings for when his life gets tough again? Apparently we Rams make good support people.
sorry I am being grumpy. I hate feeling like this.
Posted by ReallyNiceAriesPerson
I am getting emails from someone who doesn't love me.
I need a cuddle from someone who does.
I don't understand why if I am not cuddleable he would want to keep in contact with me...I guess he wants to keep a support person in the wings for when his life gets tough again? Apparently we Rams make good support people.
sorry I am being grumpy. I hate feeling like this.
Actually, I'm trying to understand that part of the Taurus at the moment. I think the keeping a support person always is a definite part. Sort of... it's something that has become a part of their life and they will assume it will always be there. Don't worry about being grumpy, do everything you can to alleviate the feeling. 🙂
back atcha ctom01. I know it's always nice to have a support person you can count on.
I am never grumpy for long (better today) and doesn't happen often so I don't cope with it very well!
Great sex is my go-to cure all for most ailments (including grumpiness, headaches, sprained ankles etc) and not getting any😢
I am never grumpy for long (better today) and doesn't happen often so I don't cope with it very well!
Great sex is my go-to cure all for most ailments (including grumpiness, headaches, sprained ankles etc) and not getting any😢
You know she straight up used a guy for favors before, a guy who liked her but she didn't reciprocate those warm and tender feelings... why would you think you're any different or more special? :/
When someone tells/shows you who they are and what they're about, BELIEVE THEM. The first time.
When someone tells/shows you who they are and what they're about, BELIEVE THEM. The first time.
Posted by Nefer
You know she straight up used a guy for favors before, a guy who liked her but she didn't reciprocate those warm and tender feelings... why would you think you're any different or more special? :/
When someone tells/shows you who they are and what they're about, BELIEVE THEM. The first time.
So if I meet someone and straight up advise them "I am not interested in having anything to do with anymore azsholes. I am done with azsholes" they would take that on board and politely excuse themselves if they were an azshole?
lol No.. but if Mr. Asshole SHOWS you he's an asshole, TELLS you he treats women badly and uses their feelings for him to get what he wants... and then starts, I don't know.. BEING AN ASSHOLE to you, and using YOUR feelings for him to get what he wants... it's on YOU to wake up and smell the coffee and leave that fool alone, and not convince yourself that you're somehow different and special and can change him.
She's TOLD him she's USED a guy she felt nothing for.. for favors and such, didn't feel a damn bit guilty about it, openly shares this info with ctom.. but also.. she comes to HIM for favors, DEMANDING favors.. what makes him different than the last poor schmuck who thought he was doing a good thing by doing favors for this chick?
Hey, if ctom likes doing all of this stuff for her (esp with so little in return).. more power to him, yeehaw. Free will. But I just hope he doesn't convince himself it's somehow different and special with him.. and then be blindsided if he finally realizes.. he's no different than the last known schmuck who let her use him. Different face, different name.. same game. *shrug*
She's TOLD him she's USED a guy she felt nothing for.. for favors and such, didn't feel a damn bit guilty about it, openly shares this info with ctom.. but also.. she comes to HIM for favors, DEMANDING favors.. what makes him different than the last poor schmuck who thought he was doing a good thing by doing favors for this chick?
Hey, if ctom likes doing all of this stuff for her (esp with so little in return).. more power to him, yeehaw. Free will. But I just hope he doesn't convince himself it's somehow different and special with him.. and then be blindsided if he finally realizes.. he's no different than the last known schmuck who let her use him. Different face, different name.. same game. *shrug*
Posted by Nefer
lol No.. but if Mr. Asshole SHOWS you he's an asshole, TELLS you he treats women badly and uses their feelings for him to get what he wants... and then starts, I don't know.. BEING AN ASSHOLE to you, and using YOUR feelings for him to get what he wants... it's on YOU to wake up and smell the coffee and leave that fool alone, and not convince yourself that you're somehow different and special and can change him.
She's TOLD him she's USED a guy she felt nothing for.. for favors and such, didn't feel a damn bit guilty about it, openly shares this info with ctom.. but also.. she comes to HIM for favors, DEMANDING favors.. what makes him different than the last poor schmuck who thought he was doing a good thing by doing favors for this chick?
Hey, if ctom likes doing all of this stuff for her (esp with so little in return).. more power to him, yeehaw. Free will. But I just hope he doesn't convince himself it's somehow different and special with him.. and then be blindsided if he finally realizes.. he's no different than the last known schmuck who let her use him. Different face, different name.. same game. *shrug*
That is very true Nefer, what makes me different than the other schmuck? And yes, I had felt the "I can change them, I'm different" bit at one point. However, the misconception here is, she herself never did tell me or anyone else for that matter that she used the guy she never liked. It was something everyone inferred. She didn't like him, yet kept asking him for favors. And like you said, the poor schmuck thought it was a way to win her over. And gave in. However, for her, she doesn't like the whole "expecting" thing, where you expect something from her after doing something or whatever. Hard when you start investing feelings and more importantly time, right? I suppose she asked favors as a "friend".
However, in reality on my end, I am very knowledgeable on this fact. And am currently very weary of any communication that doesn't start properly. (eg. instantaneous demands, no regard to the other party and what they're doing). I see whether or not the inquiry is indeed important and I would weigh the pros and cons of whether or not I should give time or not. I suppose it's just being a friend. But when the tables turn and I ask for favors, that is the time to see if it really is one sided.
Good, ctom.. I'm a firm believer in free will.. your eyes are open, you've thought about these things, and you *choose* to do what you do. No shame in that. Kudos! (This chick must be just SMOKIN' hot, I think! *wink*)
Hell, I'm a Pisces.. I OFTEN choose to do things others think are foolish or crazy... but I assure you, I do it with my eyes wide open, and I make my own CHOICES, and would never cry victim for something I CHOSE or a situation I ALLOWED. You seem similar, and I think you'll be just fine. I think. WOULD you be just fine if six months down the road (and X amount of favors).. she says doesn't LIKE you like that, and she was just asking for favors from a friend, cuz you guys are friends?
Hell, I'm a Pisces.. I OFTEN choose to do things others think are foolish or crazy... but I assure you, I do it with my eyes wide open, and I make my own CHOICES, and would never cry victim for something I CHOSE or a situation I ALLOWED. You seem similar, and I think you'll be just fine. I think. WOULD you be just fine if six months down the road (and X amount of favors).. she says doesn't LIKE you like that, and she was just asking for favors from a friend, cuz you guys are friends?
Posted by Nefer
Good, ctom.. I'm a firm believer in free will.. your eyes are open, you've thought about these things, and you *choose* to do what you do. No shame in that. Kudos! (This chick must be just SMOKIN' hot, I think! *wink*)
Hell, I'm a Pisces.. I OFTEN choose to do things others think are foolish or crazy... but I assure you, I do it with my eyes wide open, and I make my own CHOICES, and would never cry victim for something I CHOSE or a situation I ALLOWED. You seem similar, and I think you'll be just fine. I think. WOULD you be just fine if six months down the road (and X amount of favors).. she says doesn't LIKE you like that, and she was just asking for favors from a friend, cuz you guys are friends?
Then definitely the belief in free will is something we share, Nefer. For me, I wouldn't want to force them into something they're not willing to go into. If they don't want, then they don't want. If they change their mind later, then they do. However, the only problem is for things like these, it is a two way street and if one way is rerouted due to being closed, well thats how it is.
As for your inquiry, if in the future asking her again or what not and she says it's a friend thing, then that's how it is. No reason to force someone. You're stripping away their free will when you force them. But at least, for one thing you can't say I didn't try or make the choice to try. 😉
Oh and on a side note Nefer, since we're also talking about Moons, Mercury, Mars, and Venus back on the Libra board, this lady in particular has a Libra Moon, Taurus Mercury, Aries Venus and a Pisces Mars. So perhaps that would shed some light on this particular situation. 🙂
Air, Earth, Fire, Water.. sheesh! lol
I'm no pro, but...
She's a Taurus, thinks like a Taurus.. security is important to her.. people accuse Taus of being materialistic and/or gold diggers.. but I think it's just an innate need to have "enough".. whatever "enough" feels like to them. They need security and stability. (I have a Tau Moon/Mars.) Stubborn, don't PUSH me, man. Warm, sensual.
BUT that Libra Moon... very Airy and floaty on the emotions, detached and emotionally "cool"... loves beauty and peace and harmony... hates rudeness, fighting, and discord.. confrontation breaks them out in hives, so they'd rather just avoid it, along with most "heavy" emotional issues...
Here's an interesting twist.. Aries Venus.. that's me too.. straight up, blunt, outgoing, fearless in my flirting/pursuit of something. I want what I want, and willingly put myself out there to get it, a real risk-taker and edge-liver, have NO trouble telling someone I'm interested in them.. sooo.. her NOT saying she's interested in you.. her saying "I don't know".. I'm thinking she DOESN'T feel much for you and isn't all that interested in you.. but her Libra Moon doesn't want conflict or confrontation, so she's just.. riding it out.. hoping you'll get the hint when she's not lovey-dovey or flirtatious with you, that you'll gently move on, maybe find another girl, without putting too much pressure on her. Cuz her Libra Moon LOVES your friendship.
Real kicker.. Pisces Mars.. Pisces planets are lovely, to be sure.. deep, emotional, feeling.. very sweet, gentle, compassionate... the problem with a lot of Pisces Mars.. they don't naturally know how to assert themselves, HATE hurting people.. they often don't just speak up and make their wishes/wants/feelings clear. They sweetly go along and go along.. until finally backed into a corner, then they jump out snarling and you're like WHOA WTF?!
Her Pisces Mars mixed with that Libra Moon.. she WON'T face you head on and straight up SAY she's not interested in you (until she HAS to, cornered!) that could be hurtful, even RUDE, since you LIKE her.. cuz that Aries Venus.. if she WAS interested in you.. you'd KNOW it lol
I think she's friendzoned you, and figures if you didn't WANT to do favors for her anymore, you wouldn't.
I'm no pro, but...
She's a Taurus, thinks like a Taurus.. security is important to her.. people accuse Taus of being materialistic and/or gold diggers.. but I think it's just an innate need to have "enough".. whatever "enough" feels like to them. They need security and stability. (I have a Tau Moon/Mars.) Stubborn, don't PUSH me, man. Warm, sensual.
BUT that Libra Moon... very Airy and floaty on the emotions, detached and emotionally "cool"... loves beauty and peace and harmony... hates rudeness, fighting, and discord.. confrontation breaks them out in hives, so they'd rather just avoid it, along with most "heavy" emotional issues...
Here's an interesting twist.. Aries Venus.. that's me too.. straight up, blunt, outgoing, fearless in my flirting/pursuit of something. I want what I want, and willingly put myself out there to get it, a real risk-taker and edge-liver, have NO trouble telling someone I'm interested in them.. sooo.. her NOT saying she's interested in you.. her saying "I don't know".. I'm thinking she DOESN'T feel much for you and isn't all that interested in you.. but her Libra Moon doesn't want conflict or confrontation, so she's just.. riding it out.. hoping you'll get the hint when she's not lovey-dovey or flirtatious with you, that you'll gently move on, maybe find another girl, without putting too much pressure on her. Cuz her Libra Moon LOVES your friendship.
Real kicker.. Pisces Mars.. Pisces planets are lovely, to be sure.. deep, emotional, feeling.. very sweet, gentle, compassionate... the problem with a lot of Pisces Mars.. they don't naturally know how to assert themselves, HATE hurting people.. they often don't just speak up and make their wishes/wants/feelings clear. They sweetly go along and go along.. until finally backed into a corner, then they jump out snarling and you're like WHOA WTF?!
Her Pisces Mars mixed with that Libra Moon.. she WON'T face you head on and straight up SAY she's not interested in you (until she HAS to, cornered!) that could be hurtful, even RUDE, since you LIKE her.. cuz that Aries Venus.. if she WAS interested in you.. you'd KNOW it lol
I think she's friendzoned you, and figures if you didn't WANT to do favors for her anymore, you wouldn't.
Thanks Nefer for the explanation on her chart! But something I wondered, wouldn't the Pisces Mars and the Libra Moon influence her Aries Venus to tone it down a bit? Sort of a subtle hint that she likes you? If that were the case, then there were times before where she would just abruptly show me off to her other guy friends. Like I would do this and that for her or how I have a motorcycle and what not.
Either way, I guess I'm friendzone'd at the moment anyway. Lol.
Also, is there way I'd be able to read up on how to read charts like you do, online? I'm really intrigued on reading full charts.
Either way, I guess I'm friendzone'd at the moment anyway. Lol.
Also, is there way I'd be able to read up on how to read charts like you do, online? I'm really intrigued on reading full charts.
Once Upon A Time I had a bullet lead me down the Lily Path. She then crushed my pathetic little heart.
Once in a while, I still run into her. She seems to find a nasty sense of satisfaction in trying to torment me. Trying to find a weakness, an opening, through which to inflict pain upon me once again. I rather expect that she found me to be "weak" in some way, and now she needs to prove or reinforce that view. I can think of no other explanation. She decided I am such and such, and it is her job to prove that, time, and time again.
Once in a while, I still run into her. She seems to find a nasty sense of satisfaction in trying to torment me. Trying to find a weakness, an opening, through which to inflict pain upon me once again. I rather expect that she found me to be "weak" in some way, and now she needs to prove or reinforce that view. I can think of no other explanation. She decided I am such and such, and it is her job to prove that, time, and time again.
Posted by dofacc
Once Upon A Time I had a bullet lead me down the Lily Path. She then crushed my pathetic little heart.
Once in a while, I still run into her. She seems to find a nasty sense of satisfaction in trying to torment me. Trying to find a weakness, an opening, through which to inflict pain upon me once again. I rather expect that she found me to be "weak" in some way, and now she needs to prove or reinforce that view. I can think of no other explanation. She decided I am such and such, and it is her job to prove that, time, and time again.
not the right one for you dofacc - don't be sweating it
Who dare calleth the Aries heart pathetic (or little)— I can feel another headbutting session coming on....
You know what dof? She can piss right off, how's bout them apples, eh?
VB has been re-reading the Aussie slang thread from last week again!
oh sorry - haven't seen that one
Posted by ReallyNiceAriesPersonPosted by dofacc
Once Upon A Time I had a bullet lead me down the Lily Path. She then crushed my pathetic little heart.
Once in a while, I still run into her. She seems to find a nasty sense of satisfaction in trying to torment me. Trying to find a weakness, an opening, through which to inflict pain upon me once again. I rather expect that she found me to be "weak" in some way, and now she needs to prove or reinforce that view. I can think of no other explanation. She decided I am such and such, and it is her job to prove that, time, and time again.
not the right one for you dofacc - don't be sweating it
Who dare calleth the Aries heart pathetic (or little)— I can feel another headbutting session coming on....click to expand
Yikes!!!!!
*tap dancing off, stage right*
Oh, yeah, I was going to also point out that the proverbial "Aries Ice" is indeed a powerful defensive tool. Just freeze up, and the jabs are without sting.
Hmmm, so VB, can you make pie with them apples? Doesn't have to be one of your really nice tasty ones. Maybe one for a face plant, you see.....
Hmmm, so VB, can you make pie with them apples? Doesn't have to be one of your really nice tasty ones. Maybe one for a face plant, you see.....
Tappity tippity, tap tap tap...
Posted by ReallyNiceAriesPerson
VB has been re-reading the Aussie slang thread from last week again!
LOL Previous UK training, it's quite in my lexicon now. Not that I was a turnip beforehand, but it speed buffed and polished some edges.
Posted by dofacc
Oh, yeah, I was going to also point out that the proverbial "Aries Ice" is indeed a powerful defensive tool. Just freeze up, and the jabs are without sting.
Hmmm, so VB, can you make pie with them apples? Doesn't have to be one of your really nice tasty ones. Maybe one for a face plant, you see.....
Long as you aren't thinking William Tell I'll give you a whole bushel to lob at her. 😄
Posted by everevolvingepithet
I thought that was from Good Will Hunting ?
Ooooh.. when he got the phone number?!!?
BEST line in that whole fantastic movie! 😄
Im not a Taurus but its pretty obvious, she still want's you :-)
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Thank thanks! 😉