the good kind of cancer

Just wanted to say hi to all the taurus out there. I love ya. Even though you all are insentive bastards. (well at least the ones I know.)

I'm a cancer girl, the perfect match. My motto is: I drive a neon but want to ride a taurus.

Any way I will probably have questions because I seem to attract tauruses and some how lose them. I don't know what's wrong with me. And I will have comments after exploring this board more. But for now I'm going to check out the cancer board to answer questions there.

Why do you lose them? Maybe it's just for the best... especially if they're so insensitive...

Wow, is it really my fault? OK for the story. This is the third Taurus I have dated/liked (out of 5 that I've acutally liked). And I said I wouldn't mess up this time. But I think I already have. OK, so I am a cancer and that means that if he shows any signs of disinterest, I'm pulling away because I hate rejection.

I have a hard time knowing if he's interested or if he's playing games. He (meaning any of the taurus) could be all in my face, touching me intimately but not always sexually, saying that I'm pretty and smart and all sorts of other things, but if he can't say "I like you", then I don't know if he does. If he doesn't call me then I really feel rejected. Like Greg Behrendt says, he's just not that into me. So then I try to avoid him because it would be awkward if he's trying to get rid of me but I'm not taking the hint.

But at the same time I'm not sure that I'm giving any signals that I'm interested except to say "I really like you". (which I think says it all) But not really showing it. It's like we are opposites. I can say it but not show it. He shows it but doesn't say it. But I really need him to say it. Otherwise I'm back and forth in my head thinking he's playing games.

So anyway taurus #3 and I talk a few times and everything seems to be going well. But I really want to have sex because I've been wanting him for a long time. And someone else told me that he had like me for a long time too- but he had a girlfriend at the time. So basically we decide, without actually saying it, that he's going to come over and we're going to have sex.

So he comes over and we talk and watch tv. Then we have sex over and over and over. Then we talk and watch tv some more and have breakfast and he's touching my face and bring up things from our teenage years that I had forgotten about until he mentioned them. But then I get tired (it's 4 in the morning) and go to bed. When I wake up about 2 hours later, he's gone. And then he doesn't call. So I think he only came over here to have sex. Which I feel like he could have just told me if that was the case.

So I have been avoiding him. (which I'm sure he knows) Except I ran into him about 5 days later and we talked for about 10 minutes and he says "I'm going to call you tonight" But he doesn't. Then my friend says she sees him everyday and he always ask her about me. (see how this is confusing?) I just want him to say he's not interested if he's not interested. [continued]

So a part of me thinks I messed up again. You're only getting my side of the story so I could very well be leaving something out. But I want to know if you think there's still a chance or is it actually over. And if it is, how can I learn from this for the next taurus (I'm sorry I'm just very attracted to taurus's strenghts, not that I seek out taurses; I only find out that they are a taurus after I start really liking him- what a coincidence). I don't want to always be the one who messes things up. Oh and believe me, I'm not taking all the blame. Like I said before, Tauruses are insensitive bastards. Or maybe I'm just too sensitive.

one more thing. when I do see him, I get this urge to touch him and kiss him but I don't because it's not my personality and because I don't know how he feels about me. I know you tauruses like to be touched and I feel like he can sense that pulling away/ holding back that I do.

"i think you have to think "practical" when it comes to taurus, and what they can deliver to you realistically. if you want gushy emotions, you have to realize that taurus is practical first, and then see you will see the emotions secondly."

Sagi is right. dammit

Taurus are more analytical too. so looking at that dolphin, I think "I wonder what it would be like to swim like that" or "I wonder if the dolphin gets bored swimming all day".

""I really like you". (which I think says it all) But not really showing it. It's like we are opposites. I can say it but not show it. He shows it but doesn't say it. But I really need him to say it. Otherwise I'm back and forth in my head thinking he's playing games."

Here's something you need to knwo about Taurus men and women. We don't throw around "I really like you" or "I love you" like it's everything phrases. When we say it, you better believe that we mean it. If any other Taurus reading this disagrees with this, I'd like to hear about it. We also tend to question the feelings of others when those phrases are said too early in a relationship.

I'm with Sagi to an extent. Why waste time? We know how fickle we are and how set in our ways we can be. And don't forget how intuitive we are. If something isn't right about something or someone, I back away to get a better picture.

merc, are you saying that every single person you've met in your life you're still in contact with?

Thank you all so much. I feel so much better now. So the plan: I need to find out what I really want. Because I don't know. I keep telling myself that right now is not a good time for a relationship, my career just got started and I might have talked too much about being busy with my career which may have told him I'm not really into this. But honestly I am very into relationships and family. I put family before career. The only reason I've buried myself into my work is that I'm not in a relationship. I mean a girls gotta eat. But I would give it all up to take care of a family. But I couldn't tell him this; I don't know what he wants. And I'm not about to sabotoge all I've worked for the last four years for a maybe. So right now work is very important.

Okay so I find out that yes, I do want a relationship with him. Next step find a way to tell him this without exposing too much. Still that fear of rejection. So I'm going to play it over and over in my head until I'm bold enough to do it.

Again, thanks to all.

but if everybody drop everybody else of the tiniest thing, none of us would be with anybody cuz you drop who doesn't know how to act around you, so they will have to be taught. and if they can't respect thw way they should act around you, then you drop them

I agree Merc,

Most people do break up over the silliess things! Yet, most people stay together when cheating is involved LOL, that just blows me away.

If something isn't right about something or someone, I back away to get a better picture.

Yes, HP I've done that too ... especially here recently.

MercinAries: "oh, stop being a pussy"
sagiTAUries: fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck.fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck.fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck.fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck.fuck fuck fuck




You just gotta love the way us Taurus have no qualms about telling each other off, yet still respect each other! LOL

I think there's a difference between April Taurus and May Taurus as well.

Yeah HP, there is definitely a difference between April born and May born taurus.

Merc, are you a May baby?

Sagi, are you an April baby?

Sagi and I are April babies and Merc is a May baby. Look at how we receive things. Sagi and I are 1st Duncans and you're a 2nd Duncan. I read the difference between the two, but have to find it.

really? the book i glanced through at Barnes and Noble said I was first Duncan: April 30th.

i guess i missed the boat where we were talking about hating somebody; i just simply said i don't waste time with people if i don't see a friendship with them. that doesn't mean i hate them.

but i agree with sagi about us gaining control of a situation when we feel someone is taking us for granted or abusing us in some way. i hardly ever get mad; i get even and then move on. but again, that doesn't mean i hate them.

it's just our motto: mess with the bull, you get the horns

sagi, take that friggin' picture of the dead rat off your profile. it's horrid! 😢

"forgiving the person allows you to forgive yourself for letting yourself be hurt by that person, and then move on. you dont have to tell that person you forgave them.
you can still keep them out of your life if they intend on using you."

Merc, I don't understand. Explain that the way you see it. We put a lot of trust in people but once someone does or says something to betray that trust, we retract. Why should we forgive ourselves for letting ourselves get hurt? We don't purposely question the motives of a person and think "this person is going to lie or betray me but I'm going to let him/her do it anyway."

Anyone's trust that's been betrayed holds a price. One way or another, we all pay the price for someone's shortcomings and lies.

don't leave, merc. it's just a friendly debate. Sagi can be a PITA, but you grow to love him anyway. 😉

LOL....I just reread SweetCrab's original post and she said she loves us but we're insensitive. I think Sagi has confirmed that. 😛

I still see quite a difference between April and May Taurus. Just look at this conversation.

Hell, I think we all confirmed that!

mmmmmmm snickers.

I don't give the kids candy for Halloween. I give them apples. Better for their teeth. 🙂

i heart you, too.

Hey, what's your favorite flavored Kool Aid? Mine is Tropical Punch. Oh, and Cherry.

LOL