This Taurus guy is confusing me but i am magnetized by him!! Some clarity pls!

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Met this taurus guy back in Nov- we dated once a month- and every date was great! Great convo, undeniable chemistry and a whole lot of physical attraction! We do exchange texts back and forth but more from me. He's always been a one word reply kind of guy. Before we physically met, he would normally initiate the texting but after our first date, his effort got less and then lesser. He does reply everytime i text him- not right away but i would always hear from him before the day is over. Then we went on another date last week- it was short but it was great again. He opened up about his business and the amount of time he has left for himself etc..even told me about one of his employees who's pursuing him but he said he does not care for her coz of her attitude, etc.. My intuition tells me he was telling the truth. He also raised the issue of my situation that it is complicated ( i just got divorced recently but my ex is still in the picture coz we have 2 boys together). Basically, taurus guy knows everything. He said he beleives that i am being honest and feel where i am coming from but he said it is still a tricky situation and we'll see in due time when ex is finally out of the picture (which is next month- March). So our last date was again perfect- at least i thought it was. We kissed and kissed some more and nothing else. Then he dropped me off. The next day, i sent him a text and told him i had a great time, etc and he replied "cool". Then i wished him good luck for his biz meeting and no reply. And i thought, ok i am sure he's very busy. Then night time comes and still no text. So i said good night and still nothing. Then the next day was the same. Quiet. He disappeared all of a sudden. I was bumbed! Then i finally decided i will write him an email- coz i was kind of hurt that he will just disappear without saying a word after a date that i thought went great. I told him i like him a lot and it was not a good feeling to keep me guessing. I told him, if you want me to stop reaching out, just say it- i would rather know the truth that be left in a limbo. Then this was his text :
"Good morning. i appreciate the sentiments you expressed. Been busy trying to sort out my professional and personal matters. Apologies for the lack of response.
I am not going to be able to have a lot of attention so expect that there will be gaps in communication"..

I need some help translating this! Is this his way of saying i should back off? Please help!


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Well I think he just told you there will be gaps in communication, if you feel he's coming from a place of honesty, then the question is, can you accept, that there will be gaps in communication? He's told you, now you decide do you want that or not? I think men tend to tell you their truth it's just not reading more into it and can you accept that or not, which I know is easier said than done - this is still pretty new so you can get out easier at this point than the longer you wait, if it's not something you want in a relationship.
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Well I think he just told you there will be gaps in communication, if you feel he's coming from a place of honesty, then the question is, can you accept, that there will be gaps in communication? He's told you, now you decide do you want that or not? I think men tend to tell you their truth it's just not reading more into it and can you accept that or not, which I know is easier said than done - this is still pretty new so you can get out easier at this point than the longer you wait, if it's not something you want in a relationship.
I do feel that he is coming from a place of honesty. And i am willing to also take my time and really not rush into anything serious anyway. But my confusion comes from the fact that there were no gaps in communication before and then after the last date, he disappeared for 4 days then replied and said expect the gaps in communication. So what changed from the time we last went out and now..
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Well I think he just told you there will be gaps in communication, if you feel he's coming from a place of honesty, then the question is, can you accept, that there will be gaps in communication? He's told you, now you decide do you want that or not? I think men tend to tell you their truth it's just not reading more into it and can you accept that or not, which I know is easier said than done - this is still pretty new so you can get out easier at this point than the longer you wait, if it's not something you want in a relationship.
I do feel that he is coming from a place of honesty. And i am willing to also take my time and really not rush into anything serious anyway. But my confusion comes from the fact that there were no gaps in communication before and then after the last date, he disappeared for 4 days then replied and said expect the gaps in communication. So what changed from the time we last went out and now..
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I don't know what kind of business he is in, but for me, my year is very roller coaster like - I have easy seasons - holidays are always slow, so I have lots of time to pay attention to you from Halloween thru new Year but spring is impossible. I'm gearing up now so everyday I would have less and less time for you. Is that maybe something similar for him? Or maybe the ex has upped the drama? I'm just saying maybe it's not about you at all and he's trying to be upfront about his reality today. I happen to be a woman that will say, oh this must be my fault, he's not doing what he did before, when really its not about me at all - hard to believe because clearly the world revolves around me. 😄
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I have three of his placements, and if I was going through something like this. It will be awhile. I am would just be friends and if I'm ready well talk about. If we are stressed we don't talk to much.
Good to know at least! Lol yeah i get the feeling that he tends to think everything in a timely manner- which i am completely fine with. So i am thinking of just send him texts here and there and let him decide whether he replies or not.
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No deep feelings for ex at all. Marriage had been over a long time ago due to ex's infidelity but we have to keep the peace for the sake of our two boys. As far as mr Taurus is concerned, he's been divorced for a while now- his ex wife cheated on him too. He also has two kids- and henis extremely busy coz of his business.
Taurus may be leery that he is a rebound. I had a rebound after my divorce (he may have, too). Didn't think it was at the time, but looking back, it was. I know this now. He ended up going back to his ex wife. That didn't work out for him, but it allowed me to move forward with myself. Six months later I met my aqua - the love of my life. This time, I was ready for a relationship.

Taurus knows divorce is hard and emotions tend to linger. I don't mean lovey emotions, but there is anger, sometimes bitterness that continue for a while. Then there is curiosity about the ex, the adjustment time frame, the getting back on your feet, the drama, the getting the kids adjusted. Kids especially need time before either parent is with someone else. They have to get over things, too. There are so many different feelings you have to work through. You need time to be able to trust again. And you need to learn to be alone and happy with yourself before you're really ready to invest in another relationship. Oh, we tell ourselves we're ready for a new relationship, but when you've been through this and look back you can see that you really weren't. That's how I was anyway. This Taurus, he's been there, too.

Of course, I know nothing about what you went through, what you're going through and where your mindset is. Just basing this on my own experience.

Just take it slow and don't be so eager to jump into a new relationship. Give yourself time to heel and get to know yourself.

My aqua always told me "in due time" and "slow down" and "let's take it slow" - he was right. Our relationship is built on a solid foundation because of all of this.

I have a friend who was so eager to have the happy relationship she didn't have when she was married. She jumped up and married another guy within a year after her divorce, and after only 5 months of knowing this new guy. Lasted a year. She's divorced again. Now, she's learned to know herself and set boundaries and take it slow. I'm not saying this is you at all, but just sharing her story.

So, don't worry about the Taurus, don't chase him. Just let him take the lead. If it works, it works. If it doesn't, it doesn't.

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Thanks for your thoughtful response. Everything you said makes sense. I am definitely going to take some time off for myself- i just don't want to maybe miss the opportunity on a great guy if i don't play the cards well- if that makes any sense. I am not saying i want to have a serious relationship right now- all i am saying is i do want to keep communicating with taurus but not to put so much expectations from it. Like you said, if it works then great, if it doesn't- life still happens.
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So is there any chemistry or connection, so what do you like about him?
Absolutely. There's a lot of chemistry and connection. I still remember how he looked at me on our first date. It was almost hypnotizing. Like he's looking right thru my inner being. The chemistry was undeniable both physical and emotional. I like that he is a straight shooter. I like how he carries himself, i like his mental disposition and i like the fact that he is smart and attentive with our conversation.
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What would you say Exactly right now.
Will let him know that i am not going anywhere and happy to take as much time needed and i miss him- sounds needy?
You are a scorpio.. Scorps seem to be sooo very clingy and needed which is why more often than not their relationships with taurus don't work.

Tauruses are very very independent. When i used to date my ex gem I used to see him once a week to begin; I never used to contact him during the day ; it took us 18 months to get together... There will be lots of large gaps in communication with a taurus if there is a lot going on in the taurus life and more often than not their usually is...

Taurus will be hesitant as you are newly divorced. You will be "rebound risky" for him. He will be "mulling" your situation over in his head.... Tauruses are not big on risk when it comes to relationships... So he may have cooled off emotionally due to this factor...

I suggest you continue life as normal and don't put much hope into anything developing quickly. If a taurus is interested, they will pursue at their leisure not yours... So do not chase and do not try to control...
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Thanks! I will def put this into consideration- i do tend fall fast which is quite annoying. I will put a cruise control on this one and see where it goes- if it even go anywhere! It sucks coz i like the guy but at least it is still early and i can easily cut the ties off!
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Hey all! I am still debating if i should initiate the text after 4 days of no communication 😢 or should i leave it alone?
Don't chase a man... You have just come out of a divorce.. Drink some coolade, take a cold shower anything rather than chase him. He will contact you...

I can't understand people who are just divorced and yet ready to jump straight into another relationship. Taurus is way too cautious for that!!! keep hounding and he will run...
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Lol i am not trying to jump into the i want a relationship band wagon right away. I just did not want to lose the communication that we had started- i've heard taureans like to be pursued- maybe not true then? It is all confusing! Lol
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Hey all! I am still debating if i should initiate the text after 4 days of no communication 😢 or should i leave it alone?
Don't chase a man... You have just come out of a divorce.. Drink some coolade, take a cold shower anything rather than chase him. He will contact you...

I can't understand people who are just divorced and yet ready to jump straight into another relationship. Taurus is way too cautious for that!!! keep hounding and he will run...
Lol i am not trying to jump into the i want a relationship band wagon right away. I just did not want to lose the communication that we had started- i've heard taureans like to be pursued- maybe not true then? It is all confusing! Lol
If you are not trying to jump into a relationship then the large gaps in communication should not bother you... Everyone knows that a lot of communication and banter between two people a relationship can develop very quickly... Not want to lose the communication is a chance you will have to take... Your way of dealing with this "loss" is by trying to control it and after a while, taurus will just get annoyed.

He met you on a few dates you do not have to pursue him... If he is hot on your tail he would be pursing you..
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Point well taken! Thank you 🙂
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Why lord why!! Why do we women torture ourselves.

Listen.

He went from being the initiator (the chaser) and now he's initiating is less and lesser. You are now the chaser (initiator) and he gives you one word replies. He also threw another woman up in your face. Then he disappears ONLY to tell you he does not have a lot of attention and there will be gaps in communication and this was the SAME guy who initially chased you . Right? So do we really have to tell you he's just not that interested?

Not only back off. Lose the phone number. You're new to this so I can understand why you wouldn't actually get that you're getting the blow off but it's not going to happen.

Once a man stop initiating it's DONE, matters the reason why he's not feeling it.

If you choose to ignore that he's done and continue initiating basically chasing him then expect to always be on the ass end of the situation where you feel neglected and ignored so save yourself the trauma and just do away with it for now and if he comes back allow him the time and space to demonstrate he's still into it with you and he will pick up being the initiator again if he's interested.

Try not to blame your ex/divorce situation because if he truly was ready for love none of that would stop him. IMO he doesn't appear interested in anyone other than himself at the moment, not you, the employees. Shrugs, oh well, that's the breaks.

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Why lord why!! Why do we women torture ourselves.

Listen.

He went from being the initiator (the chaser) and now he's initiating is less and lesser. You are now the chaser (initiator) and he gives you one word replies. He also threw another woman up in your face. Then he disappears ONLY to tell you he does not have a lot of attention and there will be gaps in communication and this was the SAME guy who initially chased you . Right? So do we really have to tell you he's just not that interested?

Not only back off. Lose the phone number. You're new to this so I can understand why you wouldn't actually get that you're getting the blow off but it's not going to happen.

Once a man stop initiating it's DONE, matters the reason why he's not feeling it.

If you choose to ignore that he's done and continue initiating basically chasing him then expect to always be on the ass end of the situation where you feel neglected and ignored so save yourself the trauma and just do away with it for now and if he comes back allow him the time and space to demonstrate he's still into it with you and he will pick up being the initiator again if he's interested.

Try not to blame your ex/divorce situation because if he truly was ready for love none of that would stop him. IMO he doesn't appear interested in anyone other than himself at the moment, not you, the employees. Shrugs, oh well, that's the breaks.
As much as i would like to disagree- you have a valid point. If i based it on my gutt feeling, i can sense that the guy likes what we started but want to wait it out. But maybe it is just my wishful thinking😢

Don't taureans like being chased tho? I am really thinking of just dropping him a line and say hello to see if he will reply. I know i am stubborn! Lol
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I am a quiet bull and have 3 placements as he. So yeah there will be gaps in communication well because I am in my head alot, always thinking about life and struggles, problems. And don't need any stress so being divorced will take a toll on anyone.. it's why o wouldn't jump into anything. It would destroy me and I would do lots to keep my marriage from falling apart and had kids.

Be single and make sure what you need in the long run.
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I am a quiet bull and have 3 placements as he. So yeah there will be gaps in communication well because I am in my head alot, always thinking about life and struggles, problems. And don't need any stress so being divorced will take a toll on anyone.. it's why o wouldn't jump into anything. It would destroy me and I would do lots to keep my marriage from falling apart and had kids.

Be single and

That's why i think i am a bit lost- when i speak/text him i can always feel his sincerity- and i am very intuitive and my gutt feelings always comes thru. He is not the time that sugar coats his points of view. He's always been not the texty/call kind of guy- so ther's always been a gap in communication to begin with but not for this long. but when we connect he is 100% with me. He is a single dad- been single for 8 years now, and he has a very successful and demanding biz- so i truly beleive that his time is very precious coz he juggles so much- and i admire that about him. I don't want to be a person that will add baggage and requires too much from him coz quite honestly, i have a lot to figure out and deal too. And i am the kind that will patiently wait for someone worthy of getting to know to-and i know and feel that he is definitely worth every effort. The last time i reached out to him when he disappeared, it took him 3-4 days to reply. I asked him specifically if he wants me to stop reaching out- he did not say no- so i took it as give him his needed space but keep the communication going here and there. I think if he wanted me to stop, he would have said yes- coz like i said, he does not beat around the bush when speaking his mind.
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@Busyeyes 88- That's just my five signs natal chart. I have much detached placements or planet. I give everyone a chance. We bulls know how it feels to be stunned over and over. So I take a few steps and try it out. I can also like someone easily possibly so I like the beginning processes.. it's not good if people keep testing me though. I am quite intuitive than most.
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@Busyeyes88- Yes mars in Taurus, cAncer rising, Aquarius moon. So that maybe why I correlated with op bull. But we're all different though.
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I see! You have a very aloof moon. My Sag sister has this moon and she and I do not gel on most things at all!! Lol lol For a Leo moon person your moon feels almost emotionless. Thank God my taurus has a straightforward moon in fire of sag.. Fire at least is heat.. You can feel it.. My taurus has the same rising as you. I share the same Mars as you.

That's a cool moon you have. The OP may find her taurus man's moon to be too aloof. Aquarius like a lot of space.. That moon likes space and is quite detached

What does that mean if he has an aloof moon? I don't even know how to tap into those signs? I know my placements and some of his but i don't have a clue what it means³ This is my sign:
Sun Scorpio
Moon Leo
Mercury Scorpio
Venus Scorpio
Mars Scorpio
Jupiter Leo

Taurus guy sign:
Sun - taurus
Moon- aquarius
Mercury- taurus
Venus- aries
Mars- aries

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@OP- I did give you the exact three same placements as yours OP. It's the same thing before. Nothing changed. But I did add my to those three placements when i was talking to busy. So look at it and see if it correlates.
Ok. Thanks! I just sent him a casual hi hope your sat is going well text.. If he does not reply at all- then i will stop trying. It will be a clear message then that he's got other better things to do. Lol nervous as hell tho±
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@OP-So you HAVE not talk to him since this post right? And see how he is doing, what he has been up to casually talk, no emotions right now.
Right i have not talked/text since this post. I just sent him a text saying hope his saturday is going well but no reply😢 so i guess his last messages was his nice way of saying "stop reaching out"😢
I did say that but you refuse to listen.. TIkki said the same but yet you refuse to listen... What's the point in coming on here to gain advice yet refuse to adhere to it.. Afterall, we are bulls... We should know!!! Smh!!!
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I know..being the scorpio that i am i tend to always learn the hard way© But ones i get it in my head- i never look back so i appreciate all of your input! And yes, i get the message. 🙂
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