This Taurus guy is confusing me but i am magnetized by him!! Some clarity pls! (Page 2)

@OP- Still keep it casual. If a guy is interested he'll tell you. So right now. Say you do too. And leave it that way. But remember right you are still friends.

We need friends when we hit rock bottom..

Posted by ScorpioNluv
Ok update: Mr Taurus sent me a text -(1) he said "his day has been hectic". (2) he said "i appreciate u" ³

You are a Scorpio and you can take some pain and neglect for sure LOL, I like Scorp's so don't take my statement the wrong way.

All I can sense from this is you'll stick it out no matter how short he's being with you which actually does not help your situation because you sticking around teaches him he can be short with you, he can have long gaps of no communication with you, he can be stingy and you'll stick around so it really does not give him any incentive to give more of himself when he's being reassured by your chasing.

I been there (before marriage) and I know from experience that a man that is barely there can make a woman feel like an unattractive not good enough loser at love which is NOT what you need to feel, not now, not ever.

If you can realistically handle his behavior without too many expectations. If you can handle the feeling of rejection like an adult and not lose your cool. If you can handle being attracted to a man that is barely there for you then maybe but this is the hardest way to love but some women can't feel love without a struggle, maybe you're that type of woman.

Posted by TauroMale
May i ask you something? what do you feel when are around him? like whats makes you magnetized?

I can feel his sincerity and honesty which makes up a whole lot in my book. I value honesty over anything and he gives me just that..at least until he just suddenly disaapeared for 4 days 😢

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Posted by ScorpioNluv
Ok update: Mr Taurus sent me a text -(1) he said "his day has been hectic". (2) he said "i appreciate u" ³

You are a Scorpio and you can take some pain and neglect for sure LOL, I like Scorp's so don't take my statement the wrong way.

All I can sense from this is you'll stick it out no matter how short he's being with you which actually does not help your situation because you sticking around teaches him he can be short with you, he can have long gaps of no communication with you, he can be stingy and you'll stick around so it really does not give him any incentive to give more of himself when he's being reassured by your chasing.

I been there (before marriage) and I know from experience that a man that is barely there can make a woman feel like an unattractive not good enough loser at love which is NOT what you need to feel, not now, not ever.

If you can realistically handle his behavior without too many expectations. If you can handle the feeling of rejection like an adult and not lose your cool. If you can handle being attracted to a man that is barely there for you then maybe but this is the hardest way to love but some women can't feel love without a struggle, maybe you're that type of woman.

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Well i see why you are saying this completely- but to me, i feel that when we connected there is that sincerity to it. So whether it maybe just a friendship or something more, it has definitely piqued my interests.. Having said all of these, i no longer have expectations- i will happily go with the flow- if he will reach out to me, i will happily be there for him- if not then there's no love lost!

Posted by FirstDecanTaurianWomen0428
@OP- Still keep it casual. If a guy is interested he'll tell you. So right now. Say you do too. And leave it that way. But remember right you are still friends.

Exactly. I will always be a friend to him as long as he wants to be my friend. Like i said to tikki, i will not expect anything anymore. I just replied and said "same here". I think it is good to give all the space that he wants/needs.

@OP-Alright good luck

Posted by TauroMale
May i ask you something? what do you feel when are around him? like whats makes you magnetized?

butting in here but i had that magnetised feeling too. i still do to some degree.

the simple answer is it is indescribable. there is something inexplicable, unexplainable about the pull to be with this person. rationally it was ridiculous and stupid and foolish but physically i would get the shakes, an upset stomach, my hands would sweat and yet all i wanted to do was to be near him. when i was near him, all i wanted to do was run away. i would get the feeling that time stood still and my entire focus would be on him and yet i was on high alert, if anyone came near i would be ready to defend our bubble like they were some kind of threat to us.

all you want to do is to reach out to touch them but sometime insides you stops you. when you do it is the most natural and comfortable thing in the world but there is the shell that will not let you give in entirely. it's a crazy kind of push and pull.

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Posted by TauroMale
May i ask you something? what do you feel when are around him? like whats makes you magnetized?

butting in here but i had that magnetised feeling too. i still do to some degree.

the simple answer is it is indescribable. there is something inexplicable, unexplainable about the pull to be with this person. rationally it was ridiculous and stupid and foolish but physically i would get the shakes, an upset stomach, my hands would sweat and yet all i wanted to do was to be near him. when i was near him, all i wanted to do was run away. i would get the feeling that time stood still and my entire focus would be on him and yet i was on high alert, if anyone came near i would be ready to defend our bubble like they were some kind of threat to us.

all you want to do is to reach out to touch them but sometime insides you stops you. when you do it is the most natural and comfortable thing in the world but there is the shell that will not let you give in entirely. it's a crazy kind of push and pull.

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I completely understand this, I know exactly how this feels!!!

This site will give you some insight on Taurus men.

http://theastro-coach.com/catch-can-taurus-like-chase-chased/

Just get out there and date. Enjoy meeting men. Enjoy different types of men. Don't sleep with them, but talk to them, date them, have some conversations. Don't put all your focus on one. When you're talking to several men, you won't even notice when one stops initiating.

There's nothing wrong with talking and flirting with several, as long as you're not sleeping with all of them. But, if you need to go out and "get some strange" after your divorce, go do it. Have some fun.

The only way you can figure out who's right for you is to have some variety to choose from.

So what if this one doesn't work out? So what. There will be several that don't work out. It's not you. It's not them. It's just not the right one. If this one doesn't work out, you didn't do anything wrong, it just wasn't "right".

When you find the one that does work out, you won't have to question or feel confused or feel ignored or feel like you have to chase. It will work out when it's the right one.

Mark my words. Been where you are. You'll see. You'll be able to look back one day and laugh at how this one left you so confused. I promise!!!

Posted by Chasbelle
Taurus/Scorpio is indescribable but bizarre and can get so emotionally crazy! Intense and passionate nonetheless-Brokenhearted Taurus who knows unfortunately!

I agree! Emotionally charged and the intensity is beyond comprehension! It sucks that what could be a beautiful thing tends to become sour and sometimes toxic before it gets to the sweet part.

Posted by truecap
Just get out there and date. Enjoy meeting men. Enjoy different types of men. Don't sleep with them, but talk to them, date them, have some conversations. Don't put all your focus on one. When you're talking to several men, you won't even notice when one stops initiating.

There's nothing wrong with talking and flirting with several, as long as you're not sleeping with all of them. But, if you need to go out and "get some strange" after your divorce, go do it. Have some fun.

The only way you can figure out who's right for you is to have some variety to choose from.

So what if this one doesn't work out? So what. There will be several that don't work out. It's not you. It's not them. It's just not the right one. If this one doesn't work out, you didn't do anything wrong, it just wasn't "right".

When you find the one that does work out, you won't have to question or feel confused or feel ignored or feel like you have to chase. It will work out when it's the right one.

Mark my words. Been where you are. You'll see. You'll be able to look back one day and laugh at how this one left you so confused. I promise!!!

Thank you! I am starting to enjoy my single life again. It feels liberating actually! So i think it is best to take my time and just embrace my new chapter.

Posted by TaurusBull1977
This site will give you some insight on Taurus men.

http://theastro-coach.com/catch-can-taurus-like-chase-chased/

Thank you!