To the Taureans winning the slow battle

Hey everyone. I want some insight from my Taurean brethren.

A lot of people complain about our pace, being to 'slow' for them etc... Since we know it works a bit differently to how people recorded, I want to ask the following.

Have you ever been in a situation where a person you are interested in seems to be exhibiting this slowness? How would you handle this?

Ok, now I know I am very impatient and in love it is even worse. I have backed of from a love interest recently as it is just killing me, and within a week she reels me in again and then backs down to a dead steady pace again... I know that she is the one for me, but the game is taking me down, almost a year since we met and I still can't get her to be with me. She checks up on me, she calls me randomly and then it just stops. WTF 😢

The Libra I'm interested in. We both try in a way that is only understood by both of us. 😆 Probably because neither of us want to make the first move yet if my intuition is correct, we both want to surrender to each other.

Oma - isnt she a Scorpio? How do you know she is not just making sure *you* are still interested? maybe that is her goal. she wants to be wanted. Just be direct and ask her where she'd like things to go, how exactly she is interested in you, etc. Get some closure on it. Maybe she just likes u as a friend or isnt wanting a committed relationship. and also - you talk about her calling/texting you. are you doing the same? It seems to me that once a Scorpio feels they have reeled you in, they'd like for you to initiate more often than not.

The thing is I mostly initiate. THe minute that I stop, she starts again.

This week Tuesday I called her, and we ended up talking 2 hours... Then I sent her a SMS 2 days later and a few hours later she calls me. The evening she drives by my offices, (I told her that we had an event, and no, she said she would never be caught at our events so I did hint at getting her to go with me), probably 2 or 3 times (And yes I know she drove past there 2 or 3 times as I know her car and reg number.)

What the hell... -_-

Well, I have told her numerous time and in numerous ways that;

I miss her often, I think of her often, I care a lot about her, I wish that she is around, that I can hold her, that I really want her around.

Yet when this happens she disappears. I usually let her go, but I keep consistency no matter what. Then out of no where she is this sparkling beautiful woman that I have gotten to know and fallen for so damn hard, and the minute I acknowledge her, she backs down again...

This week was great again, but now I am confused again... lol

From my experience with my ex Scorpio, he pursed me, and I always told him what I wanted, u have to make it known what u want so u don't end up wasting time, but i find it more like a love hate relationship with Scorpios, it can work if the Scorpio is willing to compromise, but if not, ur wasting ur time, if u wanna know what's going on, ask her what does she want from u, Scorpios hate and I mean hate weak individuals, u know what u want so go get it, of she can deliver, then that's her lost, but if she feels like ur not going anywhere, then she has nothing to fight for

@OmagaIII she seems like a gemini to me....with a venus in aries mayb? Once we know we have you in the palm of our hands....its easy for us to lose intrest :/

OR shes busy with other stuff like family matters or work....whats her sign?

Here are our charts 😉

https://www.dxpnet.com/opinion/chart-interpretation/what-do-you-think-about-our-charts-4355192/
Your close with the combo though...

@OmagaIII opps 😛 i was off but close 😛

I guess her being a scorpio makes her cautious and tentative while you have venus in aries want her ASAP now that you made up ur mind that shes "the one". I think you should slow down a little for her....ask her out on a simple coffee date maybe? She has her walls up (i think) so tryin break them them down first then hit on her? 🙂 good luck

Ok, I have been thinking down the same lines. Thanks for the insight 🙂

Consistency.

Only the last two weeks I started backing off a bit to give her space. Other than that she will hear from me at least once a week. I call her at least once a week and we chat for 2 hours or so. More often than not I call her twice a week, having 2 days or so between calls. And this I have kept since April.

I send her texts as well from time to time. She doesn't easily respond to texts though. She feels that if you have something to say, call me and say it. So usually I just call her.

Hmmm, understood. It is just weird how you can move between extreme states of contacting one another spending time together and than suddenly nothing... I haven't seen her in a month... While about 2 months ago I saw her at least every second day every week. Now I understand that one needs space otherwise you have nothing to look out for, but really?

It is just weird. I am not use to this... at all. Very new to me. This week again we talked on the phone 4 times, texts and even FB messages. A good deal of like 4 hours of talking again. We haven't had this type of conv in the last 3 months. So ya... lol 😉

Understood. She doesn't initiate so much when she retreats. But like you mentioned, she the dives in again afterwards. Nope, not directly. She does talk to a lot of our friends but they won't open up since she trusts them and they know it.

She is close to me when we are together and we do talk or message she ventures into a lot of personal stuff. She opens up and tells me stuff that she honestly admits she doesn't even tell her parents and she sees them every second weekend.

I think that we are both also insecure and very self critical. We both have self esteem issues and the last a-hole she dated a year ago didn't help much with her self esteem. I am passive aggressive, and she appears the same. Seems like we are both really unsure :/

I need to get my self sorted out...

Posted by IrresistableScorp
Well my darling if the shoe was on the other foot and you were plodding along in fine bull fashion you would probably expect her to understand your pace. Why not offer her the same courtesy?

This withdrawl/retreat with scorps seems to be fairly common, IS. I feel like I've experienced it as well. And then when I just shut down and go into ignore mode. Within a couple weeks, she is *right* back in my territory (often closer than ever), waving her curvy little stinger again, clearly trying to get that attention back. Can you maybe give some insight into this kind of behavior? Is this something you would do? Is it a sign of confusion, mixed feelings, distrust, fear of vulnerability, a test, etc.? I realize the same behavior can have multiple causes....

IS - hahahahhahah...my Sag walked around the corner and caught me with a huge grin from your compliment. Good thing she doesn't have the x-ray vision to see my heart swelling up in my chest...hahhahaah! I think u r amazing BTW. I don't know if you're right but I always love your answers. I get what you're saying about the time-wasting factor. the only loophole I see in that line of reasoning is: what if she is just physically attracted to me and gets off on flexing her feminine powers in front of me. Bored at work, etc. You think a scorp is above that? Is it always about an emotional connection?

TLS,

lol. Why do you still wanting her when you have already found one. lol. This is BS to us.

Nah.... you'd better leave her or else she will come to you just to play with your game...


My Taurus guy has insecurity issue.. he brag himself why his ex lady can't move on with him.

I replied back... really? so when your ex you confessed now is coming to this unit... I will give you

to her. lol. He then said.. ''no''. hahaha. It didn't bother me though if she comes or she will see

the Scorpio raging fire. lmao.

Well I can kind of relate...used to be with a Pisces/Aries cusp, venus in Aries, mine in Taurus. He pulled this often and I would back off. He'd start communicating then we'd start up again. After a while it got old and I was getting very frustrated with the back and forth. Seemed when I would go on about my biz, sure enough there he was...popping up again. And yes, he would do drive-bys too...Not sure if was a mood swing or a mind game but I couldn't handle the ups and downs. It really tried my patience and I would come to the pisces forum often - ppl saying be patient, stay consistent, don't jump to conclusions. Call me old fashioned, but I would think if someone really wanted to be with me, we'd be on the same page and I wouldn't be feeling so frustrated...if I'm not getting consistent reciprocity in a r/s then something must be off. Also, he wasn't very good w/expressing his feelings which made it that much harder because I verbalize my feelings -- half the time he didn't even know what he was feeling.

I'm sure you don't want to rush her or give up on her and while yes we are very patient beings, I guess it would be your call on how long you're willing to deal with that. While it doesn't seem fair to give up on something that looks so promising, I just don't feel it's fair for us to deal with the hot/cold either.

Well I can kind of relate...used to be with a Pisces/Aries cusp, venus in Aries, mine in Taurus. He pulled this often and I would back off. He'd start communicating then we'd start up again. After a while it got old and I was getting very frustrated with the back and forth. Seemed when I would go on about my biz, sure enough there he was...popping up again. And yes, he would do drive-bys too...Not sure if was a mood swing or a mind game but I couldn't handle the ups and downs. It really tried my patience and I would come to the pisces forum often - ppl saying be patient, stay consistent, don't jump to conclusions. Call me old fashioned, but I would think if someone really wanted to be with me, we'd be on the same page and I wouldn't be feeling so frustrated...if I'm not getting consistent reciprocity in a r/s then something must be off. Also, he wasn't very good w/expressing his feelings which made it that much harder because I verbalize my feelings -- half the time he didn't even know what he was feeling.

I'm sure you don't want to rush her or give up on her and while yes we are very patient beings, I guess it would be your call on how long you're willing to deal with that. While it doesn't seem fair to give up on something that looks so promising, I just don't feel it's fair for us to deal with the hot/cold either.

IS - ok, maybe it is silly to suppose that this would still be going on over superficial attraction. I think you're probably right there. Hhahaha...On the stare, I've seen the observation stare alot. Sometimes her brow is low, like she is really focused, and I think I've confused it with her being angry in the past (though I *have* seen a murderous look from her before). The seductive look has a real distinct evil/sexy thing about it though. The head angles downward, she gives a one-sided smile/smirk, the hips and legs swing like she's on a runway, etc. That is more rare but I just got one of those on Thursday. I bounced my eyes off of it so as not to die from a heart explosion. We're back into ignoring one another. I'm going to really challenge myself and see how long I can go. This is so stupid. I feel bad for both of us to be engaged in such childish nonsense.

M143 - I hear ya. This is just my first real obsession over a person. I'm coddling it a bit. hahaha.

@OmagaIII - keep us updated ^-^

Hahahahaha, well.

I have been following some advice from some pretty amazing people on here. For those PM'ing me, thanks for the help so far, and I will also help further where I can. Seems that the silent lurkers on here are far wiser than the loud mouths.

All I can say atm, things are changing, and it is changing for the better. She is all smiles and we are chatting up storms again. I am also making my advancements way clearer and she seems to like that, a lot. hehehe Even saying that she thinks it is time to get a boyfriend again. 😄

So, yes, the rest is bound to happen the rest of the week... What the rest is... well, the silent DXP'ers really helping me, they know. The rest will have to wait. Maybe good, or maybe bad... Or maybe great... (",)

Omagalll,

Wow. Congratulations for a roller coaster ride in the future. I hope she is more evolve so that less

drama for you both. lol.

Posted by MilkySoft

Posted by OmagaIII
Hahahahaha, well.

I have been following some advice from some pretty amazing people on here. For those PM'ing me, thanks for the help so far, and I will also help further where I can. Seems that the silent lurkers on here are far wiser than the loud mouths.

All I can say atm, things are changing, and it is changing for the better. She is all smiles and we are chatting up storms again. I am also making my advancements way clearer and she seems to like that, a lot. hehehe Even saying that she thinks it is time to get a boyfriend again. 😄

So, yes, the rest is bound to happen the rest of the week... What the rest is... well, the silent DXP'ers really helping me, they know. The rest will have to wait. Maybe good, or maybe bad... Or maybe great... (",)

Now be a good bull and romance the crap out of her. Show her there isn't a man out there who will more for her than you. But don't get whipped now...

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+1000000 good luck 🙂

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and when she disappear again. Always remember she is a Scorpio. Lol. Scorpio likes challenge

we hate things to come up too easily... Once the challenge is gone...There we get bored.

and hey stop chasing her...it will works for us. We don't like a man who come to us too strong.

It's like wtf!! Just be a strong man and always put in your mind.. Scorpio are hard to please, so

if you are not doing your best shot It will frustrates you later and she will just brush off her

shoulder. and Scorpio likes a bit naughty man but not obvious..

Posted by M143

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and when she disappear again. Always remember she is a Scorpio. Lol. Scorpio likes challenge

we hate things to come up too easily... Once the challenge is gone...There we get bored.

and hey stop chasing her...it will works for us. We don't like a man who come to us too strong.

It's like wtf!! Just be a strong man and always put in your mind.. Scorpio are hard to please, so

if you are not doing your best shot It will frustrates you later and she will just brush off her

shoulder. and Scorpio likes a bit naughty man but not obvious..

Whhaaaatttt.... You telling me I should play catch and release— 😕 hahaha

Omagalll,

You are just halfway for such battle.... I promise you that. You didn't win yet. lol

NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO dont play games when she is ACTUALLY reciprocating your feelings 🙂 keep it consistent ^-^ good luck

Noooooo neva!!! I am just replying to comments on here hehehe

Well, after random calls and texts and everything the whole week, everything seems set for me to see her tomorrow 🙂

I really really like this so far. She has opened up on a whole new level with me already. This is a beautiful secret side to her that makes me go nuts. No playing games, not when she is so so sincere. I'd rather end up dead, just kiding hey, than mess around or take advantage. I have never been like that, and as sure as hell ain't gonna change into that now.

Ok so, an update.

This past 2 weeks have been amazing and this week the best so far. I have been sending her texts a bit more often and being more direct in what I want to say to her or think of. She has been responding very well to it as well. Like on Tuesday when I called her we talked for an hour or two and we shared some deep conversations. She also let me know that she will be doing training on friday for new programs that they are using at the office. She also mentioned that she was here over the weekend.

On friday morning I sent her a text just to say good luck with the training and I hope she has an amazing time and that I will talk to her soon. About an hour later she called me, so sweet and sincere and happy as ever, jut to tell me that her training was canceled. hehehe, she just keep talking even though we both new we had to hang up at work hahaha I asked her again if she was going to bee here over the weekend and she said that she was thinking of going home but that it was hectic. So I told her that I want to get together but if she needs to go to family then family first. She immediately said no, she would rather stay then and arrange with her parents to come visit her in the week. Just before she hung up, because of another call on the work phone, she said that she will talk to me later.

Anyway, friday evening I called her, and she picked up, but sounded a bit off. When I asked she seemed a bit distracted and I could here other people in the background. So I said I call later and she said that would be perfect, she'll call me. Later she did and I offered to call her back, to which she said please, if I can since her account was high already hahaha. I said sure since I don't pay for calls on the cell contract I have in anycase hehehe

So I called her and we spoke again for an hour. Yesterday evening we got together with friends and she seemed a bit distant, but I could see that we where clicking again as she was looking at me often and straight in the eyes. But still, just out of reach. So this initially confused me till we needed to leave, and she was stalling as much as possible.

Eventually we left and I was so happy that I saw her but a bit confused about her subtle hints to me, but distance away. Anyway, this morning I woke up and just decided we are going out for coffee or whatever, over and done with 😛 I called her up, and initially she didn't answer and I though dang I'm gonna miss this one when she suddenly picked up.

I asked her straight up that I was thinking of her and wanted to know if she would join me for coffee. She said that she had other plans but that if I gave her 15min she'll be there.

I went to the venue, a nice upmarket restaurant & coffee shop and waited a bit when she arrived, beautiful as ever. We had iced coffee and cold drinks, but at such a leisurely pace it was just so amazing and relaxed. She was so beautiful and open and we just chatted about everything, with me moving closer for some PDA during the conversation and what not. Then she saw a couple across from us and started laughing, looked at me and said, 'The must either be together a long time or have just met' She had the most vibrant smile on her face and then suddenly stopped and said no, looking a bit confused.

I asked her about it and she started saying that she had always wanted something in specific. That if you took away all of a guys money, belongings, cars, friends etc, that what is left, that is what she wants. (She mentioned this before one day many months ago while we where talking about her ex who ripped her to shreds.) And that a guy needs to have a proper job, not a student job (Also referring back to the previous guy who has been studying for 7 years without completing a single course still working a student job while living a flashy life, presumably with the help of his parent.) Then she said, but it seems that she is conflicted, that despite this she keeps falling in this trap with guys that can't be that, or can't be there for her. And she asked me how to deal with this. She also told me that she was a bit stressed out after the previous evening with our friends. When I asked her why, she smiled, blushed a bit and gave me a coy look saying that she had little things happening that was just stressing her out a bit.

I was confused at first, but then I told her what I think, and she agreed and then got silent, she looked at me and told me I don't understand entirely and it is so difficult to talk about how she feels and then she started changing the subject. And I followed along. (I am not sure what that was because I am the exact opposite of that. I have my own 2 businesses, am a qualified engineer, project manager and HR developer with my own home and little old car just being me).

As we are conversing she suddenly tells me that when we are finished we should go do some shopping together. (Ok now I might be over thinking this, but this blew me out of the water, anyway...) We finished up and went shopping. We just kept talking and we where looking for cutex for her and did some grocery shopping in to the bookstore etc... When we walked back to her car, she kinda got silent. Loaded everything into the car and said we need to go back for something.

Anyway we did and we shopping for another 20 or so min, and eventually ended up at the car again and she seemed a bit sad that the time was over. She has never been so open or so beautiful to me. I gave her a hug, and told her that I will talk to her again in the week. I wanted to ask her to come over or go over to her place to help out there but she had a bucket load of other things to do still and I am leaving for a business trip this evening only being back on tuesday. She kept close to me, I could caress her and hold her with no objection while standing in the cues, at the table while strolling through the mall etc...

I got home and left it at that and about 2 hours after getting home just sent her a text telling her that it was great to be with her, laughing, chatting and even shopping, especially because she is such an amazing and beautiful woman.

As a matter of fact I think she actually tested me a bit with this. I was pretty much dressed up with jeans and a dark blue button shirt in black shoes, while she had jean shorts, a lose top and flops. Either way she looks so beautiful. And I think she though that would be a good time to see if I meant what I have been saying. hehehe

Any how, what do you guys think?

@OmagaIII: im glad my coffee idea worked hehe 😛 shes opening up thats a V.V good sign since scorps are secretive and like to keep to themselves ^-^ you should know that she will have her walls up (a little) since the guy(s) she has fallen for have "ripped her to shreds", soooo you are gonna have to work hard. My advice is keep it consistent and show her you care for her. Its also a good thing that you are independent and well-off, shes probably impressed by that hehe 🙂

Thanks. I'll do just that. 🙂

Omagalll,

I read your story. Her reactions is like Acting as a friend with you.... that means Business.

so keep it light and avoid too strong in pursuing. Scorpio tends to get freak out once the pursuer

coming too strong in revealing their emotions to us. I also don't know why Taurus seems like that

after seeing us for just a seconds or minutes ago they sent msg. lol. My partner when we were dating

every week ends do that... after he took me from home and left for just a minute he sent msg.

Now, we lived together and everytime he left from home due to his meetings he still doing the same

thing. Hahaha. and I dont reply. I just ignored it because we lived now the same place. lol

We, as a Scorpio we deal Relationship just as Business. We are serious people but we don't like

too dramatic feelings specially if it is just started.

Ok, well thanks I guess. I understand what you are saying.

But tell me, she doesn't send me texts back... She picks up the phone and calls me back when she has something to say now...

Relevant to what you are saying?

Omagalll,

If she doesn't sends you a text back then she needs time for herself... I told you. You don't win yet.

It's half way battle to win her heart.You know what does it mean? when she calls you back

when she has something to say... because she is a bit feeling of guilt of not reciprocating with you.

That Scorpio lady you are pursuing... needs time. Really. Keep it light and she will open up herself.

My Taurus man at this time took me 3 months to say ''Yes'' I move in with you soon...

We just hate to lose our independence. We are a loner type. We are used to that. So giving up

ourselves for the sake of the relationship is really really hard.

update? what happened?