USCTaurusGal
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Trust....
OHH!! You used one of my phrases, "You are insulting my intelligence; now you are are pissing me off!" I can't STAND that! Grrrrr.
"He seems like he havent got past all the hurt he had from his past to think hes already in his 40s. He thinks that all relationships are doomed to fail. "
Perception is reality. If he thinks that relationships are doomed to fail, then likely they will. Hey, I'm not judging him, because I feel pretty much the same way. I've seen few and far between really GOOD relationships. I'm not talking about fairytale crap - where nobody argues, disagrees, etc. I am realistic enough to know that nothing is w/out work and compromise (when it comes to relationships as a whole, with anyone). BUT, once you've had your heart broken time, and time again, for some of us, it's not easy to just jump up and go back out there to get it ripped out again. I appreciate those people who can get shot down time and time again; get up and dust themselves off and go back out and try it again. It's not my personality, and there are some things I am not willing to compromise on, just for the sake of saying/being in a relationship. I've seen a lot of people sacrifice and compromise in almost every aspect of their relationship just so they won't be by themselves. I don't operate that way, but I can understand (based on our society) why some people feel they have to be in a relationship or else they are a failure, etc. That's just what our society preaches on a daily basis. I will say that there was a line in a movie that fits how I feel about relationships, paraphrasing, "Everybody talks about falling in love...hell that's easy...won't somebody please tell me how to stay in love."
Perception is reality. If he thinks that relationships are doomed to fail, then likely they will. Hey, I'm not judging him, because I feel pretty much the same way. I've seen few and far between really GOOD relationships. I'm not talking about fairytale crap - where nobody argues, disagrees, etc. I am realistic enough to know that nothing is w/out work and compromise (when it comes to relationships as a whole, with anyone). BUT, once you've had your heart broken time, and time again, for some of us, it's not easy to just jump up and go back out there to get it ripped out again. I appreciate those people who can get shot down time and time again; get up and dust themselves off and go back out and try it again. It's not my personality, and there are some things I am not willing to compromise on, just for the sake of saying/being in a relationship. I've seen a lot of people sacrifice and compromise in almost every aspect of their relationship just so they won't be by themselves. I don't operate that way, but I can understand (based on our society) why some people feel they have to be in a relationship or else they are a failure, etc. That's just what our society preaches on a daily basis. I will say that there was a line in a movie that fits how I feel about relationships, paraphrasing, "Everybody talks about falling in love...hell that's easy...won't somebody please tell me how to stay in love."
"I wish we can all just sit on our ego "
Ah ha, now there is the rub! I'll await the other Taurus folks to chime in, but I will say for *ME* I do have a lot of ego, and it is very hard for me to sit on it. I will own up to that, it is what it is. The problem, and I think Bella touched on it above, is that it (typically) takes us a while to fall in love, but once we do, we dig in and are in for the long haul; however, I've learned w/age, that that isn't always the best thing to do, because some unscrupulous folks can and DO take advantage of that kindness and misconstrue it as weakness. We do NOT like to be made fools of, and we do take things very personally. I think part of it is that since we do have such ego's we feel that the person who is with us should KNOW how fortunate they are to have our love, and when they don't appreciate it...we are thunderstruck...but, that's how I feel, I can't speak for all (except, I do know most of us have huge egos 😉).
"If taureans find it hard to compromise about something, does it mean even if you love the person taureans can't compromise if that equates sacrifice of your own belief or what you know is right?"
Well, that just may be my own weakness. I won't say a vast majority of Taurus folks are uncompromising, but I know that as I've gotten older, the LESS compromising I've become. Back in my high school and college days, I was very accomodating and would compromise a lot, now I pick and chose my battles, but I don't just roll over on things either.
People are people and have had different experiences - no one can tell anyone else when to "call it quits" and say "enough is enough." Each person has to find that out on their own. I can say this though, that I respect people highly, because I expect the same treatment.
Ah ha, now there is the rub! I'll await the other Taurus folks to chime in, but I will say for *ME* I do have a lot of ego, and it is very hard for me to sit on it. I will own up to that, it is what it is. The problem, and I think Bella touched on it above, is that it (typically) takes us a while to fall in love, but once we do, we dig in and are in for the long haul; however, I've learned w/age, that that isn't always the best thing to do, because some unscrupulous folks can and DO take advantage of that kindness and misconstrue it as weakness. We do NOT like to be made fools of, and we do take things very personally. I think part of it is that since we do have such ego's we feel that the person who is with us should KNOW how fortunate they are to have our love, and when they don't appreciate it...we are thunderstruck...but, that's how I feel, I can't speak for all (except, I do know most of us have huge egos 😉).
"If taureans find it hard to compromise about something, does it mean even if you love the person taureans can't compromise if that equates sacrifice of your own belief or what you know is right?"
Well, that just may be my own weakness. I won't say a vast majority of Taurus folks are uncompromising, but I know that as I've gotten older, the LESS compromising I've become. Back in my high school and college days, I was very accomodating and would compromise a lot, now I pick and chose my battles, but I don't just roll over on things either.
People are people and have had different experiences - no one can tell anyone else when to "call it quits" and say "enough is enough." Each person has to find that out on their own. I can say this though, that I respect people highly, because I expect the same treatment.
try to see it from his point of view tiffany. if u think about it from a logical point of view, it really isn't natural for humans to be with one person for the rest of their lives. sure! some make it work but all depends on the conscious mindset of the persons involved. we can still make a relationship last if we choose to but it's not necessarily a natural thing. i personally don't think there is a such thing as "one true love". from my experience we encounter many great loves throughout our lifetime. now don't get me wrong, i have endured an experience with a man that connected with me on the deepest levels in every way. being with him was sheer ecstasy and i have to admit that he was at the top of my greatest loves. just because he was #1 does not mean it would last forever. in fact, it didn't. cuz nothing ever does.
now i get that he might have major trust issues to work through but he is making valid points through his observations. i've gotten to a point in my life where i don't put too much pressure on relationships because of the concept of impermanence. i try to only enjoy the moments i am lucky enough to spend with each person in my life. i've fallen hopelessly in love before and have had to let them go. it's ok. i don't regret a thing.
btw, i encounter a LOT of taureans and have befriended many. i do have to add that none of them easily give their trust away. i'd have to say my libra ex was by far the worst when it came to trust. he was hardcore about it. if u even told a little white lie and he found out u were pretty much erased from his life. he may not cut u off completely but u may as well leave. he won't ever trust u again and will always be suspicious.
now i get that he might have major trust issues to work through but he is making valid points through his observations. i've gotten to a point in my life where i don't put too much pressure on relationships because of the concept of impermanence. i try to only enjoy the moments i am lucky enough to spend with each person in my life. i've fallen hopelessly in love before and have had to let them go. it's ok. i don't regret a thing.
btw, i encounter a LOT of taureans and have befriended many. i do have to add that none of them easily give their trust away. i'd have to say my libra ex was by far the worst when it came to trust. he was hardcore about it. if u even told a little white lie and he found out u were pretty much erased from his life. he may not cut u off completely but u may as well leave. he won't ever trust u again and will always be suspicious.
"we give it all,we don't keep part of it locked up.if our person betrays us in some way,in a way,it's like a death.that person has killed the bond,or spiritual tie we shared.it's honestly like killing us.or at least showing us you don't care whether we live or die.because we loved you enough to share ourselves together in this beautiful thing,and it didn't mean so much to you.
so,this guy you speak of probably does "believe" in love.he knows of it's existence all to well, but he is not ready to maybe be killed again."
You know what Bella - you just so nailed it for me! That is SO how I feel/felt in love, or should I say moreso after the "love was gone."
When someone betrays me it IS like a death; whether it be a dating relationship or a friendship.
so,this guy you speak of probably does "believe" in love.he knows of it's existence all to well, but he is not ready to maybe be killed again."
You know what Bella - you just so nailed it for me! That is SO how I feel/felt in love, or should I say moreso after the "love was gone."
When someone betrays me it IS like a death; whether it be a dating relationship or a friendship.
I don't think all women are like that. I know many women who could (seemingly) carel ess about trust being broken, as long as they have a warm body in the bed. That person could essentially do anything to them - lie to them and basically just treat them poorly; and they will overlook a lot of it, just so they can say "I gotta' man."
That's just not the way I operate. It may work for some, but it doesn't work for me.
That's just not the way I operate. It may work for some, but it doesn't work for me.
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