Venus in Taurus Slooooww....

Sesh!! This man is sloooow. It's clear we have a likeing to each other. lol. But he's just very cautious I guess. Anyone else experience this?

Lol @ Leomoon!

Champranger - Yea, I've not rushed him at all. I figured that would just make him run. Besides, I don't want him to do anything he does not want to do.

Lust - I really don't think it's a matter of other women. He was in a relationship when he and I were just friends. They broke up in early March and since then we have been getting closer. He is not slow in terms of contact. He calls me everyday. We talk several times throughout the day. When we lived close we saw each other almost everyday. Now maybe 3 times a week. He definitely makes an effort in terms of contact and spending time. He is affectionate towards me when we see each other. I am referring to entering a committed relationship.

That's truth. Slow but will take precautions in the beginning...after awhile I'll open up if you're the best one..

Natch! You're back!

Posted by derpette
It depends on his other placements, but it's generally about stability. Personally speaking (having Tau Venus), I guage how stable or secure the relationship (and my partner) is, and what it can provide in the LT. Despite feeling strongly for someone, I need to have that level of certainty.

It's not really a "slow process" per s?, it can happen quickly with the right person. Like Huldra mentioned, it's whether LT investment is worth it.

Hmmmmm... This makes a lot of sense. Especially because HE'S not very stable right now. Lol. In fact, I'm more stable than him. He recently completed his master's and has had a hard time finding a job and is stressed about that and money. I think that's playing a role in this.

Busyeyes & Lust - I suppose my issue is that we haven't had "the talk" yet. Lol. We haven't talked about being in a relationship. I say issue not because it's seriously bothering me, but issue as in the reason for this post. Lol.

Hi Pathfinder!!! How are you?!?!!

Posted by Lust
Okay, the way you describe his action sounds like he is investing his time on you. So what more do you want him to do? Unless, you are a type of person who likes declaration or label or adoration through words in relationship. Or maybe you are wondering if you were his rebound or he is literally in love with you. Well, taurus is not big in communication. If he spends his money on you too & showers you with gift, for sure he is hooked. In future, he'd talk about marriage when he feels financially ready (yup, financial with cap F). Deep feeling or anything intangible doesn't make him move. And he expects his woman to be financially solid too, though he'd never mention it. He wants his woman to be equally good, if not better than him. Image is important for venus in taurus I think.

Im starting to see this.

Definitely know people who would drop you if you weren't equally helping out in the household. We the people have to be stable financially..

Yea I could see the financial stability part being important. Although I'm by no means exactly where I want to be as far as money because I'm a struggling phd student myself, I am more financially stable than he is at the moment. Financial issues are at the center of his current anxiety and stress.

Star lover and gem - yes I he definitely want I g to be 2900 percent sure. Lol. I'm going to be patient. He's a good guy.

Omg!! I typed that last response from my phone. I can't even understand what I wrote! Lol.

I meant to say...

Starlover and Gem - Yes, he definitely wants to be 2000 percent sure. Lol. I'm going to be patient. He's a good guy.

Saturn will be in Sag for quite some time. like 2017

Lawd!!! Say it ain't so. I wonder if that's going to mess with me. I have sag in Venus.

I have both Sun and Venus in Taurus, though I'm a woman. I think I do fall in love quite quickly with the right type of guy, but I know that's only the "first layer" there is. I think for me it takes reeeeally many dates to decide if the person I like is worth it for a serious relationship - I notice everything about them even though I don't say it, and then during and after every date I think can I take this or that part of this person's habits and personality, are we truly compatible, is he reliable? I go back and forth with these emotions for months until I finally make up my mind.

Busyeyes - I think that's what he's doing. Feeling things out. Allowing things to just organically fall into place. Which is not a bad idea. Lol. I just like things a little more... Formal I guess.. Lol. But it's fine.

Monty - that's quite the process. Lol.

I do the same thing as monty. She knows what's up.. good luck.

men with venus in taurus:

Johnny Depp
Che Gueverra
Salvador Dali
Jackie Chan
Prince William
Adolf Hitler
Paul McCartney
Karl Marx

oh warren beatty has a taurus venus. no wonder he has such a huge amount of women surrounding him (harem)

i read Carly Simon wrote "you're so vain" for Warren Beatty:

omg....SO astrology!! warren beatty has a 7th house Sun (libra energy) so VAIN 😆
7th house sun and mercury.

http://www.astrotheme.com/astrology/Warren_Beatty<BR>

I have VIT aNd I do have lot's of people around. That is involuntarily. Trust me. I just don't boast or be loud and ob noxious, I am quiet, and reserved and sit back..

I'm doing good, hon! Glad to see you again 🙂 Last I seen you, there was sexy cap in your life! Congrats on pursuing your PhD!

So is this guy a taurus or just his venus? Taurus sun men can be very slow as well. In my experience, they surprise you with their interest (or intensity of it), because it's not always obvious. I've found them to be reserved, so reserved in fact, that I would lose interest. Then, all the sudden, they would tell me how interested they were in me. But it would be too late. I guess I always needed someone to move faster and let me know what was going on. Like you, I like to know what's up or where I stand. I'm not a mind-reader!

He's not vain at all. Man extremely sharper dresser. He can dress his ads off! Lol. He's into the whole men's blog wear thing, but somewhat shy in person until you get to know him.

Path - I'm happy to hear all is well!

Thank you! Working on this degree has been no joke.

He's actually Aries sun and gem moon. He's all over the place. Lol.

Oops I mean moon Aquarius.. I think. Lol. I'm about to look again. Ha!

Posted by leomoondoucherat
that's my sun placement too. so vain!

lol His long term wife who finally made him settle down has a Libra moon and Libra Jupiter in the 7th house!!

you need a Libra. 😆 or strong dominant Libra.

Posted by natural25
He's not vain at all. Man extremely sharper dresser. He can dress his ads off! Lol. He's into the whole men's blog wear thing, but somewhat shy in person until you get to know him.

Path - I'm happy to hear all is well!

Thank you! Working on this degree has been no joke.

He's actually Aries sun and gem moon. He's all over the place. Lol.

glad to hear it, natural. 😄

you don't have to compete for vanity. 😆 just kidding.

anyway, he sounds really nice though. Good luck.

Sesh! All the typos in my previous response. That's what happens when I respond on my phone while doing a million other things. Lol.

At any rate...

Lisa - Lol. Yes, I don't have to compete for vanity rights. Lol. He's a sweetie.

Sooooo... Something very interesting happened. I was with "him" (lol) yesterday. At the start of the day he was acting a bit strange. A little quitter than usual. It seemed like he was not so much in a bad, but A mood. He started talking about how in the past he thought he was with the right person. He said that with his ex, he thought she was "the one" and she turned out not to be. He said that he feels confused about knowing when a mate is the right one. He is religious but not a fanatic. But he does believe in praying and that God provides guidance in his life. He said that people have told him that God had spoken to them or sent signs letting them know that their husband/wife was the one and he was confused by it all. He also started talking about him being confused because he thought God wanted him to stay in the city I live in now to work and it does not look like he is going to get the job here. Then, he went back to the relationship topic saying that he had been questioning how will he know that a woman is the right one.

At this point, I had absolutely no idea what to say. I just told him that I understand and that maybe the relationship not working out was God telling him that she wasn't the one. I told him that I think people come into our lives for reason; to teach us something about ourselves, others, life, etc. That dos not mean we are supposed to marry them. Lol. It simply means they entered our life to deliver a message and once that message or lesson was delivered or taught, sometimes that chapter is closed. As far as the job, I told him to continue to pray to find the position he will receive the most fulfillment and let the rest go. Allow things to fall as they may.

Then he started talking about some of the things he wants in a relationship and saying that he hopes God sends him x,y, and z. Naturally, I'm sitting there wondering what is the meaning of this conversation. Have I been friend zoned?!? Lol. Honestly, my feelings were a bit hurt by this convo. Some time went on... We took a drive, went to the mall, went and got yogurt, and went to the record store; all the while, the wheels were turning in my head and I was becoming increasingly more anxious and somewhat emotional (for lack of a better word).

Typically, when I am feeling this way, I do NOT talk. Lol. I first allow myself to calm down, re-evaluate the situation, and address it once I am feeling more in control of myself. Buuuut for some reason, I felt VERY compelled to say something.

While he was taking me back to my car, I told him that hearing him talk earlier made me feel a little weird and somewhat hurt my feelings. I told him that he had not done anything wrong, but the conversation made me realize how much I care for him and that maybe we were on two different pages. I told him that I did not think it was fair to him or myself to continue if things are one-sided, me having feelings for him and him not reciprocate those feelings. Eventually, that would catch up to us and result in a mess. I told him that I was not sharing this with him because I wanted him to do anything. We started out as friends, the lines became somewhat blurred, but my feelings are not his responsibility; they are my own. Further, this is not his fault and I was/am not mad or blaming him for anything. In fact, he did nothing wrong. I said that I was just sharing how I felt in the moment because it was weighing heavy on my heart and if I do decide to re-shape my position in his life, he knows why.

He said that he was confused and he did not know what I was talking about when I said things were one-sided. Then, he got flustered. It was strange. I could tell he was not frustrated with me, maybe, more so with himself. I dont know... Then he started saying that he is in a really weird place that he had never been in before and he felt confused and conflicted about almost everything. He said that he felt weighted down, depressed, and stressed about the job situation and very uncertain about his life in general. I think this goes back to his reluctance and fear about being wrong in the past. He said that he wants to talk to me about the things I brought up but he was not in the right head space to do so. I told him I completely understood and I did not necessarily need a response.

By that time, we were about five minutes away from my car. When we got to my car, he told me he wanted to pray with me. He took my hand and started to pray, which lasted about 10 minutes. I found myself getting a little emotional about other things going on in my life. I could tell he was tearing up because his voice began to crack at certain points. He said things like take the depression and uncertainty away and give us strength and direction as we move into the next chapters of our lives.

After we were done, I thanked him and got out the car. When I got into my car he came to my car to bring me food I left in his back seat. Now that I think about it, I left my jacket in his car also which was actually right by the food in his back seat. I wonder why he didnt give the jacket to me as well. Anywho, later, I sent him a text apologizing for bringing up my feelings about all that stuff when he has so much other stuff going on. I thanked him for the prayer and told him to have a good night. He responded by sending me a Bible scripture and that was it. That was at about 12am.

Lust - "Being faitfhful to him bacause he has been a good friend" Nope none of that is going down, I can assure you of that. Lol. I genuinely like the kid and have an amazing time with him. We have become very close. We are one another's support systems and confidantes. But one another note, I can definitely continue to smell yummy and be affectionate. Thats my middle name. Lol.

Busyeyes - Oh Lord! Aquarius men are so..... Surface. Hmmm... His Mars is in Cancer... So I assume he would court a woman very passively. But how does that work with his sun in Aries? Aries are very direct but Cancers aren't. I used to date a Cancer man and he worked my nerves because he was not very direct... Ugh.

Btw, he called and acted like nothing happened last night... Huh....

I just looked into Mars in Cancer... and YES they move sideways. Never forward. Basically the same pace as a Taurus. SLOW. Lol. I am on his moon now. Lol.

Champ ranger and Busyeys - his Mercury is in Aries. I'll look into how he communicates accordingly. Thanks so much!!

@Naptural,

My aries also has a mercury in aries and mars in cancer. He is not the talkative type especially when it comes to feelings. He'd rather just fall into something than talk into something. He is a very boisterous, bossy, aries man but he is so watery.

I dont mind. im not much of a talker either. i get nervous when i have to talk on the phone. The best times are when we can just sit next to each other and be. 2 cancer risings sitting in the corner not saying shit.

mars in cancer makes him quite the sidestepper and makes him even more slower.

I dont mind the pace tho, im a venus in capricorn. Last time i think we both rushed and there were alot of hurt feelings. now, things are slower but better. more genuine.

i will give you a lil tip that may get his blood going. Mention something about the past that he did and how it made you feel.

Hey DMV!! Lol @ naptural!! Yes, I get that from him. The bossiness and the boisterousness. Lol. But soooo watery. He is sensitive. At the end of the day, I can tell he is just scared. Bless his little watery heart. Lol. Hmmmm... Ok. Yea... We talked today and it's business as usual. I think if it were a situation that he knew I have romantic feelings for him and he does not reciprocate, I think he would have backed way off. In fact, I don't think he would allow us to carry on as we do. I remember he told me about a female friend of his who developed feelings for him during their friendship and he took several huge steps back to place distance between the two of them. Also, he did not have a relationship with her like he does with me.

This really helps to put things into perspective. I am sure his anxiety and uncertainty about his career and finances are not helping matters much either. I'll be a little gentler. Lol.

Btw, thanks for the tip!!!

Busyeys - most definitely! He's very opinionated. VERY!! Lol. He gets all riled up. Sometimes it's cute. Other times, it's annoying. But when it comes to feelings... Another story. He even told me a couple months ago he doesn't like to say goodbye. He said he has difficulty saying goodbye to ppl and dealing with the emotions it entails.

omg, i was on her blog and mixed up names. my bad, I apologize

i hate saying goodbye 2. I think thats a water sign thing.

Your Aries is much more religious than mine. Mine is more into Marley. lol

Lol!!!! DMV no worries!! I love naptural on YouTube. Lol.

Yes, he definitely loves himself some God. Lol. I like when a man believes in and is passionate about something greater than himself. Awww... You've made me feel all warm and fuzzy about him. BUT he and I are going to have to figure out a way to compromise on how we communicate our emotions.

This is all so interesting because my moon is in Libra, my Venus is in Sag, my Mars is in Virgo, and mercury in Libra...

I totally forgot you were also a virgo martian. So am I. His mars in cancer find our mars in virgo a tad on the chilly side. Were more calculating. Theyre into a warmer being. He also finds you to be more assertive than him. And you intimidate him.

Yea..... I don't want to intimidate him. I want him to feel masculine and empowered. Lol.