Virgo male date attempt for Taurus woman....it's complicated

Hi all,

I have met a Taurus woman and am interested in getting to know her better. Here's the rub:

I am in the process of wrapping up a divorce that will complete on Dec. 15th. I don't want to get involved with the Taurus until I am completely clear, but also don't want to lose the opportunity. Currently we talk to each other when I visit my client(once every 2 weeks) and there appears to be mutual interest on both sides. She is aware of my circumstances, but beyond the conversations I have not directly mentioned that I would like to take her out or get to know her better. I have the opportunity to see her at will because she works for a client of mines, but I don't want to overdo it. As far as I can tell she is currently not seeing anyone. I asked her what her activities are during the weekend and she made a point to mention that the only people she hangs out with are her girlfriends so that seemed like a hint at being available to me(she is currently divorced). Should I just speak to her periodically until Dec. 15th and then ask her out or should I try and move things forward by getting her number?

Posted by troy6886
Hi all,

I have met a Taurus woman and am interested in getting to know her better. Here's the rub:

I am in the process of wrapping up a divorce that will complete on Dec. 15th. I don't want to get involved with the Taurus until I am completely clear, but also don't want to lose the opportunity. Currently we talk to each other when I visit my client(once every 2 weeks) and there appears to be mutual interest on both sides. She is aware of my circumstances, but beyond the conversations I have not directly mentioned that I would like to take her out or get to know her better. I have the opportunity to see her at will because she works for a client of mines, but I don't want to overdo it. As far as I can tell she is currently not seeing anyone. I asked her what her activities are during the weekend and she made a point to mention that the only people she hangs out with are her girlfriends so that seemed like a hint at being available to me(she is currently divorced). Should I just speak to her periodically until Dec. 15th and then ask her out or should I try and move things forward by getting her number?

I would say yes on the notes of just speak to her periodically and just talk - JC - December is soon here and Taurus doesn't move that fast especially when they are "interested" and she seems "interested" so just keep up the talk and getting to know her - you could come up with all sorts of things to ask since she's already been divorced - like "how was it when you got divorced - I mean was it hard getting back out there - do you find it hard to be alone now? ... so many thing you two could share to get to know each other and then the dating question doesn't have to be rushed - it would happen naturally in the not to distant future ... and I do like your respect angle of making sure you wait until it's "officially" over. But sorry about that and good luck in the future.

Thank you. That was actually my preference to do the periodic conversation, but when you're the one in the middle of the process you tend to second guess yourself. Thanks again for the suggestions!

At this point I just see her as a potential love interest. I honestly don't know enough about her to make any commitment decisions, but I thought just dating would be safe post divorce with the idea that if it is serious then it could move from there. Do you think that dating in and of itself is a bad idea at this time? My main concern was drawing things out for too long and leading to her losing interest. I have asked her many questions related to her life over the past few months so I believe she knows that I'm interested and I've also told her that my life is on hold until the divorce is complete..I didn't specifically reference relationships, but mentioned that I didn't really want to move on with my life until that time. I am probably overthinking this. When I see her she is typically busy so the most I can get in is a couple of comments and then that's it so there's is not a whole lot of continuity between each time I see her and in fact sometimes when I see her it's like we're meeting for the first time because there is this awkwardness that I can't explain. I imagine it's because I'm not actively involved in her day to day life so I don't know what to talk about with her because I have no idea how busy she is and I don't want to assume that she can make time.

I'm not investing a whole lot into this person from an emotional standpoint because I don't really know her yet, but there does seem to be a good connection there. My second guessing is actually related to my thoughts about the Taurus girl. On the one hand I want to be sure that I am free to be fully engaged in anything that arises with the Taurus, but there is this time period where I can't/won't do anything until the divorce is complete. That's great for me, but I want to attempt to maintain her interest and not assume that she is willing to sit by and wait.

You have a valid point. My intention wasn't to jump from divorce into something else. Initially I was all set to experience the single life...even skipping dating altogether for a while. The Taurus actually started flirting with me after I mentioned that I was going through a divorce. She is divorced herself and based on what she mentioned about her free time I would guess that she is in no hurry to get into a serious relationship. I've casually seen her for almost a year now because she works for a client of mine and by that I mean I would say hi to her and everyone else at that office. Early on I heard her mention that she was travelling to Las Vegas for the weekend. For some reason it sparked my curiosity and I asked some questions about her typical weekend plans and she mentioned that she never stays at home and was travelling every weekend. That kind of suggested to me that she's been alone for some time and was dealing with it by travelling. The divorce will essentially see me being completely on my own because I have no family or friends here. My main intent was to find a friend that I could enjoy things with. If it happened to turn serious then I would certainly be open to that, but I'm not on a mission to replace the empty spot. I would like to think that as I consider where I would like things to go with her that she would also, if she's interested, be thinking about what she wants from me. She's knows I'm getting a divorce so hopefully she's not thinking I'm looking to jump back into marriage, but in my mind that is something that she would discover by getting to know me. I have no plans to deceive her about my intentions. Having said all that there is the voice in my head that says I should just take some time to be alone and make some decisions later. I basically have made a choice to go in a different direction, but not out of fear or a need to cover up anything...I just think it would be beneficial to have one good friend. I am in my late 40's and have found that most people I work with are very set in there friendships and aren't looking to expand so my options are fairly limited. If the Taurus weren't in the picture I would definitely just spend some time on my own, but it seems like something I should at least consider.

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Let the pile on commence 🙂.

Posted by JohnTheBaptist100
Just be platonic friends

I actually like your suggestion and would be just fine with that. I've always wanted to indulge in that myth that men and women can't be friends.

Thank you.