What does Taurus consider as a fling?

How long does your fling usually last?

Is a fling is when you come & go then gone for good?

I also know that Taurus like to put their potential mate through series of test?

What kind of test do you do & when do you stop testing & know she/he is the one?

Could this be one of his tests for me? When I left his house I noticed there was money left under his doormat. I don?t know if he place it there on purpose or someone else left it there for him.

You might think I?m crazy, but what I?ve read about Taurus traits, it stated that they like to put people through tests to see how loyal they are. One of my best friends is a Taurus & she would put her potential mate through series of tests.

Hey Daydreamer, I hope we didn't get off to a wrong start with that last topic. Anyways,
a. Flings for me don't last long anyways, I think taurus people usually want more out of a relationship than a fling. So if it is a fling, I doubt it would last more than a few months.

b.Is a fling is when you come & go then gone for good? I would say this is confusion. It is our selfish side coming out. You gotta protect yourself from letting him bounce around & hurt your feelings. Very likely he's confused and is riding the fence until something becomes more clear. This is your time to show that what he wants, or HIS loss. We need to know we've gotten someone that we just can't pass up.

c. Regarding testing, I guess everyone is different on how they do it and how long. I guess it depends on how you respond to the testing. Hey, do you own tests! Turn the tables, he might just like it if you do it in style & good taste.

Are the bulls fling-happy?!! Yikes, I think I've had lots too. Maybe we're just always looking for love & as soon as we don't find it, we run off to the next thing. I hate wasting time in a relationship if I know it won't go anywhere.

You know, you guys are a great help! I understand more about my Taurus friend every time I read your post.

I never in life have had flings or one stands & I don?t intent to ever. When I get involve in any relationships, there has to be a
meaningful reason why. I don?t like, or ever played games when it comes to the heart.

I know when we are together he is very sincere, loving, & compassionate toward me. He tells me that I?m an amazing person. He is glad to have known me & that I?m here with him. When he lay next to each other, he reassured me it is OK to get closer to him. His touches & kisses are so passionate & heart felt. Suddenly as everything was good??.he?s gone!
That behavior is driving me out of my mind—?

He told me that his personal life sucks right now. He chooses to gamble instead of going to his friend?s wedding & a birthday party. He said he can?t get out of that rut. I told him he should focus his time on something else (Of course, I was talking about me), but only because I like him & I am genuinely care about him. I haven?t heard from in 2 weeks. It kills me not to know what he is doing because I want to be there him.

Do you think he is using me to fulfill a hole in is life right now? When he can stand on his two feet again, you think he wouldn?t need me anymore? You got remember we were childhood friend, so he means a lot to me.

What should I do at this point??.keep being there for him & let thing flow the way it is?
He mentioned to me that, I need to be patience with him & take it for what it is??..but I don?t want to be playing the fool neither.

Help!

Daydreamer I am not sure what to say about him. I don't ever see myself disappearing unless I was hurt by the other person in the relationship. If everything is going very well, why run? We love security and affection.

I'm also not a big fan of flings-especially with people you already know (read my drama "Confused by Aqua guy..") If I know I'll have no contact with this person again and I am have lustful feeling for them, I absolutely want the fun. But like you said, I'd prefer for there to be a meaningful reason to open myself to this person.

I hate games. Never like playing them which is why I've always been walked on. I am playing games with this Aqua guy at the moment and it's sooo much fun. I am only doing it because the relationship is already at a disfunctional level and I think I needed this change of pace and attitude. This person completely screwed me so it's karma helping me out too!!

PS-we are normally very gentle people. I'd give you anything you need if you are in my heart. The moment you hurt me for your own selfish motives, consider yourself dirt on the ground to be be spit on!

Daydreamer,

Well this is my experience with my Taurus male. He actually told me that an ex girlfriend was back in his life out of nowhere. He was just testing me for few different things. One, wanted to see what my morals were like (I slept with him once and said never again till its over). Two, they have twisted thinking at times, he wanted to see if he could get me after I said no. Like I've said before, Taurus don't like to be told no. Well, I finally called his bluff and he hasnt left yet. LOL..actually, if it wasnt for this board in the beginning I would have gone crazy. Could not figure this man out for the life of me. Still cant..LOL but it doesnt matter so much anymore.
As for the fling question, TG is right. My guy was always around, even when he said his ex was around. He is just not the type to disappear, unless of course he was hurt, mad or didnt care. Hope that helps. Good luck, I know how you feel..*smile*

Sunshine...

flings? what the hell IS a fling? well personally I tend to date quite a bit and have my fun and then I just decide to not answer my phone and I'm gone- and that's that. However I don't play with anybody's feelings or maybe not intentionally just that I'm not interested in being with anyone unless I have enough interest and I know that it could go somewhere. if it ain't going nowhere then i'm gone but i never lie as to how i feel for someone, i don't say what i don't mean.
about testing people? nope i don't do that, to me "time tells everything" 100% so why bother with testing? no rush to know anything, no one in the world can keep up a facade forever
although... maybe i don't test for loyalty but... i do like to see their reactions when i ask them to do something scary or i drive horribly on purpose
I'D LIKE TO MAKE IT CLEAR that if a taurus does test you it probably isn't by putting money purposefully under a doormat or anything like that. it would probably be more like a comment here or there to see your reaction la la la yup ok bye

'"time tells everything" 100% so why bother with testing?' - practical?

Man, us bulls are so smart! 🙂

The people I have known that are big into testing are people that are almost paranoid and fearful. What a sick way to live. Although I get that way sometimes too, about certain things, it is like a disease. I wouldn't consider it a good quality at all.

SagiTAUries,

"i'd just as soon rather cut the cancer out of my life than prod it with a scalpel and magnifying glass".

LOL...could'nt have been said better. Hope all is well with you, I've been busy busy. We need to start some threads that make one ponder. I try to get right on that..*W* Take care, chat with ya soon.

Sunshine...

Shite, kinda true, eh? I've done my share of ignoring the phone calls. I don't want to deal with things unless I got something to say or do. Otherwise, seeeee ya later! I guess kinda like cutting the cancer. haha, funny you say cancer.