What is it with taurus men?

Ok, im a sag, and everytime i end up in a relationship with them there always smothering me to the point were i cannot breath anymore. And there always like ''But im doing this because i love you, and want you to have the best'' i understand that perfectly well for a relationship, but its gotten to the point where i cant live without them interrupting something! i need my space!

Tell them. They won't be happy to hear that at first, but they would rather you tell them versus just not saying anything at all. Sometimes Taurus can have so much love and can border on being (too) possessive, so you have to set boundaries and let them know up front what is and is not acceptable. I'm rarely smothering, because it takes a lot for me to like somebody and let them into my world, so I would hate to turn them off by being too possessive, but I have the reverse, because I tend to protect myself too much so I appear nonchalant when, in fact, I am totally into them.

Really? I practically beg my taurus husband to smother me. I find mine is too detached. Are most the opposite??

Posted by ramfishtwins
Really? I practically beg my taurus husband to smother me. I find mine is too detached. Are most the opposite??

Well, I can't speak for all Taurus, and I think it really depends on their past relationships and experiences, and I'd also assume other placements in their charts. I'm not a smothering person, but that's because I like my space, and also most men I've dated have not been smothering (barring the Cancers 🙂 ). It's been my experience that if you don't like to be smothered, you won't smother. I am much like your husband ramfishtwins, because I am very detached. It's a defense mechanism for me, but I can't speak for your husband, because it's all shaded by each individuals experiences. I'm sure there are many a bull that would love to smother and be smothered; I am just not one of them. I like to be missed, and I like to miss my person. It makes for a passionate relationship when I am not constantly under that person, and vice versa. I love to see my man walk into a room/restaurant, wherever, and look at them when they see me and get that big ass grin on their face because they haven't seen me in a minute. Then they hug me as if they could eat me up right there on the spot 😉I think it's healthy to be missed. I also am not one of those who thinks that your boyfriend/husband, etc, has to be your best friend. Should they be your friend? Absofrigginglutely, but I want them to have their OWN friends and interests too, because I have my own interests and friends too. I have one friend whose husband doesn't have any friends, and it's very stressful for her because she is really social and has a lot of friends and he doesn't, so she always has a hard time balancing that. I have to say I appreciated that my ex-Libra was very outgoing and had his own friends, and wanted me to have my own friends too, not at the expense/detriment of our relationship, but because it was just healthier for our relationship.

I agree that it's so important to have other things going on in your life other then your man. Because, what happens when/if that relationship ends? You are left with practically nothing and you don't even know yourself.
That's what's great about our relationship. We've never been the type of couple that needs to be with each other 24/7. But, I admit, it's difficult for me to always understand his detachment and fierce independance from our relationship. I, like most women, are looking for a partnership; someone you can take on the world with. I've tried over many many years to explain this to him. I want to be a part of a team...just to know I'm not alone in this fucked up world.
I just have to give it up...I have to be o.k. with the fact he is a very me-centered person. You'd think I'd be the one, considering I'm a major Aries! But, it makes me feel comforted to know I have a partner in life.
I don't want to be smothered, of course (that was a joke), but I do want to feel important and valued by that other person.

Posted by ramfishtwins
I want to be a part of a team...just to know I'm not alone in this fucked up world.

Gotcha. You want to know that there is somebody who is just "down for you." I'm a "ride or die bi@tch" with my man (well, when I have one...hahahaa). Fortunately, the men I date are not into the smothering thing as such, but they definitely let me know they were just down for me. Example, one time I was talking to my ex-fiance (the Libra) this was when we were still together. I was kvetching the fact that even though I had unbelievable scholarships, grants, etc, I still had a million dollars in student loans (an exaggeration, but it feels like a million 😉). Anyway, I was saying how I hated I had a million dollars in sl, and he said, "Nope, you have $ 500,000 in student loans, cause I have the other half for you." Also, while none of the men I've dated are overly jealous, they let it be known quite clearly when they feel another man (even some of their friends), have over-stepped their bounds with me; especially my ex-Leo, and one of the Cancer guys I used to mess around with. I don't pretend to know your situation, etc, but I would be willing to hazard a guess that he has your back more than you could imagine. He just may not be vocally expressive about it, but if you needed him (which I'm sure is the case), he'd be/has been there for you.

Wow...love what that ex-Libra said! What a comforting feeling...

I believe your guess is most likely correct. Vocalizing is HUGE for him. I, of course, do not understand a bit of this since I'm a very vocal Aries with Gem moon who needs to communicate a lot. I always tell him that he doesn't show me that he loves me, so I often come to question if he really does. It hurts, but I really need to get over it and realize he does love me and that should be good enough. It's hard...

the taurus mantra is "I have" - we are very possessive. We like to posses, and to be possessed.

I would bet in this case its not the taurus possessive nature thats driving the smothering actions, But moreover the Taurus need for security..

He may be feeling insecure about himself, you, or the relationship.. Most Taurus (men/women) are pretty good at reading their mate from what I know..
So you could be thinking 'I need my space' and he could be picking up on a 'get away' vibe from you, which could make him feel insecure about your relationship because he could feel like your trying to push him away.. In that, he may feel the need to show you how much he still cares about you by.. you guessed it... Action.. haha

As you could see, without being straight up with him, this sort of thing can really snowball out of hand.. USC hit it on the head.. just talk to him about your need for space, ask if him if he can respect that you need it to feel healthy.. As long as your also clear that your not trying to push him away/bail..
Two thing are needed in this case, communication, and understanding..

In my experience (myself included) A bull secure in his relationship is very independent/self sufficient/own life, and isn't always going to feel the need to be there every second of every day doing grand things for you.. (watch out for our romantic streak thou 😉 )

Ive been on your side of the fence twice.. She didn't understand my need for independence (bad communication on my part?/bad understanding on hers?) so she latched on, so I needed more space, so she latched on more... snowball... then game over.. both great woman otherwise..

I've been on his side of the fence once.. I didn't feel secure in the relationship, felt the need to always show her that she meant a lot to me.. became smothering... game over...


Since I don't know how long you've been together, or anything else surrounding this action on his part.. this is all just a perspective to think about..