What to do about this Bull

ok so I have posted a few things on here about my bull.. nothing major we been going back and forth since the begining of March and we still havn't moved into exclusivity yet. I am not complaining about that.. what I dont get is his back and forth with his feelings. I am so confused as to what he wants. I know he is a good man and he puts up with alot of my nonsense, especially when I get into my emotional fits. I also put up with his disappearing acts and I know thats because he needs his space to figure things out. About a week ago he broke things off with me saying that he is no good for me and that I am wasting my time on him. I asked him why does he put himself down so much and he said that he is trying to get his life together and that he is going through alot of things right now and can not commit to a relatonship. I had no choice but to respect his decision and I told him that I am here for him if he needs help or just to talk or whatever. This past weekend he calls me and says that he misses me and wants to hang out and becuase I like this man so much I went to him. Our time was great but he disappeared on me again! this is driving me crazy and I told him how that bothers me. I just don't understand what the hell he wants. what do you guys think?

I am going to throw this in here too I am not good with these birth chart stuff. so if anybody want to break this down for me please feel free.. Thanks

His:
rising sun:leo
sun: taurus
moon: pisces
mercury: aries
venus: gemini
mars: capricorn
jupiter: pisces
saturn: sagittarius
uranus: sagittarius
neptune: capricorn
pluto: scorpio
n node: aries

me
rising sun: virgo
sun: cancer
moon pisces:
mercury: cancer
venus: leo
mars: virgo
jupiter: cancer
saturn: leo
uranus: scorpio
neptune: sagittarius
pluto: libra
N node: libra

It sounds like he does not want to be committed at this time. He is telling you that because that's how he feels. I am sure he loves being with you. But deep down he knows you want/deserve a commitment and he can't do it. I have had experience with a Taurus sun-Pisces moon- venus gemini man. He is set in his ways, does not like being tied down, but loves romance and usually has a lot of women that he chooses to visit from time to time. The man I know has women who give him money, pay for trips, and give him expensive gifts. They all think he is "busy" with family or work. Now, this most certainly may not be the case with your Taurus guy. But I would be careful that you are not just another "booty call" or you will end up being hurt. You deserve better...

I am going to try to be carefull I am very guarded at the moment and I stil have not heard from him. I am going to keep my options open because I am not going to wait around forever. I am giving him his space and see what the outcome is we will see what happens

Honestly, I think you should date other guys. It can take some pressure off and it's a wonderful ego booster.

Awwwwwwwwwweeeeeeeeeee.


I agree with TlS first three sentences, if you really love him wait. I've had times in life where I've needed to do the same. Maybe bring down a notch your interactions shared with him. I doubt he excluded family and friends so why you. I Done this myself Basiclly emotions were something I didn't want to handle selfish as crap because if I couldn't handle it I should have never led her on. I suggest you keep doing what you doing and think of the right time to ask him.

1. What specificlly is the issue.
2. Compromise on it.
3. Figure out if 2 is impossible, will you spend time waiting for your old partner our searching for a replacement.

-Hugs the op-

Awwwe thanks for the hug 🙂

I have already asked him what the issue was and he never gives me a straight up answer. He just says he is going through alot and has to fix his problems.I don't get into specifics becuase some things are private and we are not at that stage yet. I understand how he feels. When my life is going crazy with problems that I have to fix I tend to withdraw. I just have to give him the space that he needs and just deal with being away from him. I am sure he don't want to involve me in whatever it is he is going through. He keeps saying how a great woman and how sexy and beautiful I am, but he just doesn't want to hurt me. I hear it in his voice that he is concerned with my feelings and maybe your are right he is just not ready to give me the commitment I deserve. So I am just going to let it be for now. I don't know if I am in love with him, but I do care for him alot and I only want the best for him. I wonder too if alot of it has to do with the fact that I am doing pretty well for myself and he is not at that point of his life where he is secure with himself. I am almost afraid to ask him that.. I just don't want to stir up something in him that will trigger his insecurities. soo thats my story. I miss him like crazy tho..even tho it has been a couple of days that I have not seen him.

Posted by SensualCancerChika
Awwwe thanks for the hug 🙂

I have already asked him what the issue was and he never gives me a straight up answer. He just says he is going through alot and has to fix his problems.I don't get into specifics becuase some things are private and we are not at that stage yet. I understand how he feels. When my life is going crazy with problems that I have to fix I tend to withdraw. I just have to give him the space that he needs and just deal with being away from him. I am sure he don't want to involve me in whatever it is he is going through. He keeps saying how a great woman and how sexy and beautiful I am, but he just doesn't want to hurt me. I hear it in his voice that he is concerned with my feelings and maybe your are right he is just not ready to give me the commitment I deserve. So I am just going to let it be for now. I don't know if I am in love with him, but I do care for him alot and I only want the best for him. I wonder too if alot of it has to do with the fact that I am doing pretty well for myself and he is not at that point of his life where he is secure with himself. I am almost afraid to ask him that.. I just don't want to stir up something in him that will trigger his insecurities. soo thats my story. I miss him like crazy tho..even tho it has been a couple of days that I have not seen him.

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3. Figure out if 2 is impossible, will you spend time waiting for your old partner our searching for a replacement.

-Hugs the op-

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Everything you just said is so true..I don't want to pressure him into anything. Thats why I said to him that I am here for him if he ever needs anything. thats why I have to step aside and let him do what he needs to do to take care of himself. I do want him in my life, but I just want to make sure he is ready. Who knows when that will be..I certainly want him to be successful and be able to be the strong man and so much more in order to take care of me. I just want him to be ok and for us to move past this and be happy... even if it means being friends. I will just have to swallow my feelings and just let things be as they are... whatever the outcome is. I want him to be with me because he wants to not because he feels obligated or pressured into something that he isn't ready for. The only thing I can do right now is to be strong wait a lil while, but keep my options open. You never know they can disappear for like months at a time and I am sorry but I can go maybe 1 or 2 weeks without contact.. I will reach out and if he does not respond then that is my cue to really let go.

btw..I am really liking the feed back

I have to trust that he is telling me the truth about his problems. I can't assume anything or come to quick conclusions that are materialized in my head becuase that would drive me crazy. The only hard evidence I have that may bring doubt is when he pulls these disappearing acts on me. Usually they are about a week long, but to be honest I am sick of him doing that. He's done it to me twice.. this time being the second time. In general men usually do this from time to time. I think its their way of dealing with emotions, feelings, problems, or whatever the case may be. Bottom line is that I trust him and if things don't work out then there is nothing I can do about that. I just have to move on..we all go through dissapointments and our ups and downs It is part of life and life goes on right...

Well he went in detail of what he is going through. I rather not post that on here because that is his business, but he pretty much said it was over between us. Right now is not the time for us to be together , so I will have to move on. Thats what he wants then so be it. I am heart broken but what can I do 😢

I have to let him be a man and handle his business, but I sometimes think that it shouldn't matter what your going through if somebody says they are into you, likes being with you and is feeling you etc.. they would make it happen no matter what. I know I would regardless of the problems I have.. maybe thats is just me.. ohh well.

Time to put on my freekum dress on and strut my stuff..He don't know what he missing!

Who is down for drinks! lol sometimes you just have to laugh at these things.

I agree with both Robyn and Kitty.

Men in general (not only Taureans) have trouble committing when they have stuff going on financially or with their career. They like to have themselves together before they commit to any of the responsibility they feel comes with a relationship.

Your attitude is great anyway SCC. I'm in for drinks!

Ivy


(PS Taureans, I just dropped in to learn a little about you - spent some time here a few years ago and there are some awesome Taurus chicks in here from memory)

Today I miss him like crazy and I can't stop thinking about him! I just gotta keep it busy and in time my pain will go away.
I just wish he would see that I am only trying to help him. I just want to love and take care of my baby.. damn I can't even say that anymore, he not mines no more. I want to call him so bad but I know thats a big no no.. oh well I have to find me a new boo and move on 😢

Has anybody missed somebody so bad that you can't concentrate on anything else? this is madness! lol

this is my first time dealing with a Taurus man and let me tell you he was the most loving and affectionate guy I ever dated and so understanding, me being a cancer I loved that. But he is so stubborn at the same time. Sometimes I thought he was driving me crazy on purpose just to see how I would react. Usually I move on pretty quick, but this time Its going to take a while for me to get over him.


I heard this somewhere "Love begins with a smile, grows with a kiss and ends with teardrops"

this is my life right now..
Have a great weekend peoples!

Posted by SensualCancerChika
Today I miss him like crazy and I can't stop thinking about him! I just gotta keep it busy and in time my pain will go away.
I just wish he would see that I am only trying to help him. I just want to love and take care of my baby.. damn I can't even say that anymore, he not mines no more. I want to call him so bad but I know thats a big no no.. oh well I have to find me a new boo and move on 😢

Has anybody missed somebody so bad that you can't concentrate on anything else? this is madness! lol

this is my first time dealing with a Taurus man and let me tell you he was the most loving and affectionate guy I ever dated and so understanding, me being a cancer I loved that. But he is so stubborn at the same time. Sometimes I thought he was driving me crazy on purpose just to see how I would react. Usually I move on pretty quick, but this time Its going to take a while for me to get over him.


I heard this somewhere "Love begins with a smile, grows with a kiss and ends with teardrops"

this is my life right now..
Have a great weekend peoples!

sorry to hear you are feeling sad dear. But i beleive that every person in our life is given for a reason. Whatever is the outcome of the meeting. Sometimes its just hard to let go, especially those ones who touched something deep within us. But take strength to let this situation go. Everything will be fine and you will feel much lighter soon. Missing someone..isnt this just better than having empty soul?

I've been missing badly my cancer baby too. he is on my mind all the time, although we are not seeing or contacting each other anymore. When i close my eyes, the memories come alive. Moving on would be a good idea. But at this point of time i prefer to live in my memory of "us".

wishing you peace of mind sweet 🙂

ok so for about 2 months I have not heard from my taurus and about 2 days ago I reached out and texted him and he replied with simple hello how are you doing and so forth.. well a short time after that I asked him if maybe he would like to get together for a simple dinner. That its been a long time and it would be nice to see him.. Dead silence all over again.. that was 2 days ago and no response.. was it too soon to ask to see eachother?

I think I may have fallen hard for him and I am haing a gard time letting go 😢