What's my deal? I always end friendships and usually over the most trivial reasons.

I find that as an adult , I always end my friendships for random reasons:

- she insulted my vacation and I blocked her number. Friendship over.

- she went away to grad school. I got jealous and never kept contact. She was also really annoying and self absorbed but a good person (Gemini) friendship over.

- she didn't seem to have enough time for me BC she was busy hanging out with other friends. Last straw she missed my birthday and didn't call me until it was her bday. (Leo) friendship over.

- coworkers that I was friends acquaintance s with, once I switch jobs I dropped them without looking back (not real friends, I felt like I had to hide alot about myself with them but known them for 5 years). (unstable Aries/Pisces cusp female, virgo and Gemini.

- 2 others I met at work and was a little closer to but slowly faded out of their lives BC I can't afford to live their lifestyle, they stifle me with their narrowmindedness and piss me off, and if I continue our "friendship" I'll have to give them a little more information about myself but they gossip and one works at my old job (Scorpios)

( and the Libra Im heartbroken over who actually liked me back, I just pushed him away)

I can't keep relationships and many times it because I don't work through conflict. I just tell the other party adios and leave. Or I stick to the wrong people even though I don't like them 😢

Posted by ManilaVice
Gem north node butterfly

but that's more a life lesson. What we should strive to be like.

I've always had a cut them off attitude if they dare disrespect me.

I guess more of a communication issue. I was going to blame it on my Jupiter in Capricorn in my 5th house.

Posted by starwars
its okay to have standards when it comes to friendships, so try to be friends with people who have similar views and those who'd see the things you find insulting. insulting. not just anyone that crosses your path. cause i don't think its alright to drop people like this.

I don't think so either. It's become a pattern if I'm annoyed I distance myself. In my experience everyone expects me to make the first move to apologize.

Sadly I have the same relationship with more people. 😢

Posted by Koniucha
What Venus aspects do you have?

Venus in Taurus

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Posted by VenusStar
I can't keep relationships and many times it because I don't work through conflict. I just tell the other party adios and leave. Or I stick to the wrong people even though I don't like them 😢

I am similar to you so you are not on your own.

I have got rid of cancer, scorpio, pisces and Aquarius.

The water energy girls I couldn't cope with their energy... Too much water used to drag my spirits down and the Aqua stole from me so she had to go...

My closest friends now are taurus, Aries and leo and a Sagittarius (I'm like his "Agony Aunt"' lol )...

Don't be afraid of being selective with whom you choose to keep company with.

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I don't mind being selective but I feel guilty for leading some friendships on for years that annoyed me . if u were tell the truth it would be over. I've had someone tell me that I expect perfection from my friends and that's unfair to them. There is two of them that I want back because they were good friends but they don't want to talk to me

I sooooo agree with the water signs. They wear me out.

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Posted by Koniucha
What Venus aspects do you have?

Venus in Taurus

I mean aspects, not sign.

Like Venus trine Uranus, etc

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Mar Scorpio
Jupiter in Cap
Saturn Scorpio
Uranus sag
Neptune Pisces
Pluto Scorpio.

Posted by Arielle83
I wonder how they see you before you block them.

Depends on how they respond after I block them or fade out of their lives. They either car or they don't. Some of them aren't innocent either.

Do you have any Aries in your chart?

Posted by ashley1734
Do you have any Aries in your chart?

Nope Sag is the only fire sign

Perhaps in all these scenarios you can just kinda reflect on what you could have done differently? You've already been able to identify specific times that you have been driven to end friendships, so if you feel maybe they were ended too impulsively or unfairly on your end, just do a little brainstorm of what you might change if you are in a similar position going forward.

For exmaple:

- she insulted my vacation and I blocked her number. Friendship over.
**Instead, maybe you could have told her you were offended by her comments about your vacation. Tell her the vacation was important and enjoyable for you and ask why she felt the need to be negative about something you were happy about. If her response wasn't genuine or apologetic, then ok maybe the friendship isn't fulfilling anyway...but maybe she didn't realize her comment was offensive and she just needs help growing too**

- she went away to grad school. I got jealous and never kept contact. She was also really annoying and self absorbed but a good person (Gemini) friendship over.
**Ending a friendship because the other person is self-absorbed is acceptable. Ending a friendship because you are jealous of their achievements, is immature probably. But it sounds like it was probably not a strong friendship anyway?**

- she didn't seem to have enough time for me BC she was busy hanging out with other friends. Last straw she missed my birthday and didn't call me until it was her bday. (Leo) friendship over.
**In these situations, if I really value the person and enjoy their company, I just adjust my expectations and know that they probably don't have much time for me. My Leo girlfriend and I have dinner once a month or so and although I would love to spend more time with her, and she spends a lot of time with other friends, I accept that our friendship gets less time and I take it and enjoy it.**

- coworkers that I was friends acquaintances with, once I switch jobs I dropped them without looking back (not real friends, I felt like I had to hide alot about myself with them but known them for 5 years). (unstable Aries/Pisces cusp female, virgo and Gemini.
**This is just growing up. You don't have to stay in contact with everyone you've worked with, especially if they aren't helping you growth and enriching your life"

Etc. etc.

I don't think you are wrong for the way you are conducting yourself in friendships, perhaps just be a little more patient and understanding, and a little less impulsive. Nobody is perfect.

@ashley1734- your right. Co worker thing was recent the others were 6 years ago but all good people.

I was just thinking about this because I noticed that I just started doing it to someone else. Instead of being assertive and telling her how I feel I avoid her all together. It's just so nice not to have my feelings hurt. Now that she's starting to notice I suspect her feelings are hurt.

Posted by VenusStar
@ashley1734- your right. Co worker thing was recent the others were 6 years ago but all good people.

I was just thinking about this because I noticed that I just started doing it to someone else. Instead of being assertive and telling her how I feel I avoid her all together. It's just so nice not to have my feelings hurt. Now that she's starting to notice I suspect her feelings are hurt.

Well now that you notice it, definitely just let her know what's bothering you. It can be uncomfortable to do that, but I think you would probably both feel better and you will definitely take a lesson and hopefully your friendship from it.

there is nothing wrong with being selective. Some friends just take and not give, control your life, living you with nothing but negative energy while they run with your positives.