Should I let go of Taurus man - From A Scorpio Woman...

Hi guys, thought would appreciate some thoughts from Taurus people here. I'm a Scorpio girl and I met a Taurus guy late last year. He was in town for a short project and was leaving the country. We met through some acquaintances, and before long, we fell for each other. We dated briefly, knowing he was going to leave eventually. However, my plan coincidentally (even before I met him) was to relocate to a city near him. We have both admitted to liking each other, he even said he has never met anyone whom made him feel this way before. But he's very against long distance relationship. The last night we saw each other before he had to go, I cried, and he cried too... He told me that we can eventually have a proper relationship when I move to the city nearer to him. But timing is always terrible... my relocation plans kept getting stalled, with no concrete timeline in place, and I understand how that can be frustrating.

I tried to keep in touch, and he's responsive if I keep things light and funny. Recently, I got an assignment to be near his hometown for 2 weeks, and I was excited to meet him, asking him if he could meet me somewhere. I asked him several times (that intense part of Scorpio always needing an affirmation) and I think I finally pissed him off.

His response however, was "I really like you but you have really managed to annoy me. i have told you I do not do long distance, and if you are just here for a short stay, then it's pointless, cause I know you would want more. We are not in a relationship now, cause you are not in the country.". I feel really heartbroken and decided to leave him alone after. He texted me after to say, if you are in town and you just want to meet, we can meet if we are both free... and I didn't respond to that. I know you need patience with Taurus man, and I know he is setting him up business now, so he's always busy, but still...why so cold if you really like a person?

Should I still text him when I am near him for my assignment, or just let it go? It has been almost 2 weeks which I didn't respond to his last text, and I haven't heard from him either.

Posted by busyeyes88
Taurus are straightforward, straight talking people... Taurus males are no good at long distance (I am OK with it!) and he has told you in straight understandable language why it will not work.

You have not responded for two weeks and he has not reached out to you, so I suggest you leave it be....

Unless you are prepared to move to that city as you originally planned, I suggested you leave him well alone...

Thank you, and yes, I am intending to move to the city, it's frustrating as plans from the company kept getting changed, so i guess he might think since there's no concrete plans in place, we shouldn't pin any hopes We spoke about it several times before, and he has also mentioned how I should move to the city for myself first, then we can decide if we'll be together if we're both single then... but oh well. Timing... . But thank you for your comments.

Posted by TauroMale
its simple, he doesn't want to see you because he cant do long distance and seeing you would only create more feelings between each other when you just have to leave in two weeks anyways. i think he wants to move on and you should too, it would cause less pain.

Thanks for that... it's always difficult to move on when you thought you finally found the 'one'. Even during our brief relationship, he causally talked about having kids and how our kids would love lovely, and having met someone with such similar values after dating so many jerks, it brings some light into my life.

But I have to accept that nothing will change now, since we aren't in the same place... but thanks once again for the comment

Posted by exxtasyx
Yes, let him go. He was a serious marker. There would have been numerous ways of telling you that without coming off so harsh and aggressive. What's the problem with meeting up and hanging out for two weeks until you decide to re-locate? Get to know eachother more since it's not even a relationship yet? And then he has the nerve to text you again and change his mind? After dissing you like that? How annoying. You're considering re-locating for this man and changing up your entire life, you reach out to him to hang out, you're doing so much and then he has the nerve to be so cold? I think you got both feet in this and he only has one in. And he won't even text you to apologize two weeks afterwards? He is stubborn, his work is more important, he's cold and he sounds annoying. Put that Scorpio to good use and teach him a lesson by posting some hot pics of yourself on Facebook and making sure it pops up on his news feed so he can see what he missed out on!

Lol..biggest problem, he's a complete hermit, he doesn't own any social media platform so I can't flaunt anything!

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Posted by exxtasyx
Yes, let him go. He was a serious marker. There would have been numerous ways of telling you that without coming off so harsh and aggressive. What's the problem with meeting up and hanging out for two weeks until you decide to re-locate? Get to know eachother more since it's not even a relationship yet? And then he has the nerve to text you again and change his mind? After dissing you like that? How annoying. You're considering re-locating for this man and changing up your entire life, you reach out to him to hang out, you're doing so much and then he has the nerve to be so cold? I think you got both feet in this and he only has one in. And he won't even text you to apologize two weeks afterwards? He is stubborn, his work is more important, he's cold and he sounds annoying. Put that Scorpio to good use and teach him a lesson by posting some hot pics of yourself on Facebook and making sure it pops up on his news feed so he can see what he missed out on!

Lol..biggest problem, he's a complete hermit, he doesn't own any social media platform so I can't flaunt anything!

No "social media" that makes him a smart guy!!!

All the taurus ever wants to do is to cut through the bs... You annoyed him hence his harsh words. You persisted and he had to br harsh to deter you. Leave him alone...

If you finally decide to move to that city for your own sake, then look if up if you wish. Until then dont bother... Two weeks of hanging out will only lead to prolonged heartache and taurus wants to avoid that.. Take head..

You scorp women are really stubborn and will even fight a lost cause... Seen it on this board way too many times..

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Totally concur with you, thank you for that. 🙂 Yes, I fell for him cause i think he's smart, and I have a thing for intelligent, geeky kinds. And will take your advice, no point reaching out until there's light at the end of the tunnel with my move.

I'm a Scorpio with a Taurus Ascendant, we are stubborn, and I've met my match with an even more stubborn Taurus man. LOL

Damn hes blunt and straight to the point.

No room for confusion.

I camt really call him cold or rude because you didnt layout word for word what you said to him.

All ya said was the scorpio infamous need for affirmation and that you know you annoyed him.

Posted by DMV
Damn hes blunt and straight to the point.

No room for confusion.

I camt really call him cold or rude because you didnt layout word for word what you said to him.

All ya said was the scorpio infamous need for affirmation and that you know you annoyed him.

Just for context, I wanted to confirm he would be keen to meet me when I'm there for work, so I did ask him, if he'll be free to meet, and if he's still keen, and if he wasn't anymore, I would appreciate him telling me. That's when he replied with that.

He tends to disappear for work for days in a row (I know cause he has lousy network and messages I get sent to him are usually undelivered or unread till much later). So often, I will leave him until he reads that message, but with this assignment, I wanted to plan so I can book the accommodation and train tickets in advanced so I did push a bit harder. After he sent that "I've annoyed him" message, I responded that I'm sorry for being so persistent, and I hear him, and know he doesn't want a LDR, and I wasn't expecting one upon my arrival. I just wanted to see him...and that's when he sent the last text, to text him when I arrive and we can decide how to meet if we're both free.

Not me. A man has one time to play that distant shit with me.

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Posted by DMV
Damn hes blunt and straight to the point.

No room for confusion.

I camt really call him cold or rude because you didnt layout word for word what you said to him.

All ya said was the scorpio infamous need for affirmation and that you know you annoyed him.

Just for context, I wanted to confirm he would be keen to meet me when I'm there for work, so I did ask him, if he'll be free to meet, and if he's still keen, and if he wasn't anymore, I would appreciate him telling me. That's when he replied with that.

He tends to disappear for work for days in a row (I know cause he has lousy network and messages I get sent to him are usually undelivered or unread till much later). So often, I will leave him until he reads that message, but with this assignment, I wanted to plan so I can book the accommodation and train tickets in advanced so I did push a bit harder. After he sent that "I've annoyed him" message, I responded that I'm sorry for being so persistent, and I hear him, and know he doesn't want a LDR, and I wasn't expecting one upon my arrival. I just wanted to see him...and that's when he sent the last text, to text him when I arrive and we can decide how to meet if we're both free.

So basically you were chasing him?

Women need to stop chasing men, especially when there are signs that there is "light or little" interest...

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When he first left the country, it was mutual responding, he would send me pics, and vice versa, and then he decide to start this business, and that's when he kinda faded off into the radar. At one point, I told him, I never had to chase a guy in my life, but I feel I'm chasing you, and if you're not interested, and would prefer me not to bother you, say so. Then he started sending me videos and pics of his business, the set up etc, and what he's spending time on. He also said if I feel I have to chase him, then don't. Cause he doesn't know where things might go. He said we could meet when I'm here, and that's when I persisted on when and where, and annoyed him.

I know there was a mutual liking there, he admitted it many times too, just an issue of if as one person posted above, I had two feet in, and he had only one in this...

Scorpios do have an intense need to know. It just gets annoying. Give people a chance to respond. Be a bit more patient.

Posted by DMV
Scorpios do have an intense need to know. It just gets annoying. Give people a chance to respond. Be a bit more patient.

Yes, we do tend to be too black and white, and dislike wishy-washiness, so sometimes, I admit I give ultimatums to things. And Taurus are known to be super patient.

Taurus are workaholics. Shit all the earth signs.

But for ppl who are workaholics, take their lead. Be an outlet, not a drag.

If they say give them a minute, guess what give them a minute.

When they come up for air, you wont be able to keep them away.

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Posted by DMV
Damn hes blunt and straight to the point.

No room for confusion.

I camt really call him cold or rude because you didnt layout word for word what you said to him.

All ya said was the scorpio infamous need for affirmation and that you know you annoyed him.

Just for context, I wanted to confirm he would be keen to meet me when I'm there for work, so I did ask him, if he'll be free to meet, and if he's still keen, and if he wasn't anymore, I would appreciate him telling me. That's when he replied with that.

He tends to disappear for work for days in a row (I know cause he has lousy network and messages I get sent to him are usually undelivered or unread till much later). So often, I will leave him until he reads that message, but with this assignment, I wanted to plan so I can book the accommodation and train tickets in advanced so I did push a bit harder. After he sent that "I've annoyed him" message, I responded that I'm sorry for being so persistent, and I hear him, and know he doesn't want a LDR, and I wasn't expecting one upon my arrival. I just wanted to see him...and that's when he sent the last text, to text him when I arrive and we can decide how to meet if we're both free.

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and the lesson here? do not push a bull. it never works in your favour.

Posted by Chasbelle
He def likes you but I think he is just trying to protect himself. The Taurus/Scorpio combo is good but bizarre to say the least. We Taureans are much like you Scorpio in that we sense the other and the attraction. We are very emotional, obsessive and analytical with Scorpio. We fear being hurt deeply to our core. I was a Taurean woman dealing with a Scorpio/Taurus long distance friendship myself so I can relate to you. Me and Scorpio had history years before this though and lost contact for many years. He wound up breaking my heart very deeply and I just couldn't deal with it anymore. He never contacted me again but he did try to control my emotions and play mind games but I just had to leave him be and try not to think about it so much. But the point here is that Taurus obv wants something with you he will just be very slow and very cautious with his heart.

Thank you... it is rather sad to see though, that this combi didn't seem to work out. Another friend I know, also a Scorpio girl, missed her opportunity with a Taurus guy, cause he was taking so long, and then some missed opportunities, and he thought she wasn't interested, and decided to get married to someone else. After more than 4 yrs, they reconnected and admitted they both felt the same at that time, but no one made the move. I think it's sad, when opportunities like these are missed.

@Chasbelle, thank you for your words. I always believe that everyone is an expert in relationships, as long as it is not theirs... I've heard many people saying, "maybe he doesn't like you as much as you think", and I get wavered by those words. He has said time and again, that distance is our only issue between us, and me, just needed assurance that he will still feel the same about us if I were to move in a few months. He has said also, I am not just some holiday fling he had, but I've become much more to him.

I only wish timing could've been better. I'll cross my fingers, but for now, I'll just have to stop bothering him with my insecurities, and see what happens when I do move over.

Cold because he doesn't want to encourage you to want more.
Tell him to call you when he's ready for what you want ON CONDITION that you're still there into him .

@Chasbelle, thought I'll give you an update. After slightly over 2 weeks, he reached out. He casually mentioned how funny he thought my online professional profile was, and that was odd, cause we aren't connected on the professional network. But I guess it's his way of making contact, and he responded to me very positively, saying things like "Yes, i remember you saying that very well"... for now, I'm trying to not get all emotional or talking about 'feelings' and such until I do get to move over. Let's see how things go...

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Posted by DMV
Damn hes blunt and straight to the point.

No room for confusion.

I camt really call him cold or rude because you didnt layout word for word what you said to him.

All ya said was the scorpio infamous need for affirmation and that you know you annoyed him.

Just for context, I wanted to confirm he would be keen to meet me when I'm there for work, so I did ask him, if he'll be free to meet, and if he's still keen, and if he wasn't anymore, I would appreciate him telling me. That's when he replied with that.

He tends to disappear for work for days in a row (I know cause he has lousy network and messages I get sent to him are usually undelivered or unread till much later). So often, I will leave him until he reads that message, but with this assignment, I wanted to plan so I can book the accommodation and train tickets in advanced so I did push a bit harder. After he sent that "I've annoyed him" message, I responded that I'm sorry for being so persistent, and I hear him, and know he doesn't want a LDR, and I wasn't expecting one upon my arrival. I just wanted to see him...and that's when he sent the last text, to text him when I arrive and we can decide how to meet if we're both free.

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IME with two separate Taurus men if they REALLY like you they do not disappear-AT ALL 😢

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Posted by DMV
Damn hes blunt and straight to the point.

No room for confusion.

I camt really call him cold or rude because you didnt layout word for word what you said to him.

All ya said was the scorpio infamous need for affirmation and that you know you annoyed him.

Just for context, I wanted to confirm he would be keen to meet me when I'm there for work, so I did ask him, if he'll be free to meet, and if he's still keen, and if he wasn't anymore, I would appreciate him telling me. That's when he replied with that.

He tends to disappear for work for days in a row (I know cause he has lousy network and messages I get sent to him are usually undelivered or unread till much later). So often, I will leave him until he reads that message, but with this assignment, I wanted to plan so I can book the accommodation and train tickets in advanced so I did push a bit harder. After he sent that "I've annoyed him" message, I responded that I'm sorry for being so persistent, and I hear him, and know he doesn't want a LDR, and I wasn't expecting one upon my arrival. I just wanted to see him...and that's when he sent the last text, to text him when I arrive and we can decide how to meet if we're both free.

IME with two separate Taurus men if they REALLY like you they do not disappear-AT ALL 😢

Long time no see Eris!! 🙂 welcome
Back!!

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Thank you! 😄

Leo baby kept me pretty busy for the first six months of her life :p

Hope everything is going well in your life

Posted by Infinite8
@Eris - awwww... Leo babies are so affectionate, how lovely!!

Yes, it's all going very well thanks you! I have a lot of projects going on this year, it's been crazy BUT fun!! Plus, I still manage to have my moments here on DXP...lol. Glad I caught you while I popped in!! 🤗

Good to hear 😄

Shimada,

Yes taurus are straighforward.. but I tell you not all of them.
Mine told me He wont comeback. After 2 yrs He came back contacting me and wanted to see me. I refused. he rage.
Prior he came back we had an exchanging emails and he even called me not to contact his mobile in another country because
He's going to move out and leave very soon. I did. All I heard from him he's not coming back..So I stand and respect his decision.
Nah.. he's in my country roaming around.. I am not going to go backwards. I am not straight forward but he will suffer his own lies. hahaha.

so My advice take his word and throw it all in his face if he fail to follow.

Good luck. let it go.

^^^ yup.

Don't make the same mistake I did in seeing something that may or may not have been there and fueling it by putting more effort in than he is. It won't work out and you'll end up resenting him. Leave him alone. Totally. Cold turkey. If you visit or move to his area then let him know when you have actually arrived. If he still makes excuses then you've got your answer.

These guys on here are right about guys/Taurus in general.

Currently have two Taurus Sun/Aries Venus interested in me. The differences between their actions are huge. One is fannying around being a keyboard warrior and texting but not asking me out again (except for round his place). I already worked out long ago this dude isn't available and he finally confessed (it wasn't required) that he was enjoying being single for the last year and only looking for casual. No shit Sherlock. He's my back up shag but I have more fun rejecting him than I would shagging him! The other Taurus has been 'chasing' me persistently and consistently. I've never had to guess his interest level. We've met five times now and he's still interested and still pursuing. Perhaps even more interested but this one has certainly set his sights on me. My Leo Mars is warming up to him.

If a guy is interested AND ready for something with you then he will make it clear. I've had too many wasters over the years so my advice is back off and leave him alone. He's already said his bit. Respect it and stop forcing it.

Hey @Chasbelle, you have disabled your private messaging. 🙂 I've enabled mine, feel free to send me a message.

Hm just let go...darlin